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 Tawny1973
Joined: 10/13/2005
Msg: 1
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Here is my question men seem to think they all know what women want but do they really?????????? Do they actually take time to think about what it is that make us tick.................WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT BOYS?
 harmony50
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 2
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:23:06 AM
A guess a general question like that deserves a general answer...

Emotional attention and security ... with plenty of shoes for good measure
 meintool
Joined: 11/2/2005
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:25:15 AM
shoes ,a house with a white picket fence and a giant pool with a 60 thousand dollar car, and a nice guy who can take care of and make u happy and pleasure you at the same time am i close?
 nosoup4u
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 4
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:25:57 AM
I guess if you look back at our evolution, the theory is that men were the hunter and gatherers and women pretty much did everything else. Thus the women are better at multi tasking. How times have changed. I think men and women both want the same thing ideally. Someone who can look after themselves, has the ability to be funny and serious at the appropriate times, is honest, caring and respectful. Nice to add a little mystery to the mix as well. Theres a great Rudyard kipling poem called "IF". Check it out, I think old Rudyard had a good idea of what a man should be.
 meintool
Joined: 11/2/2005
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:29:04 AM
nosoup absolutely right i think
 nosoup4u
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:33:35 AM
Thanx meintool. That person I described is a pretty tall order though.
 Dachrisman
Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:34:47 AM
Simple question with a simple answer. NO
 Dachrisman
Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:37:28 AM
Most women don't know what they want. I got evidence of this. lol
 fit4aking
Joined: 10/30/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:37:34 AM
Lets all take a deep breath and be honest. No we don't. What we do no is our interpretation of our past relationships and how we think we could have made her life better. It's impossible for us to know, however it is possible for us to listen. Not listen to the little voice in our heads manufacture what she is saying. Listen to WHAT she is actually saying. After that, the whole relating part in relationships kick in. Lets not fool ourselves people, if any of us had any aswer to any question, damnit we wouldn't be here.
 Onehelluvawoman
Joined: 7/31/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:48:33 AM

Lets all take a deep breath and be honest. No we don't. What we do no is our interpretation of our past relationships and how we think we could have made her life better. It's impossible for us to know, however it is possible for us to listen. Not listen to the little voice in our heads manufacture what she is saying. Listen to WHAT she is actually saying. After that, the whole relating part in relationships kick in. Lets not fool ourselves people, if any of us had any aswer to any question, damnit we wouldn't be here.


Wellllll said!!!

Heck if anyone really did figure out the opposite sex and told the rest of the world...a/ they'd be rich..lol b/ we'd all be off here and tons of places would go out of business, the stock market would eventually crash and life as we know it...would be over. c/ human beings like mystery and the unknown d/ what the hell kind of fun would it be, if we knew all the answers anyway!!!!

 Blastkist
Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/5/2005 11:56:52 AM
Everyone wants one thing when it comes to the opposite sex. Love...and that includes everything the other has to give...sex, emotional intimacy, inspiration, wholeness, healing, soothing words, comfort, joy and pleasure. Most of all, we want contentment that we can rest our souls in...

That's what I think at least. The rest of our "wants" are just ego fulfillments...but they don't offer long term peace of mind.

It's easy to figure out what I want. I'm a human being...I want you to love me and I want to love you too. Period.
 Sanguine61
Joined: 9/6/2005
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Posted: 11/5/2005 12:00:05 PM
Women want security and stability... it's biologically hard-wired into them that way; the "nest-building" instinct. it's a good thing too, as men are hard-wired differently with the "hunter-gather" instinct and need the anchor that women provide for the success of the species.

The problem is in the definition of what "security and stability" is for any individual; it is not going to be the same for any two people, and often even they will not be completely sure what will acheive this for them.

Based on the differences, what men most frequently desire does not dovetail with what women want; worse, most women are not completely certain what they want either.

Therefore *NO* men do not know what women exactly want (despite what some may claim). We as men don't have a clue. The devil is always in the details.

But, the reality is you don't have to. If you open yourself to her needs, give the relationship your full attention and effort, and thereby earn her trust and respect, you will be giving her what she wants and needs (whatever it may be). Better still, if she reciprocates, then both get not just what they "want," but what they "need."
 Bikeman_
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/5/2005 12:02:57 PM

tawny1973:
WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT BOYS?

Is it beer and pizza? No? DAMN, now I know why I am single . . .
 nashvilledom
Joined: 10/31/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 11/5/2005 12:15:56 PM
Sometimes they want too much.

