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 manlooking407
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 1
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Someone tells me that the key to winning over a woman, even though women might deny it, is that after you get her number, wait about a WEEK to call her.

Now I know that some of you heard this "Waiting period" is the key to winning someone over...but does it really apply or does it reek of "Game playing"


Though I see alot of personal ads that say, "Tired of playing games", it doesn't mean she's not going to play games with you, she's just "Tired of it" lol

(Two part post here)
 manlooking407
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 2
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Posted: 5/3/2005 12:42:54 PM
"mind games and BS like that Dont win me over. If you want to call, call dont wait a week cause you think it is cool "

Well, contrary...that's what women say....what they mean....well.......
 manlooking407
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 3
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Posted: 5/3/2005 12:54:48 PM
"Well I say what I mean so "

Hm, well, depends on the person....somehow I don't think a woman who squeezes her boobs in front of the camera for all to see, can be taken seriously.
 Raven34
Joined: 3/8/2005
Msg: 4
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Posted: 5/3/2005 12:58:20 PM
Games, games, games....the online dating world is a fickle place.....for a lot of us gals (and I am sure guys can relate to this as well) if we haven't heard from you in a week we take that as you not being interested.....and where one fish isn't interested another fish will be. I'm not sitting on a shelf waiting for someone to decide whether he wants to call me or not. Life is too short for BS. If you are interested SHOW IT and don't be sitting on your hands wasting time. Because I can pretty much guarantee you while you are waiting for some silly time line some other person who knows what they want will have picked up the phone. This goes for both sexes.
 manlooking407
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 5
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Posted: 5/3/2005 1:00:45 PM
Oh, I have a pic....just not on this account. ;-)
 discover
Joined: 3/15/2004
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/3/2005 4:58:33 PM

... if we haven't heard from you in a week we take that as you not being interested.....


That's the way I see it. I would not wait a week before calling someone I'm interested in. I may call them 1 or 2 days from when they give me their number, but anything past that and I'm going to email her and let her know.

Doesn't have to be a long conversation either. Sometimes a simple "Hello, just called to see how you're doing" is really all that's needed. :)
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/22/2005 7:14:00 AM
If you wait a week to call me, I assume you aren't interested.
 javalover535
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 8/9/2009 12:32:08 PM
The first chance I am back online...I say thank you! Seems like the proper thing to do....according to Mom!
 Bookbelle
Joined: 10/24/2008
Msg: 9
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Posted: 8/9/2009 1:45:55 PM
Meh, no way am I waiting a week to call someone/for someone to call me.
I personally see it as kind of "game playing", and can't stand these things, eg "wait this long before you call (/back)" etc...
If I like someone, I'll call them now, not wait for them to call. Why waste time? I'm not spending a week waiting for a phone call if I like someone now.
 Bookbelle
Joined: 10/24/2008
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Posted: 8/9/2009 2:09:23 PM
LOL I do not sit by my phone waiting for it to ring. I am way too busy and active for that crap.


Yep, that's basically my way of seeing it too.
Do the people who advocate this idea of waiting so long to call think I actually have no life or something? I don't sit at home all day singing/listening to "build me up buttercup"
 sockknitter
Joined: 2/26/2008
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Posted: 8/9/2009 3:13:59 PM
Ummm... if it all went well in your eyes.. why can't you ask her/him when to call?

Is "So, when can I call you? Can we see each other again?" so difficult to ask? Maybe I just tend to be direct as I don't understand game playing and it boggles my brain. But I am guessing if you get a genuine smile and a shine to their eyes after you ask, it is a safe bet you can call the next day.

If someone did not call me for several days to a week, I would think I was on the 'culled list', or if you did call me a week later, it was as you had no other prospects for the weekend dating scene.

~ Sox
 autogal
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 8/9/2009 3:25:33 PM
Wait exactly three days
first day : too early
second day : needy
third day great
 Bookbelle
Joined: 10/24/2008
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Posted: 8/9/2009 4:12:30 PM
Nah, three days is too long for me. I'm young and impatient
Besides, calling a guy basically as soon as I had his number got me a date for the next morning. I tend to think that if he didn't want me to call, he wouldn't have given me his number (that goes both ways actually - if I give a guy my number, then it's because I want him to call me).
Meh, I don't bother about supposed "rules", eg the guy should always make first contact etc. If I like him, I'll call him; he could have found someone else in three days.
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