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 MISS13
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 2
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hmmm...................36years-20years=16years old?????????????

Is that legal where you live????????????????????????????????????

 justme1202
Joined: 7/26/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/4/2007 9:36:13 AM
I dont anywhere where the OP stated the guy was 16 he did mention that the guy was NOT yet 20.

OP Love has no bounds.
 Nicky2Tone
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/4/2007 9:48:55 AM
^^^ The guy's age in his profile is 36 and he states in his original post there is a twenty+ year age difference between him and the guy. That would make the guy (KID) 16.

I have a huge problem with any 36 yo dating a 16 yo, yes. If it's not illegal where this guy lives, it should be.
 looking4u2345
Joined: 11/1/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/4/2007 9:50:56 AM
Well...you refer to him as a boy. I think you know the answer. Twenty could be too young for you. At twenty you are so much different than you are at thirty-six. At twenty I know I had completely different priorities. I was just discovering who I am. I hadn't even figured out my major. I don't think he would know enough about real life yet. I personally would not have much in common with someone so young except the obvious.

Your origingal post did say 20. I don't know where people are comming up with 16. If it is 16 that is illegal and definately WRONG. So, my answer is yes 20 is too young and 16 will get you put in jail.
 luvtolaff
Joined: 10/24/2004
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Posted: 3/4/2007 9:51:11 AM
He didn't have to say the other one was 16. Do the math. He's 36 and it's a 20 year plus gap. That kind of age difference with one of them still in their teens is wrong, regarless if its a gay or straight relationship.
 looking4u2345
Joined: 11/1/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 3/4/2007 9:56:26 AM
^^^ I thought it was just the age gap. But, people started getting me thinking. Yea, sorry but still 20 is too young. Did I say that?
 Nicky2Tone
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/4/2007 10:42:35 AM
^^Ok, big difference in legality there between 16 and 19. I don't think age gaps matter the older both parties are, but him being 19 would be an issue for a lot of reasons. He probably hasn't had a lot of relationships and heading into his twenties, is going to want to go out and explore. It's rare that someone that age is not only capable but desiring an actual relationship.

Not telling you how to live, but at 36 you and a 19 year old are going to be at two very different places in your lives. If you're looking for an actual, long-term relationship (Although, I doubt it since your profile says you're seeking an intimate encounter) you'd do much better seeking someone a bit older than 19.
 sillygoose
Joined: 3/4/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/4/2007 11:39:58 AM
Your one sick dude for wanting to have sex with someone that is so young. Oh my gosh that is just so yucky.
 MISS13
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/4/2007 11:46:15 AM
Quite making excuses for your actions and go get some help....you're having sex with teenage boys....

And I do believe your first post is correct...20 plus age gap....you're in denial....stop backpeddling.

 SOBEIT19
Joined: 10/15/2006
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Posted: 3/4/2007 12:05:40 PM
YOu know, I just dont have an answer to that. I have an older friend 60's, he's single and gay, it's hard out there for him.. All he finds to date is young grifters.

Maybe if he looked for more age appropriate relationships he wouldn't be alone.. maybe not.. I just don't know. Love is hard anyway you slice it.
 Old West Hero
Joined: 2/1/2006
Msg: 13
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Posted: 3/4/2007 1:21:50 PM
ITS NOT VERY EASY MEETING A GUY WHO IS GENUINE AND PURE OF MIND AND SPIRIT AS HE


As a male hetro.. all I can say is.. Gee.. I like the appeal of a sweet, young, innocent child too.. everyone finds innocence intriguing.. but HEY!!!.. we don't all go out and seduce teens, or emotionally immature people.. just so we can feel like a protective daddy, who has a dependant personality worshipping us.

edit:.. lol.. by "child", i meant innocent young person.. not "child". lol.
 Dr.Strange
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 3/9/2007 8:40:40 PM

Quite making excuses for your actions and go get some help....you're having sex with teenage boys....

And I do believe your first post is correct...20 plus age gap....you're in denial....stop backpeddling.


I would be inclined to agree..........stop robbing the cradle and go after some one closer to Your own age,You played with fire and got burnt.

to answer the query to Your thread question as to whether they work or not? I guess that would be a no
 blastkissed
Joined: 2/9/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 3/21/2007 1:44:56 PM
All of your ever-so-convenient age dodging remarks have indicated to me that this is NOT yet a man, but a boy!

Welcome to the world of pedophilia and you're lucky I'm not anywhere near you or I'd castrate you myself.

Dirty S.O.B.

I'm glad he finally got away from you.

Gawd, I hate it when sick freaking people inject spiritual hocus pocus reason crap into their perverse sexuality.
 Dr.Strange
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/21/2007 3:01:28 PM

at da end of the day it does not matter wat age people r age is jus a number an if he is 16 it is legal in the uk..... if u love some1 for them then it dun matter wat age they r... i myself am a 20 year old male an i prefer older guys up to the age of 40 the guys around my way that r my age r 2 imature so dats y i go for older guys but age is not a problem remeber its jus a number.......


