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 sassifrazz
Joined: 7/13/2007
Msg: 1
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.Page 1 of 2    (1, 2)
Just curious...I haven't met the dude yet but I am just curious what others think about dating someone with 2 kids, 2 different moms.
 clevemech
Joined: 6/20/2007
Msg: 2
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/27/2007 5:57:46 PM
Whats the difference between it being a guy and a chick would you date a chick with 2 kids by different dads? Hell I know a chick that has four kids all by different fathers.
I say yes even though I am a guy because I just turn it around to being a woman and it works.
I think this is becoming more and more common place in todays society especially since there is such a need for sex today. It's no longer the truly intimate thing that two lovers did together. It's almost a prerequisite now that sex had to be had just to find out if you can date one another.
 3rdedition
Joined: 10/29/2006
Msg: 3
 Tsorath
Joined: 5/10/2006
Msg: 4
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/27/2007 6:07:19 PM
lol I hope people say yes Im in my late 30s and I have 2 kids by 2 diffrent moms. Don't see what the big deal is both were LTR not like I was spreading the seed willy nilly and just ended up with my boys


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 sassifrazz
Joined: 7/13/2007
Msg: 5
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:33:10 PM
Well, the two kids were with pple he cared about but wasn't married to.I am abit of a traditionalist and so I find it hard to think about dating someone who had children out of wedlock. The funny thing is, I don't have aproblem in general with pple who do have kids and are common-law!
I guess I will take the advice that if we hit it off, why not? Thanks. And if we don't, I will just have to keep on
 Irreverent Lass
Joined: 7/24/2007
Msg: 6
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/27/2007 8:45:16 PM
Wouldn't matter to me as long as his kids were being well taken care of.

Not like I'd be producing number 3.
 a_sweet_fishy
Joined: 3/11/2006
Msg: 7
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/27/2007 11:21:33 PM
By "early 30's" most people are about finished having kids anyway.....if not, they will be soon. He isn't a kid FFS.....2 kids by two women is nothing! If it was 5 kids by 5 women or something of that nature I might get a bit concerned!
 sassifrazz
Joined: 7/13/2007
Msg: 8
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/28/2007 5:31:47 PM
I guess you don't know my friends and I...we started having kids well into our 30's and I still have friends in their late 30's trying to have one. The clock hasn't stopped for us yet. Hey, you never know if he wants number 3 but it likely won't be from me....
 jtw1974
Joined: 6/18/2007
Msg: 9
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/28/2007 5:35:52 PM
The only thing I would be concerned with is the SHEER POWER of his sperm. Four kids, two women and early 30's... those suckers must be gunnin' for bear.
 klatour
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 10
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Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/28/2007 8:36:22 PM
Personally, NO. I would hope to find someone that actually spent time, found love and was responsible enough to not have several children with several women. How many "loves" do you have in your life. It is important to me that someone use protection until they are secure enough or married before creating little people with feelings and lives, just my personal opinion. Anyone can fu@k, hopefully a baby is not created by that, but by love and a relationship. I know relationships are not perfect, but, I dont want to be one of those mothers of many children with many men. I think it shows irresponsability. I value myself and my children more than that... I have two kids with one father and that is it, married for 16 years. My family is done and made. Now, I am on a different chapter in my life.
 klatour
Joined: 2/11/2007
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Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/28/2007 8:42:41 PM
You know, more than anything, think about his life.... Drama with two mama's....eww, stay away :)
 Flipper Jones
Joined: 10/5/2006
Msg: 12
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/28/2007 8:47:05 PM
I'm a guy, and I'll just say that dating a woman with two kids from two men would kind of be a red flag for me. Nothing against single mothers and not being judgmental, but you are asking for twice the drama.
 sassifrazz
Joined: 7/13/2007
Msg: 13
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/29/2007 3:50:20 PM
Well, I already have some insight based on this weekend...not a good one either.
 youheartme
Joined: 3/27/2007
Msg: 14
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 7/29/2007 8:32:17 PM
No. I don't want kids at all but if I did I still wouldn't. You'll never rank #1 in his eyes obviously.
 Awesomeplus1
Joined: 6/17/2008
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Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 11/17/2008 6:42:05 PM
Sometimes it's just the way it works out... It may look bad on the surface but sometimes there are reasons for it. Hmmm, let's say a guy had a child when he was 19, then got married many years later and had another child.... maybe his wife turned out to be a horrible person and now he is in this situation...
 Jaxi_2008
Joined: 8/16/2008
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Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 11/17/2008 6:55:10 PM
klatour, I don't know if it's complete irresponsibility. I had my first child when I was 20 years old. It was definitely unplanned, and yes, you could consider it "irresponsible"....even "I" considered it to be that...but although the act was irresponsible, "I" wasn't. I raised the child very well, on my own, for 10 years.

When I was 33, I became pregnant with #2. I was married, and our child was planned. The marriage didn't work. But at the time, it 'was' "love and a relationship" as you have stated.....

