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 DeusXMachina
Joined: 10/14/2006
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My main concern would be getting to bed and finding one dong too many.

My initial reaction says .. No. Although I suspect a lot of the men who end up partnered with someone who has undergone gender reassignment once said that.
 pantsonfire
Joined: 7/19/2006
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Posted: 3/24/2007 12:28:34 AM
Yeah course,, after all they say variety is the spice of life, the hotter the better I reckon....
 restless_native
Joined: 12/17/2006
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Posted: 3/24/2007 6:27:13 AM
It depends how good they were at blow jobs.

Did you know that there is absolutely no biological difference between the inside of a mans' mouth and the inside of a womans' mouth?
 freebird22
Joined: 9/30/2006
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/25/2007 8:50:12 AM
Yes I've seen the Crying Game! Excellent Flick! Thanks for bringing it to the table DCowboy
 rockchick24/7
Joined: 9/10/2005
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Posted: 6/13/2007 9:47:16 AM
Someone born in the wrong body often recognise they are different from a very young age. It is NOT just a sexual thing but on every level. Studies have shown that there is a difference at a genetic level so no amount of psychotherapy will cure these "freaks" (oh don't you just love bigotry, and from a nurse too!).

If it isn't for you, fair enough but these people do not deserve some of the bigoted, ignorant attitudes that have been shown on here. Very often they have gone through hell and back before they have even got to the operation stage.

I would much rather date a caring, loving man that happened to be born a woman than some of the so called "real-men" here.
 rockchick24/7
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 6/14/2007 4:36:02 AM
Yes we all have free will....hence why there are so many ignorant bigots around who are happy to spout off rubbish instead of taking the time to actually understand issues. An uninformed opinion is infinitely worse than no opinion.
 forum_moderator
Joined: 1/24/2003
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Posted: 6/14/2007 5:34:35 PM

Keep it on track people and knock off the insults - vacations time is upon those who continue to lose decorum.

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 restless_native
Joined: 12/17/2006
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Posted: 12/12/2007 4:52:24 AM

If one has the ability to pass as a natal female 99.9% of the time then if you get to a point where a serious relationship might develop then sure, you tell the man or the woman of your past.


Surely it would be better for this to be made clear initially rather than at a point further down the line. After all, there are those who could be just as upset about feeling that they were deceived rather than about the actual details of a persons' past.

It could also be contrued that someone was trying to get their foot in the door before dropping the bombshell which could imply that maybe a person isn't as secure about themselves as they claim.

If any relationship is to succeed, honesty is probably the most important factor. If a person has anything in their past that is going to have a bearing on the relationship they need to be upfront about it. This applies to lots of things. If a person has been in prison. If they are still married (although separated). If they have a long term illness etc. It doesn't just apply to people who choose to hop the sexual fence.
 restless_native
Joined: 12/17/2006
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Posted: 12/12/2007 5:54:06 AM

To an extent I might agree with you Restless though from experience it is perfectly possible for one to enjoy a civilised conversation with someone where one's past has no relevance.


I agree with this completely. It's perfectly possible to have a conversation with anyone without the need for the question of a persons' sexuality to be brought into it.

However, the topic up for discussion is relationships. I believe that if a person is seeking a long term relationship with anyone, to try and keep any important detail about themselves secret for any period of time is only asking for trouble.

This is probably even more relevant with a subject like gender re-assignment because as you say, there are some very intollerant people out there. Surely it's better to become aware of any intollerance sooner rather than later. Otherwise you're just fooling yourself aren't you? It must be better to not to put yourself in a position where you have to deal with that in the first place and simply let them pass on by.
 pantsonfire
Joined: 7/19/2006
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Posted: 12/18/2007 4:32:03 AM
^^ So slightly off topic but still relevant (I hope).. What exactly makes a woman a woman in your eyes???

What is it that is different??


