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 CEO of Hoagie Inc.
Joined: 7/30/2007
Msg: 2
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Get married! This message was too short.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 6
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 10/31/2007 11:40:57 PM
~OP~ Dear me. You're young, you're married and your wife is obviously adorable, could it be that maybe you are now understanding the "prime" of your existence???? She's on a different time-zone for her peak, but goodness ~ you should be talking to her, not to us. I have this dear friend, he's obsessed with his "needs" and the urgency of them. What I tell him ~ "Get over yourself or talk her into more interesting sex that leaves you wondering why you can't walk straight and your eyes are crossed for two days." If you want something to kill your sex drive, have a baby ~ that'll take care of that. Otherwise, love it now ~ it'll change, I promise.
 beerbag
Joined: 9/14/2007
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/1/2007 12:24:04 AM
smash your balls with a hammer
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 11/1/2007 4:34:41 AM
sell whatever it is you're taking to the pharmacutical companies.
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
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Posted: 11/1/2007 5:03:25 AM
see if you can find an herb called 'chaste tree berry.' also known as 'monk's pepper,' the latin name is vitex agnus-castus. typically used to regulate the female hormonal cycle, the herb was traditionally used by priests to maintain celibacy. it won't completely kill your sex drive, but it can help to diminish libido.

good luck.
 jlizzy
Joined: 8/14/2007
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Posted: 11/1/2007 10:45:35 AM
Fair play to you. You sound like any person's dream -you praise your wife, happily married etc...breath of fresh air honest!

I've sometimes felt like that..the way you do...
Personally I've found though when I stopped helping myself eventually it would go away...normally however I'd be in trouble when not in a relationship though my last serious relationship my ex seemed completelt disinterested..thats another story...

Hmm see if you're getting regular sex then that keeps the drive going...so the only thing I can think of is be thankful that you're life and wife are that good that you're "suffering from" a high sex drive?

Only thing I can recommend is be like my ex and smoke pot...pot should definately help tone it down a bit!
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 11/1/2007 12:50:43 PM
Imagine Gramma in the shower? I'm a Gramma and I look damn good in the shower!
 hd321
Joined: 9/7/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2007 5:10:17 PM
I had a husband that "cycled". Had times of high desire. We just worked with it and it would get better. Be honest with the wife and ask for her suggestions, help. Most wives will be happy to help you (NOT just having sex, but coming up with suggestions). MD might be able to help, but you might just have to ride it out.
 RR Man
Joined: 6/24/2006
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Posted: 11/5/2007 5:44:31 AM
Does anyone know of a real way to reduce your Sex drive.
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Luvox. My shrink put me on it to try to help me with my obsessive compulsive disorder. Well, it totally killed any desire for sex. I couldn't even have thought I could go two weeks without masturbation, but I did. Not only that, but I wasn't able to finish doing it after I tried to. After two weeks!

Some courts and legislatures have suggested "chemical castration" for sex offenders. All they'd have to do is make the guy (I don't know how it affects women) take Luvox. The guy wouldn't be able to do anything even if he wanted to.

Needless to say, I stopped taking it. It was also making me paranoid.

Tom
 textodd11
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/6/2007 12:56:35 PM
Well I think EvilDoesntLove's views are definitely a good blueprint of what not to do. Both from the man and woman's perspective. My ex-wife had a similar view on oral activities, hence the title "ex-wife".

Seriously though, I wouldn't consider 2 times a day excessive.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 47
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Posted: 2/3/2015 2:54:56 AM
Yes I know this is an old thread but for some reason I cannot create a new one.

Does anyone have any ideas on how to reduce the sex drive /libido in women when not in a relationship.
Especially for extended periods of time.

Exercise, spending time with friends etc etc does not work for me.
I am not interested in casual, no strings sex.
And solo self pleasure is not as good as the real thing in a loving relationship.
Pillows do not cuddle back.

