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 ramcharger
Joined: 6/5/2004
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My stepson is 22 his FIANCE is 36, she has two kids and they are cool. Both have downs and I am amazed at how much he loves his soon to be and thier kids.
I dont like the term "Step" much so pardon me...my son.........
He's mine I love em!
 JessKO
Joined: 1/18/2005
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 1:29:30 AM
NICE ONE!
 night501
Joined: 3/2/2005
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 5:34:42 PM
i dont see anything wrong with it as long as the relationship stays a healthy one.
 Domeroth
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 15
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 8:17:06 PM
The older you are, the more likely it is that you KNOW what it's like to be hurt. You are less likely to make stupid decisions, as you've already made them, and know the conciquences (sp?).

Date an older woman? Hell yes. Why not? Don't women live longer than men anyway?

Bleh.
 giggleparts
Joined: 10/23/2004
Msg: 17
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/16/2005 10:48:28 PM
If it works, it works.
If it doesn't, it doesn't.

Don't get so hung up in the ‘what ifs’ that you miss the good times that could be had.

Age is something you can’t change, and why should you?

Life is what it is, and you make of it, what you will.

If you feel like there could be something real…. something, special…. go for it.

Don’t let other people dictate your life, because once that starts happening you lose out, in more ways than one.
 cosworth2009
Joined: 4/30/2005
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 3:43:44 PM
thats a big step for someone that young of age..kids are onething and a lots of responsiblity..best to see what's his goals and his dreams first.
 windygale
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 31
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/17/2005 4:28:13 PM
I am 63. I feel 36. Go for it. Men wear out faster than we do. Look how much fun you can have and who knows it may last forever. Beside the fact you only regret what you didnt do.
 cato3052
Joined: 4/4/2005
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/18/2005 11:50:49 AM
LUCKY BLOKE!!!
 dannyabe
Joined: 3/20/2005
Msg: 50
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/18/2005 4:05:10 PM
GEESHHHHHHH......
i cant understand you ladies ......
some say.....they want a guy close to their own age....because they want grow old with him and well....yada yada yada ????
then you have gals that want older men because....they have done it all and they are settled.
now i come to this thread to see this !!!!!!!!!

omg.....

i so confused man.....i'm going back to sleep
 dannyabe
Joined: 3/20/2005
Msg: 52
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/18/2005 5:11:47 PM

Posted By: luneib on 5/18/2005 7:27:22 PM
each guy is so different with regards to that


hey...you got that right and WOW BABY.....you're HOT !!!!!!
 dannyabe
Joined: 3/20/2005
Msg: 62
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/19/2005 12:20:14 AM

Posted By: salamander000 on 5/19/2005 1:46:03 AM
I happened to like this thread.I often play DA, just because I am bored.

hey....sorry for being stupid....but, what is DA ???
 dannyabe
Joined: 3/20/2005
Msg: 64
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/19/2005 1:15:46 AM
yiKes....well, thanks dude
 aradienne
Joined: 12/31/2004
Msg: 78
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/20/2005 7:00:08 AM
I'm confused about all the "sacrifice", "burden" and "regrets" language...are you getting ready to marry this guy or is it like any other relationship, getting to know him and see what happens? If you're just meeting him, why not treat it like any other new person in your life, because any age group has hurdles to get over (exes, kids, jobs) these are just different ones. If you think too much about the possible consequences of ANY relationship, you'd probably dismiss them all.
 T.JOHN
Joined: 5/5/2005
Msg: 81
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/20/2005 7:49:38 AM
I think it is a little freaky.
Your all creased and old,and he is all young fit and dumb?
The truth sometimes hurts/Everybody hurts sometimes/R.E.M.
 aradienne
Joined: 12/31/2004
Msg: 87
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/20/2005 10:48:02 AM
@ island

