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 cutieyang
Joined: 4/1/2006
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what do you think about dating a man who is 22 years older than you?
 Funme40
Joined: 4/4/2006
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Posted: 7/3/2006 7:14:18 PM
Cool, you'll be 55 and he'll be 77! That's a nice perspective for the futur....
 mrrabbit13
Joined: 4/1/2006
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Posted: 7/3/2006 7:36:43 PM
I have to agree with rainbowfishh:

I have never seen a man 20 years older than me I would be attracted to
physically...


Now I wonder how old is your dad, and how it feel dating someone your dad's generation? I think your age plays an very important role as well. 22 years older, while you are only 20??? Geez. It maybe okay to me when I were 79 and he's 99, so that we will be both interested in setting up our wills, visiting funeral homes, picking headstones etc.
 Mike J. W.
Joined: 2/26/2006
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Posted: 7/3/2006 7:37:50 PM
It can work if you two are in love with each other and you find him appealing even though he's 22 years older than you. Look at Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas. Isn't he something like 25 years older than her or around there? You gotta hand it to Mike though, any man, any age, that can get a great looking woman like Catherine to stick around him has to be doing something right! Could it be his money that she's attracted to though?
 Bigger Guy
Joined: 10/3/2005
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Posted: 7/3/2006 7:38:02 PM
Once again .. an age difference forum

heres what I posted yesterday on another one

Of course it can work. Virtually all the people that ask me out are considerably younger than me. They don't ask me out for any sort of status..its for compatability and suitability. Of the people I know / work with / et cetera, the most significantly happy marriages/unions have anywhere from a moderate to significant age difference. One couple in particular (I was just at the wifes birthday party) haqve a wonderful family . she just turned 27.....she is well educated and works professionally about half the time from home and the balance from her company office (she owns the company) .... they have a 6 month old and a 2 year old.....he is a commercial pilot / age 49 / and has a 25 year old daughter from his previous marriage (widower) who just adores her new siblings & family (and occassionally calls her step mom "mom" in public..just to get her wound up) ...... They all get along very well with the in-laws (who are only slightly older then him) and consider them friends as well as family. His parents and his late wifes parents are all involved and included completely and accepted & accepting completely. This is just one example of several I personally know ...... who could ask for better than that?
Age is just a number.......if the attraction is there .. physically/mentally/spiritually ... and there is true compatability .... then it is no different than any other age ....... just a number.... the prerequisites/qualifications don't change ........ just the personal restrictions that would have otherwise held someone from attaining happiness because of an arbitrary numerical bias.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 7/3/2006 7:45:41 PM
Whatever works for those two people.
 Bigger Guy
Joined: 10/3/2005
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Posted: 7/4/2006 12:12:04 AM
Hopefully hotsydguy is trying to be funny with the double post and what he said, but no matter...... do what is right for you and have a realy good life.
 cutieyang
Joined: 4/1/2006
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Posted: 7/5/2006 6:16:16 AM
some of the posts really wanna make me laugh with embarrassment....sacastic enough though.......
but i felt not so bad when i see some supportive ones....thanks
 Huggablehottie
Joined: 8/3/2006
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Posted: 11/20/2006 5:22:22 PM
I can't help it ^^ some people are too funny!!
 friendsfirst09
Joined: 10/13/2006
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Posted: 11/22/2006 10:38:59 PM
What are u dumb????.Come on now....Who's ur daddy for sure.I have to wonder also are u in it for love or a father figure darling?,are you lacking attention you never received from ur father? and this man is ur father figure?.This man has been there done it and your just beginning,to also add ...the sex ...his drive will go to perhaps once a week and you'll be in ur prime....stock up n Viagra lol.Its crazy your young..you have a life ahead of you take it and run.I would never date a man who is in my case 65, for one thing I would have nothing in comman other then pushing his wheelchair for excercise. You wanted my opinion you got it. Best of luck young lady
 friendsfirst09
Joined: 10/13/2006
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Posted: 11/23/2006 5:44:27 AM
Bravo to you for defending ALL men in there 50's.....Tell me something ...say your baby girl came home with a man 22 years older...Would you be thrilled??. I know I'd be put out,but then again my 23 yr old daughter would never do that.
 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
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Posted: 11/23/2006 8:22:59 AM
This question is like the interracial ones.

What's between two people is between two people.

