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 Taran23
Joined: 1/2/2006
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So I'm interested in how many men would wait till marriage if they met the right woman? Even if you were both NOT virgins, do you think you could wait if that was her choice?

I'm not saying you can't do other things, but the actual intercourse...could you wait for it?

Also, what if you went on a first date and the girl tells you she's waiting for marraige, how would you react? Not ever call her again? Or maybe stick around?
 okieroper
Joined: 8/23/2004
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:02:22 AM
welp ................count me out
 Racer71
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 3
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:06:07 AM
Nope, I'm not that patient...
Well, I also wouldn't buy a car without a test drive..
 cptdarkcloud
Joined: 10/10/2005
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 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 5
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:11:29 AM
Taran23

If that was her choice , then yes. If you love someone and care for them then respect their wishes. If sex supercedes all , then maybe you shouldn't be with the person who wishes to wait.

First date? Never on first date.
 7times
Joined: 10/27/2005
Msg: 6
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:12:59 AM
nope,not a chance in hell
 kelly71
Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 7
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:14:57 AM
I see 7 and Okie have come through with flying colors..haha.

Tell you the truth, there's not a snowballs chance in hell I'd wait til marriage either. Have to kick the tires first, sorry.
 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 8
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:15:31 AM
FerrariDriver71

Nice to see woman are like cars.... what happens when you find someone who has all of the qualities you looked for and the sex wasn't up to your standards the first few times? Dump her? I hope not.... the physical component albeit important, can always be improved over time.
 okieroper
Joined: 8/23/2004
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:16:21 AM
i wont even entertain the thot of a third date personally
 ureadthis
Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/13/2006 11:22:31 AM
shes not the right woman...
 Racer71
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 11
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:23:15 AM
Tictactoe,

sex is important to me and being with a woman that I'm attracted to without having sex is torture.
I would be willing to wait for the right woman, but not until marriage! It's important that there's sexual compatibility before getting married!
 Summer Teeth
Joined: 6/15/2005
Msg: 12
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:39:07 AM
I suppose I could try to wait, but I think I'd most likely explode--either that or mistake knot holes for vaginas. Either way . . . it wouldn't be pretty.
 awaitingyu
Joined: 5/17/2005
Msg: 13
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:40:35 AM
I could, but I don't personally see what point it proves to wait until your married. What's the difference? It's one day. So we date for a year and have no sex, and then the day after our marriage we have sex for the first time? what's the point of waiting till the I Do's? If you love this person and knew for a long time that you want to be with no other in your heart and every other part of your being then you have already answered your questions. Why is a "date" in time have to dictate being intimate? I will never understand that. lol

Plus, I don't personally want to wait until after I am married to find out we may not click sexually....heck no! That to me is not common sense. "Clicking" with someone means clicking in every way period. Not some ways, and leave others till after a date in time.

Don't treat marriage like an expiration date of waiting on sex. All that build up will just eat at you if you are even slightly human and have any hormones to speak of. If you are the type who never thinks of sex or is romantic, or anything than sure, maybe you can do it. lol

I wouldn't want the mind games it plays with you.

To me that tells me that you spent all this time before marriage finding everything you know as to being compatable, why let the sex suffer? I presonally if I decided to wait, would probably not even do anything sexually related other then kissing, cuz all I would be doing while she's giving it to me would be screaming I want you I want you!! hehe that's torture! lol

And remember it's different between people who are 18 to like 22 waiting till marriage then someone who is 33 and has kicked the tires in plenty lol
 Thorb
Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 14
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:42:21 AM
She wouldn't be the right woman if she said that.
 Nada III
Joined: 10/3/2005
Msg: 15
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:04:18 PM
What if she is not good in bed? has hangups won't give head, swallow, or lick balls? sorry dude got to test the waters first.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:14:12 PM
I have had a case where a woman I was dating made a point of saying that she wasn't interested in sex before marriage. I didn't have a problem with that, and waiting wouldn't have been at all difficult for me.

Of course in my case, that's because I'm just not interested in having sex with anyone. So if we had ended up getting married, and she DID want sex then, then there would have been a problem.
 Summer Teeth
Joined: 6/15/2005
Msg: 17
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:18:35 PM
You are a strange man, Ted. Nice, but strange.
 hopeful_di
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 18
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:20:12 PM
I totally agree with awaitingyu on the question of what difference does it make? I enjoy sex... all of it... and I wouldn't want to deprive myself nor the man I care about. To show him that I care, intimacy is the perfect pleasure to give and receive. It's fun and it's free.
 connorhus
Joined: 1/2/2006
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:23:57 PM
If you hadn't had sex at all? How would you know she was the perfect woman?
 squeak365
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 20
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:26:50 PM
I might wait til the third date...but come on, I wanna know what he holds at night when I am not there.....

Squeak
 boxer2931
Joined: 5/31/2005
Msg: 21
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:32:29 PM
I would wait...it would be hard as hell..literally and figuratively..LOL..I want a virgin and therefore I would wait..but it would take mutual respect and understanding definitely
 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 22
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:33:51 PM
FerrariDriver71

the question was based on a woman who wanted to wait. My answer was based on this. Like you and so many others here, I agree, there is nothing wrong with sex before marriage , but that intimacy to me isnt casual either. If someone was to tell me to wait a year, I'd see it as torture too.

Getting back to the original question though, if she feels this way, we have no right to impose our desire to have sex prior to marriage. We have two choices in this case. one is to wait, and the other is to reconsider the direction of the relationship. I'm sure the third exists which is trying to convince her. However, a no is a no and should be respected.

So I'm not against what you say, just responding to the intent of the original question. Phew!
 boxer2931
Joined: 5/31/2005
Msg: 23
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:35:55 PM
I would have to. and it would be better for it
 -Horrible/Brazen-
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 24
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:39:41 PM
I know! I'm going to become a born-again virgin and wait until marriage.










Sorry, give me a minute, I have to wipe away the tears...



I'm in the test drive club. If everything was perfect, but the sex was horrible, it would be a tough choice but I want a whole life... I'm not willing to risk us not being sexually compatible.
 RoyD
Joined: 12/30/2005
Msg: 25
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:41:15 PM
I doubt my view will be very popular but...

Not a chance. I cant imagine spending even a year waiting!

We are only here on this planet for (TOPS) 100 years, first (at least) 15 don't count here for this discussion, 50 (maybe 60) of them are left to physically be able to enjoy sexually and the rest to wrap up and spend with friends and family.

If we have 50 years out of 100 of sex-able living, 2% of your life goes by yearly!

Bottom line. If it is something you enjoy, feels good, brings closeness with others, why deny yourself and live without it?
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