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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 2
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In my opinion, the point of secret admirer is to never find out, so we can't be dissapointed, right?

I'm ok with it if the person never comes forward. 9 times out of 10 the person you visualize and the person it actually is are day and night anyway. I am a realist and all, but in this case, the fantasy always seems to have been better.

In that case, I say go for it!
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 11/6/2007 10:16:49 AM
Yes Marcus ... I think a lot of women would enjoy these types of romantic gestures ... every now and again ... anonymously would be very intriguing indeed ...

As for being dropped in the wrong Era ... NO ... this is what makes you unique and special in the time you are in ...
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 11/6/2007 11:11:51 AM
Nope. I prefer to be worshipped out in the open.
Joined: 5/9/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/7/2007 3:27:23 AM
I can understand where you are going with this, at least i think i do.

I would enjoy the little posty note or what have you from the person i'm with. or, at least is mutually interested.

You are right though. it's not ok anymore to sent things to women who don't wish to be persued unless the have a slight clue after the first or second time of who this person is.

maybe , you could do little sweet things for the person you care for and who returns those feelings. The effect of the surprise of the attention is still very powerful to me, so if my partner would sent me a poem, flowers, or a small token , i would feel very flattered , cared for, and almost honored.
People tend to forget tho that it's not the monetary value of the gift you offer, but the feelings and meaning behind it.
In that sense, a single flower picked by the roadside , a little note that says i'm thinking of you, or a text that says that you can't wait to see me later means much more then all other .
Forgive me if that makes me sound hopelessly and clueless romantic.
Joined: 10/25/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/7/2007 6:16:56 AM

It's a little " the call is coming from inside the house" for me.


But honestly i would find it sweet, if it only happened like once and the person either then came forward, or never sent me anything again. Not knowing who sent it, and if they keep sending things becomes a little "stalker status" and scary, especially if the female is younger. Younger girls like myself, can't be too careful nowadays with the psychos and freaks running about.
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