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 Ronnie Gray
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 3
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If there is something wrong with them then we have something in common because I have'nt had sex in 13 months and I wish I could find a woman that could satisfy me.
 Syletknight1313
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/16/2005 7:11:32 PM
Hello All, i have more respect in someone who hasn't "had any" in awhile, seems alittle more honorable and shows alittle more self-respect in my opinion. instead of being all about that i've found its better to wait and bide my time for just the right moment and person, its makes it so much better. i myself haven't done "that" particular deed in oh probably just about 4 years and before that about 4 and a half years.

so yeah i don't think there is anything wrong with those who wait or haven't in awhile but that doesn't mean i don't respect those who haven't been waiting and get alittle perrty regular.
 Bandito
Joined: 11/9/2005
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/23/2005 9:54:36 AM
I haven't had sex since May Not from the total lack of opportunity though.

Its actually starting to bug me that it doesn't bother me that it has been that long. I mean I am a very passionate person, very sexually oriented but poof....nothing there.

I tell myself its because I need to be responsible given my situation but am I really fooling myself? I guess there is nothing like a good divorce to kill the ol libido

Hopefully, when the right time and opportunity presents itself that part of me will wake up again...ready to ride the bike again so to speak.

Until then, the pages fly off the daily calendar, the clock arms spin around at alarming speed and the old fireplace remains unlit

Bana-dito
 Bandito
Joined: 11/9/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/27/2005 5:21:03 PM
It's good that you ask...I often wonder this myself.

Its been a good 7 months now since my last relationship ended. I have had opportunities, more than I actually expected, but my heart hasn't been into it. I wonder if I am just being fickle or possibly even too responsible or is it just my libido has been murdered.

I think age and maturity does factor in in the length of time between sexual partners. I know I am not as eager to jump in the sack just for the halibut...so to speak.

Bana-dito
 MauiKeith
Joined: 7/17/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 12/27/2005 10:52:23 PM
oh... thanks for reminding me.

I knew there was something I used to do that I really enjoyed, but I forgot wjhat it was.
 simplestone
Joined: 12/22/2005
Msg: 18
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Posted: 12/28/2005 1:51:33 AM
look at me ---14 mounth no kiss no sex-
bcz i m very choooooooooooosee,
i dont waste my sex wed wronge women,
i need right women -that y i m here-
is that clear,
but if u have big gap then ur personalty effect
u ask me y?
i tell u later
 MauiKeith
Joined: 7/17/2005
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Posted: 12/31/2005 10:54:46 PM
hmm... you meanI'm not the only one?
 lordmarduc
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:42:49 AM
I think it s good, I went four months once without sex, after me and my second wife broke up. it helped me clear my head, afterward for a while, I was really busy, all the sex for me was really intense.
 fadetoblackfadetoblack
Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 26
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Posted: 1/3/2006 11:21:40 PM
Well hasent been that long for me but i would wonder why and if it is by choice or not?and if you want to give it to him then just do it !!!!!
 Ldygmr
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 27
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 1/3/2006 11:29:09 PM
Is someone who is too picky to screw anything that walks by with the right equipment a turn off?
Does this same someone want to screw ME? So I pass his pickiness? Hell no, it's not a turn off. I would rather help a guy get his stamina back than be one of the fifty he's done this week for DANG sure.
 niceiowaguy
Joined: 12/10/2005
Msg: 29
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Posted: 12/9/2006 10:31:33 AM
If you havn't had sex in a long time, it is not a good thing..to me I need sex almost everyday with same person or maybe different person if I was married, which I am not.

Sex is good as long both of you get done within 30 minutes or so.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 12/24/2006 8:32:52 PM
It's simply ridiculous. And it doesn't appear I have any options on the horizon to change the situation. Sigh.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 33
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Posted: 12/29/2006 1:26:30 AM
I girl that hasn't had sex in a while isn't bad at all, i prefer a woman that has self control like that.
 cobaltblu
Joined: 3/6/2005
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Posted: 2/11/2007 6:32:48 AM
I absolutely positviely would respect a guy that has shown some restraint-and has maybe been waiting for the right person/relationship before having sex since his last relationship. As oppossed to someone thats been having many partners/casual sex/no care or feelings for the ppl they are sleeping with....i'd much rather prefer someone that has some standards.

Thats been my situation...haven't had sex in quite some time...and if a guy i thought i was interested in was turned off by that-i'd question his sanity. He'd have much preferred that i was out screwing many guys before meeting him?? No-i have been waiting to be dating someone seriously....and I haven't found that. Yet!
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 36
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 2/11/2007 9:06:05 AM
My self control freaking scares me sometimes -

No not in a while - I have not met anyone yet that I want be with -
oh wait - I have met someone I want to be with - he lives far away
though - I guess the streak continues-
I am not a casual sex kind of girl and I would respect a guy either way -
Some guys just have to have it - no matter how they feel - I can respect that -
But respect the fact that you have to earn it with me - so - yeah like I said-
the streak continues -

so Good or bad - depends on the person -
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 37
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 4/11/2007 1:10:39 AM
9 months isn't a long time at all.
 sassyansweet
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 38
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 9/2/2007 1:02:54 AM
oh Mcbirdie...it's like riding a bike ...once u figure it out u NEVER forget ;)

Just get back on it and ride!!! LOL
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 39
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Posted: 9/2/2007 4:39:33 AM
Do you think there is something wrong with that person
Only if they have a 6-foot appendage growing out of the back of their head.

wonder why they havent had sex for so long
People usually tell you why.