Woman's lib redifined the social order so you must accept the bad with what you considered good.

You cannot get into continious power struggles and cause stress then expect to be treated like little princesses.

If you want to stand toe to toe with a man why are you so suprized when you get knocked on your ass?

As Spock would say its Illogical.

You redefined gender so live with it , revert back or find yourself a gurlyman. Your choice.

To be treasured by a man you must have some tangible value. To put up with what most of you put him through sex dosn't pay your way anymore.
 fieriluci
Joined: 10/21/2005
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Posted: 11/5/2005 12:23:16 PM
In my recent experience, men THINK they know what I want but they don't even have a clue!!

I have been involved with two successive guys who decided that I wanted to chain them down, get married, and set up housekeeping. Ironically, my ex-husband was always convinced that I was cheating on him.

After completely committing my entire existence to my marraige and it still not being enough, I certainly do not want to find myself married. I am a serial monogamist tho, and expect anyone sleeping with me to be the same. It just makes good sense.

I have been told that I am so honest, no one can believe me. Maybe that's the trouble with these guys. I do love intensely, but I take each day as it comes. I don't believe that promises are binding unless I am the one that makes them. I have had some of the most frustrating conversations with guys who believe that I am in love with them just because we slept together. I am an affectionate person, I am fairly skilled in the domestic arts. I like to make people feel special. None of this means I am panting for the white picket fence and babies!

You guys were dead on about the shoes though. :)
 CountIbli
Joined: 6/1/2005
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Posted: 11/5/2005 2:38:55 PM
It bears reiterating: Men have no clue what women want. But at least it's something we have in common with women.
 UlaLume
Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 11/5/2005 10:08:23 PM
Of course not. If there's a psychic man in existence, perhaps HE knows. Generally speaking, the male population has no clue what we want. Nor should they really. We can tell them whenever we like though.
 GoodKnightKisses
Joined: 8/14/2004
Msg: 18
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Posted: 11/6/2005 1:35:58 AM
Most Women and Men have a fantasy of what they want...
but never achieve what they truly need.
 Puckerdillo
Joined: 11/5/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 11/6/2005 1:41:14 AM
Most seem to want a guy with deep pockets = $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
They can't help it of course, what with the media bombarding them with materialistic bullshit 24/7
 rckstacy
Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/6/2005 1:45:46 AM
any woman who has to ask that question is not going to find what she wants.
mainly because she doesn't really know what she wants.
 rhythm_ace
Joined: 10/13/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 11/6/2005 11:59:02 AM
No. Because every woman wants something different. What movie was it where the drill sergeant says, "When I want your opinion, I'll give it to you!"? That reminds me of some of the women I've known.
 mr.classicchevy
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/6/2005 5:45:56 PM
No they do not because most women do not know what they want....Oh! Sure they say they want a nice ,honest,hardworking man.When you show her your traits.She comes up and say (WELL JUST BE FRIENDS MAYBE)And that is a big maybe...Then when MR.jerk comes along.She will worship the ground he walks on.You know the type.A drunk,abuser,Cannot get a job because he has 10 DUI.s...So i will say 99% of women do not know in the hell they want.....Saying what they want and what they go after are 2 different things.
 mr.classicchevy
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/6/2005 5:46:47 PM
No they do not because most women do not know what they want....Oh! Sure they say they want a nice ,honest,hardworking man.When you show her your traits.She comes up and say (WELL JUST BE FRIENDS MAYBE)And that is a big maybe...Then when MR.jerk comes along.She will worship the ground he walks on.You know the type.A drunk,abuser,Cannot get a job because he has 10 DUI.s...So i will say 99% of women do not know in the hell they want.....Saying what they want and what they go after are 2 different things.
 code9
Joined: 7/30/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/6/2005 5:59:38 PM
Whatever they (women) want, is fine, but they change their mind so often I can't keep up.

Ragged code9
 Sparda7
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 25
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Posted: 11/6/2005 6:00:24 PM
Alot of times broads don't even know what the hell THEY want. So how is a man supposed to figure that junk out? It would be better if females actually attempted to be honest about what they wanted though instead of trying to sound good. They know that they want a badboy with a pretty face and an arrogant attitude that is tall and can spoil them. They know that sounds shitty, so they say they just want a "nice guy to treat them well". Hahahaha! Every man over 25 that hears that line knows its horseshit!
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