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 MysticinVA
Joined: 9/3/2004
Msg: 2
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Well...If you're in the Crap...then I guess I'm going there too....you see...I'm the Older guy everyone keeps talking about....and generally society keeps hating....Why I don't know...jealousy maybe...who cares...I do what I feel like doing and its all legal....Plus I'm able to do what I want too....coz I'm single...

I have dated girls of young ages....LEGAL young ages...and have enjoyed the time in their company as much as they have in mine...nothing serious and nothing dodgy just good friends...but I choose carefully who I associate with and make sure that their family knows who I am and meets me too...and so far its working out just fine....

So No its not bad that you want an older guy....but I guess you feel the societal pressures put upon you to guilt trip you...

For different reasons...I would not EVER consider dating anyone near or within 10yrs of my age...and dont care who it upsets by thinking that either....My life....I WILL DECIDE WHO I HAVE IN IT....!
 ramcharger
Joined: 6/5/2004
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Posted: 1/6/2005 8:06:49 PM
I dont see a problem with it either way for the ladies or the guys.
Iget really flattered by younger women flirting and I enjoy it! I hear the same story as well and the younger guys just want to party while us old geeeezers are more into romance and enjoying time with our partners.
Its just a number and attraction is attraction, so whats the problem?
 Singlemaltgirl
Joined: 12/31/2004
Msg: 4
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Posted: 1/7/2005 9:20:06 AM
i dated only older men when i was in my 20's - never attracted to the pretty boys and wanted charm, charisma, self-confidence, good manners and intellect...something that 20-something boys could never offer. their idea of self-confidence came off as arrogance, good manners was not burping around my girlfriends and intellect? knowing the latest simpson's episode was about as much as they seemed to be able to muster.

now that i'm older, it's become a lot more acceptable for me to date men in their late 30's early 40's. my friends don't consider me abnormal anymore (well, they do for other reasons ) and socially, it's easier to deal with. of course, i believe intimacy to be a big part of a relationship, once it moves to that, and i do look for someone who will be able to keep up with me, too. you can have a 40 year old who acts and moves like he's much much older or you could meet a man who's 44 and has a youthful vigor that might put a 30 year old to shame. you've got to factor in a lot of things...and it depends on what you want in a partner.
 eclectic50
Joined: 4/9/2004
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Posted: 1/7/2005 11:01:23 AM
What batgirl says is true!
I hooked up with my wife when I was 35, she 21. I raised her kids and took care of all three of them, we had fun, partied, homesteaded.....but in the end, she wanted to xxxperience the younger scene. when she left at 28, she really went on a tear!
Then married one of my friends closer to her age. Ended up with 5 kids instead of the two(he had 2) they had one together immediately. When I had pleaded with her to stay my argument was, Why start all over with a new guy who can be just as much of an A$$$hole, when you KNOW me and we can WORK together, and the kids have grown to Love me. Anyway, she chose and I don't really see how it was better for her! But it was definitely worse for me.
Nowadays, I am rather a lonely guy becuz I do not see myself ever being with a women my age!
 eclectic50
Joined: 4/9/2004
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Posted: 1/7/2005 11:04:49 AM
OH YEAH

and as far as the sex goes...al she had to do is say lets's spice it UP POPS!!
LOL
 oldsarge
Joined: 12/30/2004
Msg: 7
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Posted: 1/7/2005 11:52:55 AM
Check my comment on the "50 to 65" thread dtd today.
 MHereFL
Joined: 12/30/2004
Msg: 8
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Posted: 1/7/2005 9:16:53 PM
I'd suggest, being a fellow Christian, that you work on getting a full divorce before considering dating other men (or older men, lol)

