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 Frrosty
Joined: 3/21/2004
Msg: 9
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Well it kind of goes like this.

I will open the car door for you..and close car door.

date over.

I, then, open MY car door. (we are now on the second date)

During dinner; I will go to the restroom if you do not. ONce I return; we are on our third date.





In truth; I hate ANY set rules for dating, romance and attraction.

"Go with the flow, flow as we go".
 mogrl
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 10
Third Date Rule
Posted: 11/26/2005 2:23:38 PM
Since when is there a rule for having sex??
 huhoney
Joined: 10/24/2005
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/26/2005 7:19:41 PM
this is tuff... i am blonde and like sex!~ oops... then add big boobs... man, i think its really practical to wait!
 thatgirl_next_door
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 14
Third Date Rule
Posted: 12/15/2005 2:34:35 PM
Rules? Who wants to play by rules? I make it up as I go along... more fun that way!

 TechnoBear
Joined: 11/10/2004
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/15/2005 3:07:28 PM

that is playing on the age old myth that guys want sex more than women.


I agree. Women (in general) want that aspect of life as much as we guys do. Its just harder for them to be as up front about it. If a woman talks or acts overtly sexual she then has a rather large group of guys pounding on their door - looking for ONLY that one thing.

I guess I imagine that I'd like that to happen to my sorry Male ass. It sounds like a nice fantasy. But, really now, would I want woman of every size, shape, condition, and demeaner to be making demands of me??? Uhm, wait now....

A lady approaches me and says "Well now, aren't you a juicy piece of ass! I LIKE IT!" Grab, grab. "Not too flabby either! Mmmmmm. What are you packing?" Hand reaches out to me...

 TechnoBear
Joined: 11/10/2004
Msg: 16
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Posted: 12/15/2005 3:08:58 PM
When I was a teenager I was placed in the situation of being surrounded for about a week by homosexual men. Scared the crap out of me. "Knock, Knock - I give you 5 bucks!!!".

Shudder.
 HAHANOW
Joined: 9/28/2004
Msg: 20
Third Date Rule ? NYC 20-somethings
Posted: 12/15/2005 8:45:33 PM
A man must of wrote the third rule ! I swear! Three dates? Do you really thin k you know enough about this person to have sex with them after three dates?????
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/19/2009 4:38:16 PM
I prefer it when a guy won't give up the sex that quickly; he should have a little self-respect and make me wait a little. I mean, I don't wanna go out with the town tramp, y'know.
 misszmsz
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 22
Third Date Rule
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:42:35 PM
Most of my first dates never ask me out for a second date.

Guess it's because I don't have sex with them on the first date.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 23
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Posted: 8/20/2009 10:27:01 AM

Most of my first dates never ask me out for a second date.
Guess it's because I don't have sex with them on the first date.

Wow, now that's surprising. I would've thought with a face like yours, you could bring your cat, call the guy names, get drunk and throw up on his lap, talk to invisible people, and still get asked for a second date. I mean I know beauty isn't everything, but it certainly helps!

Back to the Third Date Rule... my earlier joking aside, I agree with cmdrfunk that if you're not doing some making out by then, it probably isn't going to happen. Sure there are exceptions, but mostly, I think I'm pretty typical in this area. I wouldn't sleep with a man that soon, but if I'm into him, and feel I have some sense who's in there, we're probably doing some heartfelt kissing by that time. I don't meet too many men with whom I want to get to this point, though, and more often than not decline second or third dates for that reason.
 sashimiboy
Joined: 1/14/2009
Msg: 26
Third Date Rule ? NYC 20-somethings
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:28:32 PM
If she doesn't put out in 3 dates you drop her

Never spend more than $40 on a date

If she says she's pregnant, take her to mcdonald's to get an egg mcmuffin
 misszmsz
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/21/2009 10:46:42 AM
[Wow, now that's surprising. I would've thought with a face like yours, you could bring your cat, call the guy names, get drunk and throw up on his lap, talk to invisible people, and still get asked for a second date. I mean I know beauty isn't everything, but it certainly helps!]

Helen you are a funny lady!

I don't want to date the town tramp either - a guy has got to have some self respect!

Perhaps talking to an invisible person and commenting on how the first date is going, or bringing my cat and telling it to stop calling him bad names would ensure a second date --- got to try it --- thanks for the advice -----LOL
 Okietokie88
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/21/2009 11:33:02 AM
So having a date with someone three times automatically means sex will ensue? Really I thought predetermining the number of dates one will go on before having sex with some faceless nameless individual just made you a whore....wow I just learned something
 GRP60
Joined: 1/24/2010
Msg: 29
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Posted: 2/3/2010 8:01:14 AM
we gotta be careful what we wish for.

