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 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 5
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ewwwww




IF you didn't become step-siblings until AFTER you were both grown and gone...then I MIGHT (given a lot of vodka) be able to understand why you would even use the words " I date" and "my sister" together in the same sentence


nah


maybe not


edit

You can tell how shocked we all are by the fact NONE of us has made any comments about your being southern
 Passinthru
Joined: 2/3/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 1/11/2007 9:32:09 PM
Why go out looking when you can just go down the hall?




...... all seriousness aside- probably a bad idea
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/12/2007 6:05:55 AM
I dont think its a date - but it is still creeping me out - I have friends who
have stepsisters and brothers and they are really close to them - like a birth
brother or sister - so this kinda doesnt sit right with me - Dont get me wrong -
have dinner, go out - but treat it like family - thats all.

Do you share a mother or father or is she from a whole different marriage - that would
make it different - she has seperate parents from you and your mom just married her dad-
is that the case??? That could change things a bit maybe. uhgggggggggg - and she just started contacting you again after the divorce - sounds like maybe she needs some family support here. Just go have dinner - you seem like a nice southern gentleman and she needs some company. But thats all right now!!! I am not from the south - obviously so I dont know - But in Philly - Oh hell no!!
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 15
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Posted: 1/12/2007 6:17:21 AM
Step means your not related - dont share a parent -
well - okay - my friends have picked up family from marriages that
one had kids and the other had kids and the kids consider them thier
step brother or sister - No blood relation but still consider them thier brother or sister becuase
the parents are married. Man - Im confused. anyway-

Okay - well then that puts a different spin on things - but still - NO just go
out to dinner - I dont know dear - too close to home. Be careful with your feelings
here - I think you like her though and you may get your feelings hurt - remember- she
is going through a divorce which is very traumatic to begin with - just be there for her- as family. Hows that?
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 1/12/2007 6:53:26 AM

I am only confused about her change in behavior towards me in the time since her separation


The woman is lonely, she is looking for companionship. Get a freaking grip. If she wants to get laid, it is not likely she'll be choosing from her brothers, step or not.
 Witchypoo
Joined: 9/17/2005
Msg: 20
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Posted: 1/12/2007 9:39:06 AM
Chemistry is a strange beast my friend. I have step siblings that I was raised with and would never date either one of them, but they've been "family" as long as I can remember. I dated a guy once that strongly resembled one of my step brothers and it gave me the willies, LOL.

Basically you were not raised with her, no genetic ties etc. I myself see no problem with it (put the bats down people). I do think she may be looking to replace the ex though. Use **CAUTION**. You are both adults and NOT related, what you do as consenting adults is nobody's business but your own.

:))
Witchy
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 1/12/2007 5:19:50 PM
This really is sick, You don't have to come from the same parents to be "family". this girl is your sister, you thinking about anything else with her is just wrong.....

The only place this is a date is in your mind, get your mind out the gutter and make sure your sister have a great time on her 40th birthday. Would you want to date your adopted sister?. At one point this girl was just like your adopted sister.....

Your sister is reaching out to you in her time of need.... be there for her as a brother, nothing more. it's making me queezy thinking about this.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 26
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Posted: 1/12/2007 9:38:04 PM
Yes, Canadians enjoy sex but we know enough not to "date" family members...


and from your own post


we will "go out together" on her birthday, have a good time...and leave it at that!

unless...