I attend a singles group at a Church, and well, they don't allow seperated people in those groups, and for good reason.
 ramcharger
Joined: 6/5/2004
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Posted: 1/7/2005 9:20:39 PM
Hey Batgirl...I havent been there or done that yet wanna ??
 Amare
Joined: 12/27/2004
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/8/2005 7:39:48 PM
You should look around and find out where older men are available. Clubs of various sorts where lots of mature adults go. Then again just advertise to meet older men. I'm 49 but people think I'm still in my thirties because of my attitude and lookout on life. From my experience, all guys haven't learn/develop to be mature and secure in themselves. Usually, about mid thirities half will grow up. The rest just never learn period!
 carter57
Joined: 1/7/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/10/2005 9:48:26 PM
IMHO, it's a question of what you want and what is most important to you. If financial security and stability are what you need, do an older man, a much older man b/c they are usually the only ones NOT paying child support. Men paying big support are awesome dads with little money...

I've done it, and done it pretty well....amare looks much like my last lover....he was so sexy at 55, he was a strong man, successful, powerful, I was late twenties...and he made me feel like a queen...the sex was great.....of course it was...it was costing him $15.00 a lay...BTW, thats the cost of one dose of Viagra....He took me on a weekend of wine tasting...he got in the shower and forgot his razor....the razor and the Viagra were in the same toiletry bag...I have never felt so inadequate in my life....

By 58, he was okay with sex once a week....and I was driving a Lexus....by 60...he was okay with sex once a month and it was driving me crazy....if sex matters....more than 8 years matters....

He actually moved on...his doctor scared him to death....his heart valve was 60% closed...he would never tell me the huge hard ons that lasted so long weren't b/c I turned him on so much, but b/c he could control his drug supply....

Thing is....I loved that man....he took care of me...and he taught me so much about myself and about life in general....I wouldn't have missed it for the world!!!!

Life is a series of experiences, very few relationships turn into Fifty year wedding anniversaries....it's gotta be about doing what makes you happy right now....the you now....

Also, I wish someone had told the 20 yr old me to take care of myself...he loved me enough to put me through college so I would be able to support myself without him when he was gone...only the wisdom of age could've been at that level....Now I buy my own Lexus...and yet, he is still the one responsible for my having it....

At 37, I need way more than that sexually....I need a 20 yr old man....all sex....no commitment....I refuse to step into that....So I come here, and I look, we all do....

And if you are a woman for whom sex is a chore...definitely...an older man will treat you well!
 moonbeamz
Joined: 1/4/2005
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/11/2005 6:51:42 PM
it's what makes you happy that matters, who cares what anyone else thinks? Personally, I would like to stay around my age 32-39 (I'm 33), but to each their own. You can make yourself crazy trying to meet other's expectations. You're the only one who knows what you want and what it takes to make you happy, so do what you want - you're the one who's dating the guy, not them - as long as he's a good person and there is a connection, I don't see what the problem is. Now if you're going to pull an Anna Nicole here and we are talking about older men as in senior citizens ... my advice might change a bit.
 dreaminuvya
Joined: 2/16/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 5/10/2005 6:39:58 PM
I dunno. Is it so bad ta want a younger woman?
 HAHANOW
Joined: 9/28/2004
Msg: 16
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Posted: 5/10/2005 11:19:39 PM
Hey woman!
You are 27 & want to hook up with older men? there is nothing at all wrong with that! Now when ya hit 45 & want to hook up with younger men, Go for it! Trust me ! It will happen!
Take yor life in your hands ! Throw it out there & take the ride !
XOXOXOX
 Alistair10
Joined: 4/27/2005
Msg: 17
is it so bad to want an older man?
Posted: 5/11/2005 6:17:21 AM
Uglier?? AHH crap! And here I thought we were supposed to become more distinguished. But is it really a matter of age or maturity?? I don't think they're neccessarily linked. I grew up pretty hard and fast and was mature for my age. When I was 24 I was dating a woman who was 33..and no it wasn't a cougar thing! I could just relate to older people due to my life experiences and didn't find much in common with the girls my age. Just my 2 cents.
 Lily72
Joined: 1/13/2005
Msg: 18
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Posted: 5/11/2005 1:46:15 PM
I myself would like to find an older man. We all have our preferences..Men my age still have their heads up their A%$...Welll at least the ones I have met. I have known some younger men who have their heads straight. BUT I feel that an older man has "Been there, Done that" already and knows what they want and DON"T want. That is I think part of a lot of people's problem...they do not know what they want.