I definitely value myself, and my children are tremendous.....my path doesn't mean that I don't "value" them! I value nothing more.

Like you, my family is "done and made" and I am on a different chapter in my life as well.
 Kirota
Joined: 10/21/2008
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Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 11/18/2008 7:08:35 AM
This is my thinking............if someone can't handle that I have had sex with someone before them then so be it. I had my first daughter at 23.........I left 3mths pregnant after being together 7yrs and 2mths from my wedding. We had been engaged for 2yrs........wedding planned for a year and I just happen to get pregnant on birth control.........I raised her on my own...........then I got married at 32 and 3wks after my year anniversary I had my second daughter. Both of my girls are loved and taken care of.

For the woman that blasted some of us that have two kids with two different dads.......I will say this. You don't put your pants on in the morning any different than I do.......and my girls aren't any less because they don't have the same dads........Trying having a live and let live attitude. You shouldn't be so critical unless you have walked in others shoes.
 Happily Ever...maybe
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 11/18/2008 2:07:01 PM
Two kids with two different fathers would be OK in my book. Now if we got above that number of children and fathers I might start to have suspicions about her judgement, or lack thereof. I once met a girl, and in the process of getting to know her, found out that she had had 5 children by 4 different men-and that's not even the best part. Two of these children she had from different fathers, while being married to another man! Waiter, check please, and exit stage left!!
 all.you.need
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 19
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:08:34 AM
sounds too Jerry Springer to me. I think it's sad when people shack up, have a kid (or kids), break up and then go onto shack up with someone else and more offspring are produced. i guess when you don't make the commitment to marry it's easy to just walk away and go have babies (or create) with someone else. seems so trailer park to me.
 Jaxi_2008
Joined: 8/16/2008
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Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 11/19/2008 2:59:21 PM
all.you.need, what makes you think alot of these people weren't married?
 all.you.need
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 21
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 11/19/2008 3:08:44 PM
well it's possible some were but I have to be honest, my experience on dating sites and even in general, I meet so many men who have never been married but have children with a couple of different moms. it's even rare to find men on here with children who've ever been married, most are 'single' and when you ask more they admit they've never been married. i'm just speaking based on my experience. i have an issue with men who go around helping to make babies but don't have enough respect for the mother(s) of their children to marry her, make a solid commitment to her. i love the ones who have lived with a woman for many years, say 10 years, have a couple of kids, then he split up and moved in with another woman and had a kid (or 2)......he admits he's never been married and you ask him why and he stupidly claims "I just haven't met the right woman." WTF? These exes were good enough to get pregnant and carry your children and make a home for you and your children but they weren't "perfect" enough for you to marry? give me a focking break.
 wildernesskitty
Joined: 10/25/2008
Msg: 22
NO NO NO NO
Posted: 11/20/2008 4:00:39 PM
by which i mean to say: NO, especially if you are a mom yourself. That much drama/interaction would be negative for the kids - and FOR YOU.
 wildernesskitty
Joined: 10/25/2008
Msg: 23
sorry for your loss
Posted: 11/20/2008 4:05:58 PM
I think this thread wasn't aimed at you, because you had a tragic death that ended your marriage - not drama and cheating blah blah blah like this guy's.

Sorry for your loss, but I know loss makes you stronger in time. That much, I know.
 Celyste
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 24
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:48:49 AM
I would have to know more about each situation and gauge the individuals responsibility factor. I have dated men with children and each is different in thier way. One was married twice and should have been a red flag, but I am too quick to give the benifit of the doubt to a person, always trying to see the good in a person.
Another was a very good father, his children came first and I tend to disagree with anyone who states that THEY should come first. I say to them, GROW UP, this man has obligations to his children, they were there before you and they need and love him. Hopefully he can reciprocate this, some men, even older men are not mature enough to have children and sadly they just want to create a life with the "new" person when things are good, not thinking about the future with this person or how it will affect these children. Not ALL men, before I get slammed..lol. Just a majority of those I have dated recently, but as I say, there are some men that are totally into thier children and I admire that strength and value system.
By the way, I agree with male posters, some women tend to be irresponsible with thier children as well so it goes both ways.
I would not let it stop me from dating if the person was the "right" one.
Good luck whatever you decide.
 BstKptScrt
Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 25
Would you date someone who has 2 kids with 2 different woman and is only in his early thirties.
Posted: 12/26/2008 2:34:46 PM
That's nothing...One of my closest friends has six children by five different women and he's only thirty-six...He managed to find a sweet, loving woman to marry him in spite of all the drama. He has commited indiscretions since the marriage. One of the women lives in the same small town that they do, so for a minute she was stalking him and causing much drama.

And here I am, single, no kids and haven't yet found a woman who wants to settle down. This, friends, is what we call a WTF situation. I'm thinking I should have been more of a b@stard in my younger days, maybe racked up some convictions and a few baby mamas so I will be more appealing to the women in this crazy world.
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