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 catman40
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 19
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BOY . you people are mean . what is soo bad being on welfare ? There is alot that may have happen . take me . I am disabled . I have epilepsy . I joke about myself all the time . " we make good matines . hold the bottle in hand when have a seizure . there you go sir shaken not stirred . " I know some who are in wheelchairs due to a illness or accident . Your asking " what can someone offer that's on welfare ? " well ... first off they are very loving . second , we are what is called A built in babysitter .
 carrie bradshaw
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/18/2006 7:05:38 AM
This thread is stressing me out.
Carrie
 carrie bradshaw
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 3/18/2006 7:13:37 AM
Indigo;
I thank you for sharing your opinion in a manner that is not attacking another person.
It was insightful while still respecting the other person.
Take care
Carrie
 carrie bradshaw
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/18/2006 7:19:49 AM
What did I do? I did not find you to be attacking but some others on here were. I almost always agree with you. I was upset that they were attacking you for your opinion.
Carrie
 carrie bradshaw
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 33
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Posted: 3/18/2006 7:26:04 AM
I know you can stand up for yourself. It just makes me upset that when people disagree on a topic they find it necessary to attack the person and not the issue being discussed.
I'm taking $20.00 to buy us pork chops and vegetables, we will use your car.
I know, old joke but I could not resist.

I just want to say generally speaking, some people need social assistance and some abuse the system. Some people have no choice and some people create their own mess and choose not to try to get out of it. Some decided to do something and they turn their life around. It is becoming difficult to determine who needs the assistance and who does not.
Carrie
 carrie bradshaw
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 39
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Posted: 3/18/2006 7:29:51 AM
I agree with you Indigo. There are many single mothers at my work who have muliple jobs just to pay the bills and put food on the table. I have a huge amount of respect for them. They do the best that they can but they miss seeing their kids. Assistance is suppose to be a last resort for those who truly need it.
Carrie
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
Msg: 40
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Posted: 3/18/2006 7:38:23 AM
I would, as long as she was actively trying to get an education so she could get a job in reasonable time. Like someone said here earlier, it is all about the attitude.

Cybury, step away from that exhaust pipe friend. Who we attract is contingent on our own personalities. I suggest you work on yours just a wee bit, look within.
 ~iiCe~
Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 55
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Posted: 3/18/2006 8:37:41 AM
I think for me the key is... is it a way of life where the person either male or female isn't working to get off of it?? or is it a temporary solution to a bad situation... some people do use public assistance as their main "job".... here is Cali they have changed it... more kids do not mean more money... so they are reducing the lifers.... they have education and work programs to get people back to work... as well as assisted childcare.... the system should be there to help not as a long term plan....
 ~iiCe~
Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 59
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Posted: 3/18/2006 8:45:11 AM
There is truth to that Cybury.... welfare can be generational.... se families pass it down as a way of life... and not encourage higher goals.... the sence of entitlement... sad way of life...

again... as a temporary solution.. not a problem... way of life and generational... problem....
 ~iiCe~
Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 85
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Posted: 3/18/2006 12:39:10 PM
sad that this thread is being sabotaged....
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
Msg: 96
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:28:10 PM
The Government of Ontario offers subsidized educational programs that if your friend pursues them will definitely qualify her for higher paying jobs. If she were willing to look into these programs and follow through she will greatly enhance the possiblity of providing a far better role model for her kids.

If she feels that her chances of finding a relationship being employed then this is just an adding bonus. Everyone keeps harping on what is bst for the kids, but being on social assistance, and I have seen it numerous times, is a repetitive cycle and often passed on to the children. Why work when the government will support you?

More often than not single parents, not JUST women, cry the blues and plead for sympathy, but do little to improve their situation. The "Dead-beat Dad" excuse is just a cop-out in most cases. Myself, I went right back to school, on wlefare for about a year and half, and now I am finishing my final year of university. She can do it too. The question is does she want to?
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:44:23 PM
My kids were in foster care for almost a year becuase the "all knowing courts" have decided that the mother naturally is the better provider.

However, my sister, a single parent, works full time and has raised her daughter alone.

The point I am trying to make is that the kids benefit from a parent that provides a role-model.

I think this whole thread though is whether anyone would date someone on welfare. If this person feels that in order to get a date she has to be working, then there are alternative sponsored government programs that will allow her to get an education. An education, and I do not believe that this is unheard of or debateable, will give her opportunities for a higher paying job.

Subsequently, a higher paying job will provide more for her children, AND, if a relationship is more attainable with such, she will gain that too.

WIN WIN scenario, but that depends on if she is willing to work towards that goal.
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:48:13 PM
Does she have just the one child? Then absolutely, being 3 weeks old the child deserves the attention. But being a single mother is not the end of a positive career. There are many opportunities if she wishes to pursue them.
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
Msg: 102
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Posted: 3/18/2006 1:52:44 PM
You mean her own comments? I can see that, as a species we are cursed with being to judgemental! Sorry, friend of flake!
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
Msg: 106
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:07:19 PM
I have 2 boys myself and after they were born I had the ol' vasectomy. I think she might be far more likely to find someone if perhaps she had her tubes tied. Just a thought... and I anticipate the bashing to follow!!! LOL
 harley4ever
Joined: 10/30/2005
Msg: 110
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:23:28 PM
original beautiful blue

that was a great story and can i say im proud of you girl very very inspirational


cojo4, what can i say about you boy? not the quickest chicken in the coop im thinking
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
Msg: 112
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:28:47 PM
You are definitely an inspiration!!!
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
Msg: 118
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:39:33 PM
I think it is unfair that men cannot have babies, then perhaps we could possibly face the difficult question of staying home and caring for our kids or not...
 harley4ever
Joined: 10/30/2005
Msg: 119
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:39:48 PM
mandrake

maybe he was attempting to spell Cujo but Jack got in the way
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
Msg: 120
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:40:49 PM
It's coming!!! I know it's coming!!!
 harley4ever
Joined: 10/30/2005
Msg: 124
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:49:36 PM
OBB

youre welcome little lady,one advice ignore fellas like Cojo guys like him are turned down by young ladies like you and he blames the world for his problems
 harley4ever
Joined: 10/30/2005
Msg: 126
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:52:50 PM
snowflake

but my neighbour's rooster spells better than that cojo boy
 badger1969
Joined: 1/11/2006
Msg: 130
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:57:09 PM
I think the point is that your friend has to stop bemoaing the fact the father of her children, or fathers whatever the case maybe, is unsupportive and be proactive towards her own goals. There are avenues she can follow to meet her goals. If her goals include a long lasting relationship, a secure career, or bettering the futures of her children then the likelihood of these happening begin with both research and education.

I believe the government offers educational assistance and small business opportunities to allow an option to social assistance.
 harley4ever
Joined: 10/30/2005
Msg: 131
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Posted: 3/18/2006 2:57:13 PM
mandrake, same here my friend.
snowflake , youre right LOL.
sienna leigh, youre bad but i like you anyways LOL
 harley4ever
Joined: 10/30/2005
Msg: 133
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:01:44 PM

ya i was...old boy......youll be a easy....punch fest......i have some things for you....come here boy....yeah


for someone who pushing close to 50 you spell worse than my third cousin, and hes how can i put this politely hmmmm a knob.
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