Common reasons given:
Person who clearly gets offers of sex and/or dates: wants more than a cr*p shag.
Everyone else: above, or lack of opportunity.

Sometimes this is true. Sometimes the reverse is true, and people are in denial, and believe that they are less attractive than they are, or more attractive than they are. It has more to do with how they see themselves, and less about how attractive they are to people.

does it make you want to be the one to break the dry spell
If I fancy her, then yes. If I don't, then no.

However, I don't want to have random sex with anyone, and only want a relationship with someone I respect, so see the last question and my answer to it.

is it a turn on or a turn off?
In a woman I fancy and respect and who is waiting for more than sex, then it is a turn-on.
I don't think it's ever been a turn-off for me.

Does it make you resepct that person?
If she quit while she was ahead and she's doing it out of respect for herself and her body, and her desire to have a genuine relationship, then I definitely respect her more for this. I know one woman who was doing this the last time I saw her.

If it is just because she's got so used by men, that she no longer wants it from men until it's special, then it makes me respect her less. I have felt that way about things other than sex and from what I understand, it's called burn-out. I put this because I have met many women in this situation.

I realise that my opinion can be viewed as misogynistic. However, I just believe in 2 concepts:
1) That self-control is admirable, and a lack of it is not admirable.
2) That one can have too much sex, and simply switch off, rather than say no.

I'd rather someone quit while they're ahead. Some do, some don't till they are no longer ahead and no-one respects them anymore.
 darkjedi1
Joined: 8/8/2007
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Posted: 9/2/2007 3:17:51 PM
Hell its been 3 years for me, and it sucks lol. But to the question, last 2 years i had an online g/f that lived in illinois, i was in oklahoma. She used to live where i did but ended up moving before i moved there, my friends that were friends with her introduced us. She said she would move back, but neither one of us had the money, supposedly, i know i sure as hell didnt, or a car that was good enough to go get her. She ended up dumping me because she met some guy where she lived. Now to the reason for all that crap. I had a few opurtunities in those 2 years to be with another girl, i never did because even though we lived in different states and hadnt met, i wasnt going to cheat on her. So that was a good reason for not having sex in so damn long.
 jasond1970
Joined: 10/5/2009
Msg: 41
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Posted: 10/4/2012 3:08:12 PM
9 months is nothing try 9 years. I have been tempted to become a monk except doesn't celibate mean no oneism?
 Fireball827
Joined: 12/5/2011
Msg: 44
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Posted: 10/4/2012 11:10:26 PM
Honestly they have means of taking care of themselves.......lol they have BOB. A battery operated boyfriend.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 10/5/2012 4:06:58 AM
I cant imagine not having sex for 9 months ...hell i cant imagine not having sex for a week though it has happened but not by design ..and i am not a sex maniac..and yes i am willing to wait till a woman is ready ..I just cant imagine not being in a relationship that includes sex or has the promise of sex to come...but to tell the truth since I was a teenager I never had to wait for sex ...when I meet a woman I know pretty darn quick if there is chemistry ..and when there is said chemistry I know how to pore on the charm ..I know how to put a woman at ease ... and yes I know how to get in her panties ...and how soon that happens will never make me not want a relationship with said woman ...I want a woman to sleep with me when she is ready ...when she wants to...and it is my job to make her want to as soon as possible so we can get on with our relationship..no Im not a sex maniac im a love maniac .. its not that I cant do without sex ...its that i cant do without love ..and love includes sex
 hunnyluv2g
Joined: 12/6/2012
Msg: 46
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Posted: 12/26/2012 11:50:50 PM
I'm freaking out a little b/c it's been four years. Had my first kiss in four years a week or so ago and it was fabulous so I'm hoping a roll in the hay will be equally so.
 ravenhair4u
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 47
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Posted: 12/29/2012 9:25:59 AM
I haven't had sex in 4 years.
I'm a relationship girl, I need that emotional connection. I'm not going to be used for sex, then thrown away like a piece of garbage afterward. If we're intimate, we truely love & care for each other, & we are in an exclusive relationship. I don't just have sex with anyone, if it's meaningless sex, than what's the point?
When I'm out, & a man makes it obvious he's out for casual sex, sex with no strings, a hook up, it makes me recoil. That is not for me.
I haven't been out there on the dating scene, meeting new ppl. I go to work 5 days, then I stay home most weekends. I like to be home. If I got out more I would possibly have a b/f.
I don't want to be hurt again, I don't want my heart broken again. I just want to meet a decent guy who wants to be in a relationship with me. To be my friend & my lover.
A nice guy, that I find to be physically attractive, that will love me, is that too much to ask? Is there anyone like that out there for me?
 genezvouspas
Joined: 12/7/2010
Msg: 48
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Posted: 12/29/2012 9:55:17 AM
Mssgs 203&204
I don't know how you do it, you must be angels or something. Definitely not my cup o'tea; I'm no angel.
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