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 anenigma
Joined: 2/3/2006
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I know I've seen this in the threads, but guys...what do you think...when you give a number to a chick, when do you hope to hear from her?
 BladeAZ
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 2
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:38:48 PM
I always thought the 3-day rule was silly. If you had a good time, call them the next day and say so.
 Le Roi
Joined: 11/19/2005
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:44:03 PM

I know I've seen this in the threads, but guys...what do you think...when you give a number to a chick, when do you hope to hear from her?


I would expect her to call as soon as she can.
 pandaR6
Joined: 11/21/2005
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:47:00 PM
when shes ready to cook
 lexus430
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 5
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:53:54 PM
before somebody else does
 OneUniqueCaLady
Joined: 1/23/2006
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 7:55:01 PM
I usually ask, when's a good time to call..........????
 kindirishman
Joined: 1/29/2006
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 8:59:34 PM
I too think that you should call when you feel like it. Just don't appear too crazy or obsessive. Just light converstion will do. Just to let him know you're really interested. Everything will be fine as long as you adhere to that.
 DragonRider
Joined: 7/15/2004
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 10:50:03 PM
RUles? Okay here is a rule... It depends on YOU... and her...

If you had a really good night, and everything was right, I have called that night... now that cell phones are so prevelent, I have called in a few minutes (if she has a headset...)

If it is a workday, I try to time it for about an hour after work... give her time to wind down a little... if it is a weekend... depending on how late we were out... soon after rising... nice thing to wake to...

The best thing I have found... and I will grant it does not always work, but if you think things really clicked, and you want to see her again... why wait? Show enthusiasm...

Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons....
~~Dragon Rider~~
 cyclingmonk
Joined: 10/18/2004
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 11:15:38 PM
Wow maybe I'm just too easy going but the next day, the next week, it really doesn't matter to me- just call I really don't like being the only one in a relationhip to pick up the phone and dial a number. You should call back when you get around to it- I've lost numbers (temporarily), got swamped in other things, sometimes $#!% happens. I'm not to sure about this 3 day, next day rule... there shouldn't be a rule. Although that explains why that one I took 10 days before I called back and she forgot who I was, when I reminded her she gave me the cold shoulder and never called me back. I called back one more time, then I got the picture and that was the end of that.

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 DragonRider
Joined: 7/15/2004
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/9/2006 11:50:19 PM
Cara - If your mood includes calling ME... please... Please please please please BE moody... anytime day or night... go for it...
 c3sparling
Joined: 12/29/2005
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HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/10/2006 12:10:12 AM
i wouldnt wait i would go about my life like normal. thats what answering machines are for. if i wasnt around eh call back. i wouldnt slow my life down just on hopes that a woman would take the time to call.
 ron385
Joined: 10/31/2005
Msg: 12
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/11/2006 1:58:18 PM
I agree with fishdude. If you're interested, CALL! Why wait?
 JokerWild
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 13
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/11/2006 6:11:31 PM
The 3 day rule needs to be vanquished! Anywho just call whenever...not a week or two later though maybe two days or the same day. Personally if a woman gives me her number I'm calling the following afternoon or night. If I really like her and need time to kill the butterflys in my stomach I'd wait two days.
 Silent_Thoughts
Joined: 9/24/2005
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Posted: 2/11/2006 6:13:38 PM
My preference is to meet before starting the phone thing, but I am happy
to give my number and also offer to call just to cover the phone charges.

After meeting, the phone is fine, whenever - but mostly for those times
that folks can't see one another due to time or distance or obligations,
and to make plans for next time....

