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 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 1
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......Page 1 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
you meet and she looks like her pictures...
ok you get along ok and spend some time getting to know her.

You ask her what she does for a living and she says she works from home.
You ask what she does....
She says she is an investor. She lives in a moderate house, nothing fancy
drives a moderate car, nothing fancy....

As you get to know her, you notice she has lots of free time.... you inquire and
she tells you she is able to do what she wants.... and you find out....
although she does not live a high and mightly lifestyle, she in fact has the financial leverage
to indeed, do whatever she wants.


WOULD THIS FACT SHE IS FINANCIALLY SECURE MAKE YOU UNEASY?
WOULD YOU FEEL JEALOUS?

WOULD YOU RATHER HER LIE and tell you she works hard and scraping by?

Can you deal with someone like this or would your mind go off into another planet
of dreams of how you think she should be, should live and should be doing?

? huh?
 wolfskshuntress
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 2
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 10:56:32 AM
lucky, not jealous ..
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 3
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 10:57:47 AM
so can the typical average guy deal with it or not????
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 4
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 10:59:59 AM
the point of this thread is how secure of you guys claiming to be secure?

can you deal with such a woman?
you know deal with it .... not let it make you jealous and live with it?
She is not asking you to get married....

can you date someone like that?

remember.... she does not live a fancy life and you would have no clue she has money....
she has total freedom to do whatever the heck she wants.
 wolfskshuntress
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 5
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:01:19 AM
i would ask her for a job ..

i would ask to wash her dishes ..
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 6
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:03:00 AM
she is not an employer and can wash her own dishes.
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 8
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:07:20 AM
oh?

men are sometimes insecure if a woman makes more money.....

how does a man react when this is someone real.....
a actually grounded, actually attractive, actually independent woman is
there.... and she makes as much as him or more and doesnt even work to do it.

?

can most men deal with this and treat her normally?

or does insecurity come into play with the man?

?
 wolfskshuntress
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 9
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:07:52 AM
i would ask her to teach me ..

i would ask to brush her hair ..
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 10
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:09:14 AM
I wish you guys would be serious.
 lexus430
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 11
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:12:33 AM
Good for her, everybody should make a lot of money!
 wolfskshuntress
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 12
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:14:27 AM
hmm .. yes, i would feel uneasy .. maybe competitive, but not jealous ..
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 13
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:16:58 AM
QUESTION IS:


could you deal with it ?

would it change you and your responses to her and how you treated her?

how would a woman like this go about finding someone secure enough
to treat her fairly and not let it come between them?

she does not want some rich boy.... she is very down to earth and grounded....
she is very responsible.
She does not lie and has a great deal of integrity... perhaps she retired early
from a professional job like a nurse or teacher....
made some good investments and now has freedom.

Could a average guys deal with it? what kind of guy should a woman like this look for?
how much should she say about herself to not draw the wrong type in who will fill his head with silliness and try to lead her.
She is not someone to be lead.... she is actually grounded.

If she was this way.. would you want to know right away... or find out later?
after all, she seems to have a lot of free time...
and you would wonder.

?

guys?
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 14
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:21:58 AM
why is it such an issue?

lol

think about it....
why would I ask?


besides having lots of free time....
 wolfskshuntress
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 15
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:22:20 AM
she should find a simple guy, one who is used to living a simple life .. someone who is not shallow ..

her business, is her business .. as long as she is comfortable living within her means and his means ..

maybe a farmer ..
maybe a teacher ..
maybe a scientist ..

not a businessman ..
not a salesman ..
not a lawyer ..
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 16
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:24:03 AM
db you are secure...

ok.. when does that come? guys in my age range 39-49
or 35-50
have such a hard time with it.


?
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 17
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:26:37 AM
she is no sugar momma and takes offense to that

proud of what? she tries to not give any sign of it !

she does not want you telling either.

LOL
 lexus430
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 18
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:28:57 AM
It would be nice to have a women with her own money, tired of gold diggers!!
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 19
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:31:05 AM
what she does ...

lol

when meeting someone asking key questions to see if they love money....
if they do... she doesnt mess with them.

but later... the guys even do not love money.... they get insecure... some of it maybe
jelousy as her life seems so easy.
They get RESENTFUL.

I mean how secure is the typical man?

really now.
?

she also does background checks and checks em out real good to avoid the players.

what she finds is....
the typical man is not as secure as he thinks.

How secure are you really? you ever thought about it?
 wolfskshuntress
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 20
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:33:47 AM
i am secure in my insecurity ..

the solution, dear frangal, is for her to give her money away .. because it consumes her too much ..
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 21
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:35:21 AM
post 37


would
it
not
make you a little jealous if you were a guy who worked hard?

and you see she isn't?

could a typical average guy ( a good guy ) really deal with that?


Think about it....

?
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 22
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:39:47 AM
your right about situational compatibility....

or in this case of the (hypethetical) woman.... incompatibility

the issue here is not the money at all.... for the above post 42.. you are missing the point
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 23
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:45:28 AM
I have gotten a few emails from guys saying they did not want to post...
but they would indeed be resentful
over her free time......


and what they would view as having an easy life.
 wolfskshuntress
Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 24
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:47:01 AM
if the issue is not about money ..

she should find someone who works from home, someone who sets his own hours .. who can order pizza at midnight, or sundaes for brunch, and not worry about missing a phone call .. just don't be surprised if she is paying the delivery man ..
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 25
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:50:15 AM
wolf

I'll tell her if I ever see her



it is actually hardest for the wealthy men to deal with someone like this...
they have met their match on all levels... and she is better looking than most her age
lol

the poor guys are too stupid to deal with and have no concept of whats going on
and the middle collar workers get resentful seeing her life as easy..

aint easy being barbie !
 Fran_Gal
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 26
men, this ones for you... what would you do if you met a woman who.......
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:53:35 AM
over what?

this is a question.... how secure are you really.

I'm sorry but you dont seem to get it.

gender roles? this is not a gender role issue.

the issue is... how secure is the typical man ?
( the good guy )

?
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