So until I find myself in a new relationship how can women in my situation remain sane?
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 48
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Posted: 2/3/2015 3:07:39 AM
OZsealady1...maybe perform more tasks that put you in mild discomfort to distract your mind.
For example, putting your sailboat ashore and scrubbing the hull normally beneath the waterline?
That has got to be a totally undesirable chore...yet will leave you with a clean hull and perhaps not thinking about a guy.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 49
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 3:09:43 AM
Thank you Eric.

Could work, short term, certainly and I would have a very clean bottom.

My most difficult times are when I am alone at night and when I first wake in the morning.
And there is not always a barnacled hull available.

 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 50
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 3:20:04 AM
The timing (going to bed and waking up) makes complete and understandable sense.
My girlfriend says she loves when she first opens her eyes and feels cold...she snuggles against my back to warm herself.
Your observation is typical of what many of us feel when we are in an "alone spot" for whatever reason.
 Never_in_Life
Joined: 1/13/2015
Msg: 51
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Posted: 2/3/2015 5:10:07 AM

My most difficult times are when I am alone at night and when I first wake in the morning.


We are the same way. Morning wood (or in your case morning sploosh I guess) is apparently the result of hormones pooling overnight so you wake up "charged".

Just deal with it - either masturbate or engage in activities that will channel that sexual energy into something else. You sound like a pretty active, gregarious person so I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem for you. Also, you are attractive, so the worry of never finding anyone shouldn't enter into it.

Honestly? Enjoy the hell out of it. When I experience this, I focus on how happy I am to feel this way rather than have a dead libido and uncaring attitude. Horniness makes me feel alive - as strange as it may sound.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 52
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 6:04:11 AM

Just deal with it - either masturbate or engage in activities that will channel that sexual energy into something else. You sound like a pretty active, gregarious person so I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem for you. Also, you are attractive, so the worry of never finding anyone shouldn't enter into it.


Fortunately my girlfriend loves morning wood. Since we don't have all morning, and also may want to go back to sleep and we may engage in a couple of quickies.

Now, why would anyone wants to reduce the sex drive in women. If anything, get them even more horny.
 TALL_IQ2
Joined: 12/22/2014
Msg: 53
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 6:17:39 AM
Extended exercise such as long-distance running/marathons has been shown to do that.

Reading last page in the following thread might help...

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/16340553datingPostpage6.aspx

S
 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 54
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 7:10:46 AM
So, I happened across this thread with my GF looking over my shoulder. I wasn't going to reply, but she insisted I do:

"Hot baths and horseback riding". Were apparently her "go to" things before we met. Granted, the horse thing might not be applicable. (we live in Kansas, where horses are literally everywhere).

Oh, she also says that kids will also kill one's libido pretty effectively. Not sure if it was a joke...
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 55
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 7:25:44 AM

Oh, she also says that kids will also kill one's libido pretty effectively. Not sure if it was a joke...


Baby's do. But after that, young kids go to bed early. For older kids, well, there's MindKraft. They are so stuck to that game that they are like a babysitter and give you privacy.

Actually, I found a way to turn ON a woman's libido. It's so effective, that the other day I saw it listed in a Psychology Today article about improving intimacy. And that is....

Okay I am not going to tell just yet...

You guys are going to think I am making this up....

That I am just bragging....

But...

It really, really works....

Women may tell you that it's not true, but they all fall for this one thing...

In the end they love it...

And guys, this is so easy to do...

And it will rub her libido to no end...


Okay, I will tell right now.

It's doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen. Don't even go for the sex. In fact, after that do something "guy like" and kind of ignore her. Then she will come around and look and go nuts and either force you to go to the bedroom, or later on take advantage of you. Women are so bad, the way they objectify men.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 56
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 7:36:06 AM
InnerGorilla...I read all the way through your post without scrolling to the answer. I totally knew that was going to be it as it used to make a past girlfriend nuts when I would get out of work early, do her grocery shopping, and then scrub her bathrooms and kitchen before she got back to her home. She was pretty much insatiable at that point. We lived separately, so she really liked that treat when done as a complete surprise. Try it, gents!
 Aradia96
Joined: 10/25/2014
Msg: 57
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Posted: 2/3/2015 7:36:13 AM
Well the increase in workout is causing an increase in testosterone which is causing the heightened libido.

