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 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 5
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Nymphomania.Page 1 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
Nymphomania ... "a woman’s compulsive desire to have sex with many different men, theorized to occur in some women".

Nymphomania is not just a high sex drive ... it actually pretty much controls your life. Happily married women who have this problem generally end up ruining their marriages because it's not just about having sex all the time ... it's also about desiring sex with other men ... many men.

And unlike a heart condition, or diabetes, or low libido ... there's no pill that can help control it.

I think people with high sex drives would be better off to find partners with similarly high sex drives. Unfortunately ... what appeals to us about a person and influences whether or not we fall in love with that person is not generally based on the sex drive. So we often find ourselves with partners that we dearly love but don't necessarily "match" with in the bedroom.

When that happens, I think ... out of love ... we have to sit down and communicate (yes I did use that big "C" word) and determine what amount of sex would be appropriate for each and try to reach an agreement. That would be an agreement where both parties can feel loved and not used, where both parties can feel fulfilled and not neglected.

It takes work ... commitment to the relationship to find the happy medium that will leave both partners feeling satisfied as well as loved.
 IdoAllmyOwnStunts
Joined: 1/24/2006
Msg: 6
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Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/22/2006 11:59:44 AM
i dated an obsessive compulsive nympho once.. all day itwas sex..sex..sex...check the stove..sex..sex..sex...
 -=Kalidor=-
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 9
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/22/2006 12:27:03 PM
I'm pretty indifferent to sex really. I get more satisfaction and dopamine from kissing and cuddling that I do sexual activity.

Shhhhh.. but don't tell anyone.. I don't want to be mistaken for a 'nice guy'
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/22/2006 2:05:46 PM
I most certainly do want sex all the time and I have not been able to find a man that can actually keep up with me - I get the, 'I'm tired' excuse - WTF - men are such braggers but can't follow through - when they get the woman they have been begging for, they can't cope. They all say, they are good lovers and that in reality is actually very few and far between. I meet someone and discuss what I want and like about sex and it's, 'oh yeah baby me too' - but nope they can't measure up!! They can't keep up in the regular/traditional sex with me and hence can't even get to the more exotic fun stuff - maybe once in awhile but not enough! God some people just don't know what they are actually missing. I had one good lover and who ever ends up with him in the end is going to have a perma smile the rest of her fvckin' life and I am so jealous!!!
 VisualDistortion
Joined: 8/7/2006
Msg: 20
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/22/2006 2:39:38 PM
I love sex, would love to have it all the time. Doesnt mean i go out and just find anyone to have sex. But if i ever find the right man that loves to have sex as much as i do, he is a keeper.
 BombinLebanon
Joined: 5/30/2006
Msg: 22
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/22/2006 3:23:11 PM
People hate to admit it, but everything gets old eventually. If you have great sex 4 times a day, it will no longer be considered so great in your mind. I wouldn't be interested in having sex at every possible moment, I'd get bored.
 Remote5150
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 25
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/22/2006 3:57:42 PM
Wow! Talk about a time when a question is thoroughly understood by the masses because we read the OP's correction and a couple did not take the time to educate themselves by reading all the posts that the OP made. I wish people who make comments on threads actually read all the posts. Go back and read msg 23. The thead is not about Nymphomania as the OP said. He chose the wrong word.
 wurl
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 28
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/22/2006 5:03:05 PM
In truth this is complex matter. lol Which is being oversimplified. But I think we're all mostly aware of that. I won't bother profileing these people, because I'm sure we all know who they are, their age and gender. I mean for both men and women. In fact it's sort of a social trend now, ... more acceptable anyway. hehehe

But the really entertaining part is that we get to see how much diversity there is in what people perceive as a lot of sex. As well as how, depending on your partner, the passion, your station in life, physical condition, diet, medication, etc ... it can vary, yet all in a predictable way.

I think I have had excessive sex a couple of times, so far in life. First in College, ..... OMG I don't know how many classes I missed. I recall it being a lot of sex, like easily more than a dozen times a day, but it wasn't at the standard I have today. lol

I ended dropping out of school at the time only to return when I was uhmm more mature and with a sense of balance and priority.

Then again after initially being divorced. Found a woman as much on the rebound as myself. BLUSH We'd do it for 5 hours at a time, I don't know how. It's true though, I had to eat so much food. Mind you I was also weight-training at the time, eating vitamins like crazy (no not viagra), swimming, running, etc .... was a health nut in mid life divorce/crisis. ahhhhhhh I miss that. lol

But then there was a time, I really did have a relationship with a genuine sex maniac whom was mentally ill!!!!!!!!!!!

