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 Melissanicole
Joined: 5/27/2005
Msg: 2
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Walk away hun... cant make something out of nothing. Youre easy sex, sorry.
 Becky_LaF
Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 3
Quick question in need of advice
Posted: 12/19/2005 7:00:50 PM
looks like you became his friends with benefits without knowing. cut him off cold turkey, see how long he sticks around.

than you should have your answer.
 newarknsc
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/19/2005 7:43:16 PM
Just be straight with him - ask him if he wants more or if it is a benefit deal. If it's just benefits or he gives ya a bunch of bull bout not wantin this or that - dump his ass
 Captain Sargasmo
Joined: 10/12/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/19/2005 7:56:31 PM
you can make him bolt easily enough if that's all he's into.

just say something along the lines of "how come we don't just go to a movie or a nice romantic dinner or anything?" or "i want to introduce you to my friends...how about i meet a few of yours as well?"

you see...the cardinal rules of the booty call are:

~ you don't meet the friends/parents
~ you don't meet up for anything other than sex
~ at the first sign of emotional attachment...run.
 Jaybo_31
Joined: 6/27/2005
Msg: 14
don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 12/20/2005 7:06:07 AM
He is using you. I would dump him. You are his fuc k toy.
 UnusualEd
Joined: 11/21/2005
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don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 12/20/2005 11:14:39 AM
It sounds to me also that he's using you for sex, so the question really is not what to do about it, but "are you willing to accept that"?

I'd start first of all by asking him why he only comes round when he wants sex, cause it could be a coincidence, he might be seeing you every time he has a chance, and you're so hot he can't resist or whatever. If you want to see him more often, you need to phone him and suggest it. Maybe he'll be working or whatever, or doing other stuff, but if he refuses to see you when it's not for sex, you'll know that's all he's after.

Once you know that, you just have to decide if it's acceptable to you. If it's not, you need to get rid of him. What you mustn't do is keep accepting it on the grounds that "maybe he'll come around to a relationship". Why would he bother if sex is all he wants?

The main thing is I'm sure there's guys out there who would treat you better than this, so why settle for a user?

Ed
 Ldygmr
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 17
don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 12/20/2005 11:18:04 AM
Girl~

You are a booty call. Admit this to yourself and just enjoy the regular sex. If he's any good at it all you are lucky indeed.

Pull back on the emotions. This guy probably will NEVER develop what you are looking for and you are gonna get hurt.
 Asmoochiepoo
Joined: 8/11/2009
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don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 10/24/2010 3:06:06 AM
Take it out of the bedroom as soon as you can. suggest you go out for the evening even if it's just for a drink .if he doesn't want to then you'll know. better to find out now before your in too deep. He may be involved or keeping his options open. you don't want to be the one he's sleeping with while he's dating other women and just using you for sex.
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
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don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 10/24/2010 9:29:30 AM
How dare that guy *use* that poor woman just for sex! The fact she was perfectly willing has nothing to do with it! I knew that women often use men for cheap sex (if only they knew how hurtful and demeaning it feels, when we just want to talk and cuddle) but this is shocking!
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
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don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 10/24/2010 2:15:17 PM

That is because sex is very intimate, and there are emotions involved with sharing intimacy.


I think it's clear that's not always true. If it were, prostitutes couldn't treat sex the way they do. That's why they don't let their johns kiss them--it's more intimate than anything else they're doing. And not much emotion is usually involved, from what I hear. The brakes are most of the way on.

I may be the odd man out on this, but how well I can separate sex from love depends a lot on how much attraction I feel for the woman. I mean not only all the things that create a physical attraction, but also the ease and trust I feel with her. When it's all there, I can get pretty passionate, which makes the experience a lot more satisfying. And from what I've seen, that satisfaction is contagious--each partner's passion tends to feed on the other's.
 Island home
Joined: 7/5/2009
Msg: 28
don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 10/24/2010 7:57:58 PM
If all he has offered you is sex
All he has to offer you is sex
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 10/25/2010 11:59:42 AM
Oh, the games people play now,
Every night and every day now
Never meaning what they say now,
Never saying what they mean.

'Cause you've given up your sanity
For your pride and your vanity
Turns you back on humanity
And you don't give a da da.

La da da la da.......da

Hope this song is stuck in your head like it's stuck in my now
 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 33
don't know if I should stop talking to him because all he wants is sex
Posted: 10/27/2010 9:46:36 AM
Well,.. if you're developing "feelings",. the sex must be pretty dayum good! It's always kinda funny to me,.. we develope "feelings" so, we want to start ownership papers on them, because we want to keep driving them around the block,.. " I feel I should break it off because I'm developing "feelings" and I think he just wants sex" I mean, what was he before these embrionic feelings started growing and kicking? a really good "feeling-less fukk"?You see where this is going, what I'm saying? Things were f-i-n-e-fine with NO feelings,.. but now, the "magical feelings" appear, and demand he submit to indentured servatude, or suffer the wrath of "the E-N-D!".. PULEEEEEEEZE! If people were honest-to-God smart, with just a grain of intellect, they would abandon ALL the Victorian prerequisites of "the RELATIONSHIP" It's taken a hundred years,.. but we're not being escorted in wagons with people making sure we're 3ft apart @ ALL times and NEVER get close enough to KISS (you MAY get pregnant!..oh,. and we can now say PREGNANT on TV too) BUT,. those nasty Victorian "cling-ons" (not to be confused with Klingons) are STILL manifesting themselves in our "civilized society" You want to be truely civilized? Fukk who you want, if it's good & meant to be it WILL be,. if not move on,,The problem is usually, that one is VERY happy, and the other isn't in the relationship.. and being clingy velcro type human-beans" we fight to make that person (who isn't happy ) stay with us.. If we learn to "let go" they MAY come back,. or at least come back once in a while,. Then, if that's not enough for you, draw the line, part as true friends, move to the next episode & chapter in your life,.EVENTUALLY, you may find what you're looking for. In MY case,. I don't think it exists here for me in this dimension,.because people just turn me off with this kind of crap.. IF there's someone that thinks like me,.. I want to hear from you,..we really need to talk,..becaus I'm sooOOOoo frikkin tired of this B.S.

Oh and for the folks that whine about the age of the post... the problem is out there EVERY day,.. I don't normally read dates,. I just write.. when yer onna roll yer onna roll.. You still should read it,.. you MIGHT actually learn something,.. ehh,.. Naaaaah WTF was I thinkin?!{{{DUH}}}
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