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 BladeAZ
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 2
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I always thought the 3-day rule was silly. If you had a good time, call them the next day and say so.
 Le Roi
Joined: 11/19/2005
Msg: 3
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:44:03 PM

I know I've seen this in the threads, but guys...what do you think...when you give a number to a chick, when do you hope to hear from her?


I would expect her to call as soon as she can.
 lexus430
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 4
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:53:54 PM
before somebody else does
 OneUniqueCaLady
Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 5
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:55:01 PM
I usually ask, when's a good time to call..........????
 DragonRider
Joined: 7/15/2004
Msg: 6
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 10:50:03 PM
RUles? Okay here is a rule... It depends on YOU... and her...

If you had a really good night, and everything was right, I have called that night... now that cell phones are so prevelent, I have called in a few minutes (if she has a headset...)

If it is a workday, I try to time it for about an hour after work... give her time to wind down a little... if it is a weekend... depending on how late we were out... soon after rising... nice thing to wake to...

The best thing I have found... and I will grant it does not always work, but if you think things really clicked, and you want to see her again... why wait? Show enthusiasm...

Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons....
~~Dragon Rider~~
 cyclingmonk
Joined: 10/18/2004
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 11:15:38 PM
Wow maybe I'm just too easy going but the next day, the next week, it really doesn't matter to me- just call I really don't like being the only one in a relationhip to pick up the phone and dial a number. You should call back when you get around to it- I've lost numbers (temporarily), got swamped in other things, sometimes $#!% happens. I'm not to sure about this 3 day, next day rule... there shouldn't be a rule. Although that explains why that one I took 10 days before I called back and she forgot who I was, when I reminded her she gave me the cold shoulder and never called me back. I called back one more time, then I got the picture and that was the end of that.

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 DragonRider
Joined: 7/15/2004
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 11:50:19 PM
Cara - If your mood includes calling ME... please... Please please please please BE moody... anytime day or night... go for it...
 ron385
Joined: 10/31/2005
Msg: 9
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/11/2006 1:58:18 PM
I agree with fishdude. If you're interested, CALL! Why wait?
 JokerWild
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 10
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/11/2006 6:11:31 PM
The 3 day rule needs to be vanquished! Anywho just call whenever...not a week or two later though maybe two days or the same day. Personally if a woman gives me her number I'm calling the following afternoon or night. If I really like her and need time to kill the butterflys in my stomach I'd wait two days.
 Nitebynite
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 12
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/11/2006 6:45:32 PM
anenigma dear,
You call me the INSTANT you get my number, o.k.?? Hey, get serious here . . . Most of us are not in eighth grade anymore; is it reasonable to start out with ridiculous "three-day rule(s), or the "make the date before Wednesday thing"; can't there be just a little primitive respect that says: It's 2006, why does a woman have to 'wait' to make a move on a man? Are you waiting for the (next) woman who might think he's just great and you just lost out by a day or so . . .
Ladies:No one thinks you're a whore if YOU make the call . . . The *Love Doctor says if you pant like a dog, she'll treat you like one- so never, ever pant . . . Ladies who are interested WANT a man to KNOW they are interested; these are the women who make the sensible move, particulary when (in some cases) the guy has no clue that there's any interest on her part.
An intelligent guy could play this 'show of interest' calm-like; let her get close to you a little- look into her eyes and listen to what she's saying; she'll come to you IF she likes you. And never, ever attack or maul her . . . No self-respecting woman wants some guy trying to be sloppy all over her -it's way too much now and so low class. Try a little tenderness seems to sometimes be the best sneak attack; let's face it guys, WHEN she does call you, then it's your move to 'make it happen'.
All she's going to offer is the opportunity; any man knows it's the lady who makes the choice if anything is going to happen, based on how well we take the lead.

Ladies- pick up your cell phones an make a date . . . Buy a drink and ask a man out for a change . . . might not be such a bad idea to shake the branches a little and see what develops. Frankly, I think it could start a whole new fresh approach to this 'cat and mouse' hide and seek crap that's just keeping us all too unraveled . . . Dating is a pain in the ass until you meet someone nice; so why prolong the agony?
Just my brief spin . . . . MAS:
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 Boxo Frocks
Joined: 2/7/2006
Msg: 13
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/11/2006 7:25:53 PM
Give him your number in person then demand he call you immediately using his cell phone, so you can watch and make sure he does it. Take control of your life!
 dalaurya
Joined: 1/25/2006
Msg: 14
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/11/2006 11:11:50 PM
until he calls you
 Mojo_LA
Joined: 12/15/2004
Msg: 16
Nitebynite....
Posted: 2/12/2006 12:51:39 AM
Wow I didn't know someone could be 39 and still in high school!

