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 nipoleon
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I have no problem taking anyone seriously who takes me seriously.
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 nightfly
Joined: 7/20/2004
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Posted: 10/22/2006 9:04:42 AM
We've all done things we aren't proud of. It would depend on the person of course, but my past experience has been that most women that become prostitutes did so because of their life situation, being forced to, or because of no other way to support themselves. Minimum wage being what it is doesn't allow survival in most major urban areas. A strong case has been made for the traditional husband wife relationship where the male provides the financial support in the relationship and gets sex and housekeeping, as well as child rearing in return, could be interpreted as prostitution in a way (which is why it's called the world's oldest profession). So yes, I would date a woman like that. Before any sexual contact I would insist on our both being tested for all STD's (yes both, even though I haven't been sexually active since my divorce, it's only fair).
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
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Posted: 10/22/2006 9:26:31 AM
willy100076 (OP),

I wouldn't deny a woman automatically just because she was an ex-prostitute... However, I can say that there's about a 100% chance I wouldn't date one, because of the virtually gaurenteed emotional problems and issues she has. Plus, the concept is an obvious turn off (you'd have to fall for them first, before hearing about it)...

However (imaginary scenario), if I were dating a woman who once needed money for college, but was against stripping... but was a high-class escort of a legitimate non-prostitutional escort service... and did a few things on the side every once in a great while to sugar daddies for huge amounts of cash... I don't think she'd necessarily have a 100% chance of having emotional problems and issues, thus, I guess if the woman was a great match for me, I'd definitely overlook her past of occasional whoring to sugar daddies.

For me, it isn't that "she was a prostitute" -- it doesn't even get to that point. If she's a great match, she's a great match. 99.99% chance though, if she was a prostitute before, whether I knew it or not, I wouldn't be dating her. :)
 innocentantic
Joined: 7/22/2006
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Posted: 10/23/2006 9:23:26 AM
good call verboten lol

Anyhow, here is the crux of prostitute versus promiscuous and why one is more desirable than the other: it is more likely that the prostitute has had sex with people that she didn't want to have sex with. That would make her less desirably sexually, I would think.

That being said, it would depend for me on the circumstances. I don't know how I would handle it; hasn't come up, yet.
 SEXY_ROXY
Joined: 9/27/2006
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Posted: 10/23/2006 3:14:49 PM
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 jmn120176
Joined: 9/14/2006
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Posted: 10/23/2006 5:56:04 PM

some women are forced into it just to pay their bills


Yes, perhaps, women of low moral standing and no education... who have no desire to ever make anything of themselves.

But no, I wouldn't date one if I could. Too much drama, too much emotional baggage, not to mention multiple STDs.
 silly rabbit
Joined: 9/20/2006
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Posted: 10/23/2006 6:16:08 PM
Reminds me of something Joan Rivers once said,,,a guy sleeps around and sleeps around and he's a stud,, a girl makes 20 , 30 mistakes,, she's a slut......double standard,,,if she's fun to be with,,why the hell not????
 nightfly
Joined: 7/20/2004
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Posted: 10/24/2006 8:31:05 PM
For the poster of message 28;

>some women are forced into it just to pay their bills
>>Yes, perhaps, women of low moral standing and no education... who have no desire to ever make anything of themselves.


So what do people who come here and barely speak any english at all do to survive until they can get a decent job? Guys can do construction; what kind of job should a women with no working papers do to pay the $1000 a month rent and bills? Minimum wage work won't do it. Nanny jobs are the equivelent of slave wages. Are you hiring women at 15$ an hour for anything?

