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 crittersitter
Joined: 12/8/2006
Msg: 2
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I think that was an excellent method to sort out whether she just was working you for $$$
She wasn't offended- she was pissed her con didn't work on you!
Good for you
 JustKelly70
Joined: 2/9/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 4/30/2007 1:43:52 PM
I have a friend that is out $5000, and also cosigned a loan on a new truck to a guy she met here. Just hope he makes the payments.
 mj824
Joined: 7/10/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 4/30/2007 2:04:24 PM
I have just three words in response to this subject - RUN LIKE HELL!

 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 4/30/2007 2:07:41 PM
How do you guys find these women? lol
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 4/30/2007 3:30:18 PM
asking to borrow money on first date may as well be reworded in a thread title... asking to borrow money on last date , because that is what it would be as well .
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 4/30/2007 5:36:53 PM
wow, interesting -- i think i'd be pretty freaked, and way turned off, if a guy i met on a first date asked me if he could borrow money. and no, i'd not have lent the money either. really in very poor taste.

tho i did go on a date recently with a guy who "all of a sudden realized" in the midst of the date that he didn't have any money on him. then, when i said, oh well, there's an ATM right over there he said "no, i don't have any money at all" -- and i said "you mean, in your bank account? you have no money at all?" and he said yes. so then i said ok well, we have credit cards, we can get by on that, to which he responded saying he didn't have any credit cards either...

seems dude didn't wanna go dutch after all. :-P
 tdh46
Joined: 1/7/2007
Msg: 23
asking to borrow money on first date
Posted: 4/30/2007 5:44:01 PM
What a cold bunch of people , all the poor girl asked for was 30 dollars, my god talk about heartless cad. And the nerve of the man to ask her to sign some document written on a napkin, Can you blame her for being insulted.

Not only would i have given her the 30 dollars, But i would have given her my bank card to get it off and naturally given her my pin also. And just to show the kind of guy i am i would let her keep the card for awhile, Just in case she needed any more money, naturally i would tell her to only use it in an emergency. I have faith she would never abuse my trust.

And i know that even if she took thousands out of my account and i never lay eyes on her again, someday when she gets back on her feet, she will come looking for me to pay me back.

All jokes aside here is one for you.

There was a dealer at a casino in town that i play poker at that i really liked, I kept asking her to go out and she kept turning me down, finally one day she calls me up and says, I am going to be at this club on friday if you was to show up around 9 we can hang out.
This is after bugging her almost everyday for about 6 months. Friday comes and i start getting ready to go but i am running late, she call me and asked if i was coming because she wanted to go someplace else. I panic and run out the house, drive like a madman and get to the club, I go up to the door and it was 20 dollars to enter, i reach for my wallet and i had left it at home. Now i explain the situation to the doorman and ask him to go find the girl for me.

He goes inside and about 5 minutes later the music stops and i hear this announcement over the mike " Simonida will you please meet your date outside, it seems he left his wallet at home and have no money to get in". About 5 minutes after that she comes out and she is laughing. First thing she says is "you're joking right" i say nope so she had to lend me 100 dollards to make it through the night. What a way to impress a girl i have been trying to get with for 6 months.

But an even better ending to that story is that she insisted on coming back to my house later that evening to make sure she got her money back. But that's a different story and i don't want to be off-topic.
 Tarika
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 4/30/2007 7:31:08 PM
Eeeewwww, how absolutely gauche!!!
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 5/2/2007 8:26:28 PM
^^^^ wow, that is just totally amazing... i HAVE had a number of guys tell me right away, on the first or second date, things like "i've been waiting for you all my life" and "i want to spend the rest of my life with you" and "i want you to have my child" (all of which freaked me out completely, the 'ive; been waiting for you all my life' one was said after spending one hour in his company!) ... but no one has asked me if he can move in with me after spending two hours in my company! wow, that is just totally freaky!

what are these guys thinking????
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 33
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Posted: 5/2/2007 10:45:59 PM
.....Big Red Flag....
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
Msg: 35
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Posted: 5/3/2007 5:53:05 AM
i had a similar tip experience once -- the guy insisted on paying for our brunch even tho i had said i'd pay my half, he pushed my money away and said 'no no no, you can't take it with you, it's just money,' etc... but then he was really struggling to figure out what to leave for the tip, finally leaving a $5. then i went to the restroom, came back and noticed he had taken the 5 back and left a one dollar dollar bill there (the check was @ $30). so i just took a 5 out of my purse and added it to the dollar while we were walking out...