I bet the ratio of long term relationships to short term relationships with any ages involved isn't even close
 marathonman11x7
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 89
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 5/27/2005 2:54:50 PM
There are exceptions to MOST rules.Having said that,most people over 35 dating people UNDER 25 are either insecure,immature,selfish,dysfunctional,have lowered expectations,have hormones affecting brain cells or ALL of the above.I phrased this because its true IMO regardless of gender of the "older" person.Its not about the simple numbers,but about relative maturation and level of expectations.The ONLY thing more likely due to gender is that if its a female who is younger she is LESS likely to leave the "older"man even though as a rule the "olderman" is immature/immatureand most likely dysfunctional.Reason,generally speaking the younger woman is more likely to be at a higher level of emotional maturity,still the relationship is flawed because as noted the much older man is generally immature,insecure and/OR dysfunctional.Eventually the younger man tends to "grow up" and thus the relationship with a woman who is over 35 while he is UNDER 25 has not grown with him.See,the maturation rate slows after 30....if a man/woman hasn't reached a level of emotional/mental maturation by that time its not likely to happen.

I find the age of 25 is key in older younger relationships.25 is a much better age to gage things and the gap between maturation levels begins to close.21/36 is a 15 yr age difference,which is alot as far as USUAL maturation/experience is concerned.....but take 30/45 and the gap has closed considerably most times.I find this to be true regardless of gender.
1 thing I'd caution ANYONE regardless of age difference; NEVER have sex in the house when kids are home(unless married) tacky,tasteless,selfish and indicative of ALL of the things mentioned before. Now if the parent doesn't "believe" in marraige,thats a whole different topic on dysfunction
 Tigress
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 90
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 6/12/2005 12:23:05 AM
Go for it! He's an adult!
 solstice621
Joined: 5/30/2005
Msg: 91
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 6/12/2005 4:12:46 PM
Is it feasable or is it doomed right from the beginning? The electricity is in the air, but I have my 2 kids, do I have the right to deny him the chance of his own children? )

You're assuming by saying that, that It's forever... He's 21 -mosre than likely you may well enjoy eachothers company but his age will eventually turn you off in some way as yours will him. I'm not being negative, just honest. You may be more concerned that your children will grow attached to him and then he'll be gone.
Personally I have no idea at all what a woman sees in younger men, but thats a personal choice I know. Whatever happens be good to eachother and your children should always come first. Best wishes
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 96
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Posted: 6/13/2005 1:32:35 AM
geez who says 36yo women are all creased and old,...where do you get that from..? not if they like anyone takes a bit of care of themselves...lol...not time for the walking frame or dentures quite yet...add another 30...and then maybe..
 NittanyLion
Joined: 2/19/2005
Msg: 107
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:06:27 PM
I guess it comes from working with teenagers since the age of 20, but to me a 21 yr old often seems like "one of my kids." Actually, there are several that are now older than that. Couldn't do it. Don't want to do it. Can't understand. (well, I can on one level, but... no.)
 riffstar
Joined: 6/28/2003
Msg: 111
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 3:40:04 PM
Interesting....when I've dated younger WOMEN, I get criticized...by WOMEN...for robbing the cradle and/or ignoring the beauty and charm of women in my age group. I think I'm detecting a bit of a double standard from some of you.
 NittanyLion
Joined: 2/19/2005
Msg: 112
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 7/22/2005 3:49:45 PM

I think I'm detecting a bit of a double standard from some of you.
Only if it's the same women criticizing you and dating younger men.
 pokerjimmy
Joined: 11/10/2006
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36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:49:37 AM
I hooked up at 18 with a 27 year old with kids. It was just about sex 24/7, but at 18 is there anything else a guy thinks about?
 Huggablehottie
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 124
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 10:46:03 AM
Hey, you are right ^^ that is about all you could have
in common.
One day the younger guy realizes he doesn't want you anymore.
 LillySoprano
Joined: 10/17/2006
Msg: 125
36 year old woman and 21 year old guy?
Posted: 11/16/2006 10:53:05 AM
Been there, done that. Enjoy the great sex....but chances are it won't last. Go into the relationship realistically and all will be well.
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