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 lanielynn
Joined: 6/11/2007
Msg: 2
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Nope not at all. I have a friend with benefits. We hang out all the time and go to baseball games and sex is just part of it. There is nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship. Plus you get the best part, sex and friendship? It is great. Let me know how it goes.
 vhdc
Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 8/29/2007 12:07:11 PM
If I'm going to be emotionally unattached I will stick with BOB.
 playful-kitten
Joined: 2/2/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 8/29/2007 1:59:29 PM
No it isnt wrong. My best male friend is friend with benifits. He is amazing as a friend and partner (sex). We have an on going friends ship. I can party with him, cry on his shoulder, have wonderful sex, go to dinner and movie. It's about being friends first and adding sex from time to time. It's not wrong it can be wonderful. It's looked down at because most people dont have a positive view of sex. Somehow sex is bad or naughty. Sex is not to be talked about openly. It also comes down to your relationship with the guy. If it is strong and caring sex isnt going to destroy it unless you get weirded out. Then you have to talk about your feelings. It's liek any relationship. You ahve to work at it.
 orchidtigress
Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 20
Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 9/1/2007 11:31:22 PM
Nope, but be sure you both are looking for the same thing and understand the relation.
 sassyansweet
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 9/2/2007 12:53:04 AM

The key to a set up like that is 2 strong minded and very secure people.


Very important to make sure the rules are laid out and u stay true to those rules. Respect eachother and have fun..

These relationships can work, IMO if both parties involved can keep the rules...most ppl can get along much better when there's no expectations and /or pressure!!!
 §püngl䧧
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 9/2/2007 3:49:15 AM
I think we already ran the OP off... LOL

