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Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 7
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There is nothing you can buy which will give you self confidence if you don't already have it to begin with.
Self confidence, happiness, contentment, all these things come from within yourself.
The only reason you should get a boob job is because you enjoy wagging them around and showing off to everybody.
That's not self confidence.
You are not your boobs.
You are not your car.
You are not your stereo.
You are not your job.
You are only yourself, as you are.
Figure out who you are first, then maby think about inserting the plastic bags under your skin.
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 6/25/2007 3:33:43 AM
The upside to your situation is that when you are in your 40s, people are going to tell you that you have 18-year-old boobs, which is very cool.
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 16
Posted: 6/25/2007 4:10:21 AM
You seem pretty petite, implants might look really out of proportion with the rest of you. I think you're lovely as you are. And big boobs might get a lot of attention, but I think guys just like breasts in general, small ones too :)
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 18
Posted: 6/25/2007 4:13:29 AM
I understand why you want to do it, and I'm not against implants in general.

Just please, two things: wait a few years, let your body grow some more (my body has changed a lot since I was 18), and if you do get them, don't go too big.
Joined: 6/6/2007
Msg: 22
Posted: 6/25/2007 5:32:15 AM
No need for a breast enhancement. I can have as much fun with small ones as big ones.
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 6/25/2007 5:52:18 AM
I know girls who think that getting implants will make them feel good about themselves. So they do it, and it works.
They do feel better about themselves, for a while.
But then it wears off.
It doesn't occur to them they were still the same person, just with bigger boobs.
Then they find something else to buy to feel better about themselves and they go get that.
After a while that wears off too.
Around and around they go, constantly searching for that magic thing they can buy to fill their emptiness.
Thinking that something outside yourself will make you feel good, is foolishness.
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Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 54
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Posted: 6/25/2007 10:39:26 AM
real boobs please, small medium large, its all good, just no fake ones for me,thanks
Joined: 4/22/2007
Msg: 57
Posted: 6/25/2007 11:57:53 AM
As with any elective surgery I hope you seriously weigh all aspects of this procedure and make sure you are doing this for the right reasons.

Personally, I have no preference on breast size. I have seen women with little to none easily be the sexiest woman in a room full of cleavage. It is more about the overall package to me and the way she carries herself.

Realistically I know larger breast can have its advantages and rewards I just hope really put some thought into this and consider the risks. It may be a common procedure with relatively high success rates but there are always risks involved when going under the knife.

In my opinion you are an attractive young lady and this is completely unnecessary. Whatever you choose I wish you the best.
Joined: 1/24/2006
Msg: 58
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Posted: 6/25/2007 12:00:33 PM
the size of the boobs are only important to BOOBS! just sayin
Joined: 4/13/2005
Msg: 60
Posted: 6/25/2007 12:26:14 PM
A handful is perfect! The nipple is more sexy than the breast size anyway. I prefer real to fake anyday! Small can be very very HOT! Too big is saggy and not attractive. Be happy with what you are born with because any guy who wants you to change is not worth your company!
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 62
Posted: 6/25/2007 1:06:34 PM
I HONESTLY think you should concentrate on the MANY other areas of your life. I for 1 love NIPPLES and areolas (on anysize breast)...what does a big boob do? In fact, I'll say that men who feel big boobs are most important in attraction are little more than boobs themselves. No matter what kind of silacone you get, you will have to be YOU. A image superimposed upon your psyche for large boobs should not be among the top 100 things in your life to work on. There are many more things to develop that will ONLY add to your REAL attractiveness to men as well as to yourself. Find a REAL man,......he will know this. In the meantime,I suggest you simply work on growing and ddeveloping your love of yourself. I think your real confidence will leap from it. Others will notice and become even more attracted to you.
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 63
Posted: 6/25/2007 1:09:19 PM
I like small boobs , for some reason they seem to look younger longer, they sweat less ,,, heck I just prefer women with small boobs.
 One day at a time
Joined: 5/11/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 6/25/2007 2:43:41 PM
I got implants 01/07 and its the best thing I ever did. My only advice is, do it for you not for anyone else.
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 71
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Posted: 6/25/2007 2:54:35 PM
OP, you said that you wanted feedback and while most people understand why you are considering the surgery, you have had people respond with a wide variety of perspectives--women with large breasts, women with small(er) breasts, men who like natural boobs, men who like smaller boobs, men who like boobs--that suggest you would be smarter to either abandon it or at least wait.

