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 AStableWoman
Joined: 11/21/2006
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I am curious about how others handle what tends to be a big problem as a relationship goes on. So many times I hear and see that people lose that extra spark and the relationship gets routine or dull. Although every day can not be a "bed of roses", and life does get in the way at times, I am willing to bet that some of you have some good ideas about keeping things fresh and alive! I would love it if you would share that with the rest of us.

I ask in part because I was married for 19 years and I would have to say that half of it was very mundane. I refuse to let that happen again.

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AStableWoman
 Be gone
Joined: 10/2/2006
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What do YOU do to keep the fire burning in a long-term relationship?
Posted: 12/28/2006 6:41:13 AM
Thorns response is very good.

I was with my wife for almost 20 years and we never got bored with each other. Mainly because we accepted each other for who that person was and accepted that we would change. Being that we accepted that each person would change over time things were never boring.

We were also never afraid to try new things.... So many people get set in stone on how they think things should be and refuse to try any thing new in a relationship or life. They sink into the "****ing" about things mode and can't seem to break out of it. (A real relationship killer.)
 studplayrico
Joined: 12/9/2005
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What do YOU do to keep the fire burning in a long-term relationship?
Posted: 12/28/2006 7:11:10 AM
Don't really know, but i will go to my grandparents and take notes. They sure know what it takes.
 webbandit
Joined: 12/14/2005
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What do YOU do to keep the fire burning in a long-term relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:43:05 AM
Basically, what I tend to do is try new adventures. Take a trip, start new hobbies together. But you are right though, life does take its ups and downs. Whatever you decide to do with your other half should consist of lots of laughs...
 techgirl27
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What do YOU do to keep the fire burning in a long-term relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2007 6:34:55 AM
A Dating Site can include people who are....dating... and have questions. imagine that
 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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What do YOU do to keep the fire burning in a long-term relationship?
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:02:44 AM
ummmmmm.....playing twister?
 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
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Posted: 1/22/2007 3:44:12 PM

I think you might want to ask someone that has been marriedfor about 50 years. You will probably find more insight into your question. They might even have a little more experience than asking a bunch of single people.


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Good point....
I've often thought similar.......for a bunch of single people on internet dating ....we sure are a bunch of expert's on all facet's of relationship's...but everyone like's to put their 2 cent's worth in....even if it's an unqualified opinion ...
 Iowapaperboy
Joined: 12/14/2006
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Posted: 1/22/2007 3:52:20 PM
If two people are married for the right reasons, they were the closest of friends once. The only real reason marriages end is that one or both spouses forget that and thus forget what that entails.

If you always hold sacred the friendship you shared at the beginning, you will never need to worry about how it will end.

Life is simple. We make it complicated.
-IPB
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