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 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 7
I run into nothing but scammers and conartistPage 1 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
Okay, I know there are a lot of con-artists and liars out there of both sexes, but you really need to work on the energy you're putting out, it's very negative.

There are good people out there, you just have to be smart about spotting the users.
 Gideon_70
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 9
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 11/12/2007 5:51:13 PM
Welfare = Where the women have kids and the government pays them a monthly check so they can go out and have fun
Government got smart - stopped paying so the women decide to try a new scam...

Babbydaddy = Where the women have kids and the babydaddy pays them a monthly check so they can go out and have fun.
 TitusBreast
Joined: 3/18/2007
Msg: 10
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 11/12/2007 5:53:45 PM
Hi Anton. I hate to break it to you, but I'll do it as gently as possible. Somebody established a social norm a long time ago that the man provides and the woman receives the money, not the other way around! Don't get mad and call your hole filthy names because she doesn't like to give you HER money!! That's just the way it is...it's a shame you guys hate what you need, and then make us gals give it right back at you! (I can't claim that "hate what you need" quote... I heard that from an even more seasoned harlot than yours truly!!) We'll lurk around and see if you'll ever give it up...that coveted crotch of yours, that is...and if you won't, you can only be as sure as you are that someone else will most definitely give up some sub par lovin' and a squeeze for good luck. You guys do that sort of thing all of the time...just embrace it!
 TitusBreast
Joined: 3/18/2007
Msg: 12
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 11/12/2007 6:13:03 PM
There, there Suzy... there, there
 Soul Union
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 13
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 11/12/2007 6:42:41 PM

Why is it that every single woman I ever talk to on line usually turns out to be a scammer or a conartist and a psycho and a whore . . . ? Are there no decent honest women left out there?

> I am Scottish, 53 years of age, and I have lived in various countries, including Australia and New Zealand. I have met a great many people in my travels. However, these whores and scammers and con artists that you talk about must be in disguise or hiding behind their doors, because I have never met one. And to be frank with you, I think you are bordering on the fanatically insulting.
> If you go around labelling people in this way, you are only doing yourself a disservice. Expect the best and you will attract the best.
> Give women a break, why don't you?
> - Peter
 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/13/2007 3:55:16 AM

OP, your heavily stained shirt and super sweet recliner just SCREAM $$$$. No wonder these women are targeting you.


HaHaHa Huukdonfoniks .... play nice now.... lol
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 18
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 11/13/2007 10:55:40 AM
Let me introduce you two this girl that lives currently in Nigeria, and this other one that lives in Kiev.
 IThought UWereAHandpuppet
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 21
Why do scammers and conartists think they can get blood out of this turnip? Oops, gotta change the kid ... Damn, got it on my shirt.
Posted: 11/26/2007 12:13:18 PM

Why is it that every single woman I ever talk to on line usually turns out to be a scammer or a conartist and a psycho and a whore after I finally talk to them more and find out what their realy like?
Will you settle for 2 out of 4? I feel like such an underachiever. MUUUahhhh ... Yours truly, Psycho/Whore
Oh, yeah - at least I am an alcoholic, too. See, I am well-rounded.
 Change Of Pace
Joined: 5/5/2007
Msg: 23
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Why do scammers and conartists think they can get blood out of this turnip? Oops, gotta change the kid ... Damn, got it on my shirt.
Posted: 11/26/2007 10:57:30 PM
OP you made it personal to women with your opening post...what did you expect? There are millions of hardworking honorable women and you made it sound like we're as real as Santa Claus...and then you continue your tantrum by taking away the apology you were supposedly going to hand out. Yeah, yeah...big deal.

If you care to actually read ALL of the posts you'll see that as many men were slagging you off as women.

To the Scottish lad...I was going to give you kudos on your post.

OP...off you go...keep your wallet close cause the sharks are circling.
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 26
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Why do scammers and conartists think they can get blood out of this turnip? Oops, gotta change the kid ... Damn, got it on my shirt.
Posted: 11/26/2007 11:20:48 PM
Ohhh Anton.... Let me remind you what your first line states:
"Why is it that every single woman I ever talk to on line usually turns out to be a scammer or a conartist and a psycho and a whore after I finally talk to them more and find out what their realy like?"

When you attack people, they will attack back.Wanna play nice, then others will play nice too...

Did you fail to notice what the men also came after you?

You post yourself on a forum, and who knows what kind of advice you are going to get.. Heck I have seen some really sweet people get a total bashing, so you are in good company...Well with the acception that it SEEMS you have such a negative opinion on women.

Here is a news flash... We women get scammers, conartist, whores, and psychos too... We figure it is just part of dating, and deal with it.

