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|I too agree that maybe these are not the best of times and that everyone should take precautions when meeting someone for the first time (Men or women) believe me men don't have a copyright on doing weird things. |
You choose to live your life by distrusting everyone you don't know until proven otherwise, that's fine, maybe that works for you.
Your friend chooses to trust people until they prove themselves unworthy of her trust, maybe that approach has works best for her!!! We can only go through life doing what we feel works best for us.....
Two different approaches by two different people!!!! One is not right while the other is wrong, it's just what works for each individuals!!!!!
Your thread is very well written and very informative, the only issue i have with it is the title!!!! Your friend point of view although different than your does not brand her an idiot!!!
Huge difference between giving someone your advice as a friend and then belittling them and calling them idiots because they choose not to take said advice!!!!!
Posted: 2/4/2007 5:19:40 PM
|I am really against the idea of thinking you are protected because you have pepper spray. For one thing, pepper spray is not mace, and some people have high tolerance to those things. The second thing, like any weapon you have it has to be accessible at the time. You can't say, please wait on your attack while I get out the pepper spray. Even if out, the spray must be pointed in the right direction, and wind conditions could cause it to harm the very person it is meant to protect. If you think you want to get your daughter such a device, make sure she takes a class on the proper use and limitations on it.|
Posted: 2/4/2007 5:36:53 PM
|first date for anyone should always be in a public place and always let a friend or family know where you are going, etc|
sometimes ill even display it on my msn so that if i dont go back online they get concerned and try to contact me..... it never hurts to play it safe
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:00:20 PM
|Good points there Sdiperwoman.I think the first meet or date, whatever people want to call it. Should be met on common ground. Personal if it was me meeting up with a girl I have never met before, I'd meet her of her grounds, that is, where ever she feels comfortable to meet and I'd leave that to her, that is her choice. Same with a first date, at least if a guy gives a girl that option, doesn't matter to me whether I drive, or she drives or take our own cars and meet up. Thing is, if someone care TRUST you or you to them, after awhile then things are different.|
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:01:40 PM
|Good points there Spiderwoman.I think the first meet or date, whatever people want to call it. Should be met on common ground. Personal if it was me meeting up with a girl I have never met before, I'd meet her of her grounds, that is, where ever she feels comfortable to meet and I'd leave that to her, that is her choice. Same with a first date, at least if a guy gives a girl that option, doesn't matter to me whether I drive, or she drives or take our own cars and meet up. Thing is, if someone care TRUST you or you to them, after awhile then things are different.|
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:45:46 PM
|in this day and age, it is idiotic to tell a stranger where you live, have them meet you in a parking lot and have the bubble headed stupidity to think it will all be ok... Even a strong nasty, mean hooker can end up dead and thrown in the river by jumping into the car with a stranger.|
I feel you were one hundred percent right to warn the foolish friend. Come on, the guy has to even think she is an idiot for agreeing to meet in a place for him to pick up...
It is always intelligent to take all precautions, I am totally against the people that want to just run right out and meet up with the person to see if they are really good looking or who they say they are... I say get to know them on POF and ask questions...then talk on the phone and ask more and find out is you have things in common besides these fill in the blank questions that dont have answers like in between or how you feel... then meet for lunch or coffee, and take it slow... why the big hurry?
how does that person know that is a fake photo of the OP?
Posted: 2/4/2007 9:09:53 PM
|I agree about taking precautions,alot of the most hanous crimes were commited by guys (Mostly) that looked like a nice guy ,boy next door types...Be cautious and if its uncomfortable you need not stay and be NICE like I have in the past...Its a sad world when there isnt much trust but trust in a stranger can get you terriblyy hurt or dead!! all in the sake of looking for LOVE!!|
I think when this realm of meeting people theres sooo many weirdos and I personally am getting tired of meeting (well mostly just talking actually) to these guys ...they well alot of them have soo many hang up (malfuctions) its really scarey to begin with so getting in the car with one is just plain stupid..It doesnt make anybody an idiot its just something you shouldnt do... Men have the same problem also theres just as many odd women Im sure!!
Its hard to get to really know someone anyway and everyone puts on their best face in the beggining I have been fooled alot!!So trusting from the get go is fer sure a NO NO!! Its just really difficlt to find a keeper lets face it the last guy I was so sure of he wound up to be a liar and a cheated so much for trust,it really hurts but Life goes on!! jewel
Posted: 2/5/2007 12:47:41 AM
first of all, the Op wasnt referring to your post (about using the word idiot), she was referring to post #9. had nothing to do with you.
Second, I am laughing my ASS off at the image you described. You have got to be kidding me! Full bondage with a dildo up his bunghole HAHAHAHAHA
I mean come on, are guys really gonna do that on a first date? Im STILL laughing so hard im coughing.
Posted: 2/5/2007 2:25:52 AM
|People are stupid.|
Posted: 2/5/2007 11:49:30 AM
|yea, betterlate, i agree -- just yesterday a guy from another site with whom i have not had as much as a 10 minute conversation, and about whom i know nothing other than what's in his profile, said to me: "i thought we could meet today?". and, in our very first two minute IM conversation he also said, "let's meet for****ails" to which i just didn't respond.|
i mean, i wanna meet any guy i BECOME interested in, but i am NOT going to meet just anyone, certainly not someone i know nothing about! (do they think we are all desperate or something?? aarrgghh)
bottomline, my experience of the past several months in online personals has taught me that guys who are pushy about meeting right away are the married ones and the players. so, nowadays? when that happens, he gets quickly deleted. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>
Posted: 2/5/2007 11:56:11 AM
|Well, its wise to be careful, but the extreme you are taking it to in the original post is just plain wacky.|
Posted: 2/5/2007 2:31:57 PM
|conemaugh: you mixed up the meeting day AND left your phone in the car all night?? really?? wow, that seems almost unbelievable. anyhow, too bad that happened to ya.|
and yes, Ikusa, i tend to agree with you. besides, it seems a little odd to me to be so VERY judgmental and critical of the friend, what with the OP's pic -- which looks something like, oh, i dunno, the cover of Hustler? i'm sorry, but if you wanna be taken seriously and not end up with guys who'll take advantage of you, then...
ah, then again... what do i know? ;-)
Posted: 2/6/2007 10:44:03 PM
|merf and ikusa.....bravo.|
Posted: 2/7/2007 2:13:49 PM
|yea, it can be scary for dudes too. that's true. |
...think about that gay man here in brooklyn who made a date to hook up with someone -- he didn't realize he was being set up by three homophobic jerks. and when he arrived they beat him up really terribly. he died a few days later. very, very sad.
so, you're right, you don't know what you're walking into.