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 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 1
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Last night I was online checking messages about 2 .a.m. after celebrating a birthday party and not being able to go directly to bed.

While checking for messages and after talking to another friend by online messenging, I was contacted by a new man I had never met and we chatted. The conversation was interesting and this man seemed charming, nice and had some things in common to talk about. Well being adults the subject matter always drifts towards sexuality and I always make it clear I am not interested in casual sex or a one night stand or do late nite booty calls. He was ok with that, talked about getting together for dinner and I suggested coffee instead, yada yada yada...........

Well all of a sudden, without a goodbye or warning he just closed the window........WTF?

So being the woman I am, I was not too damn impressed......so I thought for a few moments on what I should do and decided to send him a message. I thought I would share it with others out there:

Email to a booty call:

Thanks for the chat - I thought you were a decent man - guess I was wrong. I didnt appreciate the rudeness of you just closing your window without saying anything. I would have appreciated any of the following comments:

- goodbye
or
- I realized you are not easy - I'm not interested
or
- Oh, I found booty from one of the other windows I had open - gotta go the offer may not last long!

Dont bother contacting me agin.
Sue


Now, I pose these question to you:

HAVE YOU BEEN APPROACHED FOR A LATE NIGHT BOOTY CALL?
HAVE YOU EVER APPROACHED ANYONE FOR A LATE NIGHT BOOTY CALL?
IF YOU HAVE NOT ANSWERED THE BOOTY CALL (WE DONT WANT TO KNOW IF YOU DID OR WHAT YOU DID - LETS KEEP THAT PERSONAL) WHAT DID YOU RESPOND WITH OR HOW DID YOU HANDLE THE SITUATION?


Personally, I wish there was a menu item called "ONLINE NOW FOR BOOTY CALLS" and all the people wanting to get laid could collectively shop.
 B. Diva
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 2
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Posted: 12/10/2006 2:11:02 PM
While I would tend to agree that the guy was probably a jackass, it is within the realm of possibility that his computer crashed and that's why the window got closed so abruptly.
One way to avoid the problem is to set up your instant messaging so that only people who are already on your favourites list can IM you.

I spent a couple months getting "booty calls" on the telephone from a real sweet young man that I had met at a POF singles function. It was kind of fun - a novelty for me - but I haven't heard from him in a few weeks so I guess that's over. Crap. Just when I was starting to believe that he was really a friend and didn't JUST want me for my sexual favours.
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 12/10/2006 2:49:19 PM
MKD - we chatted for a long time after I told him I wasnt interested in casual sex before his window closed. So that wasnt the immediate reaction from him. His sexual questions were direct and so were my answers. Nothing rude or misleading - just clarity.

About technical problems - I have had that happen and I have private messaged the person I was talking to and let them know - thats about all you can do. If they choose to not respond after that - oh well.

The meeting for coffee discussion was after the sexual clarity point. So, that is why I was scratching my head.

He did in fact ask about wanting to get together for sex then - there was no misunderstanding. The booty call came out when he asked directly about getting together and was told no.
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 4
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Posted: 12/10/2006 3:07:05 PM
MKD - will you be at Thurdsays Wing Nite......pant, pant,

Oh Sh*t the window closed.......I guess its no better for me either........

I think we are going to need lessons from the Late Night Booty Men.............
 B. Diva
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 12/10/2006 7:21:23 PM
bbqslave - too bad you live so far away! anybody that would pose doing dishes is definitely worth a call.

"hey there big boy wanna come over and DRY?"

Dar
 Farkis McSwifflebum
Joined: 6/14/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 12/10/2006 8:54:38 PM
I actually have been im'ed for a booty call; yes hard to believe, I know. But in any case she was terribly unattractive so I had to feign technical difficulties. Even if she had been pretty the whole idea seems weird. I've never bothered to booty call anybody here because I'm sure if they're worth having, they won't give it up that easy. I'm sure they would be disease infested too and I happen to like not screaming in pain when I piss.

