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 wiserd
Joined: 5/11/2004
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I went through the same thing, dating a girl for about the same time frame (in college and after). It felt just like I had lost "the one who was meant for me."I don't believe in fate any more.

As cheesy as it might sound, it's worth remembering; time doesn't heal all wounds. Love does.

On the other hand, you're probably all set up to 'rebound' into your next relationship when you have it so be careful of that. Be rational about dating and take time to talk to the girl about common values and where things might go before you jump in. Don't rush to cover up one love with another. Don't forget your who you are or your standards. If you're depresed (I don't know if you're the type to get depressed or not) be careful of self destructive or overly risky romantic tendencies as you recover. You'll do fine.

She'll always be a part of who you are, but you just have to look elsewhere for a healthy relationship.

Good luck!
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 5
Seriously it's been 2 years now
Posted: 4/11/2007 12:22:26 PM
"i just cant seem to get her off my mind?"

I had 20 years with her to get over. Seventeen married and then 3 more in close contact (friends).

You have to make the decision to just let it go.

Yes - I still think about her sometimes. Not as often and not the same thoughts. The thoughts have changed a good deal. The thoughts have changed from “missing *her*" to the friendship I had to also put and end to.

I don’t think I would think of her much at all anymore if I did not work from a home office. If I was out and about more than I am. If I actually had any relatives - if my mom was still alive.

I know one thing. She is no longer my main focus like she use to be. My main focus now is learning to be the best person I can be.

Today I am listening to an ebook about “Conversation Confidence” it is pretty dang interesting. The author is now talking about *Small Talk* - even that is interesting.

Hundreds of hours of ebooks is bringing back a lot of ideas and a lot of self confidence - self esteem - just thousands of things I had not really thought much about over the years.

There is sure a lot better things to think about than someone that “deemed” me ........... unnecessary.

I just bet there are a lot more productive things for you to think about as well.

"i just cant seem to get her off my mind?" - >>> come up with better ideas to think about - I did.
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