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 ABSA_N_Tx
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 1
Why a virgin?Page 1 of 19    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19)
What is the deal with men wanting to be married to a virgin ?
Men go out and sleep with whom ever so she sure isn't a virgin. But when he is ready to settle down, he wants to marry a virgin?

Yes, I was engaged to a guy about 4 yrs ago who told me on the way back from Boca Raton Florida (from his moms condo) that he wanted to marry a virgin. I said "WHAT!" As I was driving and then asked "WHY?" He said " Yea, I can't deal with the fact that you have had a few in you. I can't deal with another man having what I want." No, I didn't cry. I just drove another 4 hours in silence and then let him drive as I sleep. When we got back to Ft. Hood, he had enough nerve to ask me if i wanted to stay the night with him. I told him NO!
Needless to say, he called me a month later and asked me to disreguard what he said that he wasn't thinking clearly and that he misses me. I told him he lost what he had.

The reason why I am asking this.... I hear from other men and women that men are still wanting that.

Sign,
Wondering:
 Racer71
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 2
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 1:55:46 PM
Sounds like a totally insecure guy to me.. Guys that are too worried about those things are usually insecure. What is past is past. The only thing that I'm worried if I'm in a relationship is that I'm the only one that she is sleeping with right now but not whom she has been sleeping with in the past.

He has probably asked you about penis size of your ex's too... lol
 cougar99
Joined: 6/1/2005
Msg: 3
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 2:07:58 PM

Sounds like a totally insecure guy to me.. Guys that are too worried about those things are usually insecure. What is past is past. The only thing that I'm worried if I'm in a relationship is that I'm the only one that she is sleeping with right now but not whom she has been sleeping with in the past.

He has probably asked you about penis size of your ex's too... lol


I agree
 ABSA_N_Tx
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 4
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 2:10:50 PM
I understand, people don't like to be with some who has had alot of sexual encounters.
But at the time he said that, I had two other lovers.
First one, I was 18 years old, a virgin, got married and lost the virgin side of me That was a very bad person to lose my virginity too. We lasted a TOTAL of 10 days living together. He was insecure and very jeolous, after we got married. I didn't know this, till then. And then I realized why.. It wasn't the fact that I wasn't faithful, it was the fact he was abusive and small.
Second one, I dated 2 years before any sex happened. Yes, I almost married him. But i got tired of his laziness.

I am not the type of person who meets a man and then wants to know his stroke right away.
Heck, I am 35 and still under 10 men.
 sahen
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 5
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 2:28:20 PM
Its called the Madonna-whore complex.. Hun.. But what this guy did was pretty crass to say the least. If he really had an issue with you being a non-virgin, he should never have allowed it to get the the point where you would think that there was going to be a future together. You are much better off without having to deal with these kind of sexual issues, I'm just sorry you went through all that...
 Ending Search
Joined: 11/18/2005
Msg: 6
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 2:38:05 PM
Heck, I am 31 and still under 4. I think that the closer to 0 is better, but I am realistic on the issue. I think that the larger the number the less meaningful it would be to that person.
 ABSA_N_Tx
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 7
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 2:40:15 PM
sahen,
It is okay... There are many ignorant people in this world.
Some people will go to great length so hurt people.
Trust me, I didn't waste my time on him after that. I watched him out my rear view mirror.
 ABSA_N_Tx
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 8
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 2:43:19 PM
Ending Search,
I don't know if you realize it or not. 0-9 is under 10. I didn't say 10, I said under 10.
Besides, a bad day fishing is better than a great time of sex.
 kce33
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 9
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 2:43:51 PM
ABSA_N_TX
if i was you i would not give it any more thought.... thats the reaction that you will get from most insecure guys....

besides there is nothing wrong with you, you look and sound great and the right guy will come along...

kce
 mogrl
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 10
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 2:59:43 PM
Get real !! 4 years ago you were 31 and he expected you to be a virgin??????????
What an idiot !!
 mogrl
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 11
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:04:52 PM
ABSA N TX...if you really think that a bad day fishing is better then a great day of sex then you have a lot to learn about great sex!!!!!!!! I almost feel sorry for you.
 Setiri-Tx
Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 12
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:07:13 PM
My two cents here...

Some guys want a virgin wife. Not realistic, but hey, everyone has their thing.

Why do some women want guys with lots of money only? There are some great guys out there with a fair amount of money, but who aren't fabulously wealthy.. why won't she look at those? Again, it's not realistic, but if that's what she wants... whatever.