Wooo!
 edjoecdn
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/11/2006 1:36:12 AM
Can somebody help me....!!!! I'm all throught this profile and all the options...

How does one "turn on" their .... "available for booty call" feature..?

Where is it..? Okay so what it's allmost 4 am... I'm not horney or ... horny... just umm .. oh yeah... messed up sleep patterens..." that rye " on my breath .. no thats my cologne... honest..
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/11/2006 7:16:43 AM
Lou syfur - in answer to your post - there is nothing wroing with someone looking for booty. I just wish there was a separate online place in POF for them - like the home shopping network on TV - for people to do their booty shopping away from other who want to surf the forums, chat with friends and others who arent interested in booty calls. I dont find it humours or enjoyable when the men are relentless after being told not interested, or act stupid or rude due to drinking or drugs.

There should not be one person on this site that has had to disable their IM because of this topic. The powers that be should be checking and monitoring this type of activity, that restrict enjoyment for some POF users - instead of suspending people who add to the enjoyment of all with playful banter and cute/funny one liners in the forums and impose word restrictions. Not saying the mods were unfair with some, but it has gone overboard on the mods end - just like some of the users.

About technical problems or having to leave abruptly - I have had that happen and I have private messaged the person I was talking to and let them know what happened. That is common courtesy. Expected to be treated with respect is not a sign of insecurity as another post suggested.
 Nanner Nanner
Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/11/2006 7:27:22 AM

I just wish there was a separate online place in POF for them


All users have the option to select a "looking for" field. And all users have the option to block users looking for things unlike themselves. You also have the option to block users who have messaged others looking for "intimate encounters".


like the home shopping network on TV - for people to do their booty shopping away from other who want to surf the forums, chat with friends and others who arent interested in booty calls


Who are we to say that those looking for booty calls can not come on POF to surf the forums and chat with friends. POF is a free site.


If you have issues with being im'd or mailed by someone seeking intimate encounters, the option is there to join a paid site instead. Because it is a paid site, people not seeking the same type of relationship as you are less likely to spend the money to contact you.
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 12/11/2006 7:54:05 AM
Youdunno - chill a little bit - that stick is pointy.

I think you missed the point. I did not say I wanted the users moved - I said it was "MY OPINION" that there be a place for online booty shopping (like the home shopping network on tv) to partake in that activity. The blocks are good and that was never an issues. If a guy has a profile that says anything other than intimate encounters - he wont be blocked.

If you quote me use the entire quote and respond to my entire thought - not just a fragment that can be manipulated. I welcome intellegent disagreement.

I started this tread to see if anyone else had experienced what I had experienced and as a topic of interest - find out their thoughts and find out how they handled it and/or how it made them feel. In addition this topic can be extremely funny with the usualy band of characters who frequenhtly provide comedy relief.

I am a big girl and I am wearing my big girl panties and have no problem handling myself or dealing with men online looking for late nite booty calls because no one would take them home from the bar. Wow, now isnt that a yummy thought, a man who was turned down in a bar by drunk women, needing to hide behind a computer to find someone to take them in. If they are that drunk or stupid - they probably wouldnt be able to raise the flagpole anyway. Boy makes me want to stand in line for that looser.

Yes I could use a paid site and that was never an issue, but thanks for your suggestion. I am happy in the pond with the nice fishies, so I will stay for a while. And thanks also, for your concern about people contacting me. FYI - I'm doing quite well with the men here. I have met and dated some very nice ones - and I wish the same for you.

All the best.
 Nanner Nanner
Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 12/11/2006 8:01:20 AM
Was simply trying to make some suggestions that woud elimate your problem rather than turning off the im.


I think you missed the point. I did not say I wanted the users moved - I said it was "MY OPINION" that there be a place for online booty shopping (like the home shopping network on tv) to partake in that activity. The blocks are good and that was never an issues. If a guy has a profile that says anything other than intimate encounters - he wont be blocked.


You have the option to block every "looking for" field as well as turning on the "block users who have messaged others looking for an intimate encounter.

