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 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 1
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Last night I was online checking messages about 2 .a.m. after celebrating a birthday party and not being able to go directly to bed.

While checking for messages and after talking to another friend by online messenging, I was contacted by a new man I had never met and we chatted. The conversation was interesting and this man seemed charming, nice and had some things in common to talk about. Well being adults the subject matter always drifts towards sexuality and I always make it clear I am not interested in casual sex or a one night stand or do late nite booty calls. He was ok with that, talked about getting together for dinner and I suggested coffee instead, yada yada yada...........

Well all of a sudden, without a goodbye or warning he just closed the window........WTF?

So being the woman I am, I was not too damn impressed......so I thought for a few moments on what I should do and decided to send him a message. I thought I would share it with others out there:

Email to a booty call:

Thanks for the chat - I thought you were a decent man - guess I was wrong. I didnt appreciate the rudeness of you just closing your window without saying anything. I would have appreciated any of the following comments:

- goodbye
or
- I realized you are not easy - I'm not interested
or
- Oh, I found booty from one of the other windows I had open - gotta go the offer may not last long!

Dont bother contacting me agin.
Sue


Now, I pose these question to you:

HAVE YOU BEEN APPROACHED FOR A LATE NIGHT BOOTY CALL?
HAVE YOU EVER APPROACHED ANYONE FOR A LATE NIGHT BOOTY CALL?
IF YOU HAVE NOT ANSWERED THE BOOTY CALL (WE DONT WANT TO KNOW IF YOU DID OR WHAT YOU DID - LETS KEEP THAT PERSONAL) WHAT DID YOU RESPOND WITH OR HOW DID YOU HANDLE THE SITUATION?


Personally, I wish there was a menu item called "ONLINE NOW FOR BOOTY CALLS" and all the people wanting to get laid could collectively shop.
 ~Emerald~
Joined: 7/19/2006
Msg: 2
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Posted: 12/10/2006 1:20:04 PM
HAVE YOU BEEN APPROACHED FOR A LATE NIGHT BOOTY CALL?
yep

HAVE YOU EVER APPROACHED ANYONE FOR A LATE NIGHT BOOTY CALL?
nope

IF YOU HAVE NOT ANSWERED THE BOOTY CALL (WE DONT WANT TO KNOW IF YOU DID OR WHAT YOU DID - LETS KEEP THAT PERSONAL) WHAT DID YOU RESPOND WITH OR HOW DID YOU HANDLE THE SITUATION?
I laughed my head off and went to bed...I wouldnt have bothered, although I do see your point...he cast, and u didnt bite...his loss...

BTW - glad you had fun last night, my daughters and I go to the bar together (Even brought them to wilds a few times) It is an experience that you will never forget...I LOVE it...

~M~
 dianthus9
Joined: 7/16/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 12/10/2006 1:46:18 PM
It is quite possible that his wife/girlfriend walked in and he had to close the window quickly so he wouldn't get caught trolling.
 B. Diva
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 4
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Posted: 12/10/2006 2:11:02 PM
While I would tend to agree that the guy was probably a jackass, it is within the realm of possibility that his computer crashed and that's why the window got closed so abruptly.
One way to avoid the problem is to set up your instant messaging so that only people who are already on your favourites list can IM you.

I spent a couple months getting "booty calls" on the telephone from a real sweet young man that I had met at a POF singles function. It was kind of fun - a novelty for me - but I haven't heard from him in a few weeks so I guess that's over. Crap. Just when I was starting to believe that he was really a friend and didn't JUST want me for my sexual favours.
 MyKidsDad66
Joined: 4/1/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 12/10/2006 2:38:54 PM

Well being adults the subject matter always drifts towards sexuality and I always make it clear I am not interested in casual sex or a one night stand or do late nite booty calls. He was ok with that, talked about getting together for dinner and I suggested coffee instead, yada yada yada...........

Well all of a sudden, without a goodbye or warning he just closed the window........WTF?


Hmmm....I gotta defend the male perspective on this one even though I personally have never (knowingly) propositioned someone online for a booty call.

First off, I would agree that when single adults get together and chat, sexuality often comes up in the conversation, though I find it is typically in the form of sexual innuendos made in the context of humour. You state that you made it clear during the conversatin that you are not interested in casual sex and that your conversation was about making plans to meet for coffee when his window closed.

I guess I'm at a loss to understand how that can be interpreted as an attempt to make a booty call followed by the further interpretation that he bailed because you weren't interested in said booty call. Perhaps there is more to the story, but from what you have written, I gotta say that this is a perfect example of where men and women appear to interpret things differently.

