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 Adam Taylor
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Why are looks so important??Page 1 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
They're not.
If that's what's most important to the guys... they're not worth your time.

What's important is on the inside.
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 8:25:21 PM
Fortunately my sweet Mai, some people are beautiful inside and out.
 Adam Taylor
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Why are looks so important??
Posted: 8/2/2006 8:28:21 PM
Nah, I'm just a big romantic fool. LOL!
Can't help myself. :p
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 8:42:18 PM
See Celibacy, kap's the same.
Love does that to you. :)
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 8:43:26 PM
You can be attracted to someone for WHO they are.
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 8:51:16 PM
I've been involved with women who I wasn't physically attracted to. But I loved them for who they were.
And because of that love, I started to see them physically in a whole new light... and they became all the more beautiful to me.
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 8:56:25 PM
My princess in shining armor.
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 9:24:44 PM
LOL!
Yup. They sit there making brilliant and insightful posts.

While we sit back and look pretty.
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 9:50:39 PM
Aww... I'm sorry Krazy. But my heart, body and soul belong to my sweet Mai.

And seeing as in the "If you met the man of your dreams but had to share him could you?" topic she said she couldn't share me... I'm afraid you're out of luck.

But you might want to try Kap.
He's got some kickass facial hair going too.

 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 9:55:35 PM
1 katana
1 short sword
1 long sword
1 cane/sword
1 spear/sword
1 spear
1 mace

Yeah... I got kap beat.
LOL!
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/2/2006 10:02:57 PM
Nah, her knight in shining armor's gotta have something to fight the villains off with.
 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
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Posted: 8/3/2006 7:38:35 AM
As I've gotten older, looks are less and less important. Probably because my eyesight is failing...
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/3/2006 7:49:31 AM
*Hands pete a pair of glasses*
 sportsman4u400
Joined: 7/24/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 8/3/2006 8:25:07 AM
hey fitness bunny, are u giving off the message that ur shallow then?
 Pyke
Joined: 1/8/2005
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/3/2006 10:08:45 AM

Not all people gauge a person by their appearance. If this were so, then the world would be comprised of purely shallow people and we wouldn't have the problems with over population that we have today. :)

Having said that, there should be a certain level of attraction with another person if you are considering dating them. Would you date someone that you find physically unappealing? For some people, this is the initial attraction to the other person and it can either be reinforced by positive personality traits, or conversely, it can be weakened by negative personality traits.

In a perfect world, the outer appearances of a person would not matter nearly as much as their wit, intelligence, personality and charm. We live in a far from perfect world. However, I firmly believe that there is a person that will find another attractive based on the aforementioned qualities.

A strong relationship is comprised of not only an attraction to the other person on a physical level, but intellectual and emotional as well. I would personally rather be with someone that values me not for my appearance, but for the person I am within...


Going to have to disagree with you on the perfect world comment, mostly because it just changes who is fortunate.

Take me for example. I'm not going to win any beauty contests anytime soon, though I'm not exactly ugly, I am overweight, which is a disadvantage. That being said, I'm bright, clever, witty, kind, caring, etc. I don't do well in this 'world' when it comes to romance, because physical appearance is important. (Even myself, while my standards are different then many; I still place a value on it to an extent).

The reality is though, this 'perfect world' you suggest where people are judged exclusively on their inner selves, would be far from perfect. I would have everything I could ever dream of, and many others here might too, but there are some who would be left with nothing. Being born pretty doesn't make you born intelligent, or with a good personality, or funny, or anything like that. They are not equivelant.

Why should I hope for a world where others should have the misfortune of suffering? I would not call that a perfect world, by any standard of the imagination. It's just another sad example of humanity's greed - the self-centered view that the world would be better for us, and thus everyone else.

I don't believe it's true.

-Pyke
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/3/2006 11:22:36 AM
I AM happily attached. :p

But it's true, to a lot of people, looks mean nothing.
And that doesn't mean that they should be able to just be happy with anyone.
Because PERSONALITY matters. You have to really click with the person to want to be with them. You can't just be with any random person.
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/3/2006 11:33:52 AM

you don't want to be with someone that doesn't see past the limitations of your body


Heh, that doesn't really apply to psssst.
There aren't exactly any "limitations" when it comes to her appearance.

 Pete73052
Joined: 1/29/2006
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Posted: 8/3/2006 3:48:23 PM

*Hands pete a pair of glasses*


*puts on glasses*

Oh my... Adam, you're a guy... Forget what I said in that other thread.
 Adam Taylor
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Posted: 8/3/2006 3:50:12 PM
Phew... means my ass is safe once more.
Hmm... maybe I'll still keep psssst back there though.
 sportsman4u400
Joined: 7/24/2006
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/4/2006 7:17:39 PM
no pssst u are wrong, we need to have self confidence here, without it, who will like us?
 sportsman4u400
Joined: 7/24/2006
Msg: 47
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Posted: 8/4/2006 7:28:03 PM
no,but u seem to be bashing men, im just giving in my 2 cents, i at least do not write pity threads
 sportsman4u400
Joined: 7/24/2006
Msg: 48
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Posted: 8/4/2006 7:58:10 PM
listen, i really dont wanna argue, this is not worth it
 sportsman4u400
Joined: 7/24/2006
Msg: 49
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Posted: 8/4/2006 8:01:00 PM
for one, ur accusing me of starting "pity parties" Im not doing it. thats y
 Ahhh...ya
Joined: 7/31/2006
Msg: 53
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Posted: 8/8/2006 6:30:27 PM
Listen amber now the problem with u is ur not exactly how do i put this blessed...u cant go on a dating site and post pics that look like that and expect to get tons of hookups or even messages (that is why u post on the forums cause nobody will talk to u otherwise), normally i would say ur a beautiful girl and blah blah blah, but lets face it ur pic stands out like a sore thumb mabye go on a blind peoples website if u want somebody who is into u for your good heart and all that other b.s.
 Poothead
Joined: 7/30/2006
Msg: 54
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Posted: 8/9/2006 6:42:33 AM
Are looks so important? Yes. No, make that fuk yes. You had to of known that already no? Hangin around nothing but blind people? Ugly + good personality = friend.

Looks are archetypes for inner states of being/energies. It isn't shallow to love appearance any more than it is the sight of a waterfall or the night sky.
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