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 October16
Joined: 12/31/2005
Msg: 27
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It can work it depends on how much you want it to and of course in the end someone would have to move,it has worked for a friend of mine.
 Leigh AKA PL
Joined: 4/20/2006
Msg: 56
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Posted: 1/20/2008 9:21:34 PM

no it doesnt work.id have to go and find a new man.females need the cobwebs brushing away and we have our needs!


your should say... no it doesn't work for you.... you can't speak for us all

my fiance lives 8 hours away from me... yes it is bloody hard everytime he has to leave for us both and the children... but when it comes to love you will do anything... he has now sold his house and will be moving in with us very soon....

it is not easy and can be painful...but it can work
 xXx Tinks xXx
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 59
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Posted: 1/21/2008 4:37:33 AM
A long distance relationship does work if you are willing to make it happen. I myself have been in this situation and was fairly recently until that person decided it wasn't what he wanted and couldn't see us being together geographically.

Fair enough, as they say, plenty more fish in the sea!!!!!! However, we have both had some memorable times and it was good while it lasted. If it's meant to be then it will work and I guess it all comes down to how committed you are into making this happen.

Good luck

Tinks
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 xx_trouble
Joined: 9/17/2006
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Posted: 1/21/2008 5:01:10 AM
I've had a couple of LDR's and really don't see the problem with them, they aren't for everyone and they take a lot of trust on both sides.

As for people's comments about dating guys in the forces I think some of the comments are unfair, yes some of them are just out for themselves to get laid as much as possible but that is a small minority. I have a large number of friends who are serving and yes they do have leave cancelled and will go on tour but does that mean that they have to be alone during this time?
 Gut_Reaction
Joined: 11/11/2007
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Posted: 4/21/2008 2:03:48 PM
I was involved in one of these a few years back, adorable lady down in South Devon, about 250 miles from where I live. It wasn't planned we were both on holiday with our respective children and just clicked immediately.

It lasted about 18 months, I travelled down regularly and would stay a week or two every month. As her children lived with her 12 nights out of 14 and she worked fulltime it wasn't so easy for her to travel which was fine, for me it was like being on holiday half the time chuckles, luckily I can work whereever doesnt matter the location.

However, I didn't want to live that far from my own children permanently and the logistics were not right at the age they were then. So we decided to split as we both wanted more from the relationship than was possible. I still regret it to this day but felt I had to put my children first at that time.

Many have said I should have gone but I'm sure I did the right thing, my time will come.
 icarusi
Joined: 2/20/2007
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Posted: 4/21/2008 5:04:50 PM
I have my doubts about LDRs but wouldn't rule them out completely. I was recently involved with a foreign national who spent 2-3 months anually in her own country. I found that a real passion cooler. OTOH 'living together apart' seems to be a practical option more these days.
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