May not get rid of all the players, but it will sure get rid of a lot of them.
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/11/2006 8:18:21 AM
Nanner Nanner - thanks for the clarity. I have blocked some users, but I would prefer people act like adults - whats that old saying "its always fun till somebody looses an eye"

Sroocmi - you are a bad boy - but I opened the door on that one..........LMAO right out of my sexy lacy big girl underwear............
 edjoecdn
Joined: 5/25/2006
Msg: 13
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Posted: 12/11/2006 9:18:31 AM
Speaking about booty calls....... hey sweet mango...

When are you gonna come by and pick up the "shoes" you left here the last time you ...ummmm "visited" HEE hEE hee ....???

Asfor the topic.... facts of life here on pof... it's free and it has features like IM and free mails... each can be "used" for a variety of things / topics. Could be for pleasant chat ..could be for really nasty / sexual cyber sex** ( *- kinda hard to get hard with most of the words being ***** slow and deep and I want to **** your ******....) ??? Its more of a jeapordy game then any pure enjoyment.. opps did i just give it up..?

Disclaimer: these are not my opinions but that of my evil twin edjoekokanee... lol. Honest I'm nothing but a pure little . But angels can't just live off philly cream cheese alone ..we need some "meat" one in a while to keep the wings strong...
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 14
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Posted: 12/11/2006 9:34:23 AM
Gypsy67 another customer for the Edjoe to English Dictionary Talk to Full of Sparks there might be a group rate - lol
 edjoecdn
Joined: 5/25/2006
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Posted: 12/11/2006 9:40:43 AM
GYPSY,.... not to turn this into a discussion / chat ... for ....that is against the rules.....

Whacked, warped, off balance.... yes proof read for correct spacings and punctuation and spelling.... I try..

ask around... I talk exactly like i type...

now back to bootie calls..... seriously I don't "do " them. ( mango was an exception .. she was so forcefull and assertive... I still have duct tape glue on the .... geeze I allmost spilled the beans...j/k dear ) .... lol

Nope when I "sleep" with someone.. there has to be something more there ..or at least a chance of something more. It's called intimacy for a reason... some can and do just "throw" thier "unplucked beaver" around for any and all to pet... ( wing nite j/k ) others actually "pluck it' and save it for .... someone special.

Sure i have physical needs but I also have quality control, standards and emotional health to worry about. I'm a passionate lover... you want mokey love... go to the zoo..!!! Well okay a couple of tequilla and I'm all and I'll you... lol
 B. Diva
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 12/11/2006 9:56:57 PM
Timmins911 - never say never!

If you had seen the webcam pic of my "intelligence and impeccable wit" you'd be on the next plane!

Seriously (for a nanosecond) I've just been really hurt by a guy who I thought valued me as a friend as well as for all my ample....attributes. On three different occasions I changed my plans to rush over to his place when he called - this was a serious novelty for me - I was fifty, fat, and this guy thought I was HOT!!!

Recently I was starting to feel like a piece of meat (I'm sure you guys have that feeling ALL THE TIME the way we women just use you up and throw you away - as if!) but when I really needed a friend he came through for me. He had even introduced me to his best friend and gone out at great length about what a "wonderful woman" I am - in front of a witness!!!

Anyway he has not been seen or heard from in weeks. Emails are not answered, calls are not returned, and I'm hurting pretty badly. I certainly learned my lesson with this one! I knew, since he's 12 years younger, that it was very unlikely to be any kind of long-term thing but I hoped I'd have him around until either I got a real "boyfriend" or he hit the age when guys decide they want babies of their own, cause I couldn't give him that (without expensive and risky medical intervention anyway).

The stupid and petty part of all this is that as much as I'll miss those occasional nights in his bed - I never got to go the cottage and enjoy the sauna!!!
 spellingbee
Joined: 11/19/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 12/11/2006 10:46:42 PM
Aaaaaaaand back on topic now...

HAVE YOU BEEN APPROACHED FOR A LATE NIGHT BOOTY CALL? often

HAVE YOU EVER APPROACHED ANYONE FOR A LATE NIGHT BOOTY CALL? never

IF YOU HAVE NOT ANSWERED THE BOOTY CALL WHAT DID YOU RESPOND WITH OR HOW DID YOU HANDLE THE SITUATION?