For other people to say it's disgusting etc. is their problem, not that of the couple who want to be together.

When someone has to beg the question on a public forum however, it begs the question why do you care what other people think? Since you obviously do or you wouldn't be asking, perhaps this isn't a good idea for you.
 nightfly
Joined: 7/20/2004
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Posted: 11/23/2006 8:42:12 AM
It's been said that our personalities are basically set once we are 25; that being the case, it really depends on what you want out of the relationship. As far as marriage and children go, for a woman if you want your own kids it is of course easier if you are younger, and for men it really doesn't make much of a difference. And it being so hard to find someone who we are compatible with, does anyone really want to pass up on someone who seems so perfect just because they don't fit the 'picture' of who we've been brought up to believe is supposed to be our 'soul mate'? I've never believed in that; in this day and age where so many people live to be 100, why not try to find out if that person is the one we can be ectsatically happy with? Most relationships fall apart or the romance wanes anyway; if the relationship feels right in all other ways, I would say try it out and see where it leads. The 'rose colored glasses' come off in about three years max anyway, so if you're still crazy about them after that, you've got it made. One year or 22 years, we're all adults, we may die tomorrow. Mays as well enjoy the time we have together.
 Tolstoyist
Joined: 3/22/2006
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Posted: 11/23/2006 4:08:35 PM

My daughter is 18 and yes that would be okay Now!! Be better then wanting to date a 18 year old at 15.But when I see 14 to 17 year old girls with with boys 18 to 22.I think well thier parents did'nt do a good job either.It was'nt allowed in my house while I was there.When a girl turns 18 she can date 18 to 88 its nobodys business.It would be nice to have some order to the way things are surppose to be again.If its been done one way for 7000 years and it was right, it does'nt become wrong in the last 50 cause a group didn' like the norm!

In my state the legal age of consent is 16. I see nothing immoral about a 19-22yo dating a 15 or 16 yo.
 skydad
Joined: 3/29/2006
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Posted: 11/23/2006 4:24:46 PM
22 years older than you... he may as well be your father, youre disgusting, go get someone your age.

You don't even know what you are talking about. I know a couple where there was 39 years difference in their ages. They were married, happily, I might add for almost 30 years and were truly in love. I know, because they were my mom & dad.
 lucilou
Joined: 3/18/2006
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Posted: 11/23/2006 5:59:40 PM
Gee!!! thats why when younger guys e-mailed me I always tell them how old I am or maybe they missed looking at my age. There's some that I am really attracted to, its the opposite of the OP's forum, I am the old lady and him the younger man. The problem is some really judge us when we date someone younger than us, why does it matter? If you are in love , love conquers all. Anyway some of them even younger than me looks older, I am very medically healthy and there's only few older guys that are medically healthy. I want someone whgo takes care of themselves.
 lucilou
Joined: 3/18/2006
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Posted: 11/24/2006 3:44:08 AM
Piano4te??? You think you look young at your age 43? and you wont date a grandma? Lets see and count our wrinkles on our face and see who has more lol.

Crystal heart, you are right those Asian has money in thier country, and the way American guys think about Asian women being here in USA is by mail order bride, and almost all of them generalized all Asian women. I came here in USA on my own, went to school here by student visa. Those mail bride maybe cant go to USA because of no reason to get here. Professional Asian dont have problem getting visa from American embassy, so PLEASE dont generalize all Asian women that they use American for the money.
 Tolstoyist
Joined: 3/22/2006
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Posted: 11/25/2006 2:16:53 PM

See that is what is wrong with most people and this site for sure .The age of consent.I do not care if the age of consent is 12 or 25 If your a Father worth a damn (save it I do not want to hear it, thats not opinion its FACT!!)You are going to want to kill the S O B and in some case's they do.


I consider the hysteria against sexuality to be more disturbing than age differences in dating.
Kill someone for being attracted to my daughter if shes under 16?? That is not only ludicrous but it will land you in prison or worse. American family law is so corrupt and arbitrary that this campaign to villify sexuality has gone way too far when young people are doing prison time for having sex. The origin of this problem is that nobody knows how to properly matchmake.


There is less chance of that happening with her dating in her own age group.When she is 18 and both parents did a good job, you have nothing to fear.


