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 braindrain22
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 5
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You'd think she would have shared this information long ago then he wouldn't have to be skeptical.

Don't people usually flush those things?
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/25/2007 7:47:50 AM
Where's the CSI people when you need them?
Have those suckers analyzed.
 h0ldfast
Joined: 12/19/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 5/25/2007 8:36:30 AM
The real issue is that your *friend* leaves used condoms draped all over the place for her boyfriend to stumble into. Some things, and I don't need to mention them, should be discretely disposed of. No one wants used condoms rubbed in his face, especially after a long business trip.

To me, it looks like she was miffed about him going away and was using the condoms to send him a message. Maybe she's not cheating, but she sounds like she's trying to keep him on his toes and get some extra attention. Those kinds of games destroy trust and for me, they're a deal breaker.
 AwP
Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 5/25/2007 3:24:05 PM
Honestly, from the story the way you told it, I'm thinking she's feeding her trusting friend (you) false information so you can be an aliby of sorts. If she ends up asking you to try talking to him to convince him that she's telling the truth, then I'd be positive.
 innocentantic
Joined: 7/22/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 5/25/2007 3:44:17 PM
^^^ good point AwP

My question is, who in the hell thinks a condom feels good? Did everybody miss that aspect of this story?

Also, there isn't always something in a condom after it's been used by a guy. Many believe that it's safer to ejaculate outside of the woman and much more pleasurable to do so outside of the condom. And of course, it could be washed, but if she's just leaving them on the top of the trash, then she's not likely to be tidy enough to wash them.

Good chance she's cheating. Even if it just is with Bob (battery operated boyfriend.) But hOldfast was right. Whether consciously or not she's leaving them for him to see, and it's pretty immature of her, assuming he's not OK with her sleeping with whomever she wants when he's not around.
 pet_tech
Joined: 9/24/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 9/28/2007 11:25:46 AM
Spot on dude!!!!!!!
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 9/28/2007 12:41:34 PM
Of course. I also believe in Santa. But I'm not going to invest $1000 in Macy's new Xmas line in Elf Clothing.

If she took the time to put a condom on her vibrator, she'd take the time to flush it down the toilet.

If I saws this, I would be hiding a webcam in her room. If she's doing it to herself, I'm watching my girlfriend play with herself. That's not cheating. If she's doing someone else, she's not my g/f. She just doesn't know it yet.
 littlelired
Joined: 6/17/2007
Msg: 28
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Posted: 9/29/2007 7:02:37 PM
may i tell you something that may be your friend didnt think of?? she likes to keep her toys clean......if you use condomes on anything that is going to be penetrated...then it stays cleaner...you should always wash your toys but well it keep the love juices from gettin into the nooks and crannies

 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 29
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 9/29/2007 9:39:45 PM
if she was really guilty, you'd figure she'd have the sense to dispose of the evidence more discretely. I'd say she's either innocent or stupid.
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 30
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Posted: 9/29/2007 10:57:51 PM
I see a bridge salesman in someone’s future.

cough cough bullchit cough
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 37
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Posted: 5/25/2008 9:52:20 PM
OMG; I've literally heard it all. Anyone that believes this crap should be cheated on. ridiculous.
 opnmydm
Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 41
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 5/26/2008 1:43:32 AM
wow, what a load of bs, if he believed that, he is a bigger sucker than, well..lets just say she is not wanting for a man at night while her bf is away, all aboard..woo woo
 Spanish Lover XCLNTE
Joined: 5/9/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 5/26/2008 4:19:51 AM
The real question is did the condom work as advertised? Did she avoid the telltale "bump"?
 RaidernDC
Joined: 2/1/2008
Msg: 49
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:43:30 AM
[Quote]... who in the hell thinks a condom feels good?

I've never known a woman (biblically speaking) who wanted to use a condom for "the feeling." I couldn't say if it feels better than a vibrator. Maybe one of the ladies could speak to that.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 59
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Posted: 5/27/2008 6:08:58 PM
Any man that believes this girls bull crap deserves to be cheated on. Good God; just the fact that you even had to ask about this on a profile is pretty pathetic. Man up.
 slybandit
Joined: 7/10/2006
Msg: 62
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 5/29/2008 8:38:48 AM
Ok, yesiamcute.

Imagine you are seeing someone, exclusive rationship, living together, etc. You come home from a business trip and you find, ahem, a"used" one in the trash.

You confront him, he says, its just a more realistic sensation, it lets me imagine that I was with you.

Would YOU believe that?

