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 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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I think intolerance for each other started then, and it still is likely something I observe when dating.
Are you saying that you are observing yourself being "intolerant" of women when dating?

OR

Are you saying that you observe women being "intolerant" when dating?

PS ... I could care less about a "seat" position. I've never been in such a trance when entering a bathroom that I haven't noticed if the seat is up or down. If I forget to look ... my bad luck ...
 june7777
Joined: 6/5/2006
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Posted: 10/16/2006 7:16:57 PM
Well the leaving the seat up would be better than leaving it down, and leaving it wet.... Try sitting down on a wet seat in the middle of the night and then having to take a shower....after your thru with all that...you are awake and a little mad...so guys if you want to break up a relationship leave the seat down and wet on it....
 wergund
Joined: 8/22/2005
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/16/2006 7:30:20 PM
Well, shoot. Way I was raised, its just common courtesy. If it broke ya'll up, though, well...like they said earlier, some kind of underlying issues. But take a hint, and be a gent, and always put it down. Its just respectful.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 10/16/2006 7:32:32 PM
Pffft ... Separate bathrooms ... then he can leave the seat up ... eternally!
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 21
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Posted: 10/16/2006 9:06:59 PM
If she ended a realtionship because of a toilet seat , then something is wrong with her.

If a woman complains that they sit in toilet water at 3am because the toilet seat was up , then there is a common sense problem, not thinking even automatically, if someone assumes the toilet seat is down and closed , would not anyone feel for the toilet lid , open it and sit on the seat, who ever sits on the lid ? One always opens the lid , right ?

Yeah guys , after peeing place the lid the way she wants it , you love her treat her like you do.

I am annoyed like that woman who mentioned the roll of toilet paper coming down from the back, everywhere I go I have to turn them and if the toilet is dirty , i clean them first and after , it is a secret pet peeve , funny for a guy who used to work in sewers as a teen .

My wife used to want the lid open and the seat up at all times , it was reverse , one day some baby mice were dead and trying to get out as she sat so since that day toilet open completely for her inspeccion before use, we used to live out in the country. I sure miss her .
 ffryan
Joined: 10/10/2005
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Posted: 10/16/2006 10:23:05 PM
How come we have to put the seat down for them but they don't have to put it up for us? We should have taken a much harder stand on this when women first came up with this stuff about us putting the seat down. Nobody to blame but ourselves guys.
 tcky123
Joined: 12/9/2005
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Posted: 10/17/2006 1:07:28 AM
message 10 that what my bf and I argue sometimes I tell him to put the seat down he tells me the toilet seat is wet with water argggg, you see what happens when I wash my hands some water sprinkle on the seat before I wipe it and he hates it, so I gues we even.
 ffryan
Joined: 10/10/2005
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Posted: 10/17/2006 2:29:59 AM

It's not to be polite. It's because we end up with wet ass if we go in there on a midnight run.

I'm usually really good about putting the seat down and do try to help out the ladies, but one question looms in my mind..... how come women don't look down before they sit? Simply looking down at the toilet would eliminate wet asses forever.
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 36
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Posted: 10/17/2006 3:38:50 AM
Depends OP - when you complain about her using your razor to shave her legs, is it over?

This is all dependent on the people in the relationship. Are they tolerant or not. Compromise goes a long way

From my own female perspective, really dont care about the toilet lid. If its up I simply put it down. Not a big deal He has to use it too and he has to put it up, which = same amount of effort all 'round I would say.
 innocentantic
Joined: 7/22/2006
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Posted: 10/17/2006 7:01:00 AM
and the bit about "she can too", well, she can open doors for herself too, and maybe even pull seat out for you when you take her out to dinner! but its just so uncharming and unromantic!

Honestly, I agree. However, would you **** at your man for not paying attention and missing the opportunity to open a door or pull the seat out? Romantic gestures are best when they are intentional, not automatic. That's my opinion, anyway. I try to do the gentleman deed all the time, but sometimes I forget.

And it really makes no sense to me why a woman would not look at toilet before they sit on it. I've asked once, and figured I'll never get it; so do my best to lower it. You can bet I'm lowering the lid also. It does look better, and if she wants to sit down and find out she sat on a lid, needs to get up and raise it, then sit back again... maybe she'll start to look first and not get upset if I forgot to put it down one time.

As for using my razor, I always rinse it out first anyway. Besides, I like a woman's legs on my face

But I agree with those that have said big arguments about this are about other things. It often reveals emotional issues that she or you have. Paying attention to each other and the interaction around the toilet seat arrangement discussion, is far more important than paying attention to the toilet seat itself.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 47
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Posted: 10/17/2006 1:21:22 PM
I think I was just over two when I learned how to put the seat in an appropriate spot for myself.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 10/17/2006 1:24:11 PM
Having to deal with a seat "up" has never bothered me ...
........ but maybe because I choose to view it other than a lot of women ...

It reminds me that there is a man in my life ...
........ and then I just can't be bothered with feeling any disdain for that!!!.


If a woman has such a problem with the toilet, think of everything else she has to nitpick about.
Nah ... no nitpicking coming from me ...
That's too much like nagging and I just don't have the desire, the time, or the energy for that.
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 55
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Posted: 10/18/2006 4:42:21 AM
And even if they don't, is it not common sense to "use your hand to quickly see if the lid is down?

I mean the blind do it, duh.