This is no fun. It's often one of the symptoms of the dozen or so "Personality Disorders" such as Bi-Polar or Borderline Personality disorders. It's quite sad really. It can ruin a persons live. I mean ya gotta go to work to pay your mortgage.

So, unless your on welfare, student loans, alimony or some other guaranteed income that doesen't require working, .... ya gotta do other stuff man.

Oh well, one exception, .... if your rich.

Rich ladies, ..... message me here! :-) or at leas a woman that can pay my mortgage, gym membership and one major grocerie bill.
 Remote5150
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 45
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/23/2006 10:31:38 PM
Another one who didnt read all the posts in the thread. This thread is not about Nymphomania. Read the op statement and his correction in msg 23. GEEEZZZ
 Remote5150
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 49
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/24/2006 1:40:09 PM
Hello Kitty aka HK. Sorry i wasnt trying to flame you. Its just you were the 3rd one to copy and paste a big long article about Nymphomania. I just always read the posts in a thread to not be redundant of what someone else has already posted. We see it all the time on these forums of people reading the OP then jump to the end and make a post exactly like one 10 posts back. This thread is only 2 and a half pages long. Its not one of these that has 40 pages. What they need to do is allow the OP to edit the Title of a thread. Not just delete it and start over. But rest assured give this thread a couple more pages and it will have another copy and paste article on Nymphomania.

oh yea bikerbabii im with you on that thread. has been beat to death in these forums. If they were to delete all the threads made on that subject the forums would be half as big. Its a very redundant thread.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 50
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/24/2006 1:52:18 PM
Shesh!!! Remote5150, I'm with you. I wanted to post last night ~ but thought I'd wait until all of the Nymph 101 course was done and the discussion had moved on to personal stories, etc. I think we all get it: nymphomanism ~ bad............libido ~ good.............high libido ~~ rare but good ................... undercooked shrimp ~ can be bad
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 58
Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/24/2006 11:24:12 PM

I concur with verygreeneyez and apologize you didn't feel like posting cuz you knew it all already.............. Now that Nymph 101 is over, Here's my 5c.........LMAO


I'm so very sorry you misunderstood my post and took offense to my comment. The OP had clearly stated that he had erroneously used the word nymphomaniac and that the subject was primarily sex drive, not an actual disorder. I was simply hoping to read what others think about sex drive or the lack thereof. I was actually hoping the thread was back on topic by that point as I was interested to see what people had to say. Guess it wasn't my lucky day.
 Remote5150
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 59
Over Active Sex Drive
Posted: 8/25/2006 7:26:04 PM
I dont think of sex all the time like alot of you keep talking about. Im not that way. I have to sleep every now and then so i would say i dont think about it at least 6 to 8 hours a day. But what the hell i was just informed on another thread by a 42 year old woman that men over 50 cant get it up anyway. So now i know why after i hit 50 all the girls quit calling me. They are all still in their 40's and i guess they think its broke. lol
 Jac Biker Gal
Joined: 8/18/2006
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Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/25/2006 9:50:10 PM
Well having read the whole I think I must be somewhere close to being a nympho, cos not only do I think of sex pretty much all the time, if I can't be doing it I'm texting, talking or caming it. I have very vivid sex dreams and wake up every morning wanting it, in fact mornin is really the horniest part of my day, I have quite a few regular partners, one who I had for six months now and we often have sex three, four times in a row all different ways over a couple of hours. But I was finding that was not enuf as I didn't get to see him more than twice a week, so I started seeing more guys and now I have a group that I go round, as and when they can see me so I'm getin sex alot more now, but still I'm building up my group, cos I want it more and I'm finding the variation from guy to guy is extremely exciting. I don't let it interfere with my job or my life as a single mum of teenagers. But I can honestly say if I find a guy attractive and he ain't married he's fair game in my book. I've known a few guys who can keep going all night and its all about keeping sex varied, not too rough or hard and using a good lube when the need arises. Playing games or role play and toys and sexy undies all keep things alive and kicking and anything goes as long as you both agree. I wudn't let it rule my life but sex sure does play a major part whenever I can get it. Once a day wudn't be enuf for me if I had the choice and wud want sex at least all day for one day at the weekends. I think alot of people supress their genuine sex drive in order to conform to what is expected and if more of them were honest they wud admit to wanting sex so much more often than they get it. I think if you want it that bad and can get sex the way you want it and with however many partners you choose to have sex with there is no problem as long as your hurting no-one in the process. Is my need an illness, my desire to have many partners something I should look at getting cured, or is it the result of a surpressed sexuality through my marriage with a husband who's drive did not match my own, and the fact that I met him at 16 and had no other partner but him til after my divorce simply means that I am fulfilling my wish to have a teenage with the wisdon and caution of an older woman.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 8/26/2006 5:44:34 PM
Um... my ex couldn't. When I was pregnant with my first, I was litterally insatiable... and my ex would run if he saw me heading his way sometimes!! For me tho, the more I get, the more I want... I think that's fairly normal for most people tho.
 helen of troy
Joined: 9/5/2005
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Posted: 8/27/2006 12:53:06 AM
I am never tired of it!
However, I am not Nymphomania as in the true definition, as a true Nymphomania wants sex all the time because they can never reach orgasm.
If a guy can go hard & fast for 5 min, I can reach orgasm.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 78
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/29/2006 1:15:11 AM
I could not, because i don't have a high sex drive.
 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 82
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/29/2006 9:05:22 AM
I'm a nymphomania
 Tigress
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 83
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Posted: 12/29/2006 9:35:35 AM
I couldn't deal with my partner wanting it all the time, but I like it a lot.

