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Joined: 3/21/2004
Msg: 3
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I dunno....

have sex?

Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 4
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What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/8/2006 5:41:56 PM
block him. ignore all attempts at contact. period.
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 7
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/9/2006 5:15:17 PM
What about threatening him with a restraining order? And if he keeps it up, follow it through. Having a gun in the house can actually put you and your kids at risk, and what if one of them found it and hurt themselves? You would never forgive yourself. And if you get a gun, you have to be prepared to use it. Do you think you could kill somebody, or live with yourself after you did? Just a thought.... In Australia it is nearly impossible to get a gun permit nowadays for a good reason.
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 13
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What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/9/2006 9:37:23 PM
shoot him!!

Seriously, keep track of any and all contacts this stalker has attempted. A written log can be used as evidence against the creep in court.
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 14
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/9/2006 9:52:30 PM
Pay someone to cut his fingers off!!! Won't type after you then!!!
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 15
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/9/2006 10:48:25 PM
Is she really??????
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 17
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/10/2006 3:06:40 AM
What does her having that she is married on here have to do with someone bothering her online??? Why do people insist on either getting off the topic or finding a reason why a person deserves to get what they get?? That is so much like .. "well, she was wearing makeup she was looking to get raped"... wake up people...

I still say hire someone to cut off his fingers!!!
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 21
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/10/2006 10:04:23 PM
~ Hey Lonely ~ More of the same I see. ARGH!!! Your life is apparently on display because you made the tragic mistake of being honest in another thread...shame on you. (Such silliness, I still maintain it's your life ~ I'd love to be as holy as some ~ maybe I'd feel better about myself making someone else feel horrible...hmmmm...must evaluate that! NOT!!)

I have had two stalkers and it's creepy. One here actually copied my pictures and set up a profile in which he emailed me from me!! It was beyond weird. The other one, daily makes a new profile and writes. I've now had to stop responding to anyone without a pic or without prior knowledge of their email. Likewise, I've had to set email restrictions. I don't care what your life is about ~ some people (men and women) cross the line. Unfortunately, I had to take pictures off of my profiles elsewhere and even had to deactivate my family homepage for a time. What a violation of my rights. The worst part, I felt watched all the time. He was obviously waiting for my log in all the time. Just plain creepy. You may have to adjust your life to stay away from him, at least for a time! Unfortunate, but safe!!
Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 22
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/10/2006 10:17:10 PM
I have posted this in another thread... but for over 2 years and I can't even say how many sites or ID's I have had... I have been stalked by this guy... he is mean and nasty... and makes threats... the only saving point i have is that he has no real info on me...

he comes and goes and right now... he is back again... two more notes/threats this week... the last contact was about 3 months ago... and then before that about 2 months... so it seems like I can only hold him at bay for about 2 months when blocking him... I have deleted accts, changed my name... not talked to anyone who may talk to him... just not taking the risks... I have even change internet providers....

I have reported him to the various site admins and they will block his ISP ... but he will just change names and comes back.. this has happened on several sites and on my yahoo and aim... I have them locked now so only people on my list can hit me up...

he lives back east so I don't have to worry about him being local.. and I have never talked to him so he has hopefully no real info on me... one of his last notes stated that he will continue to harrass me where ever he finds me...

he is a sad little man... and initally it was stressful for me... but now when I see his ID pop up I know what to expect... so it is less intimidating... sadly in the internet world people have no fear of the consequences of their behavior...

right now my only recourse in getting his ISP and reporting him to his internet provider... I have read that they take harrassment seriously and that he can lose his service and be reported... don't know... the police don't really take this all that seriously as there is no in person threat of harm and because he isn't local....
Joined: 12/31/2005
Msg: 23
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What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/10/2006 10:42:32 PM
Yep, you need to contact the police, don't play around with this, you don't know if it may be serious or not.
Police probably hack him to locate him and check him out.
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 26
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/11/2006 9:22:33 AM
LMAO @ Stalker love !!!

Not a bad idea though, I wonder if turning the table would work? Stranger things have happened. I just don't have the interest to create profile after profile to lurk around after someone that flatly creeps me out. The way my luck runs, I'd end up in jail for stalking !!! LOL
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 32
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/11/2006 8:36:30 PM
Yikes!!! Payload, your creeping me out and you aren't even stalking me. What is up with the attitude?

You lead guys on. Its just not fair. Regardless if he was stalking you or not that is not the point.

Uh, no ~ stalking is the point. That is why this thread is about cyber-stalkers. It's not about Jilted John Doe having a bad hair day because he's being ignored. It's about someone going over and above a reasonable level of interest in the OP.

Once you reach that point of saying I want to end this then write an E-mail spimply saying that "I no longer have any intrest in getting to know you further..soory" thats all it takes. Most guys would be pissed but will take it and move on. Some might say something mean back but atleast you know where the lines are drawn.

