|Absolutely no offense intended Ms Sweetypi but this sounds just a bit contradictory to me:|
I wouldn't say I would let someone else decide for me and I would never go around asking my family/friends if they liked a guy I was seeing. However, sometimes I think outsiders can see issues that you may not see in the beginning during the honeymoon period, so if my friends and family were concerned about the guy and were genuinely worried, it would make me think twice.
Maybe this is because I don't always focus on the little things, but I have had situations before where family has pointed out issues, and only after hearing them tell me was I able to see them for myself.
This has the potential for seeing things that really don't exist. All too often these "friends" and family will express opinions that are only their feelings or impressions and may not reflect your own. If we allow such "observations" to affect our own choices we probably exclude someone that would really suit us; things like this become self-fulfilling prophesies. I myself do not subscribe that "friends" and family always have someones best interest in mind or heart or that they know more than I do about my choices in dating partners. I recall one very specific when more than a few advised me against a certain woman who I later married for all the right reasons. Had I listened to their petty jealous, small minded and totally incorrect "observations" I'd have missed that entire relationship with her.
Perhaps I'm too independant and comfortable with making my own choices entirely on my own? So far it's not worked against me so for now I'll stick with that process.