Legaly by law maybe? but morally it is morally inappropriate by many standards.


Welcome to the world of pedophilia and you're lucky I'm not anywhere near you or I'd castrate you myself.


By law it is not pedophilia,i'm kinda of embarrassed for you and your post,such emotion ....what would it solve ..nothing.
 -=Kalidor=-
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/21/2007 3:16:33 PM

,i'm kinda of embarrassed for you and your post,such emotion

You get used to it after a while.
 alyosha
Joined: 11/13/2006
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/21/2007 3:40:38 PM
Wow! I can't help thinking that all the negative, even hostile responses you got are because you are gay. Far as I can see loving and missing this guy is as legit and as worthy of sympathy as if you were a 36 year old hetero who'd lost a 19 year old female lover.

My condolences and hopefully you will find both straight and gay people who are more tolerant than some of those here.
 Irish Eyez
Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 20
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Posted: 3/21/2007 3:48:26 PM
OP:

I, too, wish you every happiness and luck in life.

I agree with alyosha; the bitterness and incredible hostile responses from some on here are truly pathetic simply because you're gay.
 blastkissed
Joined: 2/9/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 3/21/2007 4:37:22 PM
The man is 38. He states 20 +yrs age difference.

He doesn't give the kids age!!! Why? Because he knows. Wake up!

And it has nothing to do with him being gay, give me a freaking break people.
 *mandrake*
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/21/2007 4:48:37 PM
I'm looking at the same figures as blastkissed, and I keep coming up with the same feelings. He is just a "kid". That is a sad situation. Find a man, and leave the boys alone.!! You deserve what you got and more!
 Dr.Strange
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/21/2007 5:00:01 PM

I'm looking at the same figures as blastkissed, and I keep coming up with the same feelings. He is just a "kid". That is a sad situation. Find a man, and leave the boys alone.!! You deserve what you got and more!


well at least the OP is not threatening some one's genitals,how does that make it right
just a little too much gay hate crime for Me.
 canyunflyer
Joined: 2/6/2006
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Posted: 3/21/2007 5:10:10 PM
First off: Love and romance and relationships are the same...whether straght or homosexual. the concepts and dynamics are identical. So, every kind of relationship problems and pains that we read about...(or experience) as straights, apply to queers to. No difference. So.....to the OP: You may refer to virtually any post on relationship problems in these forums and it will be useful to you.... sexual preference has nothing to do with it.

Howvever: that being said..... If you are messing around with virgin teen age boys...well, others have allready said it better than I could!!!!! Normal relationship problems..etc...do NOT apply!!
 Robinthefirst
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 3/21/2007 5:12:48 PM
You fagots really need to stay in the closet. Normal people really don't want to be forced into your agenda, like all the TV shows portraying being queer as normal. It isn't, you people are sick. Sorry but it was Adam and Eve, not, Adam and Frank!!
 EpisodeIV
Joined: 6/28/2006
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Posted: 3/21/2007 5:26:30 PM
...too young for me (i know that in my heart of hearts) as tweenty plus age gap and he not even 20.


I read this as... partner as twenty, plus age gap... and partner not even 20... so partner close to 20 but not quite so... 18-19. ( nowhere near 16 ) The writing of someone distraught as evidenced by the subject and entire post.

Of course the maturity of most 19 y.o.s, either gender, is very often different than someone more than just a few years older. They are just beginning their experiences of life as an adult whereas someone well into their 20's and 30's has most likely had some significant experiences already that have shaped them. It is probably the extra excitement on both sides that make for an initial attraction with much of an age gap. Say more than five years. There is always extra risk involved. And extra risk initially usually translates to extra excitement.

Sorry to hear of your loss. Welcome to those of us who have loved and lost. They say it's better than to never have loved at all. I wonder sometimes. But here I am... fishing.

I suggest that Dr. Phil thang... relationship autopsy. Work to find out what you are really looking for. Find out why this recent relationship pulled you in even though on some level you were aware of some of the risk of involvment with such an age gap. Find the lessons the experience has provided and try to incorporate them into your life in a positive way. Enjoy the good memories.

I think that it's being a same gender relationship has little bearing on whether it would have or could have worked or not. On second thought, being same gender may actually be an advantage. Those of us looking for a different gender partner often seem to be living on different planets. Mind the gap eh? LOL
 -=Kalidor=-
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/21/2007 9:49:39 PM

You fagots really need to stay in the closet. Normal people really don't want to be forced into your agenda, like all the TV shows portraying being queer as normal. It isn't, you people are sick. Sorry but it was Adam and Eve, not, Adam and Frank!!



HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....


Wait what...?


You did NOT just say that!!!
 a_sweet_fishy
Joined: 3/11/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:04:16 PM
Honestly, no matter how mature he seems, at 19 there are going to also be major areas of immaturity. I know of very few (read none) relationships with that great an age difference that actually work. I am sorry for your hurt and I am also sorry there are so many cruel, ignorant, prejudiced people ready to rip you apart. Good luck....the only advice I know to give is to just give your heart time to heal before trying to move on.
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