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 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 1
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Is anyone else intimidated by making the initial contact? I get the feeling that men do not appreciate unsolicited email (btw..I am ONLY contacting men close in age).
 Jackson*
Joined: 10/29/2004
Msg: 2
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/6/2005 6:49:19 AM
I almost never send out first contact e-mails. I learned early on that it only works when the girl contacts the me first. I have no explanation for this, but it’s just my experience. I don't get intimidated by it, i love it.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 3
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/6/2005 7:37:06 AM
Ummm...I tend to think that men under 35 are a whole lot more open than the men over 35. Seems that the guys over 35 have a rather unrealistic view of who they will be attracting and are waiting for Pam to shoot over the nude photos and hot email.
 SarGasm
Joined: 5/2/2005
Msg: 4
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/6/2005 2:52:55 PM
i love it when the girl sends me the first email.

i also love lamp.
 SarGasm
Joined: 5/2/2005
Msg: 5
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/6/2005 4:26:09 PM
well...it's not something that happens often...and when it happens with someone i'm attracted to, WOW...that's great! i already know that she's at least got enough self-esteem and confidence to go for what she wants.

which is probably why most of my girlfriends have been redheads.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 6
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/6/2005 9:23:57 PM
What kind of return do you get?
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 7
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/6/2005 9:25:37 PM
Lamp? What's that?
 RobMalibu
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 8
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/6/2005 9:38:41 PM
i also find that i tend to have more luck when its the woman that makes first contact. its not something that bothers me at all, its flattering and kind of an ego boost, even if nothing were to come from it
 WESTCOASTBABE
Joined: 4/18/2005
Msg: 9
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/6/2005 10:38:14 PM
he sits she sits..... I contact if i feel like there is something there that i would like to say maybe a good day ... or wow.... wishing people luck... yadda yadda yadda.......... what i have found...most men will reply some just delete there loss my gain. If they do not have it in them to say hi back..... you know they will be here for a while... LOL ... well on to the next forum.... smiles ..
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 10
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/7/2005 6:39:03 AM
I notice that the guys who have no problem with a woman making initial contact are ALL under 30.....says something about the older guys, I guess.
Out of 6 email sent, 1 reply. Doesn't encourage me to send more.
 who_the_fox
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 11
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/7/2005 7:54:18 AM
Obviously, I was born too early
 mapleridge8
Joined: 4/13/2005
Msg: 12
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/9/2005 10:26:03 PM
Her...make the first move....in her dreams
 Missy
Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 13
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/10/2005 5:44:22 PM
I do it all the time, if I see a profile or a comment in the forums that makes me smile or think or catches my breath. I send a note. 9 times out of 10 he doesn't respond. But the ones that do are keepers.
 Jenelle
Joined: 1/25/2005
Msg: 14
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/11/2005 1:29:17 PM
I've made initial contact. Some people have replied and a few havent. Thats just how it goes.

I've even had someone reply and tell me he had met someone off the site, but we still talked for a bit after.
 SarGasm
Joined: 5/2/2005
Msg: 15
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/11/2005 4:49:14 PM
Jenelle makes me happy in my pants.
 trophyboyfriend
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 16
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/11/2005 5:42:49 PM
I always respond to every email I get. It's important to stay in contact with your fans and "keep it real" otherwise they'll stop supporting you and buying your albums. Then you're broke.

The lesson here is : sharing is caring. errr I mean be nice to people unless they're jerks, in which case punch them in the balls.
 trophyboyfriend
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 17
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/16/2005 10:42:53 PM
I respond to every woman that approaches me for an autograph request, but ladies, please, bring your own pens.
 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 18
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/16/2005 11:00:10 PM
I don't hesitate about making contact if it's someone I want to meet :)
and I think men feel just as complimented by the interest as women
 Jackson*
Joined: 10/29/2004
Msg: 19
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:01:48 AM
<--had to make the first contact with ^^
 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 20
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:27:55 AM

<--had to make the first contact with ^^


pffffft...AFTER I flirted first

 Pandy
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 21
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/17/2005 10:43:28 PM

Oh story,well last week i was in Pandy's area well


why didnt' you TELL me....standing offer of mine to buy any of my fellow POFers (from the forums) a cup of coffee if they are in my area :)
 SLurpee
Joined: 9/15/2004
Msg: 22
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/18/2005 9:24:20 AM
I think ONLY women should be able to make contact. That would cut down on alot of spam
 SLurpee
Joined: 9/15/2004
Msg: 23
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 5/18/2005 4:40:39 PM
Thats right! You popped my IM cherry!
 Whitetigeress
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 24
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 3/7/2007 11:14:43 PM

You miss 100% of the shots you dont take


how very true, yet sometimes easier said than done
 BrnEyesLostMind
Joined: 1/27/2007
Msg: 25
Women Making Initial Contact
Posted: 3/7/2007 11:24:23 PM
I'd make first contact a bit more often but I doubt they'd appreciate me sending messages like some of the ones I get. Tit for tat you know....but those would probably get me blocked.
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