I had a great FWB situation several years ago. We were both on the same page, and had a great time together. If I could find a situation like that again, it would be ideal for me. It's not for everyone certainly, and definitely not for someone looking for their last great love...but can be completely satisfying if that's all both parties want.
 ManeRider
Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 29
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Posted: 9/2/2007 10:47:09 AM
This is a topic that I've never been able to endure. IF it isn't me wanting more, it's her. AS old school as I am, this new mainstream ideology of sex for pleasures sake cuts against my grain.
Of course, self-pleasure does have its limitations.
Ahhh, what the hell. Which one of you lovelys want to play hide the sausage?
 toronto_kennedy
Joined: 2/10/2006
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Posted: 9/3/2007 11:54:24 AM
Well i think any kind of relationship is good as long as each person understand what it is.
Sometimes friends just need to feel like they are still sexy and sexual so
helping each other out i think is fine.
 SitOnMyFaceOrBendOver
Joined: 7/29/2007
Msg: 44
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Posted: 9/7/2007 10:30:02 PM
I agree, nothing wrong with it AT ALL! A great preference actually!
Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits?
Posted: 9/8/2007 11:10:49 AM
I have had a friend with benifits for 3 yrs and it just ended when i moved. we both enjoyed the friends and the beninfte it was like nothing was expected from the other it was a great friendship he is my best friend now that i moved we talk about or dates and all types of sex i would love another friend like him im hopeing to find him
 missouri_angel
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 67
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Posted: 9/10/2007 2:46:42 PM
Well FWB'S Im not sure about all that! As it seems there are so many out there searching for that....That you CANT find anyone....Females looking for Females is a Joke........talk talk talk on here.......and then you finally meet them ......and then ya just sit there like a lump on a log ........Had someone claiming thats what they wanted.......They drove 2 hrs over to my home and then just here like a lump on a stump! What are to think after speaking with this person online and over the phone and the entire time that "Persons" claiming that just thinking about it gets them all worked up and all this and they are so excited and cant wait........Well Bottom line of this one is....... Would You Drive For 2 hrs and NOT even make a move to see if anything happens or not????? What Exactly is Friends with benefits" If Nothing ever goes past wasten time?"
 feechee555
Joined: 6/5/2006
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Posted: 9/10/2007 4:58:16 PM
yes i get this crap all the time as i am attractive and sexy. It is degrading , lazy
and if u want the whore down the street go for it. But most gals, like me want a LTR
are men too lazy or cheap they don't want a LTR? u can't get something for nothing
it is our bodies and u want to just have sex and then not commit. It does not work that way for decent nice girls.
 feechee555
Joined: 6/5/2006
Msg: 69
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Posted: 9/10/2007 5:01:17 PM
i absolutely agree with u . Singles nowadays have no morals and are downright skanky
unfortunately i am dating these skanky guys or meeting them but once i know they want FWB i kick them out real quick . Never looked back and could not care less.
The ppl dating nowadays have no morals give their bodies easily. No one i s scared of HIV?
 yepper1218
Joined: 10/4/2006
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Posted: 9/13/2007 4:15:11 AM
Hello all I do not post on the forums often but had to on this one I do not think it is wrong ( I really want the whole package) but have through about the FWB thing and would try it BUT so many of you say FWB are all over and easy to find. WELL I sure would like to find one so tell me where they are ???????????
 TS_69er
Joined: 10/19/2006
Msg: 80
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Posted: 9/13/2007 10:38:37 PM
hell no , nothing wrong with FWB
 mgkkain
Joined: 7/28/2007
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Posted: 9/14/2007 2:47:09 AM
this isnt realy what a friend with benifits is, this would be what would be called a **** buddy. the key point in friend with benifits is the friends part both parties are already good friends and both know they want sex but know that the other two arnt what they want in a long term partner. The key of course is that neither one wants a ltr with the other. Like someone said earlier this is usualy where someone gets hurt, and I would say that the ratio is probaly slightly in favor of the girl being hurt more times then the guy.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 84
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Posted: 9/17/2007 10:44:28 AM
If you can get a longtime friend to actually agree to an FWB (people you just met are more like FB/NSA) and you're both adult enough not to take it for more than something that serves its purpose in it's time, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
 squirterforyou
Joined: 11/1/2006
Msg: 85
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Posted: 9/17/2007 10:56:37 AM
Well thats what I am looking for, friends with benefits. Nothing stressful.... not 100 % sex based either. Just someone to enjoy some time away from home with and no further expectations.
 judyskiis
Joined: 7/22/2005
Msg: 86
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Posted: 9/17/2007 11:19:14 AM
The relationship will change. I don't look down on this type of thing. More power to you so long as you both know where you stand.
 jamiesnotcryin!
Joined: 6/10/2007
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Posted: 10/28/2007 7:57:18 AM
I think you're wrong that the woman usually gets hurt- I think guys have a hard time with this kind of relationship & it seems it's confusing for them! I would LOVE to find a guy who is confident & honest enough to have a relationship like this- the key word is friendship, you have to like one another & be honest from the start. I wonder what seperates this type of relationship from a "real one"? If you are friends & lovers what more (unless you're looking for marriage) could someone ask for? This is the first time I posted on here, but if you think women fall in love because of sex, you are wrong!! What's up with the seeking out revenge, you must have slept w/ pyscho's or very young women who didn't understand. Anyone that seeks revenge is a pyscho anyway! Run, lol!
 EC22
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 93
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Posted: 10/28/2007 8:05:16 AM
No, if both people clearly understand the situation. Sometimes in a FWB relationship, one person wants more and the other person wants to keep it the way it is.
 man0steel
Joined: 4/7/2008
Msg: 125
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Posted: 7/5/2008 5:41:57 PM
i think if you are two responsible and respectful adults that can keep safety and trust as a top priority then i 'd say go for it. if both parties are in agreement with the situation and all the important info is provided.
 missouri_angel
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 128
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Posted: 7/30/2008 11:12:37 PM
How can you even get a FWB if ya cant even get emails back? How do you even get anyone to speak to you from this site? I mean I been on here awhile now and Have gotten maybe 3 emails from different people......One I spoke to once and met......Notation....Have not gotten a email back from her in awhiles now...Dont know what could of possibly went wrong.... Is there something wrong with what my profile says? Or am I just too ugly for most on here? Just curious......Someone help me out please........
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 129
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Posted: 7/30/2008 11:36:52 PM
Naturalblonde, post a pic that actually shows your face; and come up with a first date that makes sense. I would also recommend posting on "Adult" sites.
 missouri_angel
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 130
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Posted: 7/31/2008 1:13:25 PM
does my profile now look more of what people want to see? I am sorry Im not perfect ! I tried and evidently...The male that stated the comment...Doesnt understand...Im NOT after MALES.......only FEMALES........Anyways.....Changed A Few Things On my profile....... Check it and let me know what ya think!!!!
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