I'm worried now and am trying to remember if I have ever been chatting online with someone when my window may have closed for whatever reason (by the way, the POF chat client is about as crappy as they come and has locked up on me before). If I was unable to re-establish a connection quickly and explain what happened, did I make an attempt at a booty call?
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 12/10/2006 2:49:19 PM
MKD - we chatted for a long time after I told him I wasnt interested in casual sex before his window closed. So that wasnt the immediate reaction from him. His sexual questions were direct and so were my answers. Nothing rude or misleading - just clarity.

About technical problems - I have had that happen and I have private messaged the person I was talking to and let them know - thats about all you can do. If they choose to not respond after that - oh well.

The meeting for coffee discussion was after the sexual clarity point. So, that is why I was scratching my head.

He did in fact ask about wanting to get together for sex then - there was no misunderstanding. The booty call came out when he asked directly about getting together and was told no.
 ~Emerald~
Joined: 7/19/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/10/2006 2:54:01 PM
strike sue off her booty call list....lmao
 MyKidsDad66
Joined: 4/1/2006
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Posted: 12/10/2006 3:04:02 PM
D'oh! Sue, you logged off!

I was just about to attempt my first online booty call and you logged off before I could do it.

Here's how I envisioned it happening:

MKD starts IM session with Sue

Sue: Hi

MKD: Hi Sue. So, what are your thoughts on people wanting to get together for sex? Maybe we can meet up some time over coffee to chat about your opinion on the topic.

MKD: closes chat window

 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/10/2006 3:07:05 PM
MKD - will you be at Thurdsays Wing Nite......pant, pant,

Oh Sh*t the window closed.......I guess its no better for me either........

I think we are going to need lessons from the Late Night Booty Men.............
 MyKidsDad66
Joined: 4/1/2006
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Posted: 12/10/2006 3:11:31 PM
Actually, I'm heading to Tony Roma's this evening for wings as they are cheap on Sunday to Wednesday. I'm dragging a friend of mine out for her first time out for wings. Hopefully, she'll come out with the group after she loses her verwingity.

I don't have my girls on Thursday, so I'll likely be there.
 Deranged
Joined: 12/3/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 12/10/2006 4:43:40 PM
i've simply disabled my im feature. then i dont get the freaks looking to get laid. and if a person wants to im with me, then they know me well enuff to ask me for my msn... we dont have to im here at all.

so, if the late night booty calls are bothering you, disable your im feature. you can either disable it completely, or allow only your faves list pals to im you.
 Katkats
Joined: 8/8/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 12/10/2006 4:46:07 PM
yep have to agree with all that^^^^^
I disabled mine along time ago...

funny thing though....if a friend IM'd me...it never worked.....
but if the IM was from someone looking for "action" they worked every time....
 BBQslave
Joined: 8/23/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 12/10/2006 6:06:58 PM
Hmmmm, i have never gotten one of those, I guess my IM is not working
 JuztMe
Joined: 5/25/2005
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Posted: 12/10/2006 7:12:02 PM
I get those often, not always late night either. The other night it was this fella saying lets meet we can cuddle and see where it goes ..All i could do is laugh..Like really what do some of them think POF is for? Makes me wonder at times. shrugs..
 B. Diva
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 12/10/2006 7:21:23 PM
bbqslave - too bad you live so far away! anybody that would pose doing dishes is definitely worth a call.

"hey there big boy wanna come over and DRY?"

Dar
 Farkis McSwifflebum
Joined: 6/14/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/10/2006 8:54:38 PM
I actually have been im'ed for a booty call; yes hard to believe, I know. But in any case she was terribly unattractive so I had to feign technical difficulties. Even if she had been pretty the whole idea seems weird. I've never bothered to booty call anybody here because I'm sure if they're worth having, they won't give it up that easy. I'm sure they would be disease infested too and I happen to like not screaming in pain when I piss.

Wooo!
 y_b_good
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 24
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Posted: 12/10/2006 11:52:36 PM
I agree with the person above me...
some would say that people that jump to conclusions could be mmmmmm "insecure"...
 edjoecdn
Joined: 5/25/2006
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Posted: 12/11/2006 1:36:12 AM
Can somebody help me....!!!! I'm all throught this profile and all the options...

How does one "turn on" their .... "available for booty call" feature..?

Where is it..? Okay so what it's allmost 4 am... I'm not horney or ... horny... just umm .. oh yeah... messed up sleep patterens..." that rye " on my breath .. no thats my cologne... honest..
 Sweet_Mango1
Joined: 10/28/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 12/11/2006 4:24:39 AM
^^^^
Am I seeing things? Is that you edjoecnd.... i checked the date.....whats goin on?