While most guys will look at boobs of any size and seem to drool at anything that is at least partially visible or seems to want to bust out of whatever is holding them back, most guys prefer natural boobs and most also feel that the handful, perky thing rings true, at least with women they are actually intimate with.

Although I never considered a boob job, I was a wee bit pissed when I was younger because my mother was a 32 DD and I was so not. But I reiterate, when you are small they do not sag (despite breast feeding three children) and I can guarantee that if my boobs had been larger, they would not currently be 18-year-old boobs.

In addition to being attracted to smaller boobs, there are also tons of guys that are more into legs or ass than boobs anyway. If you walk around believing that you have the most flawless breasts on the planet, I guarentee you will get more attention without altering a thing.
Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 78
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Posted: 6/25/2007 3:48:27 PM
boobs is boobs, honestly they come way down the list of things like 'do i like you' and 'can i see you naked'

you'll certainly get a lot more attention with big boobs. its your choice. will you feel better about yourself? can you afford the maintenance?


 Lil Red Riding Hood
Joined: 4/21/2006
Msg: 79
Posted: 6/25/2007 4:15:46 PM

You're still a child. Give it time. When I was 18, my boobs were barely a B cup. By the time I was 22 I was hovering between a C and D. Wait until you're atleast early 20's to make the decision and if you do opt for a boob job, good luck. Just find a good surgeon and go for it. Get tons of references on the Doc. This is one surgery you don't want messed up. I've seen quite a few bad boob job watching porn. It looks nasty when done wrong. Also keep in mind, don't bump up to a size that looks abnormal for your body size. I guarantee you'll regret it later on.

Good luck
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 86
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Posted: 6/25/2007 7:54:02 PM
As a guy, it's not so much size, it's proportion. I know some men like the Jordan look, but EVERYONE seems to love Kylie. If they look like they suit you, then that's good.

Besides, you have to remember, boys of your age are still growin' up. They're really about 13 in our society. They still do stupid things, like calling girls fat, and pulling their pigtails. So you'll NEVER really please them, and if you do they'll just slag you off to their mates.

Anyway, I'm a fan of the natural ones, me. For some reason, they just look better than inflatable air-bags. Only good for an emergency crash-landing in the sea, or in case you're in a car crash w/out air bags. I prefer them to be as enjoyable as they were designed to be, and size does NOT come into it, unless he doesn't know how to work a body. I'ts just like a p*nis extension. It's now what you have, it's what you do with it.

By the way, lots of women get carded. Now, it's an insult. Wait till you get to 25. You will be so chuffed when some guy thinks you're 24, even. So remember that. Because you will live a lot longer than 25. Better to look younger.

But heck, if you want to do it, it's up to you. But there is a massive difference between having the confidence to walk out there are "pull" boys, and having the confidence to say "no". The first will get you lots of sex and boyfriends, the second will get you lots of respect and love. It's not about what you think you are. It's about what you do and don't do.
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 89
Posted: 6/26/2007 2:03:21 AM
I have worked in this area for some years, not boob jobs but councelling and I have found that many many girls who do get enhanced come out of their shell so to speak and are far more relaxed around the opposite sex in particular 'cause they look great in their own eyes. The enhancements done by properly certified professionals is for the most part not dangerous and the results are very good. Let me turn it around a little, if most guys could get a penile enlargement as easily the plastic surgery profession would be unable to keep up. The only real thought here is that you should only get this done for YOU, no one, especially a current boy friend or SO should have any say other than to provide support for whatever decision you make. Watch a few 'Extreme Makeover' shows and watch the elation on the expressions of the girls who have an enlargement or in some case reduction, if it's their decision, as anything regarding YOUR body should be, and you feel that you will benefit for your own self perception, then, go for it.
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 95
Posted: 6/26/2007 5:33:07 AM
Its not the boobs on a woman that makes them sexy, its the heart beneath them. You have nothing to be insecure about.
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 104
Posted: 6/26/2007 7:19:26 AM
small tight lil boobies ar enice!

