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 CREAM
Joined: 11/23/2004
Msg: 1
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I used to date a women who was bipolar, she was sexy, sweet, fun as well as very bright.
I didn't know at first, until around 5 months into the relationship. She would be all happy and stuff one day or perhaps weeks, then she would be psycho. I caught her at time where she would just be freaking out, maybe PMS .... so I speculated, not like I know much about it. When I asked whats was wrong, she told me she was bipolar. I didn't know how to react until I read up on it. I dated her for about a month and a half afterwards, and then broke it off, not because she was bipolar or ill for that matter.

Anyways, that was a messed up time, and I wanna know whether you would date someone knowingly who is ill, or continue on a realtionship with someone who is ill.
 SweetKristine
Joined: 8/26/2004
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Would you date someone who is mentally ill??????
Posted: 4/8/2005 6:34:01 AM
i had to break off something with a guy who was dealing with depression, not because he had depression, but because he refused to do anything about it. I wouldnt not date someone just because of a mental illness, as long as they were seeking treatment for it :)
 scott 1
Joined: 4/2/2005
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Posted: 4/8/2005 6:42:39 AM
I would like to know if someone I was dating had a mental disease like bipolar.
I could see some people wanting to hide this initially.
I would have to talk to her in depth,and family members
sorry,but my ex-girl friend's mom was bipolar and she would really go off
the deep end.scary in fact
 CREAM
Joined: 11/23/2004
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Posted: 4/8/2005 6:50:48 AM
Your right Scott, it would be very useful to know that at the beginning of a relationship if that was the case. Being ill is really tough, and society has this huge misconception about ill people, well after "A Beautiful Mind" things has changed. People still tend to think ill people are dangerous and implusive people. They are but not that bad.

Knowing the truth at the beginning really allows you to handle certain situations you might find yourself in when in the relationship, and believe me you will encounter one with time.

However, if you knew someone was schizophrenic at the start will you wanna continue with the realtionship, i dunno if I would.

My roommate in college was a schizophrenic, and I would think that he would just come at me at night or sometime for no reason, I was 18 and still under media influence, now I understand they are harmless but very paranoid and even delusional at times.
 blondiebabeo
Joined: 2/7/2005
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Posted: 4/8/2005 7:15:10 AM
NO!!. Been their done that.. Lived with someone for 6 years..With OCD,and Anxiety disorder..He wouldnt keep on his meds.. Major problems.. IF.. Your not going to help yourself,then NO ONE can..
 Frrosty
Joined: 3/21/2004
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Posted: 4/8/2005 7:37:39 AM
Apparently I often do.

 Fry Lock
Joined: 10/4/2005
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Posted: 4/22/2007 1:34:11 PM
I've never dated anyone who WASN'T.

But I don't pick the crazy ones on purpose.

Well, maybe it was on purpose, cause I do tend to attract that type of fellow.

I'm trying to pick different qualities now, but we'll have to see.

Fry
 sdliebchen
Joined: 6/23/2006
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Posted: 4/24/2007 3:29:47 AM
I was married to one with bi-polar disorder and depression. No fun.

He would make the nicest meal, we eat, and then, out of nowwhere, he would start yelling for 2 hours. The next day he acted, as if nothing happened. It was like a rollercoaster.

I tried everything to help him, but he didn't see that he had a problem. Oh, I take that back: I was his problem. So his mommy said. LOL.

Not sure if I would do it again. It's like wasting your life on somebody else, always on your toes not knowing, what's next.
 Kramer111
Joined: 5/19/2005
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Posted: 4/24/2007 1:18:32 PM
No I wouldnt....freinds sure but not a relationship.
 JustKelly70
Joined: 2/9/2007
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Posted: 4/24/2007 1:24:21 PM
I think I did, What was I thinking
 JustKelly70
Joined: 2/9/2007
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Posted: 4/24/2007 1:30:09 PM
I do know someone that is bipolar, The pills don't help she is better off without them, Great person, just has a problem and she knows it so I think she knows how to deal with it.
 TxShooterGuy
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Posted: 4/24/2007 11:42:07 PM
LMAO at Frosty's comment! It seems that they come and find ME, TOO, FROSTY! (HIGH FIVE).
 TxShooterGuy
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Posted: 4/24/2007 11:53:26 PM
I used to have a line in a profile that said, "I don't care if you're taking Prozac, just PLEASE don't act like you need THORAZINE!" At the risk of hurting the feelings of some Thorazine jockeys out there, I stand by that statement. Are you mentally ill? Is your illness in remission and well maintainerd? Are you doing the right thinngs to make sure it stays that way ? Will you COONTINUE to do those things which are necessary to stay in remission?

If my prospective date can answer all these questions in the affirmative, then YES, I would date someone who is "mentally ill".
 Jonathan85
Joined: 4/16/2007
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Posted: 4/25/2007 9:12:17 AM
If it is managed, yeah. But management typically means medication and maybe therapy (depending on how early something is diagnosed and treated).

If not: Nope. Especially if it isn't acknowledged.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
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Posted: 5/7/2007 11:45:09 PM
I once read that people would rather date a psychopath than someone who is fat.

Also, if you check out the mental hospitals and actually get to know the inmates, you discover that most of their reactions are fairly normal. Anyone would react like that if they were locked up in a mental ward. There are maximum security prisons that are easier to break out of. Think about this: a suicidal case can be locked up, so can an anorexic, as they are danger to themselves and can be sectioned in the UK (locked up against their will until a doctor says they are OK). But a serial killer like Manson can be locked up in facility that is far easier to break out of. Plus, really bad treatment.

