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 Jameseroo
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 1
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So I was thinking lately .. I have met a few people from these websites and by in large the majority have simply been attention-wh0res. By this I mean people who are initially interested in meeting up and then prefer to spend just about all of their time on these various websites trolling for new comments or "pokes", etc. Yea, I know there are lots of great people on there - but I have a question pertaining to that in just a moment.

What have your experiences been with these websites? And do you guys have any tricks to spot these personalities early on?

Just wanted to see what others have found ..

_james_
 BigA1224
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 2
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Posted: 3/23/2007 9:43:50 PM
I have to be honest. I've been on my space for over 3 years, it's a great way to keep in contact with people I've knewn from old schools, jobs, etc. If a guy doesn't have a profile (says he doesn't or just doesn't) I have learned from experience he's almost always hiding something.

By looking at someone's profile you can tell a lot about them. You can tell if a person has friends, a social life, see a bunch of different pics (rather than 1 and then you meet and they look NOTHING like that in person), you can see what stuff they are into (music, movies, hobbies, etc) all at one shot. It just gives you a quick insight in to a person.

Sometimes it reveals things you are glad to see right way like for instance 1 guy on here had a g/f and I saw her on his profile, he said that they broke up but she had posted "I love you" comments a few days prior, she was also in #1 spot and his profile said "in a relationship" finally he pretty much admitted he was lying and has a g/f.

Also if a guy has a ton of porn stars and hot girls on his top friends rather than real friends, family (I have my brothers, cousins, friends, etc) it leaves a negative impression on me as well. However if a guy has pics of his hmm say mom's retirement party, him and his sister, his dog/cats, his nephew, a great vacation with his buddies, etc.. well that's a man I would be more inclined to talk to.

Don't attack me about not having a profile... it's all opinion like everything else and this is what I have learned from recent experiences.
 Jameseroo
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/23/2007 9:47:23 PM
Biga1224, hey .. thats actually a really great way to put a positive spin on it actually.

See .. I have only had frustrating / "let-down" experiences so I never considered the possible positives.

Surely you must have seen the "type" I am talking about tho?

_james_
 spannna
Joined: 2/22/2007
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/23/2007 10:00:02 PM
hmmmmmmmm its a tough call. sometimes u can tell straight away that the person is a t0$$er and an attention seeker. theres the usual "lingere" or "no shirt because i have fab abs" shot that we have all seen and theres a new form of attention seeking that i was told about by a guy friend of mine. staying online so ur profile appears first in line for searches. id never even heard of that. i guess if someones always online u cant miss them right? which makes sence because lately all ive seen is the same faces when i log in. sad in a way..........
 hemlinezz
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/23/2007 10:16:18 PM
i was wondering that too, do you think the myspace thing is just a majorly centred person or?? I am not too techno myself, so curious..
 Thebestbeancounter
Joined: 10/11/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 3/23/2007 10:33:08 PM
I use myspace and facebook to keep in touch with old friends that I haven't talked to in years.. nothing more..
 hapeenurse
Joined: 5/5/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 3/23/2007 10:37:14 PM
hah really?
I use facebook to keep up with people from highschool, I can't imagine it holding my attention for any length of time.
 Funny_Girl
Joined: 10/27/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/24/2007 7:41:08 AM
I think anyone with a profile online, or that participates in an interactive way, such as blogging or in forums, is seeking attention to some degree. If they weren't, they wouldn't be attempting to communicate with others online.

Are you asking how to determine which ones plan on camping out at the computer forever, and which ones are interested in developing friendships that are about more than "wow, you're one fine lil hottie!"? If so, at your age, you should be able to determine this by now.

I don't use any of them, but I do participate here a good bit and I also have a blog. I don't weigh it too much cause all I wanna do is discuss topics that interest me...not seeking much more than that. Besides, what good would it do me to ponder things I have no control over?

Guess it comes down to the same thing friendship and dating does...when a person digs you, they'll make sure you know.:)
 Soledad86
Joined: 4/20/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/24/2007 7:52:33 AM
I do agree with you for the most part its a huge popularity contest, people are attention whores by nature, and they want to be noticed and appriciated to some extent, even if its a simple comment. I've met couple people off the site and were still friends, others, honestly I dont talk to, but theyre just people from high school and I'm often curious about how their life is turning out.
One time I decided to see if theres posibly a prospect for dating.. and I pretty much gave up after 3 pages. No originality whatsoever, crazy college kids.. bleah.
 ladysprite
Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/24/2007 8:31:52 AM
I have met a few myspace addicts in my day. You can tell these people by their friends list.. how many friends do they have?? how many seem to post to them ?

I have a myspace, but I use it to keep in touch with my friends. I have a limited friends list, of 35, and everyone on it is on it for a reason. They are very close friends.. I don't have time to post on myspace every day. Shoot.. i can't even seem to post once a week. LOL.

One funny thing.. I did have a guy from this site message me.. and the picture he sent was from a myspace.. he told me he was single.. when i asked about the pic (entitled my myspace pic) he said he had shut down his myspace.. "oh really,?" while i was in the middle of chat with him, I pull up his myspace, and it was functional, and said he was in a relationship. He wondered how I pulled that up so fast when I called him on the lie and ended the chat.. LOL..

It's called technology :)
 nerdygeek
Joined: 4/26/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 4/28/2007 2:14:31 PM
Jameseroo, _james_, jimdawg, jimmyhat,
I think you're looking for attention.
Sounds like you're a bit of a whiner and a bedwetter.
 GreenEyedBrat
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 4/28/2007 2:26:39 PM
I have a MySpace page for friends and family. My parents just moved to Spokane, so it's an awesome way to post vids of what their grandson is up to, showing off my purple kia, I even have one vid up for one of my roomies of him playing a song he wrote.

The downside is there are a lot of people who want to add you for no apparent reason. You just have to be picky about who you accept as friends. Still over all, with family spread out over the states, it is the best way I know of to keep them up to date with whats going on around here.
 diz73
Joined: 3/25/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 4/28/2007 2:35:47 PM
i have myspace, facebook, bebo etc and i wouldnt say im an attention whore lol. i rarely add guys that i dont already know, or i have added some that i met here at POF. random guys trolling for 'friends' dont get added to my list in those groups. so i guess it just depends on the person. ive actually found myself giving people on here my myspace link because it tells more about me than my profile here does. artwork, music, the types of friends i have, seeing the banter back and forth between us in my comments section, etc etc. good way to keep in touch with family spread across canada, old friends in england and elsewhere, etc. most of the people i know on myspace only use it for goofing around with friends and something to do when they are bored. perhaps you can spot the personality type of 'attention whore' by taking a look at their friends list. if the girl has a zillion guys on there and is posting comments on their pages all the time about them being hot or whatever, constantly putting up more provacative pics of herself to get attention, etc,,,maybe thats a sign of what she is really out looking for...
 thegreatrockyhill
Joined: 12/26/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 4/28/2007 4:26:08 PM
I just mess around on myspace. I've seen some old co-workers and classmates on there. It's fun to add bands and famous people and such. I don't take it too seriously. If people want me to add them I do. Some I talk to, others I don't.

We're all trying to promote ourselves in some way aren't we? :)
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 4/28/2007 4:51:28 PM
I've been on my space for about 3 years. It's just an amusing way to show some of my personality and to stay in touch with friends. There are people who use it as a popularity contest ..but I think you just need to follow your gut instinct. I have quite a few friends on there but many are bands that I worked with or am a fan of. The page itself is just little bits and pieces of my life to share with others .....
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