I'll help you out with this, but only if you email this girl and tell her I like her. I'll be your best friend forever!!
 joker1077
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 17
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/12/2006 10:05:02 AM
When a guy gives you his # there is no time limmit. He gave you his # for a reason so just call him. Forget the 1 or 2 day rule. When I give a number out I like to hear from them right away. It shows me they are interested and not thinking about it or waiting for something better to come along.
 Nitebynite
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 18
Nitebynite....
Posted: 2/12/2006 10:06:49 AM
Hey Mojo, nothing better than a personal introduction . . . E-mail her yourself- you might be surprised and she'll reply . . . But that's the basis of my gripe. Too many ladies seem to be afraid to write US first, or reply to us . . . So why be part of a dating forum if they won't initiate or even respond?? The 'phone call' issue never happens unless the woman will punch the keys . . .
Ladies- it's Valentine's season . . . send a few e-mails . . . Kinda nuts to post your face unless you do some of the hunting too.
Oh, Mr Mojo- It's California . . . not unthinkable that someone 39 is still IN or acting like high school . . . Where do you think all these bad dating rituals begin??
They all say "no" and we're supposed to know that usually means "yes" . . .
Ladies-rise up and take some accountability for the love that seems to 'avoid' you.
 cblfem
Joined: 1/14/2006
Msg: 20
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/12/2006 11:34:33 AM
i agree 3 day rule is absurd, if you had a good time, why not change 3rd day rule to that being the next time you go out!!!!!!!!!
 Nitebynite
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 21
An observation only ....
Posted: 2/12/2006 1:08:53 PM
Anenigma
Just my observation, based on my experiences and what I hear from women about trying to be able to get a man's attention . . . It's probably tough with a lot of unknowns on both sides, otherwise these pages would surely be empty.
Anenigma dear, wouldn't you agree that a woman of your looks has an equally tough time when so many guys are AFRAID to approach a beautiful lady ? ? ? That's the one I can't understand. I don't care who calls who, but I think women can appreciate that since guys do 99% of the approaching anyway, we guys
1) know the odds ( she likely won't call maybe from fears or socializations of her own)
2) even if she likes a guy enough to call, it's going to still be that man's move to continue the future contacts (with her)
3) (guys) tend to seem judgmental because our experiences on the other side of the fence (usually initiating calls, dates, meetings) we've gotten used to dealing with the prospect of every fear or resentment ladies have experienced with another guy in the past.
Seems like we're all supposed to be somebody's magic 'love-monkey' with all the 'correct' moves so the pursuit of love (real) is exciting, reassuring, and 'right'
It can be interesting but who cares - there still is nothing better than the love of a man and a woman who are right for each other . . . spin-spin-spin
Oh, Anenigma . . . you sure seem to be quite the Babe . . . Hat's off, pretty lady. If you ever get tired of that snow full-time . . . (Formerly from Upstate N.Y)
 ksue44
Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 23
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/12/2006 3:24:22 PM
Hey, I only have speed dial
 danishpastry
Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 27
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/13/2006 10:41:05 PM
I hope you would call as soon as it is convenient. Why wait? Find out if there is a connection and either get together or move on. I don't understand all the hesitation and games that are played online.
 AnthonyJ
Joined: 11/17/2004
Msg: 28
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/13/2006 11:10:30 PM
Yeah, why does there have to be some rule about when to call? All these rules just make things complicated. Just play it by ear and call when you really want to call....
 isaacKitty
Joined: 8/9/2008
Msg: 29
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:13:59 AM
I don't like when the guy gives me his number.
I feel like he's judging me as desperate if I call.
I hate feeling like I'm begging for a date So I may not call.That's just me !
Some women are more bold and perhaps those guys find that sort of confidence sexy but I have never had success that way.
 desert wildflower
Joined: 6/4/2008
Msg: 30
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 5/12/2009 9:17:05 AM
I also NEVER call a guy, whether he gives me his number or not. I was raised that this is very forward and not ladylike. I also don`t give out my number. So it makes it very difficult to communicate or get to know a man with those rules. About the only hope there would be to get to know me is to meet again someplace or agreed to meet somewhere, or possibly an e-mail. But I never call a man, unless I have been in a relationship with him for quite a time and he has askedme to call him. Even when in a relationship, I would really hesitate to call or text or e-mail or anything. I usually think " If they want to see me, they will call. If they don`t, I will leave them alone, and assume that they are busy." Usually guys don`t like women calling and bothering them. They like to call all of the shots.

If I was to call a man, I would feel that I am giving him the vibe that I want to get with him, and am rushing things, and he would think that I was easy.
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 31
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 5/12/2009 12:46:39 PM
Call him whenever you are available. There shouldn't be any "rules" about who should call first or when someone should call.
 turbulence1981
Joined: 4/13/2009
Msg: 32
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 5/12/2009 1:30:51 PM
Sorry, but you shouldn't call the guy back. Why didn't he ask for your number instead?
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 33
Nitebynite....
Posted: 5/12/2009 4:35:25 PM
If you like her the sooner the better, why wait to be happy. Follow your instincts and you like each other why wait a day a week or a month. Do it right away and find out sooner rather than later wether it was meant to be or you just wasted a month of your life ?
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