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 prolibertate
Joined: 9/11/2005
Msg: 4
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Nope, turning 29 was the worst...the start of my 30th year...Now, it's only a number, and luckily having good genetics helps ;) Besides, life is what *we* make it...at any age.
 sexyviper
Joined: 10/12/2005
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Posted: 4/7/2006 11:56:20 AM
happy b-day lipstick .........you look great and not a day over 29
and your from Ottawa too ....are you going out to party it up ?
 Lynlin1957
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 19
Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what?
Posted: 4/9/2006 4:39:02 AM
In all honesty I hated my 41st Birthday since it meant I was officially over 40. But, I got over it, and enjoy myself most of the time. I'm sure that I'll also hate (at least for a short time) my 51st, 61st and so on. It's the "officially over" that gets to me. But again, I'll get over it and start enjoying myself again.
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 4/9/2006 6:06:15 AM
turning 45 this july...not too worried about it...but i am wondering how traumatized i will be at turning 50...???? ugh!
 foxywon
Joined: 2/21/2004
Msg: 28
Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what?
Posted: 4/10/2006 8:22:48 AM
Can't say that turning 45 bothered me, none of my birhtdays hav bothered me up until now. I am finding the thought of my next birthday rather scary. Some how I'm turning 50 in Aug. Not sure how that can be happening I don't feel 50, don't look 50 and don't act 50. I think someone has been lieing to me and has doctored my bith certificate and I'm really 30. LOL
I think your age is all in your attitude and how you feel and act.
 foxywon
Joined: 2/21/2004
Msg: 32
Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what?
Posted: 4/15/2006 7:18:46 AM
Thanks Ringman and Lionkitty. Most people think I'm in my early 30's and are shocked when they find out how old I really am (I had to show one young guy my driver's license cause he wouldn't believe me). This is purely genetic, my Mum is 79 and she has been asked if she qualifies for the senior discount. I should be so lucky at her age.
I really believe what I wrote age is all in your attitude. Aging is something we have no control over and is going to happen. So we might as well have a positive attitude and go at live with zeal. We only get one kick at the can and should make it a great one.
 Retep1
Joined: 1/25/2006
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Posted: 4/15/2006 12:03:13 PM
Just turned 47 a week ago. .

Do I start to panic ? To be honest - YES !!!



Funny thing was about 13 month ago I felt like - " I am just a bit over 40"
Today I am soo much closer to 50

Amazing what 13 month can do to you.
Got 10 years older in such a short period of time.

Perhaps it doesn't really help that I hang out mostly with people 10 years younger. .

Some of them call me grandpa now. . .

Sorry for the rant

Where are my anti depressants ?
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 39
Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what?
Posted: 4/23/2006 8:34:43 AM
Turned 45 yesterday, and it was a great day here......sunny, warm, and yard full of kids running around enjoying the outdoors. Barbeque going all day and a few cold ones being sipped, felt great all day. Now today.......the body feels like it is 45, but when you play, ya gotta pay
 alivenwell
Joined: 8/16/2005
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Posted: 4/23/2006 8:47:03 AM
LOL...45??....50???...wait till you're sneaking up on 60!!!...what you find out is you'll live...quite nicely if you want to...
 brebour
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 56
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Posted: 7/2/2006 11:41:56 PM
I would much rather be 45 than 25 and pregnant..............yikes!
 historiandan
Joined: 5/2/2006
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Posted: 7/3/2006 2:45:18 AM
Turning 30 was the worst...wondering why I wasn't yet retired........stupid investments will do that. 50 was a piece of cake, had a toast with my ex's parents. AGE is truley a state of mind. I don't know about any one else, but I havn't a clue what "50 something" is supposed to feel or act like. But in response to anothers post, one thing is for sure, I DO appreciate the maturity of "50 something women" .
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 7/3/2006 11:35:30 PM
My French teacher used to say - back in my 30s - that life starts at 40. That time I was thinking: "What does she mean by it"?! Something to look forward or run for the woods????
Well, I've passed securely & safely that 'threshold' of 40 and one priceless thing I discovered -live the life to enjoy it, look for pleasures and pursuits that make you smile & happy and SHARE it! Positive attitude w i n s and takes you further than excuses and pointed finger.

Passing 45? Oh yes, another element I've realised too. No rushing and dashing, on the contrary, a gourmet in many directions

P.S.
BTW, my French teacher was 100% right!
 Celticmist
Joined: 2/1/2005
Msg: 65
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Posted: 7/5/2006 7:22:09 PM
Well this fall I will be turning 55 - and lol Pickles, I will get to enjoy those discounts and start making myself priority no. 1, so I am looking forward to sleeping in, working out at the gym with all the other freedom 55ers (and Shell if they don't like the legs or arms - they don't have to look ), travelling and pretty much doing what I darn well please

I am in good health, have good friends, and nothing to hold me back - Life is good and getting better -
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 80
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Posted: 7/9/2006 12:47:34 PM
...It is my thinking that how you deal with aging depends uopn your state of mind at that particular time in your life. I just entered my fifties and I feel great, have a positive outlook and, for the most part am quite comfortable with who I am. I didn't always feel this way. The
traumatic periods affected my emotional state and how I viewed life in general. The passing of my mother sent me into a depression that was enormously hard to overcome. I remember thinking how fragile life really is, here one day and gone the next. I was fast approaching my fifties at the time and had this whole mortality thing wrapped around my brain. I was not in a good space. But we know that time does heal all the pains and hurts and we hopefully become healthier people through life's lessons. So with all that being said, yes, maybe we should ponder upon mortality and enjoy the time we have here.
Heres to all you 45+