I know most peoples answer will be something like, "Well, they should learn english and have a trade before they come here", but that isn't reality. Lots of people come here with nothing, hoping to make a life for themselves. For centuries, women subjugated themselves into a marriage where they were basically their husband's slave and servent to survive, and traded sex and housekeeping for food and shelter. Instead, she now trades it for money. How is that different? It's also been said that women trade sex for love, men trade love for sex. It's all trading, whether money is involved or goods or services. And exactly why is it only acceptable for a woman to become a physical therapist and massage a back for money, but she can't massage a penis for money?? Too many inconcistancies in life.
 stoneside
Joined: 9/3/2004
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Posted: 10/25/2006 1:58:22 PM
Never been in that situation so I have no idea. Will let you know when a retired hooker asks me out. lol
 nightfly
Joined: 7/20/2004
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Posted: 10/26/2006 2:02:06 AM
It's all a matter of perspective. Drugs? Anyone here use caffiene? Or drink anything alcoholic? Both are chemicals that have the same properties as other compounds that are considered 'drugs'. You know hookers and strippers that are on drugs? Have you looked at the number of politicians who've used drugs (and probably still do)? An astounding number of 'pillars of society' have used drugs while legislating (the lawyers) and advising (the doctors) others not to. Hypocricy at it's finest.

Child molesters, murderers, etc. yes, they are human beings. The will get treated as such, and take the punishment and corrective actions that are necessary for whatever makes them do what they do. If they remain prone to their abusive behavior, they should stay incarcerated. Each case is different. And while I don't like capital punishment, if I actually witnessed anyone molesting a child, in a rage, I'd probably kill him or her myself at that instant (I was molested as a kid), and take whatever punishment I had to, just to remove that person from the planet to avoid them ruining anyone else's life.

Obviously giving someone pleasure by manipulating part of their body for any sort of reimbursement bothers you. Just because you feel some parts are off limits doesn't mean everyone else does. It's that puritanical attitude that causes the repression of the natural sexual drive, results in frustration, which manifests itself in violent ways as a relief valve. Violence is perfectly fine in our puritanical society, which likes to funnel it into military force. While military force is necessary, all too often it is used by the elite for financial gain, and I'd really rather have our soldiers getting a rush from an orgasm than killing people just so the rich can profit from their lands.

Not everyone 'resorts' to using prostitutes. Some people prefer no long term relationship. Should they bend to what you think is appropriate? And if so, why? Maybe they are on a business trip far away from home for an extended period; why would they start a relationship that they know will end, if they can purchase the companionship, and yes, sex too if they want it, with a willing 'vendor of services'? We 'rent' drivers of taxis instead of driving ourselves or buying a car, we 'rent' people in restaurants instead of making our food ourselves, we 'rent' someone to do our plumbing, electrical, and carpentry, so why can't we 'rent' someone to give us an orgasm and/or affection instead of doing it ourselves? Hey, lawyers and doctors charge upwards from $300 an hour, and when they're done, we usually feel like we paid too much. On the other hand, I'm willing to bet most people who've paid for sex (or in my case, affection) left feeling, 'yeah, that was really nice, I'd like to do that again'. Ever think anyone left a doctor's, dentists, or lawyers office thinking the same thing? Probably not.

See, it's all perspective. Once you take away the issue of who's 'morals' are right and who's are wrong, it's all the same thing.

And no, I've never paid anyone for sex. I have spent a small fortune to just sit and cuddle with lap dancers after I got divorced though. You can give yourself an orgasm; you can't give yourself affection, and when you need a hug, you need a hug, there's no substitute (and don't get me started on the old,'maybe you should get a dog for companionship' idea. I'd really prefer a woman to a dog). Too much loneliness will drive me crazy, so I found a 'cure'. O.K., any prostitutes want a normal date?
(Now getting off my soapbox). Let the flames begin.
Nightfly
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Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 10/26/2006 8:36:19 AM
Guys could be already dating a woman (or planning to), not realizing that she is a prostitute.

I've hung out with women who were prostitutes but never did anything sexual with them. Some women who are prostitutes are more sexually conservative than you think.
 Neonmitch
Joined: 5/9/2006
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Posted: 10/31/2006 11:52:19 AM
I saw this tangentially. About 10 years ago, my best friend started to date a retired lapdancer/escort. We even did double dates, etc.

It was fun and exciting at first, but after a few months problems began to emerge. I don't think a woman can be a prostitute without it leaving at least some emotional scars, and he told me about various issues involving true intimacy, trust in men, etc. Strangely, the issues of STDs and drugs didn't seem to be the main problems.
 6-to-9
Joined: 11/1/2006
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Posted: 11/21/2006 2:31:25 PM
If she passed the STD test at my doctors office, isn't a drug addict and isn't mentally messed up, yeah, I'd date one.
 JustCallMeMike
Joined: 5/29/2006
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Posted: 2/4/2007 1:37:12 PM
Since some of my sexual experiences have been with ladies of the night, and since I related to them as people, I find that they are still here with me in spirit and a part of me still desires them as a person. And that is why I could and would date an ex-prostitute. Because they are still human beings who are deserving of the love and respect of any person.

