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 Ratero-park-man
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 3
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Depends when the age difference is and if there is TRUE love there or not. If the age difference is in there 30's and up for example then it's ok, as long as there is true love there.
 lapetitechef
Joined: 1/17/2006
Msg: 4
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 10:12:28 AM
I agree that if the age difference occurs at a place too far on the lower end of the scale (teens, twenties), it can be insurmountable. I am 53 years old. I consistently end up dating quite a bit younger. I've found that early thirties is about as low as I can safely go in terms of age. By the time I taught a guy in his twenties everything he would need to know to keep up with me and make me happy, I'd be too old to enjoy it. Bear in mind, however, that some guys in their early 30's can handle the normal maintenance that comes with a relationship very well, while I've met some in their 50's who don't have a clue. You have to take it on a person by person basis. I will say that after you pass 30, age is just a number that is only 1 factor involved in making a decision about a partner.
 Doctorforyou
Joined: 12/19/2004
Msg: 5
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 11:19:21 AM
I just went out with a girl 13 years younger than me Friday night - she likes me and wants to see me again ;of course she does not know my true age- she is well educated and does part time modelling- these modeliing women fall for established older guys as well
 Doctorforyou
Joined: 12/19/2004
Msg: 6
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 2:30:38 PM
I am sorry to say but Bella Mia , I was telling the whole and complete truth .... I know if sounds crazy but yes i did go out with a young lady who was a lot younger than me
 giggleparts
Joined: 10/23/2004
Msg: 8
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/6/2006 5:32:38 AM
Not to me... You wanted opinions right?
 To the Future
Joined: 2/18/2006
Msg: 9
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/6/2006 7:36:38 AM
Silk is sexy, mink is sexier, the bonding of two people's emotional and physical needs depletes all factors of age.
 Lil_Moments
Joined: 11/20/2005
Msg: 10
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/14/2006 5:44:15 AM
Personally I think it is how the other person makes you feel. I myself use to feel that dating a man 5 yrs older or 5yrs younger was just right for me, but now I have different outlook on that. I am 38 and in the past year I have dated men who were anywhere from 4 yrs younger to the most resent being 12 yrs older than myself. Age is only a number in my book.
Well the only problem I would have is if my 17yr son dated a woman 50 right now...thats when I would have a problem! lol
 veni vedi vici
Joined: 12/9/2005
Msg: 11
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/14/2006 12:28:17 PM
whats the big deal?my previous ex was 10yrs younger no big deal?its how much you're both into each other is the important thing!right?
 Bigbeautifulwoman101
Joined: 8/17/2005
Msg: 12
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/14/2006 8:18:56 PM
there is a 9 year diff. between my man and I... he is the older one... it works for me.. ;-) .. ya ladies know what I am talkin about.....;-)

 bc_reiner
Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 15
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/16/2006 11:05:32 AM
I'm 49 and I'm dating a 35 year old. So what. I've never been divorced so my opinion on dating might be different on the subject then you that have had to experience that. Lost my whole family in car accidents. I look at life a lot differently now. What makes you happy and makes you feel alive and loved is all that matters. Age, race, fat, skinny, tall, short, means nothing, it's what is in your heart and your soul that really counts. By the way, stop and smell the roses every once in a while....it really does make a difference!
 aftereight
Joined: 11/21/2005
Msg: 16
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/16/2006 11:13:57 AM
Noooo not at all that age difference is nothing, go for it and ENJOY!
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 18
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:55:03 PM
As long as your partner is of legal age ... who cares?
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 19
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2006 10:30:08 PM
i know i'm going to get the nasty e-mails for this one but: for 25 you should go 9 years the other way to see what a real woman can do. leave the 16 year olds for the teenage boys to contend with.
 Strider886
Joined: 3/28/2006
Msg: 20
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/5/2006 2:33:37 AM
Im 26, my gf is 9.5 years older than me. Its not a big deal.
 MarkCK
Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 21
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/5/2006 8:37:26 AM
I think that's perfectly fine - don't worry about it, she's old enough to have some sense it's not like you'd be dating a really young girl, nothing to feel bad about there, as long as it feels right with the both of you age is just a silly number (get in there!! )
 Playfulnfunn
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 23
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2006 2:52:58 PM
My ex-husband is 14 years older than me! Two of my sisters are married to younger men....maybe I'll give it a try, sounds like fun! What does age have to do with anything as long as you're both having fun and not hurting anyone else? I say go for it!!!!!
Wooooooo Hoooooooo!!!!!! You only live once!
 -=Kalidor=-
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 24
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2006 3:22:20 PM
Almost every girl I know is 7-10 years younger than me, but we never seem to have an issue with it because we're on the same waveelength.
 RANGER FAN
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 25
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2006 3:36:32 PM
29 is a grown adult. Go enjoy. Dont let age bother you at all. :)
 Playfulnfunn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:20:26 PM
The last two guys I dated were in their 30's.
So, age doesn't bother me.
 ROSETTA1963
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 27
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:29:00 PM
AGE IS JUST A NUMBER AS LONG AS U BOTH LEGAL GO FOR IT. BE HAPPY
 Take_a_Lap!
Joined: 7/21/2007
Msg: 28
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:35:19 PM
9 years are you kidding me. I'm not datimg anyone unless they are at least 16 years younger than me. My dad was 18 years older than my mother.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 29
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:38:28 PM
I prefer to date only people with at least a 150 year age difference. Either younger than -114, or older than 186. Either way, makes no difference to me.
 cowtrucker
Joined: 5/20/2007
Msg: 30
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:49:05 PM
What is Age anyway? Its just a number. Maturity or lack there of, is what you need to focus on. Do the two of you make each other happy, and fill the void in your hearts? Do you have things in common, strong enough that would last into the future?

Yes, I agree, when you are in your 20's it makes a big difference, however, once you get past the drinking and partying, have a child or two, go through a divorce or break-up, and experience a little bit of life's joys and struggles, that's when maturity sets in...

We all know women tend to be a little more mature than men, so I would say go for it! Give her a little time and get to know her, and let her get to know you. There may be some things you remember from your childhood that she may not have experienced, but the fun is teaching her things about life she may not know.

Personally, I prefer the older male. I get along better with them, and tend to have more in common. If it seems to be a problem with either you or her, I would have an open conversation and talk about it, both the pros and cons, and together, (if she is something you are interested in, and vice versa), make the decision, together, of what happens next...

CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas
 NatGoat
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 31
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:07:44 PM
Personally , I wouldn't have a problem with a 20 year difference . .
. . on the Younger side, that is . .
That's Still older than my Kids . . but there is a Maturity Factor, too . . !!!
It's a rare woman, indeed that looks Exceptional .. much beyond 50 . . !!!
- Now . . Jane Fonda . . ?? . . Great at _70_ . . !!! -
 AmALilDevil
Joined: 3/20/2006
Msg: 32
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:05:49 PM
By now, I would hope you have gotten an answer to satisfy. But...I figured I would note something I haven't read on any of the replies. My parents (ages 19 and 24 at my birth) were married for only 7 years before they divorced. They each remarried years later. My stepfather is 11 years older than my mom AND my dad is 12 years older than my stepmother. Each have been married for over 20 years. I personally think it's a better thing to have such an age difference. It seems to have worked well for them anyways.
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