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|I know that some people who break up or divorce continue to have sex or even become FWB after a divorce, but I am curious if anyone who has gone through a breakup of a long term relationship or divorce has had a preplanned day or night of "farewell" sex..where you both know it's your last time and want to go out with a bang.|
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:42:00 AM
|No. The way my marriage ended, not possible.|
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:42:45 AM
|Yes, it was a long term relationship|
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:45:05 AM
|No........ once it is over, it's OVER. Why drag each other thru the mud again and again? |
Posted: 8/20/2007 9:00:52 AM
|hehehe Gotta laugh at this one - 'cause the sex ended long before the marriage - I just couldn't have sex with someone I didn't love anymore!! However I had another relationship where I had to have that closure and did have that farewell sex. We did know it would be the last time, although neither of us said anything until I walked out the door - I was still in love sadly!|
Posted: 8/20/2007 9:36:30 AM
|Yup, it helped for a very amicable break-up. We both still fancied the hell out of each other, we just couldn't get on together on a day-2-day basis. We had a lovely lunch together, shed a few tears together, had fantastic sex together and then went our separate ways. Never set eyes on her since.|
Anyhoo, "well, hello again sex" is the new "farewell sex". I have probably slept with over half of my exes again after bumping in to them at a much later date (sometimes after many years). On all occasions, I had found myself single, still physically attracted to the ex in question, totally upfront that I was not looking for a reconciliation (apart from the one occasion that I actually was) and both of us had a great time. There was non of that awkwardness that can sometimes occur on a first time with a new partner as we both already knew what the other liked and felt comfortable with that person in a sexual way.
Posted: 8/20/2007 9:52:49 AM
|Ya...I had farewell sex with a guy I met on here...but didn't know at the time it was farewell sex...lol...farewell sex is the same thing as break up sex...I found that out the hard way...some men can be such jerk offs at times... ...o well...his loss...the sex was good......I take that back...it was my loss to...one thing for sure is...if I had of known that I wasn't going to see him again...and everything he told me was bull shit that night...there would have been no sex at all...UPDATE...DAM...Hawkins...I still can't figure it out...why you have to have sex with your hands...|
Posted: 8/20/2007 10:01:18 AM
|everytime I have sex with my hands I tell them it's the last time....but damn...best sex every so go back all the time lol|
Posted: 8/20/2007 10:36:31 AM
|Most of the people I know who are divorced, the sex stopped long before the relationship ended. If you're planning to have "farewell sex"...IMO the relationship is still salvagable.|
Posted: 8/20/2007 11:17:20 AM
|no once it is over it is over.|
Posted: 8/20/2007 12:02:04 PM
|nope would not torture myself in a good nights sleep after a few minutes of what he calls sex.|
Posted: 8/20/2007 12:10:34 PM
|Better use of my time would be making microwave popcorn. Those 3 minutes can never be relived.|
Posted: 8/20/2007 12:49:02 PM
|I did this once, I probably will not do it again with a relationship. My girlfriend and I a week prior planned to spend the day together. Before the date I made my mind up to break up with her. Upon visiting her at her house I told her I wanted to break up but would commit to spending the day as we had planned because I don't like reneging on a promise. She cried, I remained firm in my belief that we were through as a couple. Well we spent the day together, went back to her place, sat on the couch, yada yada yada WE HAD FAREWELL SEX. I went home, a week went by, she called me and asked if I had changed my mind, I said no, and we never saw each other again.|
I don't think this was very fair to her, but it was almost 10 years ago so please forgive me.
Posted: 8/20/2007 1:04:43 PM
|I have had farwell sex many times! The problems I always encounter is, that I did not know it at the time. If you have the ability to plan farewell sex, then the relationship is far from over. So it would be an impossibility for that sex to truly be the last time.|
I have heard of newly minted divorced couples having sex with each other. Usually the ex-hubby comes over to fix the washing machine, over the watchful and distrustful eye of the ex-wife. Then both realize; no one is there and no one is looking. So they both lapse into a hot fast and furious flash f--k. It's more like; I have this insatiable itch and I know you know how, to scratch it the right way.
But my feelings are, that it can only prolong the heart break and sadness, that is indemic with divorce.
Maybe in the future we can have the persons sexual talents transferred to another and have the farwell sex with a stranger. Now thats the stuff of a great SciFi movie!
Posted: 8/20/2007 1:10:57 PM
|I think I would cry. |
Posted: 8/20/2007 2:11:04 PM
|Yea I had farewell sex with the last guy I was in a long term relationship with...|
See Exhibit C: Baby #3...
Posted: 8/20/2007 2:21:50 PM
|everytime I have sex with my hands I tell them it's the last time....but damn...best sex every so go back all the time lol |
Loved that response.
Nope, not me when it is over it is over. I think personally to be intimate with someone
my heart has to be involved. When it is over it is over heart is moving on.
Posted: 8/20/2007 3:25:27 PM
|ohhhh,i think it would hurt having goodbye sex,most of my breakups have turned bitter tho so probley not to goood an idea|
Posted: 8/20/2007 4:55:37 PM
|Looking back I think I may have had 'farewell sex' without letting the other person know...that would have been in my youth..|
As a more mature person I am guilty too...you know when you look at each other and everything is amicable and you just say..."What the heck" or "for old times sake"...It can be liberating and the start of a great friendship when done right!!
Posted: 8/20/2007 9:07:04 PM
|I had farwell sex with my ex husband. It totally grossed me out too! |
Posted: 8/21/2007 4:03:51 AM
|I have one question|
These people that do have farewell Sex I would love to know why
an Enquiring mind really wants to know
Posted: 8/21/2007 5:54:55 AM
|It's called "going out with a bang". |
Posted: 8/21/2007 11:44:32 AM
|Lets see...for the first time ever I did have farewell sex just before I left my old city. I was in an on again off again relationship for 5 years with a person who rarely drank but was a horrible person when he did. We actually broke up before I left or even decided to leave. We lived together for a few years but I had to tell him to move, since life is too short and I refuse to waste it defending myself against drunken verbal abuse, which was mostly nonsensical insults designed to pick a fight, if I didn't bite he would insult me more. His drinking also left him unemployed on occasion and therefor dependent and no point in being an "enabler". |
Due to the fact he was a nice guy less booze, we did pretty much date for the next couple of years but avoiding the occasional drunken bout wasn't always possible, you can't change people even if you both know what the problem is. It wasn't a big decision to leave him behind as it isn't hard to fall out of love under the circumstances.
Considering I left a city of a million for a town of 3,000 I don't think there are probably that many single men around my age that I would find attractive or blah blah blah...so I am prepared for a rather lengthy dry spell.
After I packed the UHaul I called him up for sex and he thought I was kidding since he knows me fairly well. I assume his reasons for coming over; 1) duh, he is male 2) due to his drinking he is left in a rather undesireable "life situation" and rightly so doesn't consider himself a great catch at this time - despite the fact he is very good looking he doesn't have much to offer, and those were his words. So, I think we were both pretty much just stocking up for the anticipated dry spell. Normally when I break up with someone or they break up with me there is no farewell sex. End of story.