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Joined: 6/27/2006
Msg: 3
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Bad sex can kill a relationship just as easily as jealousy. Don't hold sex for ransom for a relationship.

If you both understand the underlying aspects of your relationship (honesty, understanding, and a demonstrated willingness to move it forward, among many other things)


If your comfort level around this person is rising because of advancing the physical relationship


GO FOR IT! the reason this is never answered is because it is case by case; Hopefully, your not dating clones, so your going to react differently to each and every set of phermones and personality.

TOO early would be before the waiter put the drinks down on the table...

Joined: 4/7/2007
Msg: 5
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Whats the deal with Sex too early?
Posted: 5/2/2007 9:42:34 PM
It depends on what your goals are I think. If you're really seeking a relationship I like to wait, but I'm usually the one who does it, not the girl! My first big relationship of two years (moved in with her after 6 months) was consummated after 2 weeks. Again, it was my decision to hold off. I like to think it's the girl's job to do so but when I like a girl I want it to last. It seems like now-a-days girls wanna get busy pretty quick. At least with me haha!

I'm flattered that they do but then I always get the feeling they're whores. Maybe I'm attracted to the wrong girls...?
Joined: 6/27/2006
Msg: 7
Whats the deal with Sex too early?
Posted: 5/3/2007 8:52:26 AM

I think we men should wight a book on dating

wire, that is a good idea. Why don't you start a new thread in the California forums with something like:

Subject: POF Dating for Dummies

Message: Write, in 1 or 2 lines, good tips and techniques you have learned from your dating experiences on this site

I'd start it myself, but I think Im gonna go have some sex too early, er, I mean some early sex...

Joined: 2/4/2007
Msg: 12
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Whats the deal with Sex too early?
Posted: 12/7/2007 11:21:35 AM

Whats the deal with Sex too early?

Television and peer pressure and a lack of education and parenting on the issue. I won't discuss abortion as a birth control method here.

I know everyone says to wait, and the longer you wait the better you'll be in the long run. What do y'all think? And based on your experiences, what do you think?

There is a difference between satisfying, non-regretted sex and sex in general and sex as children. A wise or not so wise man once taught me that women give sex for love and men give love for sex. He didn't say anything about children. I think there is a real lack of responsibility in parenting in consideration of 'unwanted' births and 'unwanted' veneral diseases that are spreading like wild fire. There are commerials for herpes running along side commercials for aspirin (everyone experiences headaches).

My answer: With there being a 1 in 4 rate of veneral disease here in CA and psychiatric occupations on the rise...parents should rationalize what their children are watching and why phedophilia is so prevalent. Children are having sex at very young ages...and this is nothing new.

What is sad is it is not just a matter of hormones or the child's desire usually. They deem it 'cool' as do a great many adults, verses something enjoyable, but with 'real' concequences. They feel it's a way to be popular or liked or a way to manhood if a boy.

I say lock all children up until they are at least 18 and even then you have people running around with no real direction...okay a suitable age is 25 and married, so that taxpayers don't have to support the offspring of thier 'fun' two minutes (oh wait I forgot about the popularity of viagra--okay thier 'fun' 5 minutes then).
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