Best Wishes,

mark*
 Nitebynite
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 15
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/11/2006 6:45:32 PM
anenigma dear,
You call me the INSTANT you get my number, o.k.?? Hey, get serious here . . . Most of us are not in eighth grade anymore; is it reasonable to start out with ridiculous "three-day rule(s), or the "make the date before Wednesday thing"; can't there be just a little primitive respect that says: It's 2006, why does a woman have to 'wait' to make a move on a man? Are you waiting for the (next) woman who might think he's just great and you just lost out by a day or so . . .
Ladies:No one thinks you're a whore if YOU make the call . . . The *Love Doctor says if you pant like a dog, she'll treat you like one- so never, ever pant . . . Ladies who are interested WANT a man to KNOW they are interested; these are the women who make the sensible move, particulary when (in some cases) the guy has no clue that there's any interest on her part.
An intelligent guy could play this 'show of interest' calm-like; let her get close to you a little- look into her eyes and listen to what she's saying; she'll come to you IF she likes you. And never, ever attack or maul her . . . No self-respecting woman wants some guy trying to be sloppy all over her -it's way too much now and so low class. Try a little tenderness seems to sometimes be the best sneak attack; let's face it guys, WHEN she does call you, then it's your move to 'make it happen'.
All she's going to offer is the opportunity; any man knows it's the lady who makes the choice if anything is going to happen, based on how well we take the lead.

Ladies- pick up your cell phones an make a date . . . Buy a drink and ask a man out for a change . . . might not be such a bad idea to shake the branches a little and see what develops. Frankly, I think it could start a whole new fresh approach to this 'cat and mouse' hide and seek crap that's just keeping us all too unraveled . . . Dating is a pain in the ass until you meet someone nice; so why prolong the agony?
Just my brief spin . . . . MAS:
wink:
 Boxo Frocks
Joined: 2/7/2006
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Posted: 2/11/2006 7:25:53 PM
Give him your number in person then demand he call you immediately using his cell phone, so you can watch and make sure he does it. Take control of your life!
 dalaurya
Joined: 1/25/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 2/11/2006 11:11:50 PM
until he calls you
 Silent_Thoughts
Joined: 9/24/2005
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Nitebynite....
Posted: 2/11/2006 11:30:51 PM
Nitebynite,
How cool your advice is - and I hope some of the women around here
realize that it isn't 1920 anymore and that they aren't 2nd class citizens !

I have wondered for many years now why those ancient gender roles
still carry weight.

Women know who they want and who they don't want - and it is high
time the world honours them in their choices - so why not make those
choices openly and proudly ?

I would be much happier to know that a woman was interested in me
than feeling like I had to guess and worry about offending her or trying
to guess or read her mind !
(I wonder if women have any clue how many guys these days wish to be
in a better place of respect for them, and would much rather have their
blessing in any form before 'making the first move' ???)

Speak up ladies - like Nitebynite said - there are guys that will think the
world of you for expressing yourselves, and it's time you do !!

Best Wishes,

mark*
 Mojo_LA
Joined: 12/15/2004
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Nitebynite....
Posted: 2/12/2006 12:51:39 AM
Wow I didn't know someone could be 39 and still in high school!

I'll help you out with this, but only if you email this girl and tell her I like her. I'll be your best friend forever!!
 joker1077
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 20
HELP! When a guy gives you his #, how long do you wait to call?????
Posted: 2/12/2006 10:05:02 AM
When a guy gives you his # there is no time limmit. He gave you his # for a reason so just call him. Forget the 1 or 2 day rule. When I give a number out I like to hear from them right away. It shows me they are interested and not thinking about it or waiting for something better to come along.
 Nitebynite
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 21
Nitebynite....
Posted: 2/12/2006 10:06:49 AM
Hey Mojo, nothing better than a personal introduction . . . E-mail her yourself- you might be surprised and she'll reply . . . But that's the basis of my gripe. Too many ladies seem to be afraid to write US first, or reply to us . . . So why be part of a dating forum if they won't initiate or even respond?? The 'phone call' issue never happens unless the woman will punch the keys . . .
Ladies- it's Valentine's season . . . send a few e-mails . . . Kinda nuts to post your face unless you do some of the hunting too.
Oh, Mr Mojo- It's California . . . not unthinkable that someone 39 is still IN or acting like high school . . . Where do you think all these bad dating rituals begin??
They all say "no" and we're supposed to know that usually means "yes" . . .
Ladies-rise up and take some accountability for the love that seems to 'avoid' you.
 anenigma
Joined: 2/3/2006
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Nitebynite....
Posted: 2/12/2006 11:21:42 AM
nitebynite