Come on now you know you've messaged people before for booty calls.....
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 12/11/2006 7:16:43 AM
Lou syfur - in answer to your post - there is nothing wroing with someone looking for booty. I just wish there was a separate online place in POF for them - like the home shopping network on TV - for people to do their booty shopping away from other who want to surf the forums, chat with friends and others who arent interested in booty calls. I dont find it humours or enjoyable when the men are relentless after being told not interested, or act stupid or rude due to drinking or drugs.

There should not be one person on this site that has had to disable their IM because of this topic. The powers that be should be checking and monitoring this type of activity, that restrict enjoyment for some POF users - instead of suspending people who add to the enjoyment of all with playful banter and cute/funny one liners in the forums and impose word restrictions. Not saying the mods were unfair with some, but it has gone overboard on the mods end - just like some of the users.

About technical problems or having to leave abruptly - I have had that happen and I have private messaged the person I was talking to and let them know what happened. That is common courtesy. Expected to be treated with respect is not a sign of insecurity as another post suggested.
 Nanner Nanner
Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 12/11/2006 7:27:22 AM

I just wish there was a separate online place in POF for them


All users have the option to select a "looking for" field. And all users have the option to block users looking for things unlike themselves. You also have the option to block users who have messaged others looking for "intimate encounters".


like the home shopping network on TV - for people to do their booty shopping away from other who want to surf the forums, chat with friends and others who arent interested in booty calls


Who are we to say that those looking for booty calls can not come on POF to surf the forums and chat with friends. POF is a free site.


If you have issues with being im'd or mailed by someone seeking intimate encounters, the option is there to join a paid site instead. Because it is a paid site, people not seeking the same type of relationship as you are less likely to spend the money to contact you.
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 29
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Posted: 12/11/2006 7:54:05 AM
Youdunno - chill a little bit - that stick is pointy.

I think you missed the point. I did not say I wanted the users moved - I said it was "MY OPINION" that there be a place for online booty shopping (like the home shopping network on tv) to partake in that activity. The blocks are good and that was never an issues. If a guy has a profile that says anything other than intimate encounters - he wont be blocked.

If you quote me use the entire quote and respond to my entire thought - not just a fragment that can be manipulated. I welcome intellegent disagreement.

I started this tread to see if anyone else had experienced what I had experienced and as a topic of interest - find out their thoughts and find out how they handled it and/or how it made them feel. In addition this topic can be extremely funny with the usualy band of characters who frequenhtly provide comedy relief.

I am a big girl and I am wearing my big girl panties and have no problem handling myself or dealing with men online looking for late nite booty calls because no one would take them home from the bar. Wow, now isnt that a yummy thought, a man who was turned down in a bar by drunk women, needing to hide behind a computer to find someone to take them in. If they are that drunk or stupid - they probably wouldnt be able to raise the flagpole anyway. Boy makes me want to stand in line for that looser.

Yes I could use a paid site and that was never an issue, but thanks for your suggestion. I am happy in the pond with the nice fishies, so I will stay for a while. And thanks also, for your concern about people contacting me. FYI - I'm doing quite well with the men here. I have met and dated some very nice ones - and I wish the same for you.

All the best.
 Nanner Nanner
Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 12/11/2006 8:01:20 AM
Was simply trying to make some suggestions that woud elimate your problem rather than turning off the im.


I think you missed the point. I did not say I wanted the users moved - I said it was "MY OPINION" that there be a place for online booty shopping (like the home shopping network on tv) to partake in that activity. The blocks are good and that was never an issues. If a guy has a profile that says anything other than intimate encounters - he wont be blocked.


You have the option to block every "looking for" field as well as turning on the "block users who have messaged others looking for an intimate encounter.

May not get rid of all the players, but it will sure get rid of a lot of them.
 Srooc
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 12/11/2006 8:05:18 AM

I am a big girl and I am wearing my big girl panties

Wow, now isnt that a yummy thought

the point

I welcome

late nite booty calls




hahahahahahahahahahaha....jk


If you quote me use

use

just a fragment that can be manipulated






comedy relief
^^^^^^^^^^^^
 haywiresue
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 12/11/2006 8:18:21 AM
Nanner Nanner - thanks for the clarity. I have blocked some users, but I would prefer people act like adults - whats that old saying "its always fun till somebody looses an eye"

Sroocmi - you are a bad boy - but I opened the door on that one..........LMAO right out of my sexy lacy big girl underwear............
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