There ARE other things I like to do though.

I do believe that if you get with someone, and your sex drives and turn-ons are not similar, the relationship will have difficulty and may not last.
 IdoAllmyOwnStunts
Joined: 1/24/2006
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Posted: 12/29/2006 10:34:13 AM
i dated an obsessive compulsive nympho once.. all day it was sex..sex..sex...check the stove....sex..sex..sex...

i guess that might be in the catagory of safe sex too!
 ProgrockVentureman
Joined: 9/10/2006
Msg: 91
Nymphomania.
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:11:50 PM
Depends on how the androgen gland & other gland in the brain responsible for sex drive can recover in so much time...
 browneyedstallion
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 97
Nymphomania.
Posted: 1/5/2007 6:19:35 AM

I'm going thru a thing right now where thats all thats on my mind. Hellava time to be single


Well just be thankful for porn.
 Virbuis
Joined: 11/26/2006
Msg: 101
Nymphomania.
Posted: 1/5/2007 10:28:14 AM
I want a nice young woman to settle down with and make love to at least once a day, preferably every morning and every night.

Does that make me a nymphomaniac?
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 117
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/26/2007 9:55:23 PM

Perhaps I'm not as aggressive as I thought I was, but I've only ever been with one woman this....ummmm.....bad. Yes, I said bad. I know a guy already posted about how he wants to have sex LITERALLY all day, but the truth is, not many of us can do that. In fact, I've discovered that most women cannot either.


Dude. Keep learning from this particular experience because not all women are like that. Also once you learn certain patterns you can apply them to other women. That is speaking if you break up, and move on.

What I have learned is that if you neg her a little you get more. Okay bash away here. But it's true. When ever you go digging and wanting sex, even a girl with a high libido starts the I am bored or not now routine. But if when they want sex you tell them, not now, then you become the challenge.

What happened to you was simple, her libido was bigger than yours. You began to resist. She found that irresistible. Most women do. Why? Because most men are drooling all over them and that is boring and predictable, while being neg means they have to think and figure a way out to get more of you.

I was with my girlfriend the other day and we kissed a little, then I pulled back and waited for her to do something. She did. I played with her and stopped. Talked a little. She rubbled me and made me hard, which was her way of saying I want a hell of a lot more than just talking. So I played with her and kept pulling back. She's so wet, by now she can't wait.

Now what I have discovered about this technique is that most women love it. Why? You took the pressure off. They don't have to resist you, they do have to however, come and get it.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 118
Nymphomania.
Posted: 12/26/2007 10:10:43 PM

All these drugs coming about today, they need to design one that can cut down the amount of time a man needs to recover. Even twice in a row can be a task. Three times is nearly impossible.


Dude, I know how you feel. And this has been my experience. You have this huge orgasm, you come out. And she starts playing with little brain right away. Wrong. If she does that, he doesn't get up. He needs a mental break. Register a lapse of nothing. Talk. Massage each other, lick each other but leave the c0ck alone. Give him a ten minute off the clock, then start easy. If she is pushy, she gets only two sessions. If she allows the break, now this is just me, I am an old fart, three maybe four. More than that in my opinion gets ridiculous. Personally I would then change the scenery, if this is morning, go out. Make it kinky. If this is night go to bed. Sleep and remember that many women love the early morning boner. They will ride you like a wild mustang. So if you take it easy, don't go nuts, you can end up doing it 6 times between evening and morning. But thank those 10 minutes.
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