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 MONEMPERER
Joined: 6/26/2006
Msg: 2
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people with low self esteem about themselves dont take compliments well figure out the ones with decent to high self esteem and compliment them. Those with low self esteem just let them know your there and support them. This will be the biggest compliment they can get since most people with self esteem alot of times dont feel that anyone is there for them.\


Also alot of women just dont realize a thank you suffices when complimented so dont really know what to say.
 MONEMPERER
Joined: 6/26/2006
Msg: 4
Are complements a bad thing?
Posted: 9/24/2007 12:48:26 AM
ask your cousin how she trully feels about her physical appearance this is what I mean by low self esteem about themselves. Alot of women are like yes that looks good but it can look so much better they have a longer road to accept who and what they are then most guys do.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 10
Are complements a bad thing?
Posted: 9/24/2007 9:43:48 AM
You asked for women to advise, but I wanted to point out two things:

1) If your cousin is shy, she probably hangs out with friends who are shy, too, so its possible her friends think like she does, yet not be a representative of what many women think.

2) Not all compliments are the same :) Telling her she has nice hair is good, telling her she has great hooters isn't. Give her compliments on her personality, not ones that show you are focused on having sex with her. Everyone else does that, stick out :) In other words, treat her like a human who stands out from other humans, not just someone to have sex with.

This isn't to say you should treat her as a sexless human being, either :) She has needs, and one of them is to feel special, not just necessary for you to get laid.
 geeleebee
Joined: 5/26/2008
Msg: 19
Are complements a bad thing?
Posted: 8/16/2008 8:07:01 AM
'Complements' are great--they balance each other.
'Compliments' are gifts and should be treated as such.
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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 20
Are complements a bad thing?
Posted: 8/16/2008 8:44:05 AM

So while talking to my cousin I tell her about this time i complemented this one girl. She then tells me how awkward guys complementing her makes her feel. I then find out that its not just her that thinks this, apparently her friends think the same.

My question for you girls is this though: How does a complement from a guy make you feel? Are we being kept in the dark on how we make you feel?

Also if its just a certain kind of complement please give an example of good and bad ones. Thanks this has been bugging me.

Sincerely Brian.

For me, a complIment doesn't do much for me unless it's about something I actually accomplished. If its about general looks, well I had nothing to do with that.

I think most women are weirded out by compliments about things that they were born with and had no control over, especially beauty...at least the women I know are. The only time I appreciate or respond well to compliments like this is if they come from someone I've been dating a long time and want to be known as attractive in their eyes.

It makes us feel like they're not genuinely about us I guess.

P.S. "Complement" = one of two mutually completed parts, as in "he complements my life"
"Compliment" = verbal expression of respect, affection, admiration, as in "I gave her a compliment"
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