And to twist this around, knowing that some of us have dark pasts as well...How would you feel if a women/men based rather or not they should seriously date you because, you have done a questionable acts in your past?
 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
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Posted: 2/5/2007 7:22:21 PM
Lizzie40...you have more respect for a woman that has sex for money than one that just does it because she enjoys it? How do you figure that?

The criteria is because she gets money for it?

You'll have to explain that to me because the one who is doing it because she likes it is just expressing her sexuality, the other one is reducing the sexual act to a taudry business transaction.

I know which one I have more respect for.

Money does not always have to equate to sex as some of the posters have said.
 JustCallMeMike
Joined: 5/29/2006
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Posted: 2/5/2007 8:38:55 PM
You know what's funny? We talk about prostitutes, when some of us have been the biggest prostitutes without having to sell ourselves to survive. It is pretty sad that we are so quick to determine who deserves love by what they have done in the past, yet NO ONE is truly without a sin.

Yes! A woman or man who can tell someone "I have sold myself for money." IS more honorable that most of us...Why? How many of you would truly tell your a potiential lover that you cheated on several of your exs? How many of you would tell of a same sex relationship you had? How do you think I am going to be when I tell a potiential lover that I have a criminal past? Should I my past, which I have more than paid for, hold me back from being loved? Think about the skeletons in your closet. Sould you someone to turn you down for them?
 want to travel
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Posted: 4/21/2007 10:33:04 AM
i cant see what a persons past have to do with anything
i am clean, and she would have to be too
truth is i have never had anything to do with a prostitute
but i have been in a relationship, with a woman that was somebody's trophy
the only reason she was with him was for matereal gain
what maters is the present, not the past, if the woman has no issues with her past or is dealing with it, thats fine...
there are many diferent forms of prostitution,some are more honest then others
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
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Posted: 8/14/2007 3:14:41 PM
Yeah I would if she got out after crashing and burning and wanted to really put herself together .

The only thing I would worry about is thet she will be comparing willy's and how good others were . As long as she told me I am the best by far over and over then no prblem with the worry , hahahaha
 NJFFCapt
Joined: 6/21/2007
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Posted: 8/15/2007 11:09:57 AM
I wouldn't go down that road. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
 Xchuck
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Posted: 10/12/2007 11:24:17 PM
Why not...it could'nt be any worst then dating an ex-lawyer. They're both in it to screw you for your money
 pres2
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Posted: 3/2/2009 2:50:57 PM
Definitely. Think about. No sexual hangups, mad skills, who wouldn't prefer a woman who was a pro? Just very insecure guys and those oh so squishily ambiguous metrosexuals. I dojn't know that it would be a slam dunk, but all things considered, I see it as a plus rather than a negative.
 want to travel
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Posted: 3/5/2009 7:47:07 AM
so many people willing to cast the first stone,personally i have never been with a prostitute
as for dating , it would depend on if i liked, loved her or not......everyday is a new opportunity, one of my friends at work was an alcoholic, over 20 years ago he stopped,got help, and now he is a great father husband, and friend....some of the posters are just hateful, judgmental , and just plain cruel, having said that i have much more respect for a prostitute ex or otherwise, then those common criminal types , that have stolen and are still robbing on wall street, or tacking money from the poor in the name of god
 Big Rich123
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Posted: 3/5/2009 7:59:18 PM
Tie a board to your azz, that way you will not fall in.
 parklabrea
Joined: 1/4/2009
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Posted: 3/5/2009 10:57:12 PM
it depends how much she'd charge for sex after we were married.
 TooShadows
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Posted: 6/20/2009 6:16:33 AM
I have already,though maybe it wasn't really dating. She was an FWB,although we went out to dinner and movies a lot,but a relationship wasn't in the cards as we were looking for different things. At any rate,she'd worked as an escort about 15 years before that,for an agency. It didn't make any difference to me.
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