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 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 2
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I assume the gal is unattached when she message me. At that point it really don’t matter anyway. If things progressed very far - I would think both sides would want to make sure the other was in fact - unattached.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/29/2007 2:05:07 PM
People lie. Period. I haven't had issues with those stating "single" but I have found my share of married men who profess "separated." Truth is, it's the net ~ a person can be anyone they want to be here. The only way I have found to determine who is real and true and who isn't is to take large amounts of time getting to know them. If you get a home phone number, a cell number and can call either at any time you wish, most likely they are, in fact single. If they disappear around 5 p.m. only to surface again the next morning, I'd question if they are, in fact in a relationship and unable to communicate during hours when they may be with the wife or gf.

I'd say "welcome to the net" but that is a tad redundant at this stage. Good luck OP, there really are some wonderful people here. You just have to be patient and cautious.
 JustKelly70
Joined: 2/9/2007
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Posted: 3/29/2007 3:41:14 PM
^^^ Hmmmmm that would concern me.
 JustKelly70
Joined: 2/9/2007
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Posted: 3/29/2007 5:54:37 PM
I'd have to consider myself lucky I guess, Over the last couple years I have met quite a few women and was never decieved other than their pic may have been older .
In my own profile I say I'm single, I am actually separated but its been 3 years and so I consider myself single, just have some paperwork to get out of the way.
 Nienna Telrunya
Joined: 8/19/2006
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Posted: 3/31/2007 8:29:26 AM
I actually caught someone out lastnight, in a lie way bigger than just the relationship staus. He was claiming to be Victor Webster (Charmed and Mutant X to name a couple of his shows). This guy even had a picture of Victor as his main picture, one which i had signed by the real Victor Webster.

I asked this guy why he ahd the picture as his main one and his answer was 'I am him'. I told him i knew he wasnt and even gave him the evidence to prove it. He still kept saiying he was, but then promptly deleted his profile when i told him i'd report him gor impersonating a celeb lol
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/31/2007 8:37:17 AM


separated might also be accurate


I don't think so. "Separated" tells me the person is still married and MAY be considering a divorce. I won't bother with a separated woman any more than I would a married one.
 harviej
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Posted: 3/31/2007 8:47:59 AM
What a great post! Obviously a sweet and sensible young woman unjaded by life. How refreshing. There can be several reasons for this silly questioning. Inate suspicion, an attempt at flattery (wow you are too good looking to be single! kind of thing), an unwillingness to believe their luck that they might get the interest of a lovely youg woman (there must be a catch right?), which indicates an underlying lack of self confidence.
Don't let it worry you and don't put too much into it. Young guys send out a lot of mail and get all kind of responses (or non responses). Sometimes one not really single woman will get a guy jaded about everyone. They will eventually grow out of that kind of childishness.
 dada1357
Joined: 10/22/2006
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Posted: 3/31/2007 9:14:41 AM
Once again this question lands on BOTH sides of the gender fence. Deception of ANY kind is still DECEPTION. Honesty for me personally, is one of the TOP qualities I look for in another person. If I find I have been deceived (especially deceived in a way your post suggests) then that will be it for me. What I have found on these sites if the person lies about on thing they won’t hesitate to lie about ANYTHING.
 LuvADKs
Joined: 8/31/2011
Msg: 22
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Posted: 10/16/2012 4:29:15 PM
There are plenty of people on dating sites who claim to be single, but they are actually married or otherwise attached to a S/O. Here is a link to a recent article that tells the story of such a case. The guy thought he was dating a divorcee, but the woman was actually still married. The estranged husband is alleged to have killed the wife's lover.
Advice to all: when it comes to online "buyer beware".

www.nydailynews.com/news/national/husband-drives-350-miles-shoot-wife-lover-article-1.1172108
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