It's certainly essential to thoroughly investigate your date to ensure the absense of nagging little concerns that could become insurmountably annoying obstacles to intimacy once the infatuation phase has passed. At 49, I've finally realised that, and have found a woman who does as well- we've had three great dates (all involving spendid meals that I've paid for) and then lots of physical affection, but she resisted a kiss on the lips- I could kiss just about everywhere else, but she said 'too soon' when I clumsily attempted to 'seal the deal', but that was the only resistance of the day. And that's just fine with me, as I feel and and am coing to know that this is a compatible match that deserves time to merge. She called me this morning to share her dream that she caught me in a room with other attractive women, and to say she had a nice time and express her disappointment that I wasn't available today, so there's definately a pleasing anticipation of closer meetings to come.
 gabbermonkey
Joined: 11/5/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 2/3/2010 8:30:28 AM
Seriously...third date rule, there are rules? How bout you talk to each other first, most of us are grown adults and should be able to figure these things out. But seriously....3rd date then sex is ok! LOL!
 Apollodorus
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 31
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Posted: 2/3/2010 11:41:13 AM

what classifies as a date


For me any meeting or sit down with the person I am romantically interested in is a date I.E. coffee at a coffee house or Starbucks, I would consider hanging around the house with each other a date because you are spending a few hours talking to each other.

I would not consider it a date if I just saw you in the street and said hi and talked for a couple minutes but if you talked to me for a good 30 minutes or decided to sit down with me and talk while we met on the street I would consider it a date.

However Sun glasses left on a table is not date


As for the 3 date rule agrees with cmdrfunk and I don't follow it however if by the 6th week we haven't had sex then i will call it quits because my date is suppose to be romantically interested in me and not having sex by the 6th week shows me my date is not all that interested in me.

My other rule is some sort of physical intimate contact has to happen on each date including the first date and it has to be steamier on the next date ( a handshake is not intimate contact) otherwise I will end all contact with the person.
 *Bulldog*
Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 32
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Posted: 2/3/2010 1:46:04 PM
I don't really know why people are so intent on manipulating themselves (and other people) to be physical with someone. Maybe they look at too much pornography.. or watch Grey's anatomy. (shrug)

If you like someone, you DON'T have to be physical with them. In fact, being physical with someone is a surefire way to confuse you whether you actually like the person for who they are. It ends up wasting people's times, and ends in relationships and marriages that are based on a paper thin connection. The amount of screwed up, jaded, emotionally dependent, and depressed people because of having sex so soon just blows my mind.

If you love to be with a person for 6 months or a year without the physical stuff, well then, you know you have a keeper for life.
 Delete_Me_Please
Joined: 11/10/2009
Msg: 33
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Posted: 2/3/2010 2:09:38 PM
If a guy won't put out by the third date I'm outta there. These condoms have expiration dates, you know.
 Applette
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/3/2010 5:40:44 PM
It is amazing how quickly guys lose interest in a girl when they discover she is not pulling at the reins to hop in the sack with him. I have absolutely no rule about when it would be appropriate to sleep with a guy ... IT COULD BE NEVER ... but we just may like to hang out together .. enjoy each others company! The rest will follow if the connection is there ...
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 2/3/2010 5:54:49 PM

It is amazing how quickly guys lose interest in a girl when they discover she is not pulling at the reins to hop in the sack with him.

maybe she's just not that interesting, period.
 SBM4U2
Joined: 12/22/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/3/2010 8:52:50 PM
I don't have a 3rd date rule. If I'm interested in a woman (like potential GF) I would date her until I felt she was interested in me (like potential BF) or I determined she was bored and just wanted to get out of the house or wanted someone to pay for her entertainment.
 SBM4U2
Joined: 12/22/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 2/3/2010 8:59:56 PM
Oh, and one of those 1st 3 dates she's gonna foot the bill or part of the bill or I wouldn't continue on with her. What? We live in a modern world. First dates are for determining positive or interesting behaviors. I might not try to sleep with her, but I would like for her to show she appreciates me as much as I do her (on occasions other than my birthday and Christmas)
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 2/4/2010 9:46:59 AM
My rule is this.

I only have sex with people I'd be down for having a kid with. No type of birth protection is 100% reliable, and if I get someone pregnant, she's going to be around, in one way or another for a good 20 years.



Choose wisely.
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 42
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Third Date Rule ? NYC 20-somethings
Posted: 2/4/2010 8:30:12 PM

Im beginning to wonder. Is there a book called: "Big ass book of dumbs**t dating rules for dummies&dimwits"...

It's called the POF Forums.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 2/4/2010 11:49:18 PM

That's what I tell my dates when they start trying to get sex. I let them know that I"m not interesting and they are really wasting their time. But if they want a game of canasta, I'm all for it.

Ha! That was great, I love it.
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