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 SweetShaker
Joined: 7/2/2004
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You're just not finding the right ones yet.

You will.

I never dated a whole lot, and only had 3 serious boyfriends. but out the the 4 guys I dated, one was short and over weight, one was seriously overweight, and the other two, well put on a lot of weight after meeting me :)

I personally like weight on my men... gives me something to cuddle up to!
And I know from talking to lots of people that I'm not the only one who feels this way.

Just feel good about yourself, when the right one comes along, she will admire your confidence, and your heart and enjoy you for who you are.
 YamIhere
Joined: 3/17/2005
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Posted: 4/4/2005 8:02:46 AM
Laws of attraction. Law #1 = physical attraction. I think you answered your own question here. I'm not saying it's impossible for someone who doesn't fit the attraction "norm" to find love. You just might have to work a little harder.
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
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Posted: 4/5/2005 10:07:03 AM
Ladies are right friend. I flirted with 300 pounds a year ago and some ladies were certainly able to get beyond my size. Now that I'm cruising below 200 pounds in the next week or two I'm getting hit on like I haven't in years. We all have our predjudices, welcome to humanity.
 superloverman75
Joined: 3/28/2005
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Posted: 4/14/2005 11:18:39 AM
I think its because some women, despite what they claim, do go by looks first and in some cases formost. Men do the same thing. It all depends on the person, personally I am attracted to personalities formost but that is besides the point of your question LOL
 BingoMingle
Joined: 3/25/2005
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Posted: 4/14/2005 11:53:02 AM
Gas, Grass or Ass Nobody Rides for free...(-;

Want a Date? Call an Escort Service,they will teach you to be pleasing,if they like you it's free,if they don't like you it costs you about $75.00...(-;

On POF you may find hundreds of women in your area,and out of them you may find 4 or 5 that might even date you,but for the most part they are just schuffling through to see what's out there...*J*

On the other hand,in your area you will find hundreds of Escort services and this is where you will find the high end Gal's, they are a pleasure to date because they know how to date well
They are not playing any games and if you have questions then ask and you will get honest answers...(-;

They do require you to Take a Bath,Shave,Dress well and behave yourself...(-;

In truth most guy's really don't know how to date,a good escort will teach you all that you really need to know...*J*

I've been on POF for a very long time,I got some date's but for the most part they were Bottom Feeders,there are some very good women on POF,but you won't get a date with them because they don't date from POF,this place is a good sounding board at best...(-;

Good Luck...
 forever_laughter
Joined: 9/19/2004
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Posted: 4/14/2005 11:53:40 AM
Rocky444: Pearle is right. You aren't looking in the right places. Checking your voting history .. why are you not interested in big women? It must be for the same reasons, I assume.
I am a big woman but I am on a very successful weight loss program. So I'm not interested in an overweight man that can't keep up with me with all the activities we will share as I reach my goal.

aliveindg: way to go on your weight loss! I certainly can relate to your concerns, but I betcha you are giving off an glow of confidence now that you didn't have before. Bask in it, girl! You deserve it. Doin a lil happy dance for ya
 superloverman75
Joined: 3/28/2005
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Posted: 4/14/2005 12:11:42 PM
alivendg, 5 foot and 160 lbs. isnt exactly fat, I know lots of guys that would have liked a woman that curvy, I have a friend that is a nurse and she is 5 foot 1 and 170 lbs and she gets lots of dates, maybe who oever said its the personality has it right...
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
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Posted: 4/14/2005 1:20:37 PM
Men do not want to date short, overweight romantic women either..for some reason tall people are attractive to the majority of the people in the world it seems.
 JessKO
Joined: 1/18/2005
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Posted: 4/14/2005 1:30:30 PM
You gotta want more than someone who JUST wants to be treated nicely.

You should be looking for someone with similar interests rather than someone who just wants to be loved. Cause heck everyone wants to be loved.

Plus when you enter a relationship with the just let me treat you nice atitude--- you're more likely to be treated like a doormat.


I want to meet someone who likes to work out because I like to be active and healthy myself.


Would you work out 20 mins everyday if you thought it would increase your chances?
 Vandelai
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/15/2005 3:10:14 AM
"Laws of attraction. Law #1 = physical attraction. I think you answered your own question here. I'm not saying it's impossible for someone who doesn't fit the attraction "norm" to find love. You just might have to work a little harder."

Laws of attraction, you know what I find paculiar is that I don't eat alot, thin, and there are STILL women who don't find me attractive physically.

I guess you eat right, go to the g ym, and still not have women be phy sically attracted to even thin men. lol
 forever_laughter
Joined: 9/19/2004
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Posted: 4/15/2005 8:09:27 AM
Rocky: I was just thinking you might get some insight to your own question if you look at your voting history. And FYI, it only shows the ones who you rank the highest. Lighten up.
 forever_laughter
Joined: 9/19/2004
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Posted: 4/17/2005 8:41:26 AM
Rocky444: Your voting history shows the type of women you are attracted to. It's not a bad thing, it's just your preference.
 BrazilLuver
Joined: 4/15/2005
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Posted: 4/17/2005 8:57:48 AM
Dude if you are an overweight gentlemen then those are already two strikes against you.
The only time I go out with a BBW is when I NEED a booty call and that hasn't happened since I went to Brazil, thankfully. Overweight/BBW/A few extra pounds means that you are a ****ing fat ass and need to get off the damn computer ASAP.