I am 6 feet tall, have size 8/9 feet, can discuss the subtleties of of 4 4 2 versus a 4 5 1 formation, know the offside rule, know where silly mid off stands, know what a dousra is and have definite preferences re league and union on the rules rather than the players, yet I am a born female... I'm probably more masculine than many transgendered women TBH ... Yet you'd prefer me to a petite, pretty girlie TG woman??
 pantsonfire
Joined: 7/19/2006
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Posted: 12/18/2007 5:33:48 AM
I have to say, basing your preferences on someones skeletal make up is a new one on me .... Bet my femur's longer than yours is ....
 Steve_Sandy
Joined: 3/19/2006
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Posted: 12/18/2007 7:03:50 AM
on here to date women, not to date wimmin who used to be men

guess the only advantage a sex change would have is the inability to get pregnant.

But not for me, if was into blokes, would get one which did not have the bits chopped off :)

Luckily I am not, not sure why people need the op, but whatever turns you on I guess
 HookyMan
Joined: 11/4/2007
Msg: 123
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Posted: 12/18/2007 11:12:15 AM
The only thing I know for sure in life is that we seek a feeling and not a situation. With that as my benchmark - If I met someone and it felt right then that should be the course I follow.

I have an aquaintance who has crossed the divide and back again. Lovely person and attractive to many people.

God bless us one and all!
 Steve_Sandy
Joined: 3/19/2006
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Posted: 12/19/2007 10:50:29 AM
Msg 130, admitting to wanting sex with animals might not be the best thing to admit to, can't see the attraction myself :)

Pretty sure that this is a person on person dating forum, maybe you want

www.beastdating.com ?
 oggers
Joined: 5/10/2007
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Posted: 7/6/2008 11:53:10 PM
Who on here would admit to having dated a post (or pre ) op transexual ..? and did you know at the time ?

... and NO , I havent lol !
 travelingtree
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 154
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Posted: 11/8/2008 1:59:13 PM
ill respond to this.

i have dated a person who was transitioning from female to male. he's has top surgery and has been on hormone therapy for some time. he looks, acts, sounds, things, feels, smells, is a guy. and a damn hot one i might add. i knew before we became involved that he was transitioning, and although i wrestled initially with alot of inner confusion, the first time we kissed all of my hesitations were nixed.

hes amazing, and although some things about him are different, hes no less of a guy in my eyes than anyone else ive been intimate with. we have this stereotype in mind that what sits in the heart of our crotch defines our sex, and this isnt in my opinion, accurate but only leads to ostracizing people, to judgment and stigma. sexuality and gender are not black and white issues, as with almost everything in life, its a spectrum.
 Steve_Sandy
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Posted: 11/9/2008 7:20:47 AM
know a guy locally who spends all his time in dresses and makeup, then his curtains fell down one day :)

another case was of a lady who transformed to a male, but then had a baby after finding out that babies are cute...

not sure how you could have a physical relationship with a woman who was born a man :)
 beachbumRON
Joined: 2/2/2006
Msg: 165
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Posted: 2/26/2009 3:11:34 PM
yes i would i have found that beautiful trassexual women have so much more love to give and would even consider marriage
 electric-gypsy
Joined: 10/23/2007
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Posted: 5/9/2009 7:47:29 AM
No, the whole transexual idea kinda grosses me out. I wouldn't even date a real man who'd ever BEEN with a tranny. Quite disturbing how many "straight men" get turned on by them, though. Just goes to show men have no boundaries when it comes to sex.
 Dark Owl
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 5/13/2009 2:46:52 PM
I don't think I'd have any problem dating a mtf transsexual as long as I feel attraction. As for the sex, there is no better stimulant like your own mind, if you know how to use it of course.
 hicaril
Joined: 9/27/2008
Msg: 172
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Posted: 5/18/2009 9:32:19 PM
As a psychologist and cultural anthropologist I recognize that every person has, within themselves, a mix of gender and sexual characteristics. We all live on a continuum between culturally idealized masculine and feminine characteristics as well as on a continuum between heterosexual and homosexual attractions. We are attracted to one another in a variety of ways, each to another individual in different ways, people with attractive characteristics, morphologies, behaviors, gender presentation, sexual attributes and impulses getting together for different reasons. These gender and sexual differences between individuals are obvious to the broad minded, to the the observant and the educated, However less so for those few blinded by fears-of-prejudice or religious dogmas.