Want advice?

Perhaps saying you are old fashion, and are looking for someone that is old fashion is the magnet. Men were the providers, women were the homemakers in the OLD FASHION times.

By the way, I take care of my own, and I always have. I don't NEED a man, I want to share life with one. I look for partnership, not for someone to be my care taker..

Perhaps if you go back again and read the posts from women who stood up for the fact that they were self sufficient, you may find that there are a lot more women out there that are looking for perhaps what you are looking for... Which is?????

Most the people I know are hoping for friendship, dating, or finding real compatible love. (geez I sound like an e harmony commercial..)

Yeah there are scammers etc... On both sides of the sexes...

Sorry Anton you don't hold the market on unhappy connections... It is just those of us who are happy with who we are, and have an idea of what we really want can weed them out before they get to us...Therefore we aren't so jaded....

Dating should be fun and enjoyable... It has its trials, but making it a chore doesn't make it fun at all.... Good luck
 IThought UWereAHandpuppet
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 27
Why do scammers and conartists think they can get blood out of this turnip? Oops, gotta change the kid ... Damn, got it on my shirt.
Posted: 11/27/2007 4:22:21 AM

Those kind of people give themselves away when they act like that.
OPie, you have such awesome insight into human nature and a true “laser like” ability to see right through people and their little games. I am impressed by your unlimited powers of perception!!!


As to why you? Do you really have to ask? I mean ... look what you have to offer!!
 Change Of Pace
Joined: 5/5/2007
Msg: 31
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I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 11/27/2007 10:00:42 PM

OP I would suggest changing your main picture to one with just you in it. Your profile says you don't have kids but some women may not even look at you when they see you sitting there with 2 kids. The good ones might be passing you by.


No offense vinny1234--let them pass by. His comments have spoken volumes about him...
 IThought UWereAHandpuppet
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 32
Why do scammers and conartists think they can get blood out of this turnip? Oops, gotta change the kid ... Damn, got it on my shirt.
Posted: 11/28/2007 6:02:33 AM

OP I would suggest changing your main picture
Or at least ... your shirt!!
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 38
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Posted: 12/4/2007 9:48:04 PM
Ohhh MY GOSH!!!!! A scammer that says that they are religious, bible reading, churching going, and modestly dressed to boot??? Who'd a thunk????

No offense, BUT, if all you ever get is scammers and conartist, then there is probably something you are doing wrong...

It is like the girl who complains that there are NOOOOO good men out there... There are plenty, but if she is always going after someone that has certain qualities, then these are the guys that are going to be the same no matter the packaging.

The reality is there are all types, and not everyone is a scammer and conartist. However if that is kind of energy you put out to the rest of the world, nice people are NOT gonna wanna play at your table...
 oliver454
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 43
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 7/13/2008 8:00:36 AM
I don't have any answers but you are right, most womens number one priority is money and being taken care of. If you read the profiles they all describe all they want to do, and this requires a lot of money.
 oliver454
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 47
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 7/13/2008 8:54:29 AM
It says that you are better than most women and definetly in the minority.
 sddude
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 11/21/2008 11:37:56 AM
yeah this happens to me too, alot of cam girls or ones that support themselves on the net doing this. In person alot of women do the same, we men are the providers we are expected to give , they are not expected to give anything, that is just the way it is, we can only hope we ran into a woman that does not think that way and has not gotten through hell in life to get better as a woman. in a relationship if she does that shame on you, you just screwed yourself.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 57
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Posted: 2/6/2013 9:19:08 AM
A few weeks ago I met a woman through the other free dating site. She was very attractive, and we really seemed to hit it off, went on several dates in a short period of time. At first I thought she was in a much higher socio-economic strata than me. On Sunday afternoon we walked through the most expensive mall in town, (“window shopping” – her idea). She was looking at very expensive clothing ($800 jeans, $1100 shoes), and acting like she was accustomed to buying such items.

Then the other shoe fell. Her business partner, who also happened to be her sister-in-law, had cleaned out her bank accounts and ran away. My date’s brother (married to this business partner) was also cleaned out. Credit cards maxed out, bank accounts emptied, etc. Her brother had to come stay with her, along with his 3 kids. And between them they didn’t have enough money to pay the rent and feed the kids.

Now as it happens, she was expecting a settlement on a lawsuit, was going to bring her over $100,000. But this was about 45 days away, and she didn’t know how she was going to make it for those 45 days.

I gathered up every bit of information I had (names, phone numbers, addresses, even license plates), and took it all to the local police. I don’t think they are going to do anything with it, no actual crime was committed, but I’m sure she will be trying this again.