The OP clearly stated that she tried to tell him several times. Maybe you missed her posts about that, but I trust she did make an effort to tell him things were not working. And if most guys get "pissed" over that, there is a deeper issue. This is the net, not real life. People come and go. It's the way it works. I agree, it's best to respect each other, but at times, things happen that dictate a departure without contact.

If I were him I would have really chewed you out becsaue like most women on here, you play these games that are not called for. You talk and talk then all of a sudden stop...then you say, "how come I can't meet nice guys?" WELL BECASUE YOU ARE QUICK TO JUDGE...Just my two cents but what comes around goes around becsaue you're going to meet a nice guy that you really like and then ***wham** out of no where he is going to stop responding to you and then you will see where that other guy you blew off was comming from. You too will be bitter like he seemed to be towrds you by acting like "stalker" as you claim.

Well, the minute I feel that someone is becoming nasty with me (chewing me out) is the minute I delete the mail and block the sender. I can't see being nasty because someone moves on. I agree with you, common courtesy should always be factored in, but the minute someone is nasty to me, there is NO MORE communication. I don't owe someone that option. Nor will I allow it.

I can tell that you are quite passionate about this ~ I'm not sure quite why that is. The reality is: cyber-stalkers are scary. The fact that someone has the time and interest to lurk around after me creeps me out. I'm sorry you don't understand. We all get dumped online. It's happened to me, more than once. I didn't stalk him. That's silly. I left him alone. That is what he wanted. You can't force someone to talk to you and you certainly can't force communicate if they don't want to. Sadly, it probably isn't handled in a manner that makes it easy on everyone, but that stalking stuff is just not appropriate. JMO!!

smiles.. lonely mama!! Hating me isnt going to make you pretty!

OMFG!!! I will NEVER understand women. And being one, makes it even more perplexing. Why do so many here resort to remarks about someone's appearance? I don't get it. For everyone who isn't attracted to me, you or lonely ~ there are men that feel exactly the opposite. No wonder this site is so full of negativity, when there is nothing else to say, people resort to nasty personal slams. I don't have to agree with the OP, but there is a mutual respect that should exist. I have my opinions, you have yours and she has hers. Get over it. Meow meow!! I see fuzz all over the room.
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 34
What do you do with a cyber stalker?
Posted: 5/12/2006 5:19:09 AM
Well obviously she did not make her point clear enough to the guy.

No, means NO! Once is all it takes to say "I'm not interested."

This is the reason why sites like this are a joke because of the way people like you think.

Then people like you shouldn't expect to find anything worthwhile here. Because it's people like you that make people like me worried about communicating with others. You just don't get it. If I tell you once I'm not interested, that is that. No need to "chew me out" ~ MOVE ON.

The OP like you probably view most guys on here as bits or virtual people and could careless of anyone's feeling. Respect and caring are two different things and if you do one without the other then that is where trouble begins.

Whoa there buddy. You know nothing about me. I respect everyone who writes to me, unless they deserve NO respect. XXX rated contact and the inability to move on when I politely say "I'm not looking for what you are looking for" is not appropriate. For me or anyone else.

Chewing someone out does not mean that you are being nasty with them, it's just being very blunt with that person. If the OP called me a stalker, which is a rude and nasty remark regardless if it is true or not, I would have defended my actions as justified (not that I would stalk anyone but if I were accused of that I would defend my reasoning). I'm pretty sure somewhere down the road of them two talking she began to lead him on and probably did not know it (but this is highly unlikely) as most girls do it.

Chewing someone out/being blunt is unnecessary. OMFG! Yes, we all lead you on. How's this attitude working for ya???

this is why I said in the beginning that this stalking is not really the point

Then why don't you start your own thread and get to YOUR point? You're in a thread dedicated to cyber-stalking. Period.

READ HER PROFILE. As I stated before its a jungle of ironies, oxymoron's, loops, head games, and other stuff that just contradicts her making this post in the first place. I'm not even going to get into her profile right now but if you read it, you can see that; her profile is the ype that is welcome doormat to “stalkers”

I have read her profile and quite honestly, if you want to see oxymorons and a bunch of BS, read MINE. That is MY business and whoever isn't happy with what I say ~ too bad!!! You know, you just don't get it. That's entirely up to you. You are missing the point of this thread and just want to get your woman-bashing opinions out here. You've now done that. Feel better? Should you want to discuss her profile or my profile, feel free to start a thread regarding such. Otherwise, get back on topic and voice your opinions on how we all make up cyber-stalkers for some unfathomable reason. Some of us would like to read posts about stalkers.

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But legally its' not stalking.

That is not correct. You may want to revisit your local and state statutes. Knowingly approaching someone at their home or place of business or any venue providing direct, univited contact can be legally termed stalking. Overanalyzed/overgeneralized or not, stalking in any form is now taken very seriously. Stalking via the net is the second highest rising crime in the US. I know you aren't of the mindset that stalking is appropriate, but for your own info, you may want to research said laws. If you don't have access to legal statutes in your area, is a site where you can view case law for free. Otherwise you can google for statute law in your state.
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