Quite frankly it's not my fault if someone falls into the toilet at night.I don't just randomly start pissing in the dark without first checking to make sure the lid is "UP."




dont mean to be a traitor to my gender, but thats a damn good point. Exactly. Take responsibiity for the preparing as well as utlising the recepticle for your own bodily administrations any time of the day or night. Think yourself lucky we are not in the day of outhouses............ : )
 Wild Heart
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 57
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Posted: 10/18/2006 9:44:44 AM
Geez, I'd hate to see if you had a more serious argument.....

It's just the frickin toilet seat. It's one of those day to day arguments that one doesn't even think about at the end of the day.

I keep the seat down because when you flush with it up, you are releasing particles of dirty toilet water into the air. If your toiletries are near the toilet, well, ick. So I have to lift the seat too when I go.

However you may want the seat, keep it consistent so that when you are half asleep you know whether to lift and put down. :)
 Whitetigeress
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 60
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Posted: 10/18/2006 9:52:21 AM
dayum... theres nothing like falling into a toilet bowl in the middle of the night


on that subject.. im teaching my boys to put both seat and lid down for sanitary reasons (got nothing to do with respect for gender) .. its kinda yuckyto have it up no matter how clean the toilet is
 Whitetigeress
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 63
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Posted: 10/18/2006 11:23:25 AM
We have to lift and lower the seat. Unfair.



I lift and lower it too.. how is that unfair?
 ArtyLunch
Joined: 7/16/2004
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Posted: 7/4/2008 1:40:21 PM
Somehow I have never heard of a man 'falling in' because he left the seat up. I always look where I am about to sit whether it be a toilet or a chair. Even having lived solo for a long time I put the seat down at another's home.

Once I was yelled at as I was going #1 to make sure I put the seat down. This must have been a leftover from a previous man or maybe a son. Her tone irked me, rather shrill, and made me feel like I should get used to petty barking. So I did this: When I finished my biz I zipped up, put the seat down, washed my hands and before I dried them I shook off the excess water on the seat.



I'd be a lot more concerned about not hearing hand washing after someone uses the water closet.
 ~Serendipity
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 68
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Posted: 7/4/2008 3:06:51 PM
I wish my relationship problems were this simple...

*sigh*

Seat's up and you want it down? Or vice versa? Use your hand. Takes a fraction of a second...
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 7/4/2008 8:22:28 PM
I won't live with a man too stupid to put the toilet seat down. Babies have drown in toilets, that should be reason enough, but animals fall in, things like combs, etc. fall in...feces & urine spray out and get on everything in the bathroom, including your toothbrush and doorknob. There is no excuse for both men & women to not put the lid down on the toilet and open it when they need to use it then put the lid back down before they flush. Any child can grasp this concept. There are also Clorox wipes in the bathroom, if you miss or make a mess of some sort, clean it up and then wash your hands thoroughly, I have no time for a man so inept that he doesn't already know all these things and do them.
 lookin4milf
Joined: 3/17/2008
Msg: 78
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Posted: 7/4/2008 10:15:04 PM
now IF you had a kitty cat you would not be asking this question. They LOVE to kneed the roll all over the floor and then play down the halll and alll through the rest of the house...
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
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Posted: 7/5/2008 4:21:26 PM
Great point wild heart!!! BOTH of them, lol

The OP's point of fatigue in the relationship first showing itself via intolerance of small matters is accurate IMO. The first thing to go in a relationship is our willingness to cut each other slack and flexibility in making small adjustments and compromises.

My fellow and I have no issue with toilet seats, however, I do notice potential incompatibility around how the T.P. is hung. He, being a bottom roller and I, a top roller. To acknowledge the time honoured tradition of coupledom bathroom wars, I began a subversive campaign of changing the T.P. around to hang the "right" way whenever I was at his place. Although he has commented a few times at my *giggling* in the bathroom he did not say one word about my territorial infringement on his toilet paper roll. This, naturally, frustrated me to no end and I was stymied by his stubbornness at not acknowledging my shenanigans. One day it dawned on me that perhaps, rather than showing superior and admirable restraint, it was that he HADN'T noticed. The more I pondered that possibility, the more likely it seemed. This is, of course, my feeble justification for why I blinked first and broke rank by ASKING him if he had noticed. Dayum, I hate it when I do that... now the joke's on me.
 cowtrucker
Joined: 5/20/2007
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Posted: 7/5/2008 8:35:15 PM
It's not necessarily a big deal to you, if you leave the seat up or down, but to a woman, its a respect thing. And to a person who is compulsively organized, its a whole different matter entirely.

If I go to a guys' house, a repair shop, or a place that is predominantly male oriented, after I lower the seat, do my business, I then put the seat to the position I found it in, which is usually up.

If your thinking says "if I have to lift and lower, she can too", then that shows a HUGE lack of respect. I can see maybe forgetting once in a while, but deliberately doing something like that is just a huge display of immaturity.

If that was the way you would have treated me, then I wouldn't have stuck around another 2 years. I would have bolted and found someone who was more mature and respectful.

Perhaps if you are that adamant about leaving the seat up, you should add a urinal to your next house...

CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas
 supersnuggle
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 92
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Posted: 7/5/2008 9:13:40 PM
My wife complained once about me leaving the seat up, which I didn't usually do. I didn't say a word. I just started putting the lid down, too. I was hard for her to complain about that!
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 107
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Posted: 7/6/2008 5:00:07 PM
It should always be down, as it looks better and I get when my butt goes into the bowl in the middle of the night.
 jets_412
Joined: 6/22/2005
Msg: 109
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Posted: 7/6/2008 5:02:56 PM
Maybe i should invent a seat that automatically goes down?
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