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 Wylie_Coyote
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 5
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OP,

That relationship ain't lookin' good. They have a history of not dealing with issues. Now that she is dealing with depression, he's most likeley back with some sence of obligation in helping her heal.

Off and on relationships ear mark that the couple isn't connected on enough levels to make it work. the long term back and forth is an indicator that neither party has the self confidence to move on.

Just an opinion.
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 Carolina2
Joined: 6/2/2007
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Third time is the charm?
Posted: 10/13/2007 12:40:42 PM
It is a very positive that sis is getting professinal help with the inner demons...because until she understands and heals and learns to love herself and her life experiances....she is not being honest with herself or anyone she has a relationship with....and also there seems to be a pattern with ex/BF.
 scorpiomover
Joined: 4/19/2007
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Third time is the charm?
Posted: 10/13/2007 6:01:15 PM
It doesn't take too much to see that she's fine with a man until she really starts to think it's serious, and that's when she gets scared. That is going to drive men insane, and will probably put her in a lot of trouble. Until she sorts out what's bugging her, she'll keep finishing her relationships only when they get serious.

Edit: I discovered this for myself. It's a repeating pattern in my family, too. My older sister acted this way for years. Even in myself, I've had to face a very hard fact, which is that our issues don't make relationships difficult. They don't let them happen at all. Or only happen in a way that would make us wish we never started them. That's why it's so important to sort them out FIRST.
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