It may just go away on it's own.

In my experience anti-depressants cause orgasm to take much longer but not necessarily a loss in libido, it sometimes happens though. Depression does cause a loss in libido however.

Diindolylmethane, or DIM, is a natural supplement made from cauliflower and broccoli, and is known to reduce androgens, or male sex hormones (among which is testosterone). Drink herbal teas or consume them in capsule or tincture form to help you lower your testosterone levels. Perhaps one of the best (and tastiest) herbs for correcting this problem is spearmint. Also having lower fat and more fiber in your diet will reduce testosterone levels.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 58
Ways to Reduce Sex drive
Posted: 2/3/2015 3:33:55 PM
No kids here, no horses... other than the ones I talk to on my walks.

Yesterday took the dog on 13km of walking. Yes did talk to some horses. Did not help.

Sadly for me this is not a recent phenomenon.
And yes I sometimes do think it may be a forever situation as despite all my best efforts I have basically been single for 10 years - with a few few false starts - including an 18 month live together stint.

Have 2 first meets this week. Thursday and Friday.
Am organising another for next week and my 'date' for next Saturday with the lovely widower (Valentines Day).

I certainly get lots of offers of sex.
That would be easy.
Most women on here could have 4 or more different men a week if they wanted.
Possibly even 4 different men a day if she was open to men married to another woman or the young studs.
No that is not bragging, just a reality.

But a casual romp, whilst possibly fun at the time and can certainly take the edge off it is not a long term solution.
Can also be emotionally destructive and mechanical.
Let alone dangerous from a host of medical and other viewpoints.


Ahh the joys of being a sensual single woman.

And Eric
Normally I enjoy your posts.

But this one.


The timing (going to bed and waking up) makes complete and understandable sense.
My girlfriend says she loves when she first opens her eyes and feels cold...she snuggles against my back to warm herself.
Your observation is typical of what many of us feel when we are in an "alone spot" for whatever reason.


Made me feel very lonely.
You have got it exactly right.
Waking up and going to sleep alone surrounded by pillows ....... not the same.

 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 59
Ways to Reduce Sex drive in Women
Posted: 2/3/2015 7:29:40 PM

It's doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen. Don't even go for the sex. In fact, after that do something "guy like" and kind of ignore her. Then she will come around and look and go nuts and either force you to go to the bedroom, or later on take advantage of you. Women are so bad, the way they objectify men.


I tried this before. The lady kept yelling something like "Who are you and why are you in my house?!"

Needless to say, I don't dishes anymore. :)
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 60
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Posted: 2/3/2015 8:06:56 PM
ozsealady

So you have someone to accompany you on your zoo outing? That is great. You certainly have made huge efforts in meeting men and I must give you "A" for effort. I would find it all too draining I think but you seem to enjoy most of the experiences.

Do you have actual meets from POF or mostly other sites? As for the offers of sex, sometimes they just blow hard, pardon the pun and are not really up to it.

I find the radio very good company at night and have been alone so long I could not sleep all night with someone in the same bed. OKay if he would be prepared to leave in the dawn hours or sleep in another room, but mostly they do not want that.

 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 61
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Posted: 2/3/2015 8:16:30 PM

Made me feel very lonely.
You have got it exactly right.
Waking up and going to sleep alone surrounded by pillows ....... not the same.


Wow. It's amazing that something so positive would feel so negative. I understand your statement and your feelings. I understand the words of my fellow friend and cyclist and ultimate positive person Eric. Moment of reflection. And thanks. To you Eric for being always positive.
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