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 okieroper
Joined: 8/23/2004
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welp ................count me out
 Racer71
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 3
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:06:07 AM
Nope, I'm not that patient...
Well, I also wouldn't buy a car without a test drive..
 cptdarkcloud
Joined: 10/10/2005
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 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 5
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:11:29 AM
Taran23

If that was her choice , then yes. If you love someone and care for them then respect their wishes. If sex supercedes all , then maybe you shouldn't be with the person who wishes to wait.

First date? Never on first date.
 7times
Joined: 10/27/2005
Msg: 6
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:12:59 AM
nope,not a chance in hell
 kelly71
Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 7
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:14:57 AM
I see 7 and Okie have come through with flying colors..haha.

Tell you the truth, there's not a snowballs chance in hell I'd wait til marriage either. Have to kick the tires first, sorry.
 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 8
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:15:31 AM
FerrariDriver71

Nice to see woman are like cars.... what happens when you find someone who has all of the qualities you looked for and the sex wasn't up to your standards the first few times? Dump her? I hope not.... the physical component albeit important, can always be improved over time.
 okieroper
Joined: 8/23/2004
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:16:21 AM
i wont even entertain the thot of a third date personally
 ureadthis
Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/13/2006 11:22:31 AM
shes not the right woman...
 Racer71
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 11
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:23:15 AM
Tictactoe,

sex is important to me and being with a woman that I'm attracted to without having sex is torture.
I would be willing to wait for the right woman, but not until marriage! It's important that there's sexual compatibility before getting married!
 Summer Teeth
Joined: 6/15/2005
Msg: 12
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:39:07 AM
I suppose I could try to wait, but I think I'd most likely explode--either that or mistake knot holes for vaginas. Either way . . . it wouldn't be pretty.
 awaitingyu
Joined: 5/17/2005
Msg: 13
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 11:40:35 AM
I could, but I don't personally see what point it proves to wait until your married. What's the difference? It's one day. So we date for a year and have no sex, and then the day after our marriage we have sex for the first time? what's the point of waiting till the I Do's? If you love this person and knew for a long time that you want to be with no other in your heart and every other part of your being then you have already answered your questions. Why is a "date" in time have to dictate being intimate? I will never understand that. lol

Plus, I don't personally want to wait until after I am married to find out we may not click sexually....heck no! That to me is not common sense. "Clicking" with someone means clicking in every way period. Not some ways, and leave others till after a date in time.

Don't treat marriage like an expiration date of waiting on sex. All that build up will just eat at you if you are even slightly human and have any hormones to speak of. If you are the type who never thinks of sex or is romantic, or anything than sure, maybe you can do it. lol

I wouldn't want the mind games it plays with you.

To me that tells me that you spent all this time before marriage finding everything you know as to being compatable, why let the sex suffer? I presonally if I decided to wait, would probably not even do anything sexually related other then kissing, cuz all I would be doing while she's giving it to me would be screaming I want you I want you!! hehe that's torture! lol

And remember it's different between people who are 18 to like 22 waiting till marriage then someone who is 33 and has kicked the tires in plenty lol
 Nada III
Joined: 10/3/2005
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:04:18 PM
What if she is not good in bed? has hangups won't give head, swallow, or lick balls? sorry dude got to test the waters first.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:14:12 PM
I have had a case where a woman I was dating made a point of saying that she wasn't interested in sex before marriage. I didn't have a problem with that, and waiting wouldn't have been at all difficult for me.

Of course in my case, that's because I'm just not interested in having sex with anyone. So if we had ended up getting married, and she DID want sex then, then there would have been a problem.
 Summer Teeth
Joined: 6/15/2005
Msg: 17
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:18:35 PM
You are a strange man, Ted. Nice, but strange.
 squeak365
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 20
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:26:50 PM
I might wait til the third date...but come on, I wanna know what he holds at night when I am not there.....

Squeak
 boxer2931
Joined: 5/31/2005
Msg: 21
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:32:29 PM
I would wait...it would be hard as hell..literally and figuratively..LOL..I want a virgin and therefore I would wait..but it would take mutual respect and understanding definitely
 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 22
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:33:51 PM
FerrariDriver71

the question was based on a woman who wanted to wait. My answer was based on this. Like you and so many others here, I agree, there is nothing wrong with sex before marriage , but that intimacy to me isnt casual either. If someone was to tell me to wait a year, I'd see it as torture too.

Getting back to the original question though, if she feels this way, we have no right to impose our desire to have sex prior to marriage. We have two choices in this case. one is to wait, and the other is to reconsider the direction of the relationship. I'm sure the third exists which is trying to convince her. However, a no is a no and should be respected.

So I'm not against what you say, just responding to the intent of the original question. Phew!
 boxer2931
Joined: 5/31/2005
Msg: 23
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:35:55 PM
I would have to. and it would be better for it
 awaitingyu
Joined: 5/17/2005
Msg: 26
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:42:18 PM
If the sex sucks, it wouldn't work period....being compatable is just that...how can ya enjoy each other if the sex sucks, and there's no intimacy???????? DUH!.....

that's like your grandparents at 70! why live like your grandparent at 70 years old now?????????? lol

I'd prefer to wait umm....let's say about another 60 yrs !
 dceeeee
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 27
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:54:36 PM
I know this question was aimed at guys, but I see girls answering it as if the shoe were on the other foot, so here goes...

Tough question...would I WANT to??? ...no

COULD I, if it was that important to the guy I was absolutely in love with?.... Yes,without a doubt, BUT...he'd better behave, and not count on ME to be the one to keep it in control!!

(I'm wondering if this would pertain to everything sexual? ...or just the actual intercourse?)
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 28
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:54:51 PM
If I met the right woman, there wouldn't be a wait. Therefore, the question is moot.

Hello Las Vegas!
 awaitingyu
Joined: 5/17/2005
Msg: 31
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 12:59:44 PM
but keep in mind, sex isn't just the act of intercourse....it's the intimacy, the romance, the closeness all wrapped in one.....to me if you can do all the dirty deeds but intercourse, what's the point of holding out for the intercourse??? doesn't make sense...let's just let it build up and build up till ya kill each other lol intimacy and sex is suppose to "release" ...lol holding off just builds tention even more till ya burst.

And like somenoe said ealier, if you are into each other that much and in love, you are into each other with everything, not some things...

And like I said earlier, it depends on if you are 20 waiting till u get married or 33 waiting to get married....the 20 yr old may not wanna get married till she's 30, and the 30 yr old may want to in 6 months!! ok THEN it's feasable heheee but waiting 10+ yrs?? that to me is torture

you gonna run a marathon and stop 10 feet from the finish line?

 bugsybears
Joined: 10/6/2004
Msg: 33
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 1:10:31 PM
i don't think i could. been having sex for too many years. to say i could wait would probably be a lie. now if your just talking about intercourse, then maybe something could be worked out. i really don't know. never been in that situation.
 Tinkle
Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 36
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/13/2006 2:27:56 PM
Not sure. That is the kind of mentality that would be a strike one with me, since I consider it stupid to the tenth power.
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