they won't sag down to your knees when you get older!

most of the time small boobies seem to have bigger nips which is SEXY!

the best way to have bigger boobies is to eat a lot and gat fat, most women who 'brag' of large boobies are overweight!

gain weight everywhere including on boobies..

have seen few with large (NATURAL) boobs that don't also have a gut & too much junk in the trunk
Joined: 2/26/2007
Msg: 115
Posted: 6/26/2007 12:35:36 PM
There are plenty of guys who prefer small breasts. And, yours haven't reached full maturity yet. A baseline would be to observe the older women in your family to see what you may develop into a few years down the line. One girl I knew was small breasted until she was about 24, and then all of a sudden her heritage kicked in and she wound up with DD cups. And the rest of her wasn't fat, either. It just took a couple years for her to become what she was 'designed' to be.

On the other hand, if everyone in your family is small breasted or flat chested, and you really don't think it's ever going to change for you, then sure, go ahead and consider augmentation. No, it won't solve all your relationship problems, and there will be guys who will date you ONLY because you have nice breasts, which will become a whole new problem to deal with. But as someone who had a facial defect and had it repaired via plastic surgery, it removed a big reason for insecurity for me, and maybe that's what you are looking for as well. The person most important to please is yourself; there simply is no substitute for being able to look in the mirror and like what you see. It really does change the world.

I don't know if you've had any long term relationships with a guy who really, really liked your body. If you have, then you know that having larger breasts really isn't all that important. If you haven't, then maybe it's a big reason that you're considering making a drastic change. The bottom line is to do what you want. Surgery is expensive; and you have to make sure to go to a really great plastic surgeon, and check out his previous work. Maybe go to gogo bars and seek out women who appear to have especially fantastic breasts that you think might be 'enhanced', and find out who did theirs. Don't make the mistake of going cheap; you'll be even more self concious about your body than you are now if your breasts don't look perfect after the implants. It's something that you are going to have to live with for the rest of your life.

Oh, and forget about what everyone else tells you about being 'natural'; very few of us is 100% natural. People get their teeth fixed. They fix bad hair, or dye it into a different color. Nose jobs. Go to the gym to 'sculpt' their body into something different from what they have without all that work. Wear heels to appear taller. Put on make up to have their skin look different. I could go on and on.

Be what you want to be, and be proud of who you are. Take your time making the decision. Good luck.
Joined: 5/14/2006
Msg: 116
Posted: 6/26/2007 12:47:44 PM
Its your choice of course to get a boob job . The most important sexual organ is the brain and how you feel about yourself. Personally the more real a woman is the better.I like natural ladies with as little makeup as possible or even no make up. I understand you have to do what you have to do . I would say to work on your confidence and when you radiate that confidence you automatically become more attractive to members of the opposite sex. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 119
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Posted: 6/26/2007 3:08:58 PM
Just thought that I'd step in here with a vote to say IMHO natural is best !!!!
Just add me in there with all of the other's who have said that smaller is beautiful too!

Just be yourself and dismiss those who are boob obsessed.
Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 131
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Posted: 6/26/2007 9:58:40 PM
Did you ever think that some smaller breasts do look quite attractive? Even if men pay attention to larger ones, well shaped small ones can be very appealing. Most guys don't really care that much about whether a girl has big breasts or not. If they do, fine. There are so many things that can be attractive about a woman like her legs. If a girl has decent legs, nice eyes, why complain? You're fine the way you look... I am sure many women would like to look the way you do...
Many of the models do not have big breasts, by the way. They have small breasts.
Paris Hilton doesn't seem to have big breasts, not that I like her, but she is definitely very pretty and most guys wouldn't be thinking about her breasts. Just something to think about... Really, it is not an issue... You think it is... I am sure many guys would ask you out, and they wouldn't be thinking "I can't ask her out, her breasts aren't big enough". Do you get my point?
Joined: 2/25/2007
Msg: 132
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Posted: 6/26/2007 10:12:35 PM
It sounds like you're gonna do what you want regardless of the advice you asked for.... So why did you ask in the first place?
Also keep in mind once you have a child and those implants.... Another "up side": smaller busted, you won't be worried about them being to your waist when you're older, like us bigger and older women...
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