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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 1
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Am I the only woman online who isn't chasing men? I do not have a cell phone and what is with men giving their phone numbers. Then when I say I don't have a cell phone and they say they do and they still expect me to call them? I was always told that a man chases a woman til she catches him and I think that one is true...
Joined: 12/1/2004
Msg: 2
men and phone numbers
Posted: 1/25/2005 3:28:15 PM
and what are cell phones the only phones any more??
Joined: 3/15/2004
Msg: 3
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Posted: 1/25/2005 5:35:20 PM

I was always told that a man chases a woman til she catches him

lol, I love that!

If I'm talking with a women online and I think it could develop into a relationship then I will give her my number (cell) after we've exchanged a number of emails. It's her choice whether or not to call me, but I hope that she would. This kind of tells me if she's really serious about me (about us).

If you're nervous about calling someone you only know through emails and/or messenger, that's okay - it's good to be a bit nervous - but don't let nervousness control your decisions.
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 4
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Posted: 6/14/2005 4:48:45 PM
You know, if you dial *67 and then dial their number, it will block your number and it would be safe to call from a land line. They won't be able to track you down and stalk you!
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 5
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Posted: 6/15/2005 2:34:43 PM
I don't know why everyone doesn't have a cell phone? I don't think I could function properly without mine!
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/23/2011 4:56:21 AM

I was always told that a man chases a woman til she catches him and I think that one is true...

This site isn't called "plenty of fish" for nothing. Another damsel unwilling to part with the holy digits. Expect the guys with the (fishing) poles to keep fishing.
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 7
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Posted: 11/23/2011 5:33:36 AM
If you tell a guy you don't have a cell phone, he probably thinks you're lying.
Who doesn't have a celll phone?

Just tell the guy you're not interested or give up the digits.
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/23/2011 9:49:19 AM
those posts were over 6 years ago ... people may not have been as sucked into the cell-phone-trap 6 years ago as they are now ... altho even I had a cell phone back then! and I'm not particularly progressive when it comes to electronic gagets ...

I think it's annoying when you're IM w/a man, he gives you his number, you call within 30 seconds and there's a recording to "leave a message w/your name and # and I'll call you back" ... yeah, sure ... that just screams "SCAM" to me ...

of course, maybe that's just paranoia on my part ... it's kind of a juggling act at that point ... you want to meet someone nice ... but you're afraid you'll meet the local slasher or maybe a stalker ...

I doubt there are more nutty people in the world now than there were when I was a kid ... it's just that access to the internet has opened us all up to accepting strangers into our lives ... even the nutty ones ...

Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 9
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Posted: 11/23/2011 12:22:20 PM
I now have a cell phone, have had one for 4 years. I still think a man chases a woman until she catches him. My experience has shown that a man who does not persue me is not interested. I prefer a relationship where mutual interest is part of the relationship equation.
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/23/2011 1:03:22 PM
fifi, often when a man on a dating site says for you to call him it is his way of offering his number to you instead of making you uncomfortable 'giving out your phone number' to a stranger.
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/23/2011 1:07:01 PM

I still think a man chases a woman until she catches him. My experience has shown that a man who does not persue me is not interested.

How far will a man pursue an unknown woman on the internet or even IRL if he has to approach it like a boy trying to get a kiss from Janie on the playground? To much coyness and not enough directness.

When hunting an animal the hunter knows that animal does not want to be caught. In "hunting" the human woman, he also does not know if she wants to get caught.

The difference is that he knows the animal cannot take that decision, and he knows that a woman can, but unless she slows down the chase and turns around once or twice, he ain't a gonna know.

So....if there are no clues or outright assurances, then.....
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 12
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Posted: 11/23/2011 1:24:42 PM
I understand that . Most of the men I have cooresponded with online have lived out of my local calling area. If I called him and he had caller I.D. he had my phone number and I was paying for the phone call. I did call one guy who gave me his phone number and he was on a date. He answered his cell phone and said that he gave me his phone number because that was man talk for being totally uninterested in a woman, and I was too dumb to realize that. Weird thing about it was I knew the woman he was with on the date, and as I expected, once she heard him say I was dumb (he said my name when trying to figure out which one of the dumb women I was who had taken his phone number I suppose), she told him a thing or two and he sure never saw her again. Maybe Karma did bite him on the butt.
Joined: 5/17/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/25/2011 7:15:20 AM
Aha ! Someone else knows this trick., This is so true and FREE ! Being in real estate 33 years I often had to call someone re inquiries about a house. I always use * 67.
Good post Tigress.
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 14
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Posted: 11/25/2011 7:41:54 AM
The real title of this thread should be "Women and phone numbers".

No wonder so many people are on this site with expiration dates that nearly go back to the last century.

Then there are other threads where after giving up those most holy digits and a dating relationship is established, it is likely the same women might be fretting about his not sleeping with her by the fourth date.

You know, guys have to give out their numbers too and face the possibility that he will get hate calls if things don't work out or go south. It's the fishing game.

Is it Plenty of Fish or Plenty of Flakes?
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 15
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Posted: 11/25/2011 1:16:05 PM

Possibly men who are single 'with expiration dates that go back to the last century' and are bitter and angry that women they have pursued were not interested in them

Possibly this could be the meaning for some men. I'm not SOME men. It was actually a way to try to have a little fun, something which eludes so many on here.

However, could you tell me more about this new "man myth" that some men are trying to perpetuate? You know, the myth that whether women who are single are being slowly brainwashed by the "Male Phone Myth", for lack of better name, into calling first? It sounds intriguing. And the members of my "Why Don't She Give Up the Digits" Club would need to know this.


I've heard it called 'Plenty of Losers,' but that is someone who was talking about the men here. Bitter, angry men who hate women are so obvious and will have a very hard time establishing a positive relationship with a woman, no matter who calls first.

Very pop psych of you, Winter, but I was referring to Flakes of both Sexes. Kind deflates the smugness but da truth is da truth. Usually those who are thinking the opposite sex bitter are simply projecting. This is really obvious.

God help the Number Hungry Guy who tries that new "Male Phone Myth" out on one of the many women who have it sussed. No sacred digits for him, POF "Loser".

Whole point is, if nobody talking to nobody nobody will lose their expiration date. Chill.
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/27/2011 5:46:53 AM

Women and phone's all about the women to you, not the men. The holy digits and giving it up....again, a slam against women. "The same women" then have a problem with the guy sleeping or not sleeping with her. Again, a slam directed at women. And the last, telling women to "get over it," men have to face the same things, so ' you women need to just get over it. '

Maybe you are one of those really bitter guys that doesn't realize that everything he says and does screams bitterness and hate towards women. Maybe that's why you have given up on dating because dating was failure for you but you didn't realize why. Most women do not want to date guys who dislike women. Duh.

Wow, Winter, relax. Obviously you have no experience with humor --i.e., "holy digits". A slam against women? Now, that's funny. See, you must have some humor buried in that outrage.

The way you ask if I am a bitter man really screams to me projection of attitude and opinion. I'm sorry you have the thoughts that you do. If one could see sometimes how their negative attacks really are a reflection on them, they might think otherwise. Especially if they hope to attract someone to be their mate.

I do want to thank you for visiting my profile, however, and reading your hostility into it.
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