Also, most are not criminally insane. Just victims of childhood abuse, or similar levels of trauma.

Pains in the ass for sure, but most people would rather know them than not. More interesting, for sure.

Compare a clinical depressive to a psycho-**** girlfriend who flies off the handle if you even mention a name that sounds like any exes of yours. Or one of those really pretty girls who hangs out in bars with any scum who wants her.

Check their traits in the DSM IV handbook.
You'll find the clinical depressive is not a definite clear cut case. Could be, but not all the time.
The other 2 will probably come out with 3 definite disorders.
But they're not diagnosed.

It's like "Catch 22". You're not really totally crazy if you can admit that you are.
It's the non-diagnosed in denial that will really crush your spirit and pour alcohol on your heart and then light it.
 the amazing kat
Joined: 11/24/2006
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Posted: 5/17/2007 11:46:53 PM
my ex had bipolar disorder...I am glad I dated him. It was both the best and worst relationship I've ever had. he was very passionate about everything, when all was going well... but he wasn't super good with his meds and so would get either depressed or manic at times.

If I was to date another person with a mental illness, I would really want him to be trying to work through his disorder and not just blaming others, or saying that there is nothing that he can do about it. I think that people with mental illness are just people...sometimes they need some special care but who doesn't from time to time...
 Woodsmoke and Oranges
Joined: 2/3/2007
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Posted: 5/20/2007 11:43:57 PM
I suffer from dysthemia. I am taking my meds. religously and have had therapy to help me deal with times when the depression comes back. I can look at myself in the mirror and say hey, I'm a good person and what will today bring. It's been a tough road but I know in myself that I am a strong person. A year ago I could not have said that.

So, yes I would date someone that is mentally ill. A huge caveat though would be as long as they realized that they suffered from a mental illlness and they were doing something about it for themselves. I've found that's the biggest issue. We are still responsible for ourselves and that we have to make those decisions for our own inner being. No point in doing it for someone else. It needs to be for yourself, to become healthy and to like yourself.

Peter
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
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Posted: 5/20/2007 11:44:43 PM
I have a good friend who was on a star trajectory until Schizophrenia knocked him down many years ago. He is such an incredibly talented, creative man, and is probably one of the most self-aware people I have ever met. He needs to be.. he is constantly monitoring himself and his feelings.

I would say I wouldn’t date someone with a severe mental illness… BUT I’d date HIM if he were interested (he’s not remotely interested.. and am I fortunate to have his friendship in my life). I know him and respect him and have seen his courage… I think that makes the difference when we’re speculating on the possibility of dating some unknown person with a mental illness.
 amazon214
Joined: 5/12/2007
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Posted: 5/25/2007 12:17:43 PM
Here you go again dykestergal. What's wrong? Did they ban you from posting on thepink sofa so you came to this site to do what you do best?
I read what frbdn fruit said about you in thepinksofa forum and based on what she ( who knows you personally) says about you its you who is ill. You need to stop this.
I hope this woman you write of now sues you.
 gizmosellschickens
Joined: 5/20/2007
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Posted: 5/26/2007 4:52:35 PM
Mental illeness goes thru phases, and OCD, PSTD, aniexty are terrible on the body, but sometimes medications does not work for certian people. Relationships are possible with most mentally ill people, but there a big difference between a person with aniexty disorder most thier life than shizoherina. I think some people suffer stay married for years, and a lot of people with mental illness use drugs legal or otherwise to calm the symtoms. The media is sick in throwing labels on people with mental illness. Most people are mentally ill symtoms vary most thier life. some Certian people will not know if they were suffering because they know how to hide the illness from people. Medications in realty masked certain illness that may be congitivie in nature, and need talk therpy than drugging with thorizine, xanax, cloziral. I would date a person mentally ill, but I want to know the long term history of thier actions since past behavior will predict future behavior. Mentall illness is a brain inbalance a lot of times, and people that accept that mental will never go away, but come in ebbs and flows over time tend to do better over the long term.
 mark45424
Joined: 12/1/2005
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Posted: 5/26/2007 4:58:33 PM
I dated a woman who was mentally ill, at first she was really nice, but she always made boiled eggs for meals..
not much off a chicken egg fan, well, not all the time...
then she started dying them, like at easter time. and making me look for them...
then she really got nuts and dressed funny...
thats her in my profile picture...
 mark45424
Joined: 12/1/2005
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Posted: 5/26/2007 5:01:19 PM
so who is crazy now ???
and who likes warren zevon?
 mark45424
Joined: 12/1/2005
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Posted: 5/26/2007 5:02:29 PM
Tiger, yer nuts, but i like ya
 mark45424
Joined: 12/1/2005
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Posted: 5/26/2007 5:03:15 PM
if you are not a little crazy then you are just a waste
 Karl the Hermit
Joined: 3/31/2007
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Posted: 5/26/2007 6:00:18 PM
I don't really mind crazy girls, as long as they're MY kind of crazy. I do have to draw a line somewhere, though, and I think my line is the "Functionality Line." I have a hard time dealing with someone who's so messed up they can't even pretend to live a semblance of a normal life. I know I do a fair job of it despite myself...

IOW, anyone further over the rainbow than me is probably not a good match...

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