get messages from guys I can't possibly have anything in common with. When I reply, I always say hey, thanks for checking me out, but we're different here here and here, good luck, and would you believe I get NASTYGRAMS? They tell me I'm closed minded, etc, etc. Yeah, I think honesty is indeed the best policy, but not always appreciated.
You're singing my song. Often times I get nastiness back. Some people just don't have the ability to read a profile for what it actually states. They read what they want and they assume that preferences are bendable, overlookable or ignorable. I have finally hit the proverbial limit and hid my profile. I just can't take any more of it.
Honesty is always the way to go.