Don't be so judgemental. Obviously if you read the threads and talk to some ppl, SOME believe in the three day rule. I personally don't. Sometimes I've noticed when you wait too long in the online world of dating....you miss the boat cause someone else already got on And some ppl don't like it if you jump on too fast. Simply lookin for some feedback, not to be judged... Thank you very much!!!
 cblfem
Joined: 1/14/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 2/12/2006 11:34:33 AM
i agree 3 day rule is absurd, if you had a good time, why not change 3rd day rule to that being the next time you go out!!!!!!!!!
 Nitebynite
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 24
An observation only ....
Posted: 2/12/2006 1:08:53 PM
Anenigma
Just my observation, based on my experiences and what I hear from women about trying to be able to get a man's attention . . . It's probably tough with a lot of unknowns on both sides, otherwise these pages would surely be empty.
Anenigma dear, wouldn't you agree that a woman of your looks has an equally tough time when so many guys are AFRAID to approach a beautiful lady ? ? ? That's the one I can't understand. I don't care who calls who, but I think women can appreciate that since guys do 99% of the approaching anyway, we guys
1) know the odds ( she likely won't call maybe from fears or socializations of her own)
2) even if she likes a guy enough to call, it's going to still be that man's move to continue the future contacts (with her)
3) (guys) tend to seem judgmental because our experiences on the other side of the fence (usually initiating calls, dates, meetings) we've gotten used to dealing with the prospect of every fear or resentment ladies have experienced with another guy in the past.
Seems like we're all supposed to be somebody's magic 'love-monkey' with all the 'correct' moves so the pursuit of love (real) is exciting, reassuring, and 'right'
It can be interesting but who cares - there still is nothing better than the love of a man and a woman who are right for each other . . . spin-spin-spin
Oh, Anenigma . . . you sure seem to be quite the Babe . . . Hat's off, pretty lady. If you ever get tired of that snow full-time . . . (Formerly from Upstate N.Y)
 Silent_Thoughts
Joined: 9/24/2005
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An observation only ....
Posted: 2/12/2006 2:47:13 PM
This thread is a real hoot !

So - like the high school days, all the adult adolescents stand around in groups
of similar gender, glancing furtively at the one whose looks they appreciate -
but neither approaches nor gives any outwardly observable indication of their
interest !!

The sad part about all that is that on these sites we know ALOT more about
each other than high school kids do - we have all kinds of stats and written
info we can easily see before making contact somewhat anonymously - and
STILL people look and don't reach out - how silly is that ?

And what about this casual sprinkling about of this word that everyone uses,
but often as a catch-all only....remember when it was cool for kids to just
say 'like' and 'man' all the time ?
The psychobabble of our time is full of the word 'judgmental' !!!

I have been called this times beyond counting - and here is some background:

Breathing is important to me - as a former asthma sufferer - so breathing
smoke is NOT an option - I DON'T date smokers, period.
And I get told this is 'judgmental' !!!

Facts: Smokers make it hard for me (and anyone) to breathe; Smokers ALL
acquire the nauseating smell of their addiction - inside and out.

This is NOT a judgement - it is simple and factual - and personally I don't
hate smokers - one of my closest friends is a smoker - but I avoid the
smoke by not visiting the smoky house where I have trouble breathing.

In conclusion:
I think we should all worry - worry alot - be afwaid, be vewwy, vewwy
afwaid - make sure we tell LOTS of lies about ourselves so nobody can
ever find us, and above all, stay SINGLE - it's safer that way !!!

Oh, wait a minute, it's also a lonely way to live, hmmmm.....maybe it
is better to take some risks after all....

Best Wishes,

mark*
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