I learned a long time ago that there is a big difference between Girls and Woman....& Boys and Men.

Go for yours honey.....
 kywindwalker
Joined: 6/14/2005
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Posted: 9/10/2005 2:44:56 PM
ok from and old mans point of view...i'm 54 and can do alot of things guys half my age cant..i run play disc golf...bowl..bike...younge ladies...older men mabe at 45 or 50...women 25 to 30...thats not bad now...but in 20 years ask youreself is a 70 year old man what i want.i think we older men have ben trough a lot more of life and have found out things most guys younger have not...we tend to love more ...and care for what we have...mabe i am wrong but i just think we take time to care more...age is nothing more than nubers...go with what you feel
 kitchensink
Joined: 9/10/2005
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Posted: 9/12/2005 11:52:48 PM
Nothing at all wrong with wanting to date older men. When I was in my early 20s I enjoyed dating older (sometimes much older) women. Now that I'm in my early 30s, I can still see going a little older, a lot older or a little younger. I suppose you just have to do what makes you happy, right?
 kywindwalker
Joined: 6/14/2005
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Posted: 9/17/2005 9:37:33 AM
ok from the old guy...i think dating...mabe ok...but for longterm relation...no...we tend to look a thing as the present...but if you are 27 and say you get into a relationship with a 45 or 50 year old what about down the road when you are 45 hes close to 70...lets face it things stop working as we gett older.and i really don't think anyone one wants to be taken care of an old man when they are still in the prime od there life ...realty somtimes sucks but face it do you really want to be changen diappers at 45...somthing to think about....so i try to stay within a 10 year age...windwalker
 kitcat822
Joined: 9/14/2005
Msg: 22
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Posted: 9/26/2005 5:55:39 PM
there is nothing wrong with wanting to be with an older women, we are much more passionate about all aspects of life....experience counts......lol
 NPGMuSiCCLuB
Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 9/26/2005 6:16:03 PM
I dont think you can say all of any ag is the same.Some Younger & Women act more grown up then older.It all depends on who they are.
 kitcat822
Joined: 9/14/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 9/26/2005 6:17:38 PM
sorry hit wrong forum....but go get your older man if thats what you want......go for it
 NPGMuSiCCLuB
Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 25
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Posted: 9/26/2005 6:17:46 PM
Im 38 & would love to havean 18 year old but it ain't in the cards.But my wife is 41 & im dont chaseing women anyways.
 Happily Ever...maybe
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 3/2/2007 6:59:55 PM
Once we get to be 25 or so, the majority of people, men and women alike, are adults, and at that point the age thing is nothing more than a number. There are some hardwired genetic reasons for an attraction between an older man and a younger woman, and more and more cultural acceptance of older women and younger men. Hey, whatever best works for you; like I said, we're all adults, or at least should be.

I do like the old saying (Chinese?) about a woman should be half the man's age plus 7 years. For me that means 45/2 + 7 = 30. Sounds about right. Then again, this saying was probably made up by Confucius's horny cousin...lol
 designingwoman
Joined: 9/4/2005
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Posted: 3/3/2007 6:10:27 PM
No. It's a matter of preference. Everyone has their own preferences, and they do have a right to them. I am not going to criticize someone for preferring to date older men, since I have my own personal set of preferences.
 kywindwalker
Joined: 6/14/2005
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Posted: 3/4/2007 8:20:52 AM
it's simple we are all different in oure likes and dislikes we make the choice...i prefer ladies my own age because most have ben there done that and hopefully loking for somone to spend there life with...just my thoughts
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