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 Wylie_Coyote
Joined: 5/12/2007
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OP,

Okay, I've felt that way after falling out of a relationship. It takes a while to get your head back in the game after you get your heart handed to you in a paper bag.

I remember once I had a slump and couldn't get past it for almost a month. My sugestion is find your self an older woman. Someone in her early to mid 50s. She'll work you through the old problem for sure. These gals simply won't take no for an answer. I'll bet they'll have you up and flying in no time.

Just a thought.
J Mac
 Wylie_Coyote
Joined: 5/12/2007
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Sexual desire over thirty?
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:44:08 PM
OP,

The serious answer to your question is you are most likely depressed. If you are spending time sleeping in stead of doing the things you previously enjoyed and have lost interest in dating along the way, you may want to get some help.

Try and work through the real issues without medication as they tend to reduce the sexual drive and that might not be a good thing for you. But depression can cause your issue.

Hope you don't mind the fun we have been having with this post....

As far as women and their sexual peake... I don't think they have one. My last 2 G/Fs are in their mid 50s now and neither of them have reached a peake. My 73 year old mother is gona kill her 53 year old B/F and he's gona die with a smile!

J Mac
 Just_for_today
Joined: 8/12/2007
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Sexual desire over thirty?
Posted: 8/17/2007 8:42:55 AM
Your quantity may be less....but I can bet your quality is better. In your 20's you prob did everything that walks.....In your 30's its an art you perfect...by the time you hit 40 you will be having some mind altering sex. Enjoy
 prolibertate
Joined: 9/11/2005
Msg: 20
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Posted: 8/17/2007 10:27:10 AM
OP, there's nothing wrong with you...maybe you simply got to the point where you realize sex, and thinking about it every 30 seconds, doesn't let you actually leads much of a life, and now you simply put sex in the priority where it fits for you at this time in your life. When we're younger it's like we're on the hunt all the time; like we have to get as much in as possible; and usually it's as fast as possible then also ;( As we get a bit older we tend to gain a different perspective on it, and while it's still important, what's more important is having someone we care about to do it with rather than going with just anyone. Maybe that's where you're at now.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 11/4/2007 7:14:40 AM
Honestly...

I'd really look into that if I were you. I want sex more and more as time drags on. Most women I know who are my age feel the same way, too. More than half of them have kids and may not be able to find as much time as I have to indulge, but they still want it BAD.

Seriously. I'd check it out. I don't know that it's abnormal or anything, I suppose it's still worth looking into though.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 29
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Posted: 11/4/2007 10:35:00 AM
you've grown up I guess; and realised that sex is silly and overrated.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 30
Sexual desire over thirty?
Posted: 11/4/2007 10:37:46 AM
Wrinkly sex! *shudder*
 JustinSayne
Joined: 5/22/2007
Msg: 33
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Posted: 11/6/2007 3:28:41 PM
I think some people confuse sex drive with simple emotional and intellectual hook ups. I have a s strong a sex drive as ever but I also know just meeting an interesting woman can be as satisfying as the actual sex act itself.

And of course I wouldn't say no to Angelina Jolie or jennifer Aniston. I'm not crazy just a little nutty.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
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Posted: 11/7/2007 1:37:09 PM
Nope.....per your post you're OK. I know that as I approach 50 I find that my urges are for much more refined women. Yes, it's a 3-5 night event but with women that I find that truly do it for me then what I did say 20 years ago. Relax and simply enjoy.

Here it is........Young bull and old bull are standing on the hill, looking around. They see a lot of cows. Young bull says "Let run fast down the hill and then **** couple of cows." Old bull says "Oh, no! We just walk slowly down the hill and then **** them all".
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
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Posted: 11/25/2007 8:22:05 PM


My mother is 75 and has a more active sex life than I do.. I ask myself "What is wrong with this picture?" lol
Ewwwww wrinkly sex
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 46
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Posted: 11/28/2007 7:51:14 AM

Ok so I have been thinking alot lately and I've noticed that I no longer get the strong sexual urges I use to get when I was in my 20's is it just me or does everyone have the same thing happen when they enter into their 30's. Now I know I would still have sex if the offer came about but I dont feel the need to go and actively search for it like I did when I was younger. Tell me there is nothing wrong with me here people.