it didn't make sense to me, why didn't we just split the bill and leave an appropriate tip? it's like he wants to be the big guy with me and pay the bill but then when i'm not looking he wants to short the waitress on the tip?
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 5/3/2007 11:25:45 AM
but johne (OP), why did you want to see her again even after she did something that made you feel she was trying to use or (worse) scam you? how could you still be attracted to a person you feel has tried to use or scam you? dunno, that confuses me. isn't it important to be with someone who is honest and doesn't use people in that kind of way? or in ANY way?

i'm just curious about why you would still have been interested in continuing to see her if you felt that way...

cheers!
 ~Juggernaut~
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 43
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Posted: 5/7/2007 7:33:08 PM
Hey you got a couple bucks I can borrow ?
 berrysweetncgurl
Joined: 8/2/2004
Msg: 45
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Posted: 5/7/2007 11:47:46 PM
to the OP: maybe she read a little too much into your profile.....it does say you are generous !! Maybe you should change your title on your profile, to me it comes across as a green flag for gold diggers....

But seriously asking you for money on a first date is horrible......
People have no dignity anymore, anyone will just ask you for change or $$ and not feel the least bit embarrassed by it.

There were a group of teenagers in Wal-mart the other day going around and asking people for change. The one boy come up to me (no older than 16, mind you) and asked if I had some change. I couldnt help but laugh at him and tell him No not that he could have. this may sound mean, but these kids were probably making a fortune asking everyone for change.
 julie6345789
Joined: 6/18/2007
Msg: 58
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Posted: 6/25/2007 8:49:04 PM
GOOD for you -you did the right thing. She beat you out of a dinner and tried for $30.00 more.
 justinakrfc
Joined: 7/10/2005
Msg: 61
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Posted: 9/14/2007 10:46:12 PM
People amaze me. I'm tight when it comes to letting my friends borrow money. I'm like "You have a job, don't you?" Not that I am OVERLY stingy, but my money is my money. If someone agrees to a date, I'll assume they have their own money. The minute I hear someone wants money, that's the immediate turn off. Goodbye, later. Because it starts with 30 bucks, then it becomes a hundred, and you can see where it's going.

That was a nice trick with the agreement. I would never let it get that far though. Being generous is picking up the tab for dinner. Giving money is just being gullible.
 jed456
Joined: 4/26/2005
Msg: 63
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Posted: 9/15/2007 4:40:41 AM
To the op You got off cheap lesson learned.
 ~Juggernaut~
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 71
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Posted: 9/16/2007 11:29:46 PM
I met a woman in the summer who showed me her bills and made it very clear that If she didn't find a way to pay them she would be homeless soon. I offered her a job to help her out but she declined it saying that it was not what she was looking for.
 genegem
Joined: 7/24/2007
Msg: 73
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Posted: 9/17/2007 12:59:56 AM
as they say 'if you loan someone $20 and never see
them again it was a wise investment.
 jed456
Joined: 4/26/2005
Msg: 74
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Posted: 9/17/2007 1:05:03 AM
I think she was looking for a sugar daddy or a handout instead of a job. Bingo
 Javan2
Joined: 7/9/2005
Msg: 76
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Posted: 9/17/2007 8:49:12 AM
I understand that women don't want to be with a man whose a cheapscape. I remember I was tested by a woman like this before. She was slick about her move though. She drove us on our first date to a drive-thru. She made her order and when it came time to pay, she paused (I learned later that she was waiting for me to pay for her meal). I didn't pay and I think I failed her test because I never heard from her again. She was in law enforcement and I guess this is their standard operating procedure. Their way of seperating the el cheapos from the Big Spenders. I must be an el cheapo, sorry.
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 82
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Posted: 9/20/2007 4:36:16 PM
This happened recently. I had a lady I met at a singles thing and we talked during the week before our first date and she was trying to sell me A*$N products . I think thats just about as classless. We ended up dating twice and I stopped it because she would not even offer me a drink when I saw her house both before and after. Some people are just socially retarded.
 Wildcard74
Joined: 12/1/2005
Msg: 83
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Posted: 9/20/2007 9:00:03 PM
Good going bro. Con artists are finding new ways to get money. When she got upset about that agreement you wanted her to sign, that was the final red flag you needed. Her crying in front of you displays her frusration and failure.

I too have dealt with type of usery before. Thumbs up to you for not being a sucker.
 lovableladywanted
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 84
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Posted: 9/21/2007 3:51:28 AM
^^^^^ Sky blue thats the type of nice guy women walk all over . When I see all these 'women do not like nice guy' threads. Like the guy above me said. I will add though treat dates with respect but do not give away the farm in doing so
 weirdscienceofluv
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 88
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Posted: 9/21/2007 9:41:30 PM
You did easily a lot buying her dinner, man, i dont go for dinner on first dates. Ive been dating someone for a tad over 3 months and weve only gone to dinner a few times, our fun doesnt involve eating so much :p. But nah would never loan someone more than a dollar or two so they could get away from me...
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