 El Guapo76
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:13:15 PM
Ok this is one of the more interesting questions I've seen posted on here by far. The words dating your sister don't go together. You should count how many times the word creepy has been used, just by alone this is not good. That being said that point has been driven home quite well here so I'm going to try and take a different angle. Although she is not a blood relative you should consider her a relative in that your parents are married and emotionally there are familial bonds there. That alone adds a whole new dimension to this that a normal romantic relationship cannot sustain. How would a relationship effect others in your family? What would they think? What happens if there is a break up? How would they handle grand children? How would it effect your kids? Maybe it's just me but even for a non-traditional family I see serious problems arising and you throwing something way out of wack. Something just doesn't compute. That's the best way I can describe it. I think you should draw some emotional and physical boundaries here for the sake of everyone involved. Bring your parents to the bday dinner and please leave alcohol out of the picture. Distance yourself afterwards, find a date elsewhere, and build your confidence.
 El Guapo76
Joined: 1/5/2006
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Posted: 1/13/2007 7:54:52 AM
Space if anything you're the one who is being narrow minded here. Your are comparing apples to oranges when comparing a step brother and a step cousin. That being said, even with a step-cousin I personally would seriously stop to think about how a relationship could effect the psychological makeup of the family. Granted in the case of a step-cousin "significantly less", but with a step-sister there would be a "high probability" of some sort of emotional backlash with the potential to seriously hurt the stability of the family now and in the future. The word "relative" goes way beyond genetics and religion, and into relm of emotional psychology which is just as essential for a healthy relationship to be sustained, and cannot be denied. To me and any sane person emotional and psychological bonds are weighed when considering any romantic relationship and therefore just as important. Personally, I think that is the reason why the original poster even posted his concerns, because inside he himself has trouble dealing with this idea. At this current stage in the game this guy's sister is vulnerable and in need of attention(actually both are), I can just imagine what would happen if they hooked up. This would be the rebound from hell! Once she came to her senses it would not be a pretty sight, but I would buy tickets to see this fallout.

Now for all you Canadians taking this as an opportunity to poke jabs at us Americans because of this, not funny! Not funny at all! But just in case how is real estate up there at the moment? Nah I couldn't live in Canada! lol Too cold.

Oh and space...you're welcome!
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 35
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:35:58 AM
Well, gee....it isn't rocket science to guess that most people are going to figure hooking up with a SISTER, step or not, is just a little bizarre.

As for you claiming this thread was just an experiment to find out how people think....damn Bobby....too late to retract now
 El Guapo76
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 38
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:42:03 AM
Howdy doody...that's actually really funny!

But I actually want to apologize to bobby if I unintentionally bashed him. I think more people than we think have these thoughts, just very few have the guts to say it or post them in a forum for advice or people's opinion. You both are in a very vulnerable state with emotions flying all over the place, and I would just be very careful when dealing with family. You can't replace that. I'm sure Mississippi is an amazing state as well. Hope everything turns out for the best!
 mogrl
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 39
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:57:51 AM
You are 50 years old and at this time in your life you shouldn`t have to worry about what other people think about it.Maybe you two were meant to be together all along.
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 1/13/2007 4:13:23 PM
ANYBODY GONNA BE HAVING SEX WITH MY SISTER IT'S GONNA BE ME..... <img


Only in the south would anyone think is might be ok.
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 43
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Posted: 1/13/2007 7:40:58 PM
Been all up and down the south Bobby, I still have family that live in that region. I now live in canada, but i was born and raised in the good ole U S OF A. but thanks for the invite .

 gonzofanmel
Joined: 10/3/2006
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Posted: 5/11/2007 6:41:15 AM
I think I enjoyed reading this one more than the one about dating a first cousin. Thanks for the laugh!
 GuitarGuy_
Joined: 3/15/2007
Msg: 47
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Posted: 5/11/2007 8:30:27 AM
Hmmmm after reading the other posts and situations, I don't know what to say.
 gonzofanmel
Joined: 10/3/2006
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Posted: 5/11/2007 10:36:58 AM
It is so heart warming to see that hatefullness is alive and well in the hearts and minds of people. I hope someday people laugh and make fun of all of you as well . Now you would be the ones to actually deserve this kind of treatment .


