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 thatgirl_next_door
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 2
Define cheatingPage 1 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
Cheating is doing anything you wouldn't want your SO to find out about. If you wouldn't do it in front of them, don't do it!
 ashcash
Joined: 12/13/2005
Msg: 3
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Posted: 12/20/2005 11:50:35 AM
I agree, anything you wouldn't do infront of your better half..
 veni vedi vici
Joined: 12/9/2005
Msg: 4
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Posted: 12/20/2005 11:58:02 AM
lets see!!hmmm i was on this site while dating this one and only girl but was on it for the forums and the odd email she considered that cheating despite never ever meeting anyone on pof??we broke up and now its been two months??was thast cheating apparently so!!!
 cuter_than_anyone
Joined: 10/28/2005
Msg: 5
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Posted: 12/20/2005 12:21:26 PM
get a dictionary and leave us nice people alone. no one wants to hear your excuses or give you validation for being a sh*tty person
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/20/2005 11:11:12 PM
Cheating is betraying trust. Trust is knowing someone has a defined promise from you and you to them, in regards to some pre defined behaviours and expectations. And its believing neither of you will go against that promise.


You dont have to have sex to cheat - to say you didnt have sex and therefore you didnt cheat on anyone[ yet maybe you were still naked in a bed together or groping and a kiss ]- thats baloney and excuse cheaters use .... it also means they just got caught or had an attack of the guilts, before they got to that level

To even talk at an intimate level with someone other than your partner is cheating. Because you are betraying their trust in you that wouldnt or shouldnt be doing that with anyone else but them

Happy Holidays : )
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/21/2005 5:58:46 PM
^^^ She cheated on him. If she thinks she didnt she is delusional . She also needs a dictionary

Unfaithful and cheating is practically the same thing.
 Knight Rider
Joined: 4/10/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 12/21/2005 6:20:09 PM
unless you and your partener are into swinging,then everything else is cheating!
Anything that would hurt you or your mate is cheating,be it cyber sex or not,it's all
cheating!

Knight Rider!
 snowbird1111
Joined: 5/15/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 12/23/2005 10:45:27 AM
^^^^^ Amen Knightrider, I agree totally !!!!
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/23/2005 10:50:04 AM
Even pursuing cyber sex is cheating.

What hurts about about cheating is the betrayal of trust.

You don't have to be boinking other people ... but even if you are not doing anything with anyone but pursuing ... you are cheating.
 veni vedi vici
Joined: 12/9/2005
Msg: 13
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Posted: 12/24/2005 1:38:48 PM
its very despicable like some women here who claim to be single but have boyfriends
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/24/2005 2:27:02 PM

its very despicable like some women here who claim to be single but have boyfriends


Hate to break it to you ... but these boyfriends only magically appear when she is not interested in being your girlfriend

 twang67
Joined: 12/16/2005
Msg: 18
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Posted: 12/24/2005 2:39:34 PM
easy one word ..................infidelity
 djc02359
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 12/24/2005 2:41:04 PM
may I ask another question?? WHEN is it considered cheating? Obviously when you are married, engaged, or living together. But what about this online thing? I've dated men I met online and found out they were hurt that I was still meeting other men!! If I'm dating..I assume he is too. If they aren't..is it my responsibility to make sure they know that I am?? It gets so confusing!! Some nice men have stopped seeing me because I was still dating~ and they always seem to be the ones I wanted to KEEP seeing.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 12/24/2005 2:54:22 PM
djc ...

If you were a man, you'd be flamed for being a player.

But to answer your question ... it's about exclusivity and feeling special .. and it is gender neutral.
 tashajoanne
Joined: 1/13/2005
Msg: 31
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Posted: 1/6/2006 12:30:10 AM
Define cheating eh?



Basically, if either of you would consider it cheating, then its cheating.


Say, the girl doesnt find a friendly kiss with a friend cheating, but the guy does, well, then that should be considered cheating.

Its hard to explain.
But I have my theory.
 sunshineface2
Joined: 12/29/2005
Msg: 35
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Posted: 1/15/2006 5:41:31 AM
cheating is when you destract the guy to win the game.

j/k

A relationship cheat is when you go out with the intent of meeting another person for a personal encounter behind an established S.O.'s back.

But I don't agree that cheating is "anything you wouldn't do in front of you partner". Thats way to vague and general.

I wouldn't do karaoke in front of him I'd be too embarrassed lol

Also some of the honest answers we give in these forums aren't things our partners need to see. I'm not on a leash. I'm an individual and will do what I please, ya know? :) Just because I want a little "me" time away from him doesn't mean I'm intending to cheat on him.
 get_over_it
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/15/2006 7:57:45 PM
so I should tell her what I got for our anniversary? That would ruin the suprise!
 nipoleon
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 40
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Posted: 1/16/2006 12:18:38 PM
If your playing poker and the guy next to you admits he's cheating, it still cheating.
It all depends upon the agreement people go into the relationship with.
Whatever freedom you want for yourself , you must allow me as well.
Whatever restrictions you put on me, you must abide by too.
Outside of that, it's cheating.
 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 45
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Posted: 1/16/2006 12:40:28 PM
Perhaps Bill Clinton could shed some light on this topic. He seems to have a real grasp of what is and isn’t cheating.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/16/2006 12:41:43 PM
I don't know .... he is still a man and ... could you see Hillary giving him a BJ?
 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 47
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Posted: 1/16/2006 12:41:48 PM

Cheating can be thoughts of another while you are in a relationship in my opinion.

Define thoughts because we’ve all pretty much cheated under those broad terms.
 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 48
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Posted: 1/16/2006 12:43:48 PM
Arri,
That’s Bill’s dumb@ss fault for marrying her - see what happens when you’re young and stupid!!! But that dude’s taste in women is just awful - Paula Jones, Monica, Hillary, etc.
 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 52
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Posted: 1/16/2006 1:25:36 PM
Hell .. every time I see a women I find attractive ...I think about boinking her

that's just being a healthy man
 get_over_it
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 53
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Posted: 2/12/2006 4:46:49 AM
well you can't control your own thoughts. If you can't even think involuntarily then may as well off yourself now and end the misery of stray thoughts that you can't control.
 catch22_
Joined: 2/28/2005
Msg: 54
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Posted: 2/12/2006 5:40:23 AM
its a state of mind.
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