First I prompt them to tell me about their aspirations for the evening, and get them to explore their motivation and agenda for seeking sex online with strangers. The bullshitters start to get scared off at this point... especially if you start throwing out STI stats. It's drama they seek, not local chlamydia rates, so it's a great way of sorting out the triflers.

Now here's where you get a vibe for who's offering an exchange of goods and services. I don't mess with them because they are often people who are in great pain. A non-confrontational way to deal with them is to tell them you're broke... they'll move on. It's cash they want... no games... it's that simple.

The few left standing at this point get my patented "so exactly what problem gets fixed by you sticking your d!ck into strange pu$$y?" line of interrogation. That shuts them up pretty quick. If they persist, I get all Freudian on their asses. No one makes it past Freud... it's pretty dull stuff.

(WE DONT WANT TO KNOW IF YOU DID OR WHAT YOU DID - LETS KEEP THAT PERSONAL)

Oooooh... now you see, I'm of mixed minds on this.

Re: WE DONT WANT TO KNOW IF YOU DID OR WHAT YOU DID - and yet I think that they would probably be the more interesting stories.

Re: LETS KEEP THAT PERSONAL - I'm all for it. And that includes feeling the same way about people sharing their private emails in a public forum. Not only do I think it's an appalling invasion of privacy, I'm just simply not interested in anyone's personal business.

We learn by sharing our stories. I can dig it. And I trust in people's capacity to share their experiences without sharing the intimate details.

Actually, I'm counting on that... as I would never be in a relationship with someone who I knew would make public the details of our personal correspondence and private lives. I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but I think that's just disrespectful and undignified and I won't have any of it.
 amber187
Joined: 8/16/2006
Msg: 19
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Posted: 12/13/2006 9:23:29 PM
the worst was i got a phone call by someone i didnt know but i guess this chick gave out my number and this guy wanted to hook up with me because she said i had a big chest i told him off
 edjoecdn
Joined: 5/25/2006
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Posted: 8/30/2007 11:08:42 AM
And what's wrong with a scheduled booty call ??

Let's say.... ummm 9ish each wednesday ? Keeping it earlier wood that work better ?

Hey wait a minute are we talking about the moral aspect or the timing thing ???

sori I am easily confused ... and innocent ( ) and and all
 prince harry
Joined: 1/17/2006
Msg: 21
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Posted: 8/31/2007 10:32:13 PM
hmmmm late nite booty calls between ya'll maybe this thread to be turning into a private chat room or conference room!!....or perhaps even a cum...ooops come as you are orgy !!!...so who started this thread in the first place???no one has nothing else much better to do than talk about 'booty' calls???...so instead of talking about it why doesn't DO something about it!!..since it seem that ya'll have each others numbers how about each others addresses...and meet up some wheree discretly or each others place and get at 'er!...or im...or is this being too up front!!
 SmartAlec
Joined: 2/8/2005
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Posted: 9/15/2008 6:44:46 PM
Printer - you can always make me laugh!
 armaegis
Joined: 8/25/2008
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Posted: 9/16/2008 3:14:47 PM
I ain't pretty enough to get random messages for booty calls, besides the point of which I don't have a beefcake image up (I actually uploaded one a few days ago, but it was deleted for unknown reasons; it was just a beach shot in stupid flexing poses with a buddy, no nudity).
 juan mo oclock
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 24
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Posted: 9/17/2008 12:51:44 PM
tempt, they are actually called anal beads, not booty strings and no one cares how they got tangled, except maybe edjoe
 armaegis
Joined: 8/25/2008
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Posted: 9/19/2008 10:35:22 PM
Well how else is he supposed to stop himself from rolling out of bed at night?
 Heavencalling
Joined: 8/28/2011
Msg: 26
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Posted: 10/14/2011 2:33:58 PM
Those who want booty calls are those who have STD's.
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