Virginity, money, power, etc.. it's all a hangup. Why the hangup? I'd venture to say it's about control. If they can get into a relationship with someone who meets their hangup, they feel secure.. they've accomplished something. They got what they set out to get and didn't compromise. And there's nothing wrong with wanting to achieve your goal, however, if the goal is kinda shallow, it may not work out so well. Which is why I assure you, most of the guys who DO demand a virginal wife, or a woman who demands a filthy rich guy, or whatever your hangup is... doesn't actually happen. Sure, there's always the exception, but that's exactly it... the exception. And as much as every single freaking person on this planet loves to believe they're the special exception... yeah, not happening.

So if someone isn't mature enough to get off on some shallow hangup... that should just tell you they're probably not ready for a real relationship yet.
 Racer71
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 13
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:08:43 PM

Get real !! 4 years ago you were 31 and he expected you to be a virgin??????????
What an idiot !!


Does that mean that you aren't a virgin anymore??
 Setiri-Tx
Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 14
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:10:22 PM
And oh my god, did she actually say that about fishing and sex? I thought she was kidding or that I likely just mis-read it or something. Ma'am, I've been fishing. I know fishing. I like fishing. Bad fishing, even amazing fishing, will never amount to great sex, ever. Maybe bad sex... the kind with teeth and no safety word, but never great sex!
 Ending Search
Joined: 11/18/2005
Msg: 15
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:11:01 PM
Then my number is under 10 also. I would not want sex without love. For me it is not a physical thing. It is a mental and emotional bonding.
 ABSA_N_Tx
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 16
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:48:49 PM
At least fishing last more than 15 minutes
And the fish are a challenge
 Setiri-Tx
Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 17
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:50:35 PM
More than 15 minutes?! Oh please, you're so under the average on that one.

The fish are a challenge? ... ok yeah, I gotta give you that one. Doesn't take much to get a guy in the sack typically.
 jimb77
Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 18
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:53:21 PM
Ideally I suppose so but realistically you can only hope to find a lady who was loved and respected by those she had prior relations with, no one wants to marry the town bad girl though. To expect to find a virgin...that's asking a lot with the influence of Madonna and Paris Hilton types.
 jimb77
Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 19
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:55:14 PM
I am not the type of person who meets a man and then wants to know his stroke right away. Heck, I am 35 and still under 10 men.



Want to make it +1?


I see you were married a virgin. Your numbers are fine, wouldn't be an issue. What about the thread where the girl had done 83 guys and she was still in her 20s? some dopey guys are saying the past is the past and it doesn't matter! BS, it does matter. If it doesn't matter, go marry a prostitute. Sexual relations with anyone is a sign of low to no morals.
 kce33
Joined: 6/2/2005
Msg: 20
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 3:59:10 PM
who in hell wants a chic that can't or don't fuk..... what a waste

hell i have been a virgin for 2weeks, my choice, and i don't think its a big deal, a quick call to party girls would fix that....

LMAO have a

kce
 Setiri-Tx
Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 21
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 4:00:28 PM
Wow, I've always hated that type of phrase. Train a virgin.

You know, in my experience, I would have no problem dating a girl who was or wasn't a virgin. Some guys stick on girls who are virgins cause.. they have issues of some sort, and others stick on dating girls who aren't, with the typical reason being, "I want her to be experienced."

In this day and age, I can't imagine a virgin knowing absolutely nothing about sex. I really can't. When I lost my virginity to my highschool/college gf, she was a virgin as well. And now that I'm older, I think back and there's really not much difference that would have been made I don't think. Aside from her being possibly a bit shy about it, but then if I cared about the girl, it wouldn't make a bit of difference at all. If I was out looking for a quick screw or something by a pro, then yes, I'd want a pro... but for a relationship, you're gonna have love and understanding there already, so what's the big deal if she's never done it before?

Hm, sorry to rant off-topic, that phrase just strikes a chord with me.
 ABSA_N_Tx
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 22
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 4:29:37 PM
jimb77,
Wow! You're straight up forward.
No, I don't want to add you to my short list of sexual experiences. I am saving myself for my hubby. I made the mistake by giving myself to a loser of a hubby and a few men I wasn't married to. But i have changed my thinking and i can wait till married. Love making is a special thing that two-in-love should share.
 Ending Search
Joined: 11/18/2005
Msg: 23
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 7:55:18 PM
I wish that there were more women like ABSA_N_TX
 Montreal_Guy
Joined: 3/8/2004
Msg: 24
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 8:02:49 PM
It's like hiring for a job. You want someone with experience - just not over qualified.
 Ending Search
Joined: 11/18/2005
Msg: 25
Why a virgin?
Posted: 12/31/2005 8:07:45 PM
No way Montreal_Guy. No experience required. A woman with love for you is all you need. Have you ever had a woman look at you and you knew that she was totally in love with you? That is the best thing in the world. Also a bit rare.
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