The average age of consent in the US is 16-17 and even this can be very arbitrary. The penalties for so-called "inappropriate liasons" between 20 year olds and teenagers is utterly disproportionate to the so-called "crime". I dont see it as a crime and most certainly resent the fact that millions of tax dollars are wasted by the legal system on trials, policing and prisons over puppy love. Can societies stupidity reach any lower?
 Tolstoyist
Joined: 3/22/2006
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Posted: 11/26/2006 12:30:37 AM
I apologize CanHandle. Forgive me for being too candid. I wasnt trying to get your goat. (well maybe not too much, hehe) Of course I dont want my daughter doing drugs or being wreckless and I dont hold fathers to be culpable over this issue at all. However I do fault the states for confusing the public with their "one size fits all" legal statutes surrounding consent and the grotesquely brazen arrogance of prosecutors who make scapegoats out young men and women by exploiting them as political examples. I wish the country would pay more attention to the corruption of the family law system and the radical statutes being imposed upon an unsuspecting public.
 wonwascallywabbit
Joined: 7/20/2005
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Posted: 11/26/2006 1:14:35 AM
Amazing how generalizations abound with such a topic. Sure sometimes people get involved with someone older for financial betterment. If he doesn't care why should I. If they are a happy and healthy couple why not. Many times those from other lands have different customs than ours and marrying someone older is quite the norm. It's also true that those with professional credentials can in fact find their way here without any subterfuge. Maybe just maybe they love and respect each other. There's far to many equal age couples who don't even have that. I say live and let live. Perverts, that's someone who is looking just for a young body, not someone who's looking to love someone. Out of curiousity where in the original post did it mention anything about pre-18 kids. Ya that is sick, but that wasn't the question.
 wonwascallywabbit
Joined: 7/20/2005
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Posted: 11/26/2006 8:52:58 PM
And fathers and mothers do not have the right to tell thier child under 18 you will not have sex or do any of the other no's.

Buddy I can tell you I'll tell my kids not to do anything that I want to, and it is by God my right. I sincerely hope either that was a typo, or you don't have kids. I have 2 teen daughters who were given all the information they needed to make intelligent choices regarding matters such as this, and they have. But should I ever need to step in I will. Teens have no business having sex, due to the lack of information most are equiped with. If you give them the information they tend to avoid it on their own. Again, the question was not about sex with minors but about age gaps in relationships of someone over 21. 22 was it not. Your talking about someone who is a young adult not a minor or even a late teener. 22 is the age of someone who's finished a 4 year college degree. If they haven't learned something by then God help them.
 justmeinnc05
Joined: 8/12/2005
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Posted: 11/27/2006 8:44:59 AM
It wouldn't be something that I would want to do, as I don't think I would have much in common with a man that was the same age as my mother, but if you want to date a man that is 22 years older than you are, then just do it, and don't worry about what other people think!!!
 *****Covet*****
Joined: 9/25/2007
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Posted: 10/7/2007 10:06:55 AM



Just my opinion but 22 years is a big difference. Men do mature slower then women and this type of relationship can initially be fun for both. But when it comes time to relate and respect each others opinions and outlooks... age WILL get in the way. A man that much older will not take you or your suggestions serious. After all, in his mind-he is older and wiser, what could you possibly know? In the end he will be the only one having all the fun and you will be miserable because your needs will not be met.
Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 10/7/2007 11:48:49 AM
I think you need to be asking yourself some key happiness questions here...what period of your life are you in? Are you into clubbing or partying as so many 20 year olds and beyond still are? Is he into what you are into? If you are in 2 seperate places in your lives? If you are, you will fail or be miserable and that isn't worth it. Do you want children of your own? If you do, is he willing to start out with little ones at his age? If you can't agree on this one, again, not the right relationship. Do you have common interests because you could very well be living a generation apart?
I am sure you see where I am going with this. If there are some real compatibility issues, I would say steer clear...but if there aren't, go for it girl- you never know who your heart might love! I personally tend to get along better with me who are 15+ years older than me so I would see no issue in it!
 scorpiomover
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Posted: 10/7/2007 4:34:29 PM
If we got on, then fine. If we didn't, then not fine. The same would apply to dating someone 10 years younger, or my own age, or any age older.

State of health can be an issue, but unfortunately, nowadays, people who are young are also likely to get serious diseases and get in mortal accidents just like old people do. Many people I know, lived into their late 80s and beyond, in great health.

To sum it up: Compatibility is an issue. Age is not.
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