Soooo...it's not right to laugh, but it's okay for you to spew negative "I hope bad things happen to you because you derserve it" retaliation? Whatever. You should never wish for bad things to happen to others just because you don't agree with the way they are reacting. If you find it tasteless, fine, but don't hope that someone else will be treated badly as some form of karmic punishment.
 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 49
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Posted: 5/11/2007 10:58:21 AM

Believe it or not a friend of mines fiance' is her step-brother... I know eww gross lol, but the thing is she was with him as b/f and g/f before her dad married his mom so in a way I guess it's not wrong to me, b/c I can't see either one of them with anyone else. BUT they do go through some bad sh*t with their parents now b/c they now think it's wrong for the two of them to be married? Hmmm talk about your parents screwing you over lol


So whoever marries first wins, and everyone else gets screwed? That makes no sense whatsoever.

If my brother and I fell in love with two sisters, should the person who's married first exclude the other couple?

This whole line of debate is silly. They aren't blood-related. They didn't grow up as siblings. They're both very mature adults, who until recently spent very little time together. And they were both adults when their parents met.

That's like saying that if they had met and married first, their parents should never date each other.

The only complication are the emotional ones, IE, if they ever broke up (or their parents did) they would need to deal with the complexity of an ongoing relationship. However, if any of them had children, they would have to deal with that issue anyway.

So here's another question... if their parents divorced, would it suddenly be "OK" for them to date? And why not?
 Rain4Eva
Joined: 4/3/2006
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Posted: 5/11/2007 3:23:55 PM
Well first and foremost, to the people trying to say the south has more inbreeding than the north is pretty much, wrong.

I live in the south, and was raised in the north in West Virginia, and I have seen more inbreeding there in the mountains, than here in the south. So why even start with the "southern inbreeders", whenever that can happen ANYWHERE in the world.

Personally I think the OP just came here for insight, and not to be judged, they are NOT blood related and did not grow up together, so well that's him, anyone who has put any negative input has showed what they would have done, so leave it at that, you are not him.

I'm pretty sure there are people in the world that have messed with their own family members without knowing, or even with knowing. Thing is she is family on paper, not blood related. They didnt spend their childhood days together as brother and sister, and did not see each other that much, I could see if they were related by blood, but they aren't. Bah, i'm done, whatever, do what you will OP, it's your life. Take care.

~Anthony
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Posted: 5/11/2007 4:08:48 PM
WOW...is all I can say...
 Rain4Eva
Joined: 4/3/2006
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Posted: 5/11/2007 8:08:50 PM

50 yrs old?? u oughta be ashamed..askin a nasty ass question like this!!
doesnt matter how lonely u and her are..your sister is yr sister not a potential date...man how desperate are u?
this is incest and u are sick !!


Sorry to let you know, it's not incest, they are NOT blood related so please read before you post. As I said OP, do what you want and have fun.
 Soanes
Joined: 10/10/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 5/12/2007 1:17:42 PM
Ok so now that hopefully everyone understands the difference between step-siblings and half-sibling and regular siblings.... here's my story...
When I was 14 I was 'dating' this really nice guy. We had soooo much in common, including recently divorced parents. (See where I'm going yet?) One day his dad picks him up from my moms house where I was spending the weekend and of course we introduce the parents. (Are you there yet?) Well lo and behold our parents are just gaga about each other.... a couple months later they get married. So... what to do, 'cause now we, who were dating and are only teenagers, are now step-siblings.
We didn't 'grow up together' I lived with my dad and he lived with his dad (and my mom). But we did stop dating, we tryed again when we were older but by then things were just too ingrained. Sometimes I wonder.... we've both been married and divorced. (In his case 3 times.) Did we miss the boat? Were we ment to be together? Its a question we've asked each other a couple of times over the years. We almost never see each other. (Its been over 5 yrs this time.) Its just easier that way.
So OP, by now her birthday has come and gone. I hope the two of you had a great time and that where ever your relationship goes, you follow your heart.
 shyman1104
Joined: 4/1/2007
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Posted: 5/19/2007 12:26:29 AM
hi bobby
I'm guessing the reason you feel comfortable with each other is because she doesnt see you as a sexual being but as family. Try anything on and you might just end up in the family doghouse.
 Forum Guy
Joined: 5/14/2007
Msg: 64
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Posted: 5/19/2007 10:43:38 AM
I think its beautiful ...keeping the family close.
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