I do not mention this to cast aspersions on the fairer sex. Con artists come in all sexes. Just a reminder to all of you, do not loan any money to anyone you met online and have only known a few weeks.
 Life_Is_Better
Joined: 1/8/2011
Msg: 58
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Posted: 2/16/2013 11:24:07 AM
Ohenry, you did right. A newspaper article just recently had an article by Ryan Tumitly of Edmonton, Alberta... While the online dating word is full of opportunities, it can also be full of peril. Police have noticed that the excitement that comes with online romance can attract the wrong type of people - those who may cause physical or financial harm. Acting Sgt. Kathy Macdonald with the Calgary Police Service said new relationships sometimes prevent people from seeing the bigger picture. When people get wrapped up in a relationship, they can't see what's going on. Macdonal said fraud artists using online dating sites can go after many potential victims in just one day. According to Macdonald, scam artists often approach someone and strike up a conversation before claiming to have run in to sudden and unexplained financial difficulties... Listen to your intuition and be aware of your surroundings she advised. Really, you do not know that person; you do not know who is going to show up.

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Thanks Ohenry for enlightening us on just another spin on the old I need help, can you lend me money game.

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There are lots of bad guys out there. BUT, there are also some good ones. It is quite a challenge sorting the wheat from the chaff, eh.
 haymama
Joined: 2/18/2011
Msg: 59
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 2/16/2013 6:44:27 PM
I had my first experience in the fall. Guy contacted me through another dating site, chatted online for a number of days, very pleasant chitchatter. Even when he started off telling me his wife had passed in a car accident and he was left to raise 2 kids I didn't flinch an eye, or when he told me he was stationed in Serbia working for the army and would be home "within a few weeks". Our convos were just about regular things and then one day I got the "can I trust you with my money" question...and you know, even for someone like me who I feel is with the times, not a pushover, etc. etc. only raised half an eyebrow at it, actually wanting to give the guy the benefit of the doubt - all in the way he was communicating with me and it just kinda "slipped" in through ordinary convo: he wanted to send me 5.5 mil in raw (he kept using this word, "raw") cash so he wouldn't have to be taxed by the Serbian government and because he worked for the army the money could be sent by diplomatic courier and no questions would be asked or the package searched. Didn't take long for me to see the scam so I played along for a bit and kept asking questions but right from the get-go told him I wasn't interested in having any part of it. He would pop up online every day or so and keep chatting with me and of course all of our convo ended up going back to how upset he was that he couldn't get the money here....I finally got tired of playing along and just blocked him. Reported it to the site, whether that did anything or not, but didn't bother going to the police.
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 60
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Posted: 5/4/2013 6:24:54 PM
I could ask the same question when it comes to man? How funny
 fieryredhead77
Joined: 12/17/2012
Msg: 61
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 5/4/2013 8:11:33 PM
I am so bummed, why can't I find a psycho whore to date? I hear they are good in bed.

I am lucky, I guess. I make twice as much money as my ex. If he had he kids I would have to pay a ton in child support. Would I then get to be like men who pay child support and whine about have to PAY TO FEED AND HOUSE THEIR CHLDREN.

If is interesting reading this thread though, as there are other threads that talk about how if a man can't pay for everything they don't feel like real men. Which is it? It is making my head hurt. Either you want to show us the stupid fish/trucks/etc in your pics to show us what great providers you are because 'that is what men do' or then complain when women actually expect you to live up to that image.
 marilynh77
Joined: 12/29/2012
Msg: 62
I run into nothing but scammers and conartist
Posted: 5/4/2013 10:25:29 PM
Maybe you need more time to yourself and regroup before you start dating. Whore? Well have you been in bed with these women already and someone have made you angry? lol A decent woman will RUN from you after what you have posted.
Who are you talking to? What kind of profile have you got in touch with? And are you being selective?
First get yourself straighten out, then careful how you approach women.
Recently a man have made a statement that psycho needs not apply which I'm sure a lot of men have had issue with but when he was chatting with me, the subject of sex seems to be on his mind a lot. It's not a good sign for a decent woman to hear over and over, then he was a no show for a meeting. He complained that I get so forgetful thus I must be overloaded with too many men on this site. A little insecurity, perhaps? Whatever his case is, he lost out on a good woman. And I'm sure the easy kind will be attracted to him easily. Sometime it's how you approach people and thus, you scared away the good one while the conartist and scammer are left. lol Whore? ha ha ha Sorry but guess you got one. That's a mean word to use on a woman.
Straighten yourself out first and then learn to approach a woman in a different way. Whatever you are doing isn't working! I'm decent and not crazy but I would not be communicating with a man who is filled with anger, resentment, bitterness or fear.
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