On the contrary, it's much worse than it was in my 20s. My sex drive could kill me one of these days. I am almost 40, and it doesn't seem to be waning AT ALL. More like building. Yikes.
 where oh where
Joined: 11/26/2007
Msg: 57
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Posted: 12/10/2007 2:29:55 PM
interesting thresad,

I am 47 and I think I am just getting started

I have never enjoyed sex this much
or had the opportunity I have now to enjoy sex this much


I did not date much and married young so i wonder if I am
........ making up for not making out more when I was younger ....................

maybe baby, but I am having some good safe fun now
Still looking for that perfect partner.............

ta ra


 USN065
Joined: 11/28/2007
Msg: 62
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Posted: 1/24/2008 8:43:05 AM
God I have a stronger drive now then I think I ever had! and sadly it isn't getting and weaker...seems like the older I get the stronger it gets with no one who appreciates it around...

Damn..looks like its more porn and more masturation for me....lol
 kolijah
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 65
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Posted: 1/25/2008 10:25:54 AM
You crack me up! I blew cranberry juice out my nose...thanks


 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Sexual desire over thirty?
Posted: 1/25/2008 4:31:30 PM
am 53 and still peaking!!!
 rayrae
Joined: 12/30/2007
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Posted: 2/7/2008 6:40:24 PM
Outlaw i totally understand what you are talking about, and believe me, there is nothing wrong with you. when guys hit their 30s, there is so much more going on in the mind other than sex. Stuff like SUCCESS SUCCESS SUCCESS, meet the right girl and you will be back in your 20s
 leo\leo
Joined: 1/17/2006
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Posted: 2/8/2008 7:49:52 AM
When i was in my 20's i was looking to put my seed out there lol.but now that I'm over 30 it's not about sex any more but i'm looking for love wow it's alote hard to find than sex's
 shanedk
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 77
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Posted: 3/15/2008 12:24:32 PM
Personally, there's NOTHING wrong with my sex drive...but when you get to this age, I think you get your priorities straight. Yes, there's a deficiency in energy levels etc., but the drive is there, but the will just gets overcome by other things. Romantically, for me it's a lot more about having someone to hold and be with, love and be loved by, and to be there for each other. Sex is great, but it's only a small part of things. I think you get a better appreciation for that as you mature.
 simpleman20188
Joined: 8/11/2007
Msg: 78
Sexual desire over thirty?
Posted: 3/15/2008 3:02:59 PM
Thank GAWD it slowwed down some.

On the other hand I know about and enjoy a lot wider range of sexual activity now.
 jugularpot
Joined: 8/8/2007
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Sexual desire over thirty?
Posted: 3/22/2008 6:56:47 AM
My sex drive was fairly low in my twenties when I was married - but perhaps now I am in my naughty forties and single it has soared sky high. Probably my taste in younger men helps!
 bandc
Joined: 3/25/2008
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Posted: 3/29/2008 9:28:26 AM
thers nothing wrong with you that a sexual confidence boost wouldent cure
 bandc
Joined: 3/25/2008
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Posted: 3/29/2008 9:29:03 AM
thers nothing wrong with you that a sexual confidence boost wouldent cure
 ShadowLands
Joined: 3/25/2008
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Sexual desire over thirty?
Posted: 3/31/2008 9:37:04 AM

Ok so I have been thinking alot lately and I've noticed that I no longer get the strong sexual urges I use to get when I was in my 20's is it just me or does everyone have the same thing happen when they enter into their 30's. Now I know I would still have sex if the offer came about but I dont feel the need to go and actively search for it like I did when I was younger. Tell me there is nothing wrong with me here people.
You're wierd. Seek help or seek hotties.
 Lucky_Vet
Joined: 3/27/2005
Msg: 93
Sexual desire over thirty?
Posted: 4/4/2008 10:19:08 PM
welcome to old age. My drive dove 35% when I hit 30, and 50% when I hit 35. Different for guys, but one thing's certain: Life is much more enjoyable with the large head doing the thinking!
 footluva
Joined: 4/7/2008
Msg: 96
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Posted: 4/26/2008 12:45:29 PM
I guess everyones different,I'm 35 and I have sex with my wife twice a day. I masturbate one to two times a day.I've had a high sex drive for about a decade.I guess I last anywhere between twenty min to an hour lol I'm a beast dude
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