One of my bestfriends is also overweight BUT he is by no means a gentleman and he is a KICKASS breakdancer. Think he has problems with women? Think again. LOSE THE GENTLEMAN. No chick likes to be asked if your 'pushing too hard' and if its alright to grab her ass. Like Nike says: Just DO IT.

Like BrazilLuver says: NICE GUYS FINISH LAST, DEAD LAST.
 forever_laughter
Joined: 9/19/2004
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Posted: 4/17/2005 9:27:31 AM
krisna: Thank you So much for your compliment! I do have more weight to lose, and I'm getting closer to my goal everyday.
 redneckgirl133
Joined: 11/18/2004
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Posted: 4/17/2005 9:36:41 AM
Being attracted to someone entails alot of things...physical attraction (that person is cute in your eyes), personality, how they interact with people, sense of humor, how they communicate, common interests, common goals...A combination of all those things make you attracted to someone....I`d date a nice, romantic, overweight gentleman IF I WAS ATTRACTED TO HIM. You can`t help who your heart loves....redneckgirl133
 forever_laughter
Joined: 9/19/2004
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Posted: 4/17/2005 9:43:50 AM
well said redneckgirl
 redneckgirl133
Joined: 11/18/2004
Msg: 47
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Posted: 4/17/2005 10:38:25 AM
alive...I agree with you....If people let themselves go, it speaks to how they feel about themselves, and that can be catchy.....I like a fit man because I work hard on myself and want a man who feels the same way about his body and his health....Anyone can let themselves go...that`s easy but to keep in shape at my age requires effort...I just want someone who puts forth that effort also....And you are right, sex is better with a fit man...Just my opinion...redneckgirl133
 BingoMingle
Joined: 3/25/2005
Msg: 53
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Posted: 4/17/2005 12:26:01 PM
In reality Flucking Fat Guy's is Fine,till her friends find out>>>(-;
 BingoMingle
Joined: 3/25/2005
Msg: 55
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Posted: 4/17/2005 12:51:19 PM
In Reality, Flucking Flat Guys is Fline, untill her Flriends Flind Out>>>(-;

Then De Flat Guy, Will have to be Flucking All Of Them Tooo>>>(-;
 Fid Copya
Joined: 3/31/2005
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Posted: 4/18/2005 5:39:04 AM
Do cigarettes count as veggies?
Because if they do, then I'm smoking my way to excellent health!
 raghu_smr
Joined: 4/18/2005
Msg: 65
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Posted: 4/18/2005 8:03:19 AM
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 raghu_smr
Joined: 4/18/2005
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Posted: 4/18/2005 8:03:50 AM
iam the guy of ur kind but too innocent look and lack of experience wit girls contact me 9886646290
 forever_laughter
Joined: 9/19/2004
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Posted: 4/18/2005 9:11:41 AM
aliveinndg: you are absolutely correct about the fruits n veggie thing. I was eating things in small portions and couldn't figure out why I wasn't losing. Then I found out that just half a muffin was a whopping 500 calories! YIKES ! Also, the ranch chicken salad at McDonald's was the same as eating a Big Mac. Holy crappage! No wonder I was stuck.


Rocky: I'm thinking that being overweight isn't the reason you aren't getting dates. You are not conducting yourself as the "nice gentleman" you claim to be. People came to this thread to help you, and you keep making defensive remarks. Sorry to be so blunt, but it seems you need a lil knot in your reality tail.
 forever_laughter
Joined: 9/19/2004
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Posted: 4/18/2005 11:36:13 PM
So you can be nice in person but can't be nice in forums? What's up with that Rocky?
Lighten up. You can voice your opinions without attacting people. You never know who might be interested in you and then checks your posts and sees how you communicate with people. Think about it.
 the_world_in_my_pocket
Joined: 4/18/2005
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Posted: 4/18/2005 11:47:56 PM
Hey Rocky.
I know you asked for females to answer, and no I don't fit the profile, but I do fit the profile of growing up fairly outcasted, quite a bit due to weighing 315 pounds by 9th grade, and I also know that when a person is psychologically beat down because of something they cannot control they have a very hard time maintaining a realistic level of self-confidence. As long as you have low self confidence, women are going to walk right through you. Because you see yourself as an inferior being, to the men that look better then you *stereotypically*, you believe you have no chance. And if you don't look at women as though you have any chance, and you are constantly hiding yourself from the idea and opportunity to jump at one, then how on Earth is one supposed to know when you have interest? Take it from experience, the less like something they have to 'teach' to have self confidence you are, the more likely they are to respond to you. I mean heck, most women in this world are looking for the exact same thing you are. Somebody to relate to, and dump a gang load of problems on. Only to give the assistance it takes to work their problems out, and say "I love you" the next morning. Good luck.
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