Now, if you WOULD believe that, please contact me immediately, as I have some excellent investment-grade real estate in Florida that I am sure you will be very interested in, as well as a relative of a well-placed individual in the Nigerian government who will gladly pay you a considerable fee for assistance in transferring some funds using your U.S. bank account.
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 65
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:10:03 PM
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?


Yup.... DUH! Keeps your B.O.B. clean and no clean-up!"

B.O.B.'s can trap bacteria, and who wants to worry about trying to keep the damn thing squeaky clean between uses when you are in the Zone, and/or in post-self-love bliss????
A woman's temple is dark, moist, and warm... and bacteria can thrive in these conditions!

If couple had a healthy (and educated) sex-life, he'd know about using them already...

Every encounter should have B.O.B. wearing a fresh raincoat.

Why do you think a lot of us women complain about you not picking the fuzzy-stuff out from between your toes when we are about to have sex?!
Go wash yourself!

Read, people!!!
--At least the subject is fun!
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 67
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:36:01 PM
^^^Think of it like lining your pans with Reynold's Wrap...
You could just wash the pan, too!
(although most B.O.B.'s aren't submersible)
edit: It is cheaper than a doctor's visit!
It would depend on the individual's priorities...
Beer or condoms??? Hmmmm... tough one!
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 69
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:56:47 PM
^^^^I am sure you shower and change your sheets immediately after EVERY sexual encounter...
No? That must mean you are lazy!

BTW...
B.O.B.'s are a better use for those 99 cent store condoms than your real one!
"Ooops" would have more limited consequences.
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 71
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 5/29/2008 1:31:12 PM

...or leave used condoms lying around for my girlfriend to find when she comes home from a business trip...

Yes, the trash is best...

BTW... flushing them down the toilet is bad... I saw a special on sewers once... gross!
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 72
Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating?
Posted: 5/29/2008 4:17:37 PM
I agree Luke; this girl has no conscious and is so arrogant; She should be president;
 jessicarenee1977
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 5/29/2008 6:13:35 PM
If it was all innocent, why did she not call him a few times while he was away, and have some phone fun? Or leave an erotic voice mail if he was unavailable during the times she was playing? Make his teeth sweat, and insure that she was the only person he was thinking of while he was away, and that he was going to be hurrying home. He would have then KNEW she was telling the truth.
Personally, I don't bother putting a condom on my toys. There are some great antibacterial soaps available, and since I don't share my toys, washing them works just fine for me. However, putting condoms on toys is not unheard of in the womens circle either.
I also do not allow used condoms to be flushed either. Plumbers work by the hour, and take their sweet time unclogging the drains. Trash bags are much cheaper!!!
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 75
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Posted: 6/5/2008 12:49:39 PM
...why did she not call him a few times while he was away, and have some phone fun?

I am sure all of you men out there share every detail of every soapy, solo shower experience or "whoops, thar it is!" lazy afternoon solo wandering, with your woman over the phone, or when she is simply out of the room, right?

Sometimes the two-minute "git-'er-dun" pick-me-up is all the relief one might need at the time.

Don't get me wrong... phone sex is a lot of fun, but both parties have to be into the moment at the same time... does every instance have a conversation attached in your own world?

--Sorry guys... Sexual satisfaction doesn't always include you!
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 76
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Posted: 6/5/2008 1:16:43 PM

I am sure all of you men out there share every detail of every soapy, solo shower experience or "whoops, thar it is!" lazy afternoon solo wandering, with your woman over the phone, or when she is simply out of the room, right?

Sometimes the two-minute "git-'er-dun" pick-me-up is all the relief one might need at the time.

Don't get me wrong... phone sex is a lot of fun, but both parties have to be into the moment at the same time... does every instance have a conversation attached in your own world?

--Sorry guys... Sexual satisfaction doesn't always include you!


Firstly, the person you were replying to didn't mean "every time." They meant once or twice while the S.O. was away from home. Surely in the period of several days, or a couple weeks, one can be in the mood to call and leave a short dirty voice mail. In any case, that's neither here nor there, as it was just a suggestion.

Secondly, the REAL point is, even if she regularly used condoms on her vibe, WHY didn't the guy know until AFTER he came back from his trip? If you're that close to your S.O. that you're allowed to know each others' sexual habits, then this is something he should have known about long before his extended absence. The fact that he had no knowledge of it is what makes the story reek of dishonesty.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 78
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Posted: 6/5/2008 6:01:52 PM

I agree, though. This seems like something that should be discussed early on to avoid confusion. I am surprised, though, that we have had several women on this thread chime in saying they do exactly what the OP described, yet a lot of people still automatically assume it must mean she's sleeping around.


*Shrugs* it's not a practice I've ever heard of. I think most guys are the same way.
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