...maeflowers
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Posted: 9/21/2009 11:17:55 AM
Personally, I think you should really examine your own prejudices and notions about aging. IMHO your question is mainly about fearing becoming the stereotype you've already set up mentally. Get rid of those things, they're not helping your situation
I'm turning 60 in a month and looking forward to it.
As you think it, so shall it be
 DaytonDennis
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Posted: 9/21/2009 11:18:42 AM

I turn 55 one week from today. Funny, age never seemed to bother me. Why is it that some landmark birthdays are harder on us than others. Why does age seem to make a bigger deal to women, (who are known to fib about their age sometimes) than to men.


You look MAHVALOUS, Widows - even if you told me you were 39! I think men are supposed to look more "manly" (maybe not the right word) as we age, while women are supposed to somehow retain that youthful "beauty" It's certainly a cultural thing. It's the AARP mail I'm starting to get that bugs me, though!!! grrrrrrrrr
 DaytonDennis
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Posted: 9/21/2009 12:56:19 PM
My father is alive @ 89, my mom is 84. My Grandma died at 94. My aunt @ 90. My uncle @ 91 (all Dad's side of family). Not sure what side of your family controls longevity. All I know is that if I make it to 95 I will need viagra and an I.V. (and spend my honeymoon @ viagra falls... *cough*)

My friends who hiked the Grand Canyon several years ago with me, did an overnight bike trip labor day weekend. It wasn't that long, really - only 48 round trip, but not having biked much this year, it put a burn on my butt. Over dinner we all agreed that hiking the Canyon had become less and less enjoyable with each trip and with every passing year. We probably won't be doing that again, but on the bike path (beautiful paths, btw) we saw people in their 80's riding along thoroughy enjoying it. That's my plan - to keep my mind AND body in best running order I can get and enjoy life as long as I possibly can. I'm looking forward 30 years to participating in the Old Farts 3 mile bicycle race!
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 117
Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what?
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:20:32 PM
When I turned 40 I took up running.
I figured if it killed me, then I would be saved alot of trouble.
But if it didn't, I'd be getting better every year from then on.
It didn't kill me ....
....and I am.
Did 4 miles under 40 minutes last weekend at age 47.
Couldn't run four miles at all at age 28.(or even two)
I can outrun my grown sons at speed or distance and it annoys em to no end.
(that alone is worth the effort/LOL)

That we have to fall apart and grow decrepit is a myth.
So set some long term goals and stick with em.
Write that book you've been meaning to...or take some classes.
Learn to dance.
Start walking every day.

Cus alot of us got a lot more time left on this planet.
Best get to living it.
And if old age is gonna sneak up and get me.
It'll have to catch me running.
 OldFolkie
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 9/22/2009 10:24:24 PM
Nah, turning 45 was a breeze. Wait until you turn 60. That just plain feels wierd, as in "how the hell did THAT happen!

 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 124
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Posted: 9/22/2009 10:56:52 PM
... No, I never found turning 45 the worst. I think I probaby was at my very best around that age....
Now, more than ten years later I find that my eyesight is going, I can't drive at night, menus are a b1tch. I can't always be sure where sounds are coming from, I have learned to look where everyone else is looking....gross little things are growing on my body. My toenails are impossible to cut......shall I go on?


...maeflowers
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 125
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Posted: 9/22/2009 11:00:41 PM
Turning 45 wasn't bad at all and I will be 50 in 6 weeks. A few of my friends have done so this year and they (men and women alike) are still fabulous. As a matter of fact, I'm having a party...which is better than wallowing in self pity. Things could be much worse.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
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Posted: 9/23/2009 9:46:07 PM
Birthdays have never bothered me and turning 45 was no exception. They never bothered me until now. I will be turning 50 in a little over a year and this one has really brought me to distraction. I don't know if it is because I am not with someone right now, or the reality that I have not accomplished a great number of things that I had hoped too by this age. I don't feel this way all of the time, just sometimes when it's late, and I can't sleep, I find myself obsessing about it.
 Blue-Eyes-Shine
Joined: 11/26/2008
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Posted: 9/23/2009 10:01:01 PM
I guess if you look at turning a year older as something terrible then it will be. I love birthdays! It means I'm still healthy and still living, so I enjoy it!
 NancyC123
Joined: 12/17/2006
Msg: 142
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Posted: 9/26/2009 5:18:44 PM
I turned 45 in July, and the only down thing that hit me right square between the eyes was the fact that in a short 5 years I'll be FIFTY!! THAT'S what's depressing for me. The older I get the faster the years go and I'm so NOT ready to turn 50! I mean, hell, I still feel like I'm 21 - except for when I get out of bed with all the aches and pains that seemed to have come from nowhwere! And, what's with me coloring the grays out only to have them creep up again 3 weeks later?! What's up with that?! Yeah, I have to say, my inner child is screaming non-stop nowadays because the inevitable seems to get closer and closer and I feel I haven't even LIVED yet!!
 gorgon
Joined: 3/3/2006
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Posted: 9/27/2009 1:51:11 AM
No it's not.wait til next year.you'll 45.
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