Each gender and sexual predisposition has biological roots born within our species, as well as all other species, each resulting from varied hormonal balances during fetal development, for us, in the fourth month of gestation. These conditions predispose the growth and development of the hypothalamus, a primal part of the brain that controls gender and sexuality. These hormonal balances within the mother are effected by environmental as well as genetic predispositions (malnutrition, environmental stressors as well as chromosomal/genetic variations), not to be confused with something "abnormal" these variations within our species guard against over-population and arise randomly thru-out all populations and all cultures... these gender and sexual differentiations are involuntary by their nature!

Such varied gender and sexual characteristics and their attendant drives offer a diversity that allows bonding between people across gender-lines and sexual-differentiations... they create attractions between all individuals, social groups, clans and communities, supporting a bonding with each other, everybody attracted in different ways to each other, males bonding with each other, females appreciating each other and sexual reproduction to occur... all people poses caring impulses that offer mutual attraction, mutual support and ultimately survival within a biological system-of-attraction!

These are the fundamentals of our dating attraction folks, and as we better define our impulse toward each other in this grand cyber-pond let us be true to who we are, let us get in touch with the nature of our gender and our internal sexual drive, and bond together with honesty, mutual respect and self awareness...

Oh Yes, the issues of homophobic-panic (homosexuals in denial) are the result of people out of touch with their gender and sexual nature, finding themselves in a personal, often sublimated, psychological conflict with themselves, out of touch with their gender balance or sexual nature. This is another issue... so maybe later. Caril Ridley
 barbiebabe3000
Joined: 5/4/2009
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Posted: 6/2/2009 1:19:05 PM
Ya I would, it really wouldnt bother me.
 Alex198x
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Posted: 6/2/2009 2:26:07 PM
I dated one, see my post on here. She's the only female (or wateva) that would give me a chance.
 Mallorylick
Joined: 9/30/2006
Msg: 189
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Posted: 6/2/2009 9:20:40 PM
I would definitely have no problem with either a post-op or even pre-op transexual. We are all beings born with needs and desires. Never mind the sex for a moment. People who are transexuals are people who need love compassion understanding and acceptance. The people who go through the whole process of becoming male or female is not something that is done without a lot of soul searching and proper counselling (if someone else has pointed this out already forgive me I haven't read all the other replies). The process of transitioning is a very difficult one. Aside from the hormonal and psychological conflicts the person is going through, the risk of becoming a pariah is also very great. It is for this reason alone that support and understanding are an imperative.

I would be very comfortable dating a post op transexual because we all need love. Since I can't find what I'm looking for in a genetic female, Id be happy with a post op who could be just as loving and nurturing.

Well anyway, that's my input.

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 electric-gypsy
Joined: 10/23/2007
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Posted: 6/3/2009 5:10:42 AM
I find it insulting that some people think all it takes to be a woman is the ability to squeeze into a size 13 stiletto. Until he can bleed for a week, produce babies, suffer water retention and menopause, and a host of other feminine treats, they are not women. There’s a whole lifelong experience to being female, the way we’re conditioned and socialised, the values we’re taught, how we’re expected to live and behave, what we’re expected to aspire to, what we’re taught to fear and embrace, our emotional development. The list is endless. Transsexuals get only some of the physical attributes and none of the sociopsychological conditioning.

I have nothing against transgender people and I buy the fact that they probably are born with the wrong equipment